Lifestyle Mastery Boxed Set

by Scott Allan

  The mentor wants what is best for the mentee and understands they have needs that must be fulfilled. There are certain obligations that should be considered in order to effectively manage and maintain a successful relationship.

  The mentor shares in the burden of pain the protégé is experiencing, so both people grow and transform. The mentor’s primary task is to listen, offer suggestions, and give insight into the problems or challenges the mentee is experiencing.

  The effective mentor always operates from a level of responsibility that takes care of the mentee first. If their needs are being met within the relationship, they are learning firsthand how to mentor another person.

  You are molding the mentee for success, and this is a heavy responsibility. It is this passing down of the mentoring torch that sets the foundation for the relationship, and in so doing, creates a legacy of winners committed to making the world a better place.

  As mentors, leaders, and role models, we share a bond of commitment with our mentees that forms a strong path toward personal excellence. Your work is about the people, as is expressed in this message: once you have mastered the principles of success, your work is just beginning.

  Once you have achieved the golden crown, it is time to pass it on to someone else. It isn’t yours to keep. You must pass it on to others so your circle of influence continues to grow.

  The path to becoming an effective mentor is through contributing to the effectiveness of others. If you want to grow, you must help another grow as well. If you want to succeed, show another what it means to succeed.

  A Mentor for Everyone

  Mentorship is a solid investment in character: your character and the character of another person. It is our greatest opportunity to not only pass on what we know, but to help another person succeed.

  To take this a step further, think of a failure in your life. Was it personal finance? A relationship? Doing what you love? Whatever it is, write it down and remember how you failed. What were the factors that precipitated the failure? Was it a lack of knowledge? A lack of experience?

  Do you think you could have succeeded if you’d had positive support from someone like a mentor?

  Now that you have identified the reasons you failed, how can you help someone else succeed where you failed? This is what true mentorship is really about. You are not just teaching a mentee how to succeed in life, you are helping them navigate through rough waters that you’ve already experienced.

  Your mistakes, while they may have cost you, can benefit another person. If you have children or plan to have children, imagine how much life experience you can share with them. They will make their own mistakes on the journey, but your instructions as a mentor can make it a better trip. Whether we admit it or not, we all want a helping hand through difficult times.

  Look for the opportunity to share your message and make a difference in someone else’s life. One simple act of kindness, a hand that reaches down and helps another person up, will be remembered.

  Building an

  Unforgettable Legacy

  “If you look to your past or even your present to see why you are here or what your purpose is, you may get stuck in a limited view of yourself. Instead, look beyond your years here on earth, reconnect with the divine, and bring forth your soul's legacy into the present moment.”

  — Debbie Ford

  Your legacy is the blazing trail that you leave behind for the world to follow. It is the end result of your life that others will look at. Everything you stood for is recognized in some special way by those who benefited from your contributions: family, society, and the environment, and in some cases, the impact is global.

  The legacy you build is your gift to the world, a passing of the torch, so your knowledge, experience, talent, gifts, and compassion are not forgotten. Your work and the impact you delivered to the people you worked with is carried well into the future. Others will cherish and remember you for the actions you take today.

  Don’t Let Your Gifts Die

  One of the greatest tragedies is that many people die without ever having really lived their life’s true potential. They pass away with great songs that have never been played and poems that will never be whispered by anyone.

  They hold on to what they have in hopes of preserving it somehow, but it simply dies with them. The next time you meet someone, even if it is only for the first time, give that person your complete attention. Create a positive impact right then and there.

  Too many of us pass away quietly, like a flame snuffed out in the dark, having been afraid to burn as brightly as we could have.

  Do not be afraid to light your candles and hold them high. If you have a song to play, play it as loud as you can; if you have a brush and paint, create a beautiful picture; if you have a knack for acting, be the most passionate performer on the stage; should you be a public speaker, let the people hear your voice for miles away.

  When we leave this world, we take with us our experiences, talents, knowledge, wisdom, love, and passions. We take with us the kingdom of our soul and leave behind everything else.

  Wouldn’t you rather leave behind more than just assets, cash, and a few good memories? What if your legacy could survive for fifty years? A hundred years? A thousand years?

  Imagine if you could change people’s lives, give them a hope they never had before, and make a difference in the world through the work you did in the short time you were here on Earth.

  You are capable of doing more than you think possible. You must live each day as if there is no other. Regardless of your present age, whether sixteen or sixty, it is never too late to become the change you visualize happening around you.

  The only way your legacy is going to survive is for you to pass on what you know. You can only achieve this if you work hard to connect with the right people. The legendary people of this world who have passed remain in our memories for one reason: they made a significant difference in our lives.

  They showed the world they cared and that they stood for something the world has grown to love and admire. They are the world’s greatest examples of mentors and leaders who are still touching us in many ways, making a global difference for many years after they are gone.

  Your legacy is not about what you possessed or how much power you had over other people. It is not about wealth or fame. It is, in its very essence, about sharing your gifts, talents, love, emotions, kindness, and passion with the world.

  You don’t have to be a world leader or a person of great wealth and power to leave behind something worthy and of great importance. You have everything you need already within you. All you have to do is dig it up and put it to good use.

  Those who left behind unforgettable legacies also had equally powerful visions. Your legacy is your vision to the world, and it is the greatest gift you could ever give back. Your legacy is your story, and it contains the teachings of your life. Just as the acorn holds the life of the oak tree, so does your legacy encompass all that you are and ever will be.

  Your life will be remembered for the impact you leave on people. It is the hope you instill in people, touching their hearts in such a way that they feel compelled to continue your life’s instruction to the next generation.

  “All good men and women must take responsibility to create legacies that will take the next generation to a level we could only imagine.”

  — Jim Rohn

  People want to be inspired, and they want to know how to inspire others. Imagine that decades later, the people you helped were still passing it down to their protégés, friends, and family members. This is the incredible power of building a legacy through mentoring others.

  There is really nothing like it. The greatest way to be remembered is to pass on everything you are and all that you have, so the people within your circle of influence can carry the torch in your name and all those who have gone before you.

  The legacy you leave is like a blueprint for others to follow and pick up where you lef
t off. It is your gift to the world and will continue to grow even when you are not around. And it is something you can take part in today. You don’t have to be a world-class athlete, an inventor, or a multibillionaire to leave behind a legacy worth something.

  You can have an impact on the people you share your life with. Those we meet from one day to the next are the ones we should be concerned about. Therefore, focus on who you are, remember what you stand for and believe in, and determine what you can do to make this world a place of great opportunity and transformation, and share that with those around you.

  The Exponential Factor

  If you mentor someone, you are investing valuable time and energy in another person’s well-being. As you spend quality time with them by communicating, listening, and working through some of life’s most complicated issues, you are making a deep contribution to every person who comes in contact with your circle of influence.

  This is the true strength of mentoring. You can take even greater pride and satisfaction in mentoring others when you know you aren’t just influencing their lives, but the lives of those who find their way into your circle of influence.

  The impact of mentoring is an exponential formula for success. When you instruct people on how to be a mentor for someone else, that person takes what they know and passes it on. In time, your investment creates a wave of influence like the rippling effect of a stone thrown into a lake.

  “My legacy is that I stayed on course…from the beginning to the end, because I believed in something inside of me.”

  — Tina Turner

  The ripple starts out small and expands to larger and larger areas. If an investment is something you are looking for, you should start with your investment in other people and relationships that benefit the growth of all parties involved. There is really no telling where it will lead once you start reaching out and helping other people.

  In order for your investment to work, you have to be willing to put in the time and work. Your investment in the growth of another person will someday pay back in dividends and grow to become larger than anything you could ever imagine. A mentor’s work has the potential to reach hundreds, thousands, and—eventually—millions of people. This is a process that takes place over years, decades, and multiple generations that could span hundreds of years.

  Your work counts, and the passion you put into the growth and development of other mentors is a long-standing example of the values and commitment you represented. Long after you are gone, your investments will continue to grow, and there is no telling how far your circle of influence could extend.

  This is the beginning of your legacy. There is, after all, nothing more rewarding than seeing the people in which you have invested your time and energy grow into healthy people who help others as they work toward success.

  Designing Your Legacy

  Make just a few minutes to consider your personal legacy. Imagine if this were your last day on Earth. By tomorrow you will be gone, and what remains is the memory of the person you were, the lives you helped to change, the inspiring message you stood for, and the contribution you made to this world.

  Looking back on your life, you are seeing everything that you did for the first time, as if through a window to the past.

  As you watch the old reruns of your life flash by, how do you feel about the legacy you are about to leave behind? What significance did you have? What could you do differently today that you never tried before?

  It is hard to think of our lives as ending someday. We move through each day, expecting the next one to come about. It is life. We hope it lasts for as long as we can keep it going. So we do what we can in as little time as we can.

  Now, how about your legacy? What is the impact you want to leave behind?

  Whom do you want to influence? Who do you want to remember you, and what do you want them to remember you for?

  With this vision, you can start taking actions that will make a profound change.

  In as many words as you can, begin writing down the legacy you’re going to create. Be sure to include your personal mission statement, your personal values, and the contribution you are making. Leave nothing out.

  If you live your life in accordance with your dreams and commit to designing your destiny through ongoing development of character traits and values, you will have a legacy that speaks volumes about your life.

  Don’t just settle for a flicker in the darkness of a large and empty room. Light up the lives of people you meet and make yourself an unforgettable source of inspiration.

  Developing Your

  Mentor Program

  “If you want to be successful, find someone who has achieved the results you want and copy what they do and you'll achieve the same results.”

  — Anthony Robbins

  Now that you know what it takes to become a mentor, your goal is to help people rediscover the best of themselves buried inside. To do this, you need a plan to reach the people you are trying to help. Whether or not you are a coach or a leader, knowing the people you want to reach is key to being able to help them.

  Turning your curiosity into a driving passion to help people discover their absolute best potential is an amazing journey. Once you get hooked into helping people and you dedicate all your resources and energy into that, everything changes.

  Everything.

  My world shifted the day I stopped chasing money and started pursuing the happiness of other people. But to do that, I needed to shift my thinking. I revamped my purpose, and it shifted the actions I was taking. Instead of focusing on my needs first, I put the needs of others first. I know, it wasn’t easy, and it still isn’t. But this trait of leadership is often overlooked. We may have good intentions, but those intentions can be shrouded in personal objectives.

  Setting People Up for Success

  Our future mentors—the men and women who will carry on our work—rely on us to lay down the foundational steps for success. So, here are eight steps for becoming a good mentor. You can use these steps if you are leading people in your business, your family, or people in your organization.

  Show Them the Unlimited Possibilities

  As a mentoring leader, one of the ways to motivate and inspire future mentors is to share resources available that inspire success and achievement. To do this, encourage mentees to read the biographies of successful people who have overcome the odds, meet with other mentors, join a motivational seminar or a support group, or listen to motivational audio CDs. Share the most positive aspects of this life with your mentees.

  If the mentee is struggling from a lack of self-esteem brought on by past experiences, this step is an opportunity to construct a positive foundation that builds faith and inspires hope.

  Believe in Them!

  Always believe the best in people and know that they are capable of inducing changes that will have a massive impact on the world someday. Believe in their potential for greatness instead of finding error and fault in things they do, and you can build up confidence, reinforcing the idea that anyone can do anything at any point in their lives.

  When you believe in others, those you mentor will absorb the strength of your convictions. They will soak up your positive energy and be influenced by your actions and positive mental attitude.

  Everyone is capable of so much more. A lack of belief is what stops them from doing, having, and becoming more. When they succeed, you succeed.

  Identify Dreams and Underlying Passions

  Everyone has a dream that has yet to be discovered. Work with mentees to help them find their deepest passions. Help them discover a way to set this passion on fire.

  As the mentee’s model for excellence, you can show them how to focus on this power in order to draw it out and bring it to life. In doing so, you will unveil their great purpose for living. This is the start of something exciting, which leads to the next step.

  Create a Goal-Oriented Mindset

  Teaching people the process of goal set
ting is one of the most exciting steps for both the mentor and the mentee.

  Follow the steps to create a blueprint of goals for your partner. Show them how you have done this and the success you achieved from creating your own list of goals. Through establishing goals for the mentee, you will shape and mold the relationship on many levels.

  Establish a Level of Commitment

  A mentoring leader must be committed to the process of helping others succeed and exceed their potential for growth. There can be no half measures here. Show the mentee that you are 100 percent committed to the relationship, and they might surprise you by returning the same level of commitment.

  This is the basis for securing and building a solid relationship. A commitment to excellence is one of the key pillars of success for individuals, corporations, and—of course—mentoring.

  Encourage and Praise

  Everyone needs to be reminded they are doing well and they are on the right track. Encouragement is the greatest therapy for keeping people motivated and interested in what they are doing.

  A lack of encouragement reinforces low confidence, whereas words of praise build self-esteem and motivate people to walk with you the entire distance. People want to be appreciated and know their efforts are being observed by people who have taken an interest in their lives.

  Be Accountable

  As a mentor, our responsibility to our mentees continues even after they have moved on to create their own legacy. We still have an obligation, unless the relationship ends completely, to check in and see how they are doing. This might be via phone call, dropping by their house for a visit, or just sending a short email.

  Instead of simply pushing people out into the world to take care of things their own way, the mentor should leave their door open for future contact and brief follow-ups on the success of their mentees. Relationships take hard work and effort, and we must maintain a certain level of accountability even after the mentee has moved on.