Toxic People: Decontaminate Difficult People at Work Without Using Weapons or Duct Tape
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Chapter 18 - Survivor
You have decided to be a survivor instead of a victim of Toxic People. Good for you. Hard work lies ahead, and your habits have to be changed. Use this chapter as a reminder of what you need to focus on to stabilize the changes you want in your life.
Leader Checklist
❏ Hire upbeat people. Training someone in the skill is easier than instilling a positive attitude.
❏ Immediately address employee issues. Otherwise, they will only get worse.
❏ Build relationships with everyone.
❏ Don’t become angry. Stay in control. It’s your job.
❏ Never show favoritism.
❏ Check the perception your people have of you at least annually.
❏ Handwrite notes of thanks and acknowledgment.
❏ Listen.
❏ Celebrate and allow people to have fun.
❏ Know people’s goals and help them achieve success.
❏ Train your people.
❏ Do your job well.
❏ Don’t waste time. Your company doesn’t pay you to make personal calls or to surf the Internet.
❏ Never gossip.
❏ Ask for help, especially when prioritizing your tasks.
❏ Volunteer, but don’t overwhelm yourself.
❏ Ask for training. If the company doesn’t give it to you, pay for it yourself.
❏ Remember “other duties as assigned,” and do them gratefully.
❏ Work well with everyone, and remember that a co-worker doesn’t have to be your best friend.
❏ If you don’t like your job or boss, leave. Find something you do like.
The real questions are: What will you change? How will you do it? To guarantee health, happiness, and wealth, use the following survivor checklist and Toxic People will never get in your way again!
❏ Read and listen to good information.
❏ Make first-rate choices.
❏ Be open to other people’s opinions and thoughts.
❏ Figure out what clogs your filter and change it.
❏ You don’t have to approve. You do have to accept.
❏ Don’t let the minority rule the majority. Speak up!
❏ Build relationships to build profits.
❏ Tell your face when you’re smiling inside.
❏ Give feedback. Use “liked best” and “next time.”
❏ Invest in yourself. Stop expecting others to take care of you.
❏ Be a role model every minute of every day.
❏ Take personal responsibility for everything.
❏ Take it. Leave it. Change it. What’s your plan?
❏ Choose to manage conflict well.
❏ Manage your money. Lead a simpler life.
❏ Everyone you touch is your customer.
❏ Take a good look at who you have become.
❏ Be flexible.
❏ Lighten up.
❏ Celebrate everything.
Check my web site at www.MarshaPetrieSue.com for additional tips and tools for managing your life and Toxic People. Your challenge is to apply these survival tactics to manage people who create perplexity, puzzlement, and pandemonium without using weapons or duct tape. Good luck!
Pledge
I, ___________________ [your name], promise that I will identify toxic behavior, use new skills in my approach, and never use excuses again. I have the strength and fortitude to continue to practice, even after I have failed. I am never the Toxic Person. I pledge to stay calm and keep my temper. I promise never to take a Toxic Person’s behavior personally or to seek retribution. I know how to keep my power by maintaining control. I create my own environment that nurtures my success. I am the master of my future, my stress level, and my own behavior.
About the Author
Marsha Petrie Sue is the Mohammed Ali of communications.
She can dance, look pretty, and she uses the entire ring.
Marsha also knows how and when to land a knockout punch. Her information combines charm school with live ammunition. She provides tactics for managing people, employees, and clients that create perplexity, puzzlement, and pandemonium at work and at home. “Let’s be honest,” she says, “some of the situations you encounter are toxic and you need to learn how to handle it or they’ll tear you apart.”
Marsha holds a masters degree in Business Administration from the University of Phoenix. She is the author of the award-winning book The CEO of YOU: Leading Yourself to Success (Communicating Results Press, 2nd ed., 2002).
Having enjoyed a successful career as an executive with Fortune 100 companies, Marsha is now president of Communicating Results, providing keynotes and presentations to associations and corporations. She is the recipient of the Women of Spirit Award from the American Red Cross and Morton’s, which was awarded in recognition of her continued volunteerism and community work.
Marsha and her husband Al live in Scottsdale, Arizona, and get away from the killer summer heat by retreating to their cabin in the Arizona White Mountains. They are birders and love hiking and fishing. In addition, Marsha enjoys photography and golf.
Marsha’s DVDs, CDs, and audio recordings are from her live presentations as well as studio recording sessions. Visit her web site at www.MarshaPetrieSue.com for additional resources and for booking information. To reach Marsha,
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