For the Love of Men

by Liz Plank

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  Lightdale, Jenifer R., and Deborah A. Prentice. “Rethinking Sex Differences in Aggression: Aggressive Behavior in the Absence of Social Roles.” Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin 20, 1 (1994): 34–44. https://doi.org/10.1177/0146167294201003.

  Magid, Kesson, Robert T. Chatterton, Farid Uddin Ahamed, and Gillian R. Bentley. “Childhood Ecology Influences Salivary Testosterone, Pubertal Age and Stature of Bangladeshi UK Migrant Men.” Nature Ecology & Evolution 2, 7 (2018): 1146–54. https://doi.org/10.1038/s41559-018-0567-6.

  Mazur, Allan, Alan Booth, and James M. Dabbs. “Testosterone and Chess Competition.” Social Psychology Quarterly 55, 1 (1992): 70–77. https://doi.org/10.2307/2786687.

  McKie, Robin. “Male and Female Ability Differences Down to Socialisation, Not Genetics.” The Guardian, August 14, 2010. https://www.theguardian.com/world/2010/aug/15/girls-boys-think-same-way.

  “Men and Women: No Big Difference.” American Psychological Association. October 20, 2005. https://www.apa.org/research/action/difference.

  Mims, Christopher. “Strange but True: Testosterone Alone Does Not Cause Violence.” Scientific American, July 5, 2007. https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/strange-but-true-testosterone-alone-doesnt-cause-violence/.

  Potts, Annie. “The Man with Two Brains: Hegemonic Masculine Subjectivity and the Discursive Construction of the Unreasonable Penis-Self.” Journal of Gender Studies 10, 2 (2001): 145–56. https://doi.org/10.1080/09589230120053274.

  Potts, Annie. The Science/Fiction of Sex: Feminist Deconstruction and the Vocabularies of Heterosex. Florence: Taylor and Francis, 2014.

  Skewes, Lea, Cordelia Fine, and Nick Haslam. “Beyond Mars and Venus: The Role of Gender Essentialism in Support for Gender Inequality and Backlash.” PLOS ONE 13, 7 (2018). https://doi.org/10.1371/journal.pone.0200921.

  Sreenivasan, Shoba, and Linda E. Weinberger. “Surgical Castration and Sexual Recidivism Risk.” Sexual Offending 33, 1 (2005): 769–77. https://doi.org/10.1007/978-1-4939-2416-5_33.

  Thornhill, Randy, and Craig Palmer. A Natural History of Rape: Biological Bases of Sexual Coercion. Cambridge, MA: MIT, 2001.

  Wibral, Matthias, Thomas Dohmen, Dietrich Klingmüller, Bernd Weber, and Armin Falk. “Testosterone Administration Reduces Lying in Men.” PLOS ONE 7, 10 (2012). https://doi.org/10.1371/journal.pone.0046774.

  Wong, Jennifer S., and Jason Gravel. “Do Sex Offenders Have Higher Levels of Testosterone? Results from a Meta-Analysis.” Sexual Abuse: A Journal of Research and Treatment 30, 2 (2016): 147–68. https://doi.org/10.1177/1079063216637857.

  Zentner, Marcel, and Klaudia Mitura. “Stepping Out of the Caveman’s Shadow.” Psychological Science 23, 10 (2012): 1176–85. https://doi.org/10.1177/0956797612441004.

  5. MEN DON’T NEED INTIMACY

  Cox, Ana Marie. “Janet Mock Struggles with Being Called a ‘Trans Advocate.’” The New York Times, May 24, 2017. https://www.nytimes.com/2017/05/24/magazine/janet-mock-struggles-with-being-called-a-trans-advocate.html.

  Heiman, Julia R., J. Scott Long, Shawna N. Smith, William A. Fisher, Michael S. Sand, and Raymond C. Rosen. “Sexual Satisfaction and Relationship Happiness in Midlife and Older Couples in Five Countries.” Archives of Sexual Behavior 40, 4 (2011): 741–53. https://doi.org/10.1007/s10508-010-9703-3.

  Mock, Janet. Redefining Realness: My Path to Womanhood, Identity, Love & So Much More. New York: Simon & Schuster, 2015.

  Reiner, Andrew. 2017. “The Power of Touch, Especially for Men.” The New York Times, December 5, 2017. https://www.nytimes.com/2017/12/05/well/family/gender-men-touch.html.

  Stephens-Davidowitz, Seth. 2017. “Everybody Lies: How Google Search Reveals Our Darkest Secrets.” The Guardian, July 9, 2017. https://www.theguardian.com/technology/2017/jul/09/everybody-lies-how-google-reveals-darkest-secrets-seth-stephens-davidowitz.

  Tang-Martínez, Zuleyma. 2016. “Rethinking Bateman’s Principles: Challenging Persistent Myths of Sexually Reluctant Females and Promiscuous Males.” The Journal of Sex Research 53 (4–5): 532–59. https://doi.org/10.1080/00224499.2016.1150938.

  6. MALE SHAME: WHAT IS IT LIKE TO FEEL LIKE YOU NEED TO PROVE SOMETHING YOU NEVER QUITE FEEL LIKE YOU HAVE?

  Brown Brené. Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead. London, England: Penguin Books Ltd., 2015.

  Fall, Kevin L. n.d. “Homeless Men: Exploring the Experience of Shame—PDF Free Download.” Zdoc.site. ZDOC.SITE. Accessed March 4, 2019. https://zdoc.site/homeless-men-exploring-the-experience-of-shame.html.

  “Full Report: The State of Gender Equality for U.S. Adolescents.” Plan International USA. 2018. https://www.planusa.org/full-report-the-state-of-gender-equality-for-us-adolescents.

  Harnish, Veronica. “I’ve Been Homeless 3 Times. The Problem Isn’t Drugs or Mental Illness—It’s Poverty.” Vox.com. Vox Media. March 8, 2016. https://www.vox.com/2016/3/8/11173304/homeless-in-america.

  Jakupcak, Matthew, Matthew T. Tull, and Lizabeth Roemer. “Masculinity, Shame, and Fear of Emotions as Predictors of Men’s Expressions of Anger and Hostility.” Psychology of Men & Masculinity 6, 4 (2005): 275–84. https://doi.org/10.1037/1524-9220.6.4.275.

  Ryan, Kimberly D., Ryan P. Kilmer, Ana Mari Cauce, Haruko Watanabe, and Danny R. Hoyt. “Psychological Consequences of Child Maltreatment in Homeless Adolescents: Untangling the Unique Effects of Maltreatment and Family Environment.” Child Abuse & Neglect 24, 3 (2000): 333–52. https://doi.org/10.1016/s0145-2134(99)00156-8.

  Shier, Micheal L., Marion E. Jones, and John R. Graham. “Social Communities and Homelessness: A Broader Concept Analysis of Social Relationships and Homelessness.” Journal of Human Behavior in the Social Environment 21, 5 (2011): 455–74. https://doi.org/10.1080/10911359.2011.566449.

  Taywaditep, Kittiwut Jod. “Marginalization Among the Marginalized.” Journal of Homosexuality 42, 1 (2002): 1–28. https://doi.org/10.1300/j082v42n01_01.

  “The 2018 Annual Homeless Assessment Report (AHAR) to Congress.” 2018. December 2018. https://www.hudexchange.info/resources/documents/2018-AHAR-Part-1.pdf.

  Thompkins, Christine Durham, and Robert A. Rando. “Gender Role Conflict and Shame in College Men.” Psychology of Men & Masculinity 4, 1 (2003): 79–81. https://doi.org/10.1037//1524-9220.4.1.79.

  7. THE GREAT SUPPRESSION

  Addis, Michael E., and James R. Mahalik. “Men, Masculinity, and the Contexts of Help Seeking.” American Psychologist 58, 1 (2003): 5–14. https://doi.org/10.1037/0003-066x.58.1.5.

  “Asian-American Man Plans Lawsuit to Stop ‘Sexual Racism’ on Grindr.” NBCNews.com. July 13, 2018. https://www.nbcnews.com/feature/nbc-out/asian-american-man-threatens-class-action-discrimination-suit-against-grindr-n890946.

  Gottman, John M., James Coan, Sybil Carrere, and Catherine Swanson. “Predicting Marital Happiness and Stability from Newlywed Interactions.” Journal of Marriage and the Family 60, 1 (1998): 5–22. https://doi.org/10.2307/353438.

  Gul, Pelin, and Tom R. Kupfer. “Benevolent Sexism and Mate Preferences: Why Do Women Prefer Benevolent Men Despite Recognizing That They Can Be Undermining?” Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin 45, 1 (2018): 146–61. https://doi.org/10.1177/0146167218781000.

  Hammond, Matthew D., and Nickola C. Overall. “When Relationships Do Not Live Up to Benevolent Ideals: Women’s Benevolent Sexism and Sensitivity to Relationship Problems.” European Journal of Social Psychology 43, 3 (2013): 212–23. https://doi.org/10.1002/ejsp.1939.

  Jansz, Jeroen. “Masculine Identity and Restrictive Emotionality.” Gender and Emotion (2000): 166–86. https://doi.org/10.1017/cbo9780511628191.009.

  OkCupid. “A Woman’s Advantage.” The OkCupid Blog. March 5, 2015. https://theblog.okcupid.com/a-womans-advantage-82d5074dde2d.

  Perales, Francisco, and Janeen Baxter. “Sexua
l Identity and Relationship Quality in Australia and the United Kingdom.” Family Relations 67, 1 (2017): 55–69. https://doi.org/10.1111/fare.12293.

  Scelfo, Julie. “Men and Depression: New Treatments.” Newsweek, March 13, 2010. https://www.newsweek.com/men-and-depression-new-treatments-105091.

  Stephens-Davidowitz, Seth. Everybody Lies: Big Data, New Data, and What the Internet Can Tell Us About Who We Really Are. Bloomsbury, 2018.

  Venker, Suzanne. “Chivalry Is Dead Because Women Killed It.” Fox News. April 30, 2018. https://www.foxnews.com/opinion/suzanne-venker-chivalry-is-dead-because-women-killed-it.

  Venker, Suzanne. “Society Is Creating a New Crop of Alpha Women Who Are Unable to Love.” Fox News. February 8, 2017. https://www.foxnews.com/opinion/society-is-creating-a-new-crop-of-alpha-women-who-are-unable-to-love.

  Venker, Suzanne. “Most Men Just Want a Woman Who’s Nice.” Fox News. May 11, 2017. https://www.foxnews.com/opinion/most-men-just-want-a-woman-whos-nice.

  Wilcox, W. B., and S. L. Nock. “What’s Love Got To Do With It? Equality, Equity, Commitment and Women’s Marital Quality.” Social Forces 84, 3 (2006): 1321–45. https://doi.org/10.1353/sof.2006.0076.

  8. BROMANCE

  Alcaraz, Kassandra I., Katherine S. Eddens, Jennifer L. Blase, W. Ryan Diver, Alpa V. Patel, Lauren R. Teras, Victoria L. Stevens, Eric J. Jacobs, and Susan M. Gapstur. “Social Isolation and Mortality in US Black and White Men and Women.” American Journal of Epidemiology 188, 1 (2018): 102–9. https://doi.org/10.1093/aje/kwy231.

  Arbes, Vicki, Charlie Coulton, and Catherine Boekel. “Men’s Social Connectedness.” Hall & Partners, Open Mind. June 2014. https://www.beyondblue.org.au/docs/default-source/research-project-files/bw0276-mens-social-connectedness-final.pdf.

  Cole, Steve W., Margaret E. Kemeny, Shelley E. Taylor, and Barbara R. Visscher. “Elevated Physical Health Risk among Gay Men Who Conceal Their Homosexual Identity.” Health Psychology 15, 4 (1996): 243–51. https://doi.org/10.1037//0278-6133.15.4.243.

  Cole, Steven W., John P. Capitanio, Katie Chun, Jesusa M. G. Arevalo, Jeffrey Ma, and John T. Cacioppo. “Myeloid Differentiation Architecture of Leukocyte Transcriptome Dynamics in Perceived Social Isolation.” Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences 112, 49 (2015): 15142–47. https://doi.org/10.1073/pnas.1514249112.

  Fowler, James H., and Nicholas A. Christakis. “Dynamic Spread of Happiness in a Large Social Network: Longitudinal Analysis over 20 Years in the Framingham Heart Study.” BMJ 337 (December 2008). https://doi.org/10.1136/bmj.a2338.

  Garfield, Robert. Breaking the Male Code: Unlocking the Power of Friendship. New York: Gotham Books, 2015.

  Godbeer, Richard. The Overflowing of Friendship: Love Between Men and the Creation of the American Republic. Baltimore: Johns Hopkins University Press, 2009.

  Holt-Lunstad, Julianne, and Timothy Smith. “Social Relationships and Mortality Risk: A Meta-Analytic Review.” SciVee (July 2010). https://doi.org/10.4016/19911.01.

  Holt-Lunstad, Julianne, Timothy B. Smith, Mark Baker, Tyler Harris, and David Stephenson. “Loneliness and Social Isolation as Risk Factors for Mortality.” Perspectives on Psychological Science 10, 2 (2015): 227–37. https://doi.org/10.1177/1745691614568352.

  Independent Age. “Isolation: The Emerging Crisis for Older Men.” Independent Age. October 13, 2014. https://www.independentage.org/press-releases/isolation-emerging-crisis-for-older-men.

  McPherson, Miller, Lynn Smith-Lovin, and Matthew E. Brashears. “Social Isolation in America: Changes in Core Discussion Networks over Two Decades.” American Sociological Review 71, 6 (2006): 353–75. https://doi.org/10.1177/000312240807300610.

  Mineo, Liz. “Over Nearly 80 Years, Harvard Study Has Been Showing How to Live a Healthy and Happy Life.” Harvard Gazette, November 26, 2018. https://news.harvard.edu/gazette/story/2017/04/over-nearly-80-years-harvard-study-has-been-showing-how-to-live-a-healthy-and-happy-life/.

  Orth-Gomér, K., A. Rosengren, and L. Wilhelmsen. “Lack of Social Support and Incidence of Coronary Heart Disease in Middle-Aged Swedish Men.” Psychosomatic Medicine 55, 1 (1993): 37–43. https://doi.org/10.1097/00006842-199301000-00007.

  Pinker, Susan. The Village Effect: How Face-to-Face Contact Can Make Us Healthier, Happier, and Smarter. Toronto: Random House Canada, 2014.

  Rath, Tom, and Jim Harter. “Your Friends and Your Social Well-Being.” Gallup.com. Business Journal. August 19, 2010. https://news.gallup.com/businessjournal/127043/friends-social-wellbeing.aspx. Adapted from Wellbeing: The Five Essential Elements

  Robinson, Stefan, Adam White, and Eric Anderson. “Privileging the Bromance.” Men and Masculinities (October 2017). https://doi.org/10.1177/1097184x17730386.

  Ruberman, William, Eve Weinblatt, Judith D. Goldberg, and Banvir S. Chaudhary. “Psychosocial Influences on Mortality after Myocardial Infarction.” New England Journal of Medicine 312, 1 (1984): 50–51. https://doi.org/10.1056/nejm198501033120113.

  Silk, Joan B., Jacinta C. Beehner, Thore J. Bergman, Catherine Crockford, Anne L. Engh, Liza R. Moscovice, Roman M. Wittig, Robert M. Seyfarth, and Dorothy L. Cheney. “The Benefits of Social Capital: Close Social Bonds among Female Baboons Enhance Offspring Survival.” Proceedings of the Royal Society B: Biological Sciences 276, 1670 (2009): 3099–3104. https://doi.org/10.1098/rspb.2009.0681.

  Silk, Joan B., Jacinta C. Beehner, Thore J. Bergman, Catherine Crockford, Anne L. Engh, Liza R. Moscovice, Roman M. Wittig, Robert M. Seyfarth, and Dorothy L. Cheney. “Strong and Consistent Social Bonds Enhance the Longevity of Female Baboons.” Current Biology 20, 15 (2010): 1359–61. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.cub.2010.05.067.

  Taylor, Shelley E., Laura Cousino Klein, Brian P. Lewis, Tara L. Gruenewald, Regan A.R. Gurung, and John A. Updegraff. “Biobehavioral Responses to Stress in Females: Tend-and-Befriend, Not Fight-or-Flight.” Foundations in Social Neuroscience 107, 3 (2002): 411–29. https://doi.org/10.7551/mitpress/3077.003.0048.

  “The Australian Longitudinal Study of Aging.” n.d. Flinders University. Accessed March 4, 2019. http://flinders.edu.au/sabs/fcas/alsa/.

  “The Way We Are Now: The State of the UK’s Relationships 2015.” Relate—The Relationship People. September 1, 2015. https://www.relate.org.uk/policy-campaigns/publications/way-we-are-now-state-uks-relationships-2015.

  Wade, Lisa. “American Men’s Hidden Crisis: They Need More Friends!” Salon.com. December 7, 2013. https://www.salon.com/2013/12/08/american_mens_hidden_crisis_they_need_more_friends/.

  Way, Niobe. Deep Secrets: Boys, Friendships and the Crisis of Connection. Cambridge, MA: Harvard University Press, 2013.

  9. WAFFLES ARE HIS LOVE LANGUAGE

  Adams, Matthew, Carl Walker, and Paul O’Connell. “Invisible or Involved Fathers? A Content Analysis of Representations of Parenting in Young Children’s Picturebooks in the UK.” Sex Roles 65, 3–4 (2011): 259–70. https://doi.org/10.1007/s11199-011-0011-8.

  Alexander, Michelle. The New Jim Crow: Mass Incarceration in the Age of Colorblindness. New York: New Press, 2012.

  Badger, Emily, Claire Cain Miller, Adam Pearce, and Kevin Quealy. “Extensive Data Shows Punishing Reach of Racism for Black Boys.” The New York Times, March 19, 2018. https://www.nytimes.com/interactive/2018/03/19/upshot/race-class-white-and-black-men.html.

  Bartel, Ann, Maya Rossin-Slater, Christopher Ruhm, Jenna Stearns, and Jane Waldfogel. “Paid Family Leave, Fathers’ Leave-Taking, and Leave-Sharing in Dual-Earner Households.” Journal of Policy Analysis and Management 27, 1 (2015): 10–37. https://doi.org/10.3386/w21747.

  Caprino, Kathy, and Terry Real. “Gender, Power and Relationships: The Crushing Effects of Patriarchy.” Finding Brave (blog). January 25, 2018. https://findingbrave.org/episode-4-gender-power-relationships-crushing-effects-patriarchy-terry-real/.

  Carlsson, Christoffer. “Masculinities, Persistence, and Desistance.” Criminology 51, 3 (2013): 661–93. https://doi.org/10.1111/1745-9125.12016.

  Coontz, Stephanie. “Do Millennial Men Want Stay-at-Home Wives?” The New York Times
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  Datchi, Corinne C. “Masculinities, Fatherhood, and Desistance From Crime.” The Journal of Men’s Studies 25, 1 (2016): 44–69. https://doi.org/10.1177/1060826516641100.

  Donovan, Sarah A. 2018. “Paid Family Leave in the United States.” https://fas.org/sgp/crs/misc/R44835.pdf.

  Ehrenreich, Barbara. The Hearts of Men: American Dreams and the Flight from Commitment. London: Pluto Press, 1983.

  Fate-Dixon, Nika. “Are Some Millennials Rethinking the Gender Revolution? Long-Range Trends in Views of Non-Traditional Roles for Women.” Council on Contemporary Families. March 31, 2017. https://contemporaryfamilies.org/7-fate-dixon-millennials-rethinking-gender-revolution/.

  Guo, Jeff. “America Has Locked Up so Many Black People It Has Warped Our Sense of Reality.” The Washington Post, February 26, 2016. https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/wonk/wp/2016/02/26/america-has-locked-up-so-many-black-people-it-has-warped-our-sense-of-reality/.

  Haskins, Anna. “Unintended Consequences: Effects of Paternal Incarceration on Child School Readiness and Later Special Education Placement.” Sociological Science 1 (April 2014): 141–58. https://doi.org/10.15195/v1.a11.

  Horne, Rebecca M., Matthew D. Johnson, Nancy L. Galambos, and Harvey J. Krahn. “Time, Money, or Gender? Predictors of the Division of Household Labour Across Life Stages.” Sex Roles 78, 11-12 (2017): 731–43. https://doi.org/10.1007/s11199-017-0832-1.

  Hurd, Noelle M., Marc A. Zimmerman, and Yange Xue. “Negative Adult Influences and the Protective Effects of Role Models: A Study with Urban Adolescents.” Journal of Youth and Adolescence 38, 6 (2009): 777–89. https://doi.org/10.1007/s10964-008-9296-5.

  Jones, Jo, and William D. Mosher. “Fathers’ Involvement With Their Children: United States, 2006–2010.” National Health Statistics Report 71 (2013). https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/data/nhsr/nhsr071.pdf.