The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate
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Even the smallest gift from my husband is important to me.
C
10
I feel loved when my husband tells me he is proud of me.
A
When my husband helps clean up after a meal, I know that he loves me.
D
11
No matter what we do, I love doing things with my husband.
B
Supportive comments from my husband make me feel good.
A
12
Little things my husband does for me mean more to me than things he says.
D
I love to hug my husband.
E
13
My husband’s praise means a lot to me.
A
It means a lot to me that my husband gives me gifts I really like.
C
14
Just being around my husband makes me feel good.
B
I love it when my husband gives me a massage.
E
15
My husband’s reactions to my accomplishments are so encouraging.
A
It means a lot to me when my husband helps with something I know he hates.
D
16
I never get tired of my husband’s kisses.
E
I love that my husband shows real interest in things I like to do.
B
17
I can count on my husband to help me with projects.
D
I still get excited when opening a gift from my husband.
C
18
I love for my husband to compliment my appearance.
A
I love that my husband listens to me and respects my ideas.
B
19
I can’t help but touch my husband when he’s close by.
E
My husband sometimes runs errands for me, and I appreciate that.
D
20
My husband deserves an award for all the things he does to help me.
D
I’m sometimes amazed at how thoughtful my husband’s gifts to me are.
C
21
I love having my husband’s undivided attention.
B
I love that my husband helps clean the house.
D
22
I look forward to seeing what my husband gives me for my birthday.
C
I never get tired of hearing my husband tell me that I am important to him.
A
23
My husband lets me know he loves me by giving me gifts.
C
My husband shows his love by helping me without me having to ask.
D
24
My husband doesn’t interrupt me when I am talking, and I like that.
B
I never get tired of receiving gifts from my husband.
C
25
My husband is good about asking how he can help when I’m tired.
D
It doesn’t matter where we go, I just like going places with my husband.
B
26
I love cuddling with my husband.
E
I love surprise gifts from my husband.
C
27
My husband’s encouraging words give me confidence.
A
I love to watch movies with my husband.
B
28
I couldn’t ask for any better gifts than the ones my husband gives me.
C
I love it that my husband can’t keep his hands off me.
E
29
It means a lot to me when my husband helps me despite being busy.
D
It makes me feel really good when my husband tells me he appreciates me.
A
30
I love hugging and kissing my husband after we’ve been apart for a while.
E
I love hearing my husband tell me that he missed me.
A
A:_____ B:_____ C:_____ D:_____ E:_____
A=Words of Affirmation B=Quality Time C=Receiving Gifts
D=Acts of Service E=Physical Touch
Interpreting and Using Your Profile Score
Your primary love language is the one that received the highest score. You are “bilingual” and have two primary love languages if point totals are equal for any two love languages. If your second-highest-scoring love language is close in score but not equal to your primary love language, then this simply means that both expressions of love are important to you. The highest possible score for any one love language is 12.
You may have scored certain of the love languages more highly than others, but do not dismiss those other languages as insignificant. Your husband may express love in those ways, and it will be helpful to you to understand this about him. In the same way, it will benefit your husband to know your love language and express his affection for you in ways that you interpret as love. Every time you or your husband speaks the other’s language, you score emotional points with one another. Of course, this isn’t a game with a scorecard! The payoff of speaking each other’s love language is a greater sense of connection. This translates into better communication, increased understanding, and, ultimately, improved romance.
If your husband has not already done so, encourage him to take the Five Love Languages Profile for Husbands on page 191. Discuss your respective love languages, and use this insight to improve your marriage!
Notes
1.“The Stepcouple Divorce Rate May Be Higher Than We Thought,” Ron L. Deal, www.successfulstepfamilies.com/view/176.
2. Proverbs 18:21
3. Proverbs 12:25
4. Luke 6:27–28, 31–32
5. Luke 6:38
6. Gary Chapman and Ross Campbell, The Five Love Languages of Children (Chicago: Northfield Publishing, 1997, 2005).
7. Gary Chapman, The Five Love Languages of Teenagers (Chicago: Northfield Publishing, 2000, 2005).
8. Gary Chapman, The Five Love Languages: Singles Edition (Chicago: Northfield Publishing, 2004, 2009).