However, it did start affecting the way people saw me as well. People were either starting to get bored or worried.
How to deal:
Ask yourself why you don't care anymore.
Apathy is usually a defense mechanism. Generally it is to protect you from emotional pain, if you don't care. How can you get hurt?
There is nothing wrong with being apathetic. If being apathetic is a problem for you, then you do care.
Although, there are some things people shouldn't care about. And, should care less about.
Ask yourself: is my apathy a problem?
How is it affecting other people, and why?
Best question: why do I care?
At the end of the day it doesn't matter, sometimes you just don't need to care. Maybe, you should care less, sometimes you should care more. It's just a matter of discovering which one matters more to you.
Sometimes we have a desire to not care, or care less. Which is called liberosis. (a different word in a different language.)
Just like the word, it can be liberating. So it's your perception on your apathy that can liberate you, or imprison you.
Chapter 5
conclusion
How you cut them off
You've had a successful seduction. Granted, you're exhausted of their presence and you've accomplished the results you went after. Now, you're complete and want to leave a huge emotional scar. Leaving an emotional scar means you'll hold a large space in their minds, and you'll continue to reserve power over them. (Just in case you want them back.)
One target, we'll call him dark circles. (Because he looked like he hadn't slept in a thousand years.)
So, here is the story with dark circles.
We met on my birthday. Boredom hit me, so for shits and giggles we made out. Fast forward two months later, he wants to spend the rest of his life with me, and will give and be everything I had ever dreamed of.
I was getting sick of him, so I told him not to text me for a week. He then proceeds to text my mother, venting his feelings about how hurt he would feel, if I had just decided to walk away, and how I was leading him on.
I let him go. He was just clutter in my life. I didn't say a word, I just stopped replying to any texts, calls and emails. Not a word out of me. Why did I do it this way?
See, dark circles has a fear of abandonment. You have to let them go, according to their fears. If you want to leave an emotional scar so they spend their entire lives trying to be with you or find another you. If not, that's a different story.
Ditch them according to their fears.
For example:
Someone who fears abandonment:
The best time to leave is when things in your relationship are at their peak. Once it hits the climax, walk away. No warning signs, no words. Nothing. Stop communicating all together.
If a person feared not fitting in, show them they are second best.
If someone feared being chosen over someone else, choose them over someone else.
If someone feared you dying, imply you want to commit suicide. Then never speak to them. (Not recommended. This is for educational purposes only.)
If someone fears losing their beauty, imply you want to end it, because you believe they're ugly. Compare them to better looking people, make them seem smaller in comparison.
Those were some examples of how to ditch people based on their fears. However, the best way to leave them wondering and obsessing for the rest of their lives, is complete sudden abandonment. If you give your target no reason, you trigger the part of the brain that is always trying to find puzzle pieces to finish the puzzle. Since they'll never obtain the missing puzzle pieces, they'll be searching forever. With no luck. (Unless they're stalking you.)
Although, since we're sympathetic people, we'll need to let them down gently.
Unless, you're not that sympathetic. If so, indulge in abandoning them the most meanest, baddest way. The more mean and negative, the bigger the scar you've left behind.
After all, why wouldn't you want to have an effect on them, even when you've eliminated them from your life.
Leave them obsessed forever
Scared of your target getting bored, and wanting to leave? Scared of abandonment? All you have to do is a couple things, to maintain their obsession with you:
Never emotionally commit to someone. Once they believe they have conquered you, emotionally, pull back, and be cold.
You can never make them too sure. Always keep them on the edge about what your opinions about them are, and what your intentions with them, may be.
Make them scared of losing you. Subliminally show that you don’t need them. If you get into arguments, and they threaten to leave, encourage to. This will show you that you don’t depend on anyone for your happiness, and will be just fine without them. A trait many lack.
Remember that life fluctuates all the time, see which needs are being prioritized by their subconscious minds, and fulfill it.
See which techniques work, and which ones don't work for a person, and just keep applying them.
Remember to keep them in suspense. You'll still need to keep surprising them.
Be fickle. Never give too much of yourself, and never give too little of yourself.
Give them hope and grief. Dangle their desires in front of them, allowing them to believe that they finally have it. Once they do, pull away.
Do all these things, and your target will surrender to your seductions forever. Only if you can handle all the attention. Be careful what you wish for.
About The Author
SCARLETT KENNEDY owns the website Power&Obsession. Scarlett helps people learn about obsession, and psychology. She shares her personal experiences, and what you can learn from them. Scarlett currently holds a Bachelor of Commerce, and is a certified life coach.
Learn more about Scarlett at powerandobsession.com
other upcoming books by Scarlett kennedy
How To Psychoanalyze Anyone.
Get Over Your Obsession
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