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by David D Burns


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  Figure 10-3. After eliciting his chain of automatic thoughts, using the downward-arrow method, Art identified the cognitive distortions and substituted more objective responses.

  Automatic Thoughts

  Rational Responses

  I. Dr. B. probably thinks I'm a

  1. Just because Dr. B. pointed out

  lousy therapist.

  my error it doesn't follow he

  ♦

  "If he did think this,

  thinks I'm a -"lousy therapist."

  why would it be. upset-

  I'd have to ask him to see what

  he really thinks, but on many

  ting to me?

  occasions he has praised me and

  said I had outstanding talent.

  2. That would mean I was a lousy 2. An expert can only point out

  therapist because he's an

  my specific strengths and weak-

  expert.

  nesses as a therapist. Any time

  ♦

  "Suppose I was a lousy

  anyone labels me as "lousy"

  therapist, what would

  they are simply making a global,

  this mean to me?"

  destructive,

  useless

  statement. I have had a lot of

  success with most of my

  patients, so it can't be true I'm

  "lousy" no matter who says it.

  3. Overgeneralization. Even if I

  3. That would mean I was a total

  were relatively unskilled and

  failure. It would mean I was no

  ineffective as a therapist, it

  good.

  wouldn't mean I was "a total

  ♦

  "Suppose I was no good.

  failure" or "no good." 'I have

  Why would this be a

  many other interests, strengths,

  problem? What would

  and desirable qualities that

  aren't related to my career.

  it mean to me?"

  4. This is absurd. If I made a mis-

  4. Then the word would spread

  take, I can correct it. "The

  and everyone would find out

  word" isn't going to spread

  What a bad person I was. Then

  around the state like wildfire

  no one would respect me. I'd

  just because I made an error:

  get drummed out of the medical

  What are they going to do, pub-

  society, and I'd have to move to

  lish a headline in the news-

  another state.

  paper: "NOTED PSYCHIA-

  ♦

  "And what would that

  TRIST MAKES MISTAKE!"?

  mean?"

  5. Even if everyone in the wor:d

  5. It would mean I was worthless.

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  Figure 10-3. Continued.

  Automatic Thoughts

  Rational Responses

  I'd feel so miserable I'd want

  disapproves of me or criticizes

  to die.

  me, it can't make me worthless

  because I'm not worthless. If

  I'm not worthless, I must be

  quite worthwhile. So, what is

  there to fed miserable about?

  5. This disapproval will mean I am a bad, worthless person.

  Once you have generated your own chain of automatic thoughts and clarified your silent assumptions, it is crucial to pinpoint the distortions and substitute rational responses as you usually do (see Figure 10-3, page 238).

  The beauty of the downward-arrow method is that it is in-ductive and Socratic: Through a process of thoughtful questioning, you discover on your own the beliefs that defeat you.

  You unearth the origin of your problems by repeating the following questions over and over: "If that negative thought were true, what would it mean to me? Why would it upset me?" Without introducing some therapist's subjective bias or personal beliefs or theoretical leanings, you can objectively and systematically go right to the root of your problems. This circumvents a difficulty that has plagued the history of psychiatry. Therapists from all schools of thought have been no-torious for interpreting patients' experiences in terms of preconceived notions that may have little or no experimental validation. If you don't "buy" your therapist's explanation of the origin of your problems, this is likely to be interpreted as `

  resistance" to the "truth." In this subtle way, your troubles eet forced into your therapist's mold regardless of what you say. Imagine the bewildering array of explanations for suffer-ine that you would hear if you went to a religious counselor (

  spiritual factors), a psychiatrist in a Communist country (

  the social-political-economic environment), a Freudian analyst (internalized anger), a behavior therapist (a low rate of positive reinforcement), a drug-oriented psychiatrist (genetic factors and brain-chemistry imbalance), a family therapist (

  disturbed interpersonal relationships), etc.!

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  A word of caution when you apply the vertical-arrow method. You will short-circuit the process if you write down thoughts that contain descriptions of your emotional reactions. Instead, write down the negative thoughts that cause your emotional reactions. Here's an example of the wrong way to do it:

  First Automatic Thought: My boyfriend didn't call me this weekend as he promised he would.

  "Why is that upsetting to me? What does

  it mean to me?"

  Second Automatic Thought: Oh, it's awful and terrible because I can't stand it.

  This is useless. We already know you feel awful and terrible. The question is—what thoughts automatically crossed your mind that caused you to feel so upset? What would it mean to you if he had neglected you?

  Here's the correct way to do it;

  1. My boyfriend didn't call me this weekend as he promised he would.

  •

  "Why would that be upsetting to me? What does it mean to

  me?'

  2. That means he's neglecting me. That means he really doesn't love me.

  •

  "And suppose that were true. What would that mean to

  me?"

  3. That would mean there's something wrong with me.

  Otherwise he'd be more attentive.

  •

  "And suppose that was true. What would that mean to

  me?"

  4. That would mean I was going to be rejected.

  •

  "And if I were in fact rejected, what then? What would that

  mean to me?"

  5. That would mean I was unlovable and I would always be rejected.

  "And if that happened, why

  would it upset me?"

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  6. That would mean I'd end up alone and miserable.

  Thus, by pursuing the meaning rather than your feelings, your silent assumptions became obvious: (1) If I'm not loved I'm not worthwhile; and (2) I'm bound to be miserable if I'

  m alone.

  This is not to say your feelings aren't important. The whole point is to deliver the real McCoy—valid emotional transformation.

  The Dysfunctional Attitude Scale (DAS). Because of the crucial importance of eliciting the silent assumptions that give rise to your mood swings, a second, simpler method for eliciting them called the "Dysfunctional Attitude Scale" (DAS) has been developed by a member of our group, Dr. Arlene Weissman. She has compiled a list of one hundred self-defeating attitudes that commonly occur in individuals predisposed to emotional disorders. Her research has indicated that while negative automatic thoughts are reduced dramatically between episodes of depression, a self-defeating belief system remains more or less constant during episodes of depression and remission. Dr. Weissman's studies confir
m the concept that your silent assumptions represent a predisposition to emotional turbulence that you carry with you at all times.

  Although a complete presentation of the lengthy Dysfunctional Attitude Scale would be beyond the scope of this book, I have selected a number of the more common attitudes and have added several others which will be useful. As you fill out the questionnaire, indicate how much you agree or disagree with each attitude. When you are finished, an answer key will let you score your answers and generate a profile of your personal value systems. This will show your areas of psychological strength and vulnerability.

  Answering the test is quite simple. After each of the thirty-five attitudes, put a check in the column that represents your estimate of how you think most of the time. Be sure to choose only one answer for each attitude. Because we are all different, there is no "right" or "wrong" answer to any statement. To decide whether a given attitude is typical of your own philosophy, recall how you look at things most of the dine.

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  EXAMPLE:

  Disagree

  Agree

  Agree

  Disagree

  Very

  Strongly Slightly

  Neutral

  Slightly

  Much

  35. People

  who

  have

  the marks of success

  (good looks, social

  status,

  wealth,

  o r

  fame)

  are

  bound

  to be happier than

  those who do not.

  In this example the checkmark in the Agree Slightly column indicates that the statement is somewhat typical of the attitudes of the person completing the inventory. Now go ahead.

  The Dysfunctional Attitude Scale *

  Disagree

  Very

  Agree

  Agree

  Disagree

  Much

  Strongly Slightly

  Neutral

  Slightly

  1. Criticism will obvi-

  ously upset the per-

  son who receives the

  criticism.

  2. It is best to give up

  my own interests in

  order to please other

  people.

  • Copyright 1978, Arlene Weissman.

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  Disagree

  Agree

  Agree

  Disagree Very

  Strongly Slightly Neutral Slightly Much

  3. I need othcr people's

  approval in order to

  be happy.

  4. If someone impor-

  tant to mc expects

  me to do something,

  then I really should

  do it.

  5. My value as a person

  depends greatly on

  what others think of

  me.

  6. I cannot find happi-

  ness

  without being

  loved

  by

  another

  person.

  7. If others dislike you,

  you arc bound to be

  less happy.

  8. If people whom I

  care about

  reject

  me, it means there

  is something wrong

  with mc.

  9. If a person I love

  does not love me, it

  means I am unlov-

  able.

  10. Being isolated from

  others is bound

  to

  lead to unhappiness.

  11. If I am to be

  a

  worthwhile person, I

  must be truly out-

  standing in at least

  one major respect.

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  Disagree

  Agree

  Agree

  Disagree

  Very

  Strongly Slightly Neutral Slightly Much

  12. I must be a useful,

  productive,

  creative

  person

  or life

  has

  no purpose.

  13. Peoplewhohave

  good ideas are more

  worthy

  than

  those

  who do not.

  14. If I do not do as well

  as other people,

  it

  means I am inferior.

  15. If I fail at my work,

  then I am a failure

  as a person.

  16. If you

  cannot do

  something well, there

  is little point in do-

  ing it at all.

  17. It is shameful for a

  person to display his

  weaknesses.

  18. A person should try

  to be the

  best

  at

  everything he under-

  takes. -

  19. I should be upset if

  I make a mistake.

  20. If I don't set

  the

  highest standards for

  myself, I am likely

  to end up a second-

  rate person.

  21. If I strongly believe

  I deserve something,

  I have reason to ex-

  pect that I should

  get ft.

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  Disagree

  Agree

  Agree

  Disagree Very

  Strongly Slightly Neutral Slightly Much

  22. It is necessary to be-

  come frustrated if

  you find obstacles

  to getting what you

  want.

  23. ItI put other peo-

  ple's needs before

  my own, they should

  Help me when I

  need something from

  them.

  24. If I am a good hus-

  band (or wife), then

  my spouse is bound

  to love me.

  25. If I do nice things

  for someone, I can

  anticipate that they

  will respect me and

  treat me just as well

  as I treat them.

  25. I should assume re-

  sponsibility for how

  people feel and be-

  have if they are

  close to me.

  27. If

  I criticize

  the

  way someone does

  something and they

  become angry or de-

  pressed, this means

  I have upset them.

  23. To be a good, worth-

  while, moral person,

  I must try to help

  everyone who needs

  it

  ._..

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  , .

  Agree

  Agree

  Disagree'

  Strongl Slightly Neutral Slightly

  y

  29. If a child is having

  emotional or behav-

  ioral &faculties, this

  shows that the child's

  parents have failed

  in some important

  respect

  30. I should be able to

  please everybody.

  31. I cannot expect to

  control how I feel

  when something bad

  baPPa•

  32. There is no point in

  trying to change up-

  setting emotions be-

  cause they are a

  valid and inevitable

  part of daily living.

  33. My moods are pri-

  marily created by

  factors

  that

  are

  largely beyond my

  control, such as the
<
br />   past, or body chem-

  istry, or. hormone cy-

  cles, or biorhythms,

  or chance, or fate.

  34. My

  happiness

  is

  largely dependent on

  what happens to me.

  35. People who have

  the marks of success

  (good looks, social

  status,

  wealth, or

  fame)

  are

  bound

  to be happier than

  those who do not.

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  Now that you have completed the DAS, you can score it in the following way. Score your answer to each of the thirty-five attitudes according to this key:

  Agree

  Agree

  Disagree

  Disagree

  Strongly

  Slightly

  Neutral

  Slightly

  Very Much

  —2

  —1

  0

  +1

  +2

  Now add up your score on the first five attitudes. These measure your tendency to measure your worth in terms of the opinions of others and the amount of approval or criticism you receive. Suppose your scores on these five items were +2; +1; —1; +2; 0. Then your total score for these five questions would be +4.

  Proceed in this way to add up your score for items 1

  through 5, 6 through 10, 11 through 15, 16 through 20, 21

  through 25, 26 through 30, and 31 through 35, and record these as illustrated in the following example:

  SCORING EXAMPLE:

  Value System

  Attitudes

  Individual Scores

  Total Scores

  L Approval

  1 through 5

  +2,+1,-1,+2,0

  +4

  IL Love

  6 through 10 —2,-1,-2,-2,0

  —7

  II/. Achievement 11 through 15 +1,+1,0,0,-2

  0

  IV. Perfectionism 16 through 20 +2,+2,+1,+1,+1

  +7

  V. Entitlement 21 through 25 +1,+1,-1,+1,0

  +2

  VL Omnipotence 26 through 30 —2,-1,0,-1,+1

  —3

  TU. Autonomy

  31 through 35 —2,-2,-1,-2,-2

  —9

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  RECORD YOUR ACTUAL SCORES HERE:

  Value System

  Attitudes

  Individual Scores

  Total Scores

  I. Approval

  1 through 5

  II. Love

  6 through 10

  III. Achievement

  11 through 15

  IV. Perfectionism

  16 through 20

  V. Entitlement

  21 through 25

  VL Omnipotence 26 through 30

  V1L Autonomy

  31 through 35

  Each cluster of five items from the scale measures one of seven value systems. Your total score for each cluster of five items can range from +10 to —10. Now plot your total scores on each of the seven variables so as to develop your "

 

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