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Mexican immigration “crisis, ” 104–105
99–100
mirror neurons, 33–34
heroes and villains, 101
misjudgment of others, 174
high- emotion media, 101–102
mistakes
historical perspective, 99
“controlling” HCP, 121–122
vs. McGovern, George, 96
dropouts as enemies, 123–124
support for Joseph McCarthy,
fantasy crises, 118–119
98–102
fantasy heroes, 120
villains and heroes, 101
fantasy villains, 119–120
“The November Criminals,” 64
loyalists as enemies, 124
NPD (narcissistic personality
moderate opponents as enemies,
disorder)
122–123
diagram, 16
resisters as enemies, 123
early warning signs, 141
“victimization” of HCP, 121
explained, 12–13
warning signs, 118
seductiveness, 21
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O
as fantasy hero, 178
Obama, Michelle, 132
HCP (high- conflict personality), 78
Obamacare, 106
heroes and villains, 79–80
October Revolution, 67
high- emotion media, 81
O’Neill, Tip, 43
historical perspective, 77–78
opponents, treating as enemies,
villains and heroes, 79–80, 120
122–123
warning signs, 118
Orban, Viktor
R
early years, 82
Fantasy Crisis Triad, 83, 119
Radar, jamming, 145–146
as fantasy hero, 179
Reagan, Ronald, 43, 132
HCP (high- conflict personality),
Red Army, 72
82–83
relationships, forming with voters,
heroes and villains, 83–84
129–130
high- emotion media, 84–85
reminders, 146–147
historical perspective, 82
Republicans vs. Democrats, 34–35
villains and heroes, 83–84
Resisters
warning signs, 118
4-way voter split, 29
described, 28
P
empathy, strength, power, 131–133
Palin, Sarah, 151
German Communist Party, 31
patterns, noticing, 149–150
treating as opponents, 123
personal attacks, 174
Trump, Donald, 110–111
personality
respect, giving, 129–133
demonic type, 4
responding and repeating, encouraging,
disorders, 8–11
161–162
high- conflict type, 7–8
“Rightists” vs. “Leftists, ” 24
observing, 146
Romanov Tsars, 66–67
power of, 4–5
Romney, Mitt, 114
seductiveness, 21
Rubio, Marco, 149
persuasion and charm, 8–9
Russia, Fantasy Crisis Triad, 178.
Philippines. See Duterte, Rodrigo
See also Lenin, Vladimir; Putin,
political conflict, causes, 5–6
Vladimir; Soviet Union; Stalin, Josef
political culture of blame, 42–43. See
also Targets of Blame
S
positive emotions, 144–145
Sanders, Bernie, 110–111, 113, 132
power
SBVT (Swift Boat Veterans for
efforts at limiting, 46
Truth), 158
energy and strength, 130, 136
Shapiro, Jesse, 114
of personality, 4–5
Share Our Wealth movement, 95
seeking, 21
Sherman, Gabriel, 44–45
preventing election of HCPs, 129
simplicity, maintaining, 161
problems, solving, 53–54
Smart, Elizabeth, 15
Putin, Vladimir. See also Russia
sociopathic personality disorder
early years, 78
diagram, 16
Fantasy Crisis Triad, 79, 119
explained, 11, 13–14
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sociopathic personality disorder
ASPD (antisocial personality
(continued)
disorder), 14
seductiveness, 20–21
attacking, 8, 19, 22–23
traits, 141
choosing, 55–56
solving human problems, 53–54
focus on, 11
Soros, George, 80, 83–84
Maduro, Nicolas, 89
Soviet Union, break up, 5, 77–78. See
malignant narcissism, 14
also Russia
Putin, Vladimir, 80
speaking before crowds, 161–162
Soros, George, 83–84
splitting, process of, 23–24
Stalin, Josef, 32
Stalin, Josef. See also Russia
stopping thinking, 51
cultural leadership, 31–32
Trump, Donald, 109
early years, 67–68
teamwork (collaboration), 47
Fantasy Crisis Triad, 69–70
thinking, impaired ability, 41, 50,
as fantasy hero, 178
142–143
HCP (high- conflict personality),
Thompson, Dorothy, 65
68–69
three key questions, 6–7, 161. See also
heroes and villains, 70
Fantasy Crisis Triad
high- emotion media, 70–71
Timms, Henry, 151
historical perspective, 66–67
Trotsky vs. Lenin, 24
vs. Mao Zedong, 73–74
Trump, Donald
personal policy, 5
2016 presidential election, 107–112
seductive promises, 22
ability to stop thinking, 50
villains and heroes, 70
aggressive behavior, 140
warning signs, 118
Central- American refugee
statistics
“crisis, ” 112
2016 presidential election, 109
Double Negatives, 109–110
American authoritarian streak, 95
Dropouts, 111–112
ASPD (antisocial personality
early years, 103
disorder), 13–14
emotional repetition, 114
Dropouts, 133
Fantasy Crisis Triad, 104, 106–107,
false news, 40
112–113, 119
following Wannabe Kings, 117
as fantasy hero, 180
Hitler’s cultural leadership, 31
HCP (high- conflict personality),
NPD (narcissistic personality
103–104
disorder), 13
heroes and villains, 105–106
Stalin vs. Putin, 79
high- emotion media, 113–115
support for Wannabe Kings, 30
historical perspective, 102
strength, energy, and power, 130, 136
Independent voters, 110
swiftboating, 158
inspiration of followers, 151
Loyalists, 107–108
T
Mexican immigration, 104–105
Targets of Blame. See also blaming
Moderates, 108–109
words; culture of blame
party affiliation, 104
/>
4-way voter split, 29
Resisters, 110–111
tweets, 40
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villains and heroes, 105–106,
political leadership, 47
119–120
Putin, Vladimir, 79–80
warning signs, 118
responding to, 150–153
Tsar Nicholas II, 66–67
Stalin, Josef, 70
Turkey, Recep Tayyip Erdogan, 84, 121
three key questions, 57
Trump, Donald, 105–106
U
“voter suppression” laws, 111–112
United States
voters, reaching out to, 128–136
Constitution, 46
Fantasy Crisis Triad, 179–180
W
uniting groups, 128
Wallace, George, 96
Wannabe Kings. See also HCPs
V
(high- conflict personalities)
Venezuela
behaviors, 21
Fantasy Crisis Triad, 179
characteristics, 127–128
Nicolas Maduro, 88–91
concept, 15
Vietnam War, 100–101
diagram, 16
villains and heroes
“I alone can fix it, ” 50, 55
avoiding emotional attacks,
keeping up with, 159–160
150–152
shifting sides, 24
avoiding emotional defense,
skills, 30
152–153
warning signs, 118, 141
Berlusconi, Silvio, 92–93
Watergate scandal, 99–101
cultural leadership, 45–46
WEB Method, 142–145
Duterte, Rodrigo, 86–87
words. See also blaming words
fantasizing, 45–47, 50–55, 57,
of caution, 146–147
150–153, 174
noticing usage, 142–145
Fantasy Crisis Triad, 50–51, 54–55
WWI (World War I), 61
Hitler, Adolf, 64–66
Maduro, Nicolas, 89–90
Y
Mao Zedong, 74–75
Yeltsin, Boris, 77–78
McCarthy, Joseph, 97–98
Yugoslav Wars, 1990s, 5–6
mistake of believing in, 119–120
Nixon, Richard, 101
Z
Orban, Viktor, 83–84
Zedong, Mao. See Mao Zedong
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ABOUT THE AUTHOR
BILL EDDY is a lawyer, therapist, mediator, and
co- founder and Training Director of the High Con-
flict Institute. He obtained his law degree from the
University of San Diego, a master’s degree of social
work from San Diego State University, and a psy-
chology degree from Case Western Reserve Uni-
versity. He has taught at the University of San Diego
School of Law and the National Judicial College.
Eddy currently provides training to professionals
worldwide on the subject of managing high- conflict
personalities and is a part- time faculty member at the Straus Institute for
Dispute Resolution at Pepperdine University School of Law and at Monash
University Law Chambers. He lives in California.
For more information and resources, visit
www.HighConflictInstitute.com
www.NewWays4Families.com
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Document Outline
Cover
Half Title
Title
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Contents
PREFACE
PART I: How Narcissists and Sociopaths Get Elected 1: High- Conflict Politicians
2: High-Conflict Emotional Warfare
3: The 4-Way Voter Split
4: High- Emotion Media
5: The Fantasy Crisis Triad
PART II: The Fantasy Crisis Triad Worldwide 6: How Hitler, Stalin, and Mao Took Over
7: Around the World Today: Russia, Hungary, the Philippines, Venezuela, and Italy
8: Here at Home: From McCarthy to Nixon to Trump to ___________?
9: 10 Common Mistakes with High- Conflict Politicians
PART III: How to Stop High- Conflict Politicians 10: It’s All about Relationships
11: Screen Out Narcissists and Sociopaths
12: Expose Their Fantasy Crisis Triads
13: Be as Assertive as HCPs Are Aggressive
14: Manage the Media and Fake News
CONCLUSION: Maintaining Our Immunity
APPENDIX A: 40 Predictable Behaviors of HCPs
APPENDIX B: High- Conflict Politician Scorecard
APPENDIX C: Blank 4-Way Voter Split Diagram
APPENDIX D: Fantasy Crisis Triads—Examples Worldwide
NOTES
ACKNOWLEDGMENTS
INDEX A
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