Life Isn't All Ha Ha Hee Hee

by Meera Syal

  They made an odd threesome. Tania was svelte, sharp-featured, with long-lazy limbs and a leonine mane (never cut, odd for a Modern Girl), dismissive of the beauty that was her passport out of East London and into cosmopolitan circles where she was now termed merely exotic. Sunita and Chila had feared they might lose her, when Tania broke loose from her traditional moorings and drifted into an uncharted ocean with her English man and snappy Soho job. But they also knew, when she did return, it was always for them. And they forgave her, for when she did breeze in smelling of leather office chairs and tangy perfume she seemed to drag the world in with her, full of possibilities, on spiky heels. ‘Here I am! Back with the pindoos,’ she’d trill, back with the village idiots, she’d joke, although, Sunita noticed, Tania still sat like one with them, crossed legs, shoes off, unknotting herself in a way that suggested, despite her protestations, that part of her still responded to them like Home.

  Sunita, they had all three decided, was always the one Most Likely to Succeed. She’d sailed through school and college with straight As, and was halfway through a law degree when she’d met Akash. He’d called her a scab as she’d entered the university refectory to buy a pasty and lectured her right there on the pavement, in his open-toed sandals and fraying jumper, about the oppressed canteen staff within, who relied on their support for their ongoing work-to-rule protest. Sunita barely took in a word. She was trying to work out what planet he’d landed from, this man full of fizz and fury with Medusa-messy hair, and why the hell hadn’t she known that there were Asian men around like this one. She failed her finals, unsurprisingly really, as most of her revision had taken place on Akash’s bedsit mattress. Ten years on, the fledgling battling barrister had a comfy desk job at a local Citizens’ Advice Bureau, and the children of the revolution’s children held them, comfortably, together. Sunita’s delicate, doll-like features were now softened by the fleshy mantle worn by married Indian ladies in their mid-thirties. It was like a uniform, the designer silks, the ostentatious gold jewellery, collected on booty trips to Bahrain, the rippling belly rolls escaping from painted on sari blouses. No guilty aerobic sessions for them. The old rules still applied; coming from a place where starvation was a reality rather than a fashion statement, fat meant wealth and contentment. So Sunita could claim her cellulite was a political stance, rather than something, like many other things in her life, which had crept up on her unawares.

  And then there was Chila, wrestling with fuchsia folds. Known as Poor Chila for years, while relatives and educationalists alike mistook her innocence and unworldly joy for stupidity. First she was slow, then thick, then sweet, and finally, concluded her sorrowful parents, unmarriageable, for didn’t the boys nowadays expect smart yet domesticated women with both culinary skills and a Ph.D.? But Chila’s close friends knew better; Tania and Sunita had noticed early on the cinnamon smiling girl standing by herself in the corner of the playground. They had even briefly joined in with the mob teasing of all the unfortunate rejects who were herded into the prefabricated hut reserved for the Special Children. They had watched through the hut windows, giggling, as Chila and her classmates, mostly black and Asian children, cut out pictures from catalogues with blunt scissors, tongues out in concentration, and wondered why she never got angry or embarrassed at their gawping. And one day, suddenly, Chila appeared in their classroom, clutching her folder nervously, and was shown to the empty desk behind them. The news spread that Chila had entered an essay into a schools’ competition and won. The school had assumed that the recent refugee from East Africa could not speak a word of English, never mind compose a lyrical treatise on the joys of spring. Chila’s essay was pinned up outside the headmaster’s office. It was full of violent African blooms and flame-coloured birds, a different kind of spring that briefly inhabited a musty corner and made those who read it sigh longingly and wish for the sun. Chila never wrote anything as good again. In fact, she consistently failed every exam going, as if that single swansong had depleted any formal intelligence she may have possessed. But by then Tania and Sunita had adopted her and discovered that the girl they’d once tagged the Dark Dumbo was funnier, sweeter and kinder than anyone else knew. They kept the secret like they kept each other’s friendship: close, to themselves.

  Tania picked up the top half of the suit and wrinkled her nose. ‘Is this what his side have given you to wear for your exit?’

  Chila nodded, hitching the trousers up quickly and tying the cord with trembling fingers. She couldn’t understand why she felt shy in her underwear in front of her friends, the two friends who’d seen her through mammary growth, menstruation and men problems. Maybe it did all change once you got married. She’d already had the lecture from Tania about how pathetic those women were who acquired a wedding ring on one hand and dropped all their female friends with the other. That was not going to happen to them, especially as Chila was the last of the three to get a man. If it all fell apart now, it would be Chila’s fault. Definitely.

  ‘It’s . . . a bold print,’ ventured Sunita, eyeing the spangly top which Tania dangled from a manicured finger.

  ‘Bold? It’s positively Bolshie!’ laughed Tania. ‘What is it about the bloke’s family and the doli suit? You’ve got Chanel designing catwalk Indian suits and they go to Mrs Patel’s bargain basement bin for the loudest pindoo suit they can find, to bring their new daughter-in-law home in.’

  ‘God I know,’ Sunita said. ‘I got some frothy lemon yellow thing with bells on the scarf from Akash’s mother. When the DJ asked for requests for our first dance, someone shouted out, “Have you got ‘My Ding A Ling?’” I could have died.’

  Tania choked on her cigarette, giggling out fumes from her nose. Sunita patted her on the back, before stealing a quick drag and blowing a blissful cloud right into Tania’s face, which made her choke all over again.

  ‘Tut tut! Bad Indian woman,’ teased Tania, wiping her eyes. ‘Thought you’d given up.’

  ‘I have,’ Sunita said, ‘I really have.’

  ‘Go on then,’ said Chila. ‘How bad is it?’

  She was standing in a pool of sunlight that had brazenly, unexpectedly spilled through the dirty single window. The gold at her ears, throat and wrists caught the light and threw it back in dancing darts, the dark brown of her skin softened and glowed, the dreaded pink suit flamed around her in rosy benediction. She had stopped the snow in mid-fall. Her watching friends’ hearts contracted in unison; they had never assumed Chila would get married, that any man would understand or recognize her hidden, fragile charms. And now they saw her beauty in full bloom, they worried for her and about him.

  ‘Chila,’ breathed Sunita. ‘You look beautiful.’

  Tania smiled tightly. ‘It’s better on, for sure. What did he say, then?’

  ‘Who?’

  ‘Who? Dreamboat Deepak. You know, when he whispered something and you went all girlie and the pandit went gospel for a moment . . .’

  ‘Oh, it was nothing. Bit weird, but nice.’

  ‘Something romantic, I bet.’ Sunita grinned. ‘From the movies. Your hair is like the black monsoon cloud, your eyes like the startled faun . . . hai hai.’

  ‘No. He just said, “Thank you.”’

  The moaning began as Chila fell into step behind Deepak, who strode manfully towards the glass swing doors. The guests gathered either side of the exit, spilling out into the courtyard and around the silver Mercedes, whose bumper sported two shrivelled balloons. CHILA WEDS DEEPAK the balloons said, or rather whispered, in deflated, croaky voices.

  Sunita had dragged Tania to a prime spot, next to the back seat of the car, arguing that their faces should be the last Chila saw before being chauffeur-driven off to her new life. Sunita was already sniffling into a shredded tissue, glad she had left the children indoors with a vague relative. She didn’t mind them seeing weddings, but the doli was too upsetting, at least for her. She looked up at Tania, who was standing stiff-backed against the breeze, obviously bored. Of course she doesn’
t understand why this is so painful, Sunita concluded. Unmarried women never do.

  Tania thought it was a swarm of bees at first, wrong-footed suddenly, wondering how they had amassed and appeared in the middle of winter. Then the swing doors flew open and the hum became a keening, a mournful wailing with no end and no pauses for breath, taken up by one throat and then another until the sound enveloped them all. There in the quiet eye of the storm was Chila, head bowed, face contorted, black trails of mascara running down her cheeks, with her father clinging onto one arm and her mother to the other, wide-mouthed, emitting this awful endless moaning, broken with pleas in Punjabi to ‘Please God, don’t take our daughter from us, our baby leaving us for ever, please God, keep her safe . . .’ Other members of Chila’s family followed in a hysterical wake, raising impassioned eyes and arms to the sky, towards Deepak’s family, towards Chila’s parents, the all-purpose Indian gesture of ‘Life’s crap but what can you do, huh?’

  Tania bristled with irritation at the sobbing around her, watching Chila being push-pulled slowly towards the open car door, where Deepak’s family stood now with the sorrowful but resigned air of funeral directors, saddened by their unpleasant duty to remove this woman from her grieving family but determined to fulfil their role with dignity and, if need be, a gentle shove.

  ‘For God’s sake,’ Tania whispered, ‘she’s only moving to Ilford. She’s not being kidnapped in a bleeding bullock cart to a distant village, is she?’

  ‘It’s not how far you go,’ Sunita said, ‘it’s who you’re going with. She’s his now. Her parents have got to let her go.’

  ‘Well, they should be having a laugh then, the number of years her mum’s bent my ears about Chila not getting a decent bloke.’

  ‘Not now, Tania.’

  ‘They spend half your life nagging you to get a degree and keep your hymen so you’ll bag a husband, and beat themselves up at your wedding because you have.’

  ‘Tania, that’s it, shutit now.’

  Tania had a comeback all ready, tart on the end of her tongue, because she loved winding up Sunita more than anyone else. And then, despite her best intentions, she looked at him. Deepak stood in the centre of this circle of grief, the lone male in an ocean of heaving female flesh. The other men had regrouped in awkward clumps, giving the women space to grieve, exchanging rueful glances, scuffing their shoes guiltily in the melting slush. For hadn’t they all done this once, pretend cavemen for a day, dragging their women away by the hair, parping their victory on their car horns? Deepak’s face was a mask of calm, almost ennobled by the task ahead of him, to protect and nurture this weeping woman. And his serenity, his certainty were what helped Tania understand as she scanned the keening women at his side. They knew what lay ahead, they remembered their own dolis and wept for what they didn’t know then, and what they knew now. They wept symbolically for Chila and noisily for themselves. Unexpected tears pricked Tania’s eyes. She let out a long shuddering breath, which Sunita noted with surprised satisfaction.

  As Chila was finally bundled into the back seat, eyes downcast, nose streaming, headdress awry, Tania pulled Sunita forward so they were right up against the door, only a millimetre of glass separating the three friends. Tania knocked on the window and forced a manic grin, nudging Sunita to do the same. Chila looked up and blew her nose pathetically. Impulsively, Tania kissed the window, leaving the lipstick imprint of a rueful, lopsided smile, which she later thought most appropriate. Sunita mouthed ‘Love you’ between hiccuping sobs. Then Deepak slid in smoothly next to Chila and tapped the driver to move off. As the car edged forward, Tania looked straight into Deepak’s eyes and told him silently what she had wanted to tell him since she had found out about this wedding. Look after her, she warned him and then, with an arch of an eyebrow, added a PS, Better than you looked after me.

  Pandit Kumar threw a final handful of petals at the car bonnet with what he hoped was a Goodnight and thank you Vegas flourish. Ladies and gentlemen, the newlyweds have left the building . . . Tissue-clutching matriarchs reattached themselves to harrumphing husbands, reaffirming their bonds to each other and the watching world. Single girls clucked in feverish groups, high on the drama of the departure, tossing their fancy dupattas at the single men, torn between the horror and the longing of it all. The single men back-slapped each other, their ushering and whisky-serving duties over, loosened ties while they felt themselves pulled along by the girls’ invisible embroidered scarves. It was a game the young singles all played at weddings, regardless of the secret lives and liaisons outside these rarefied hours. For now, they could flirt as their forefathers must have done, brush up their smouldering technique, pretend that their futures were arranged at such venues under the eyes of their parents, rather than on their mobile phones on the way home.

  The few English guests stood in a confused huddle, wondering why such a splendid day, replete with aching colours, mountainous piles of delicious food (much better than you get down the Viceroy), embarrassing hospitality, ear-splitting music, wild and strange folk dancing (a bit like jive, this Indian business, once you get the footwork going), inhibitions peeled off with second-best jackets, had to end with such a tragic performance. They had all got through the occasion without making an awful faux pas. Now what were they supposed to say to Chila’s slumped and tear-stained family? Thank you for a lovely day?

  For everyone else, it had been, despite the weather, a lovely day. A perfect day, because rituals had been observed, old footsteps retraced, threads running unbroken, families joined, futures secured. ‘Bas! Now they are settled,’ the women said, satisfied, their biggest worry over, blissfully unaware that some settled things can melt away, as easily as snowfall.

  The car engine backfired once as it sped down the high road, scattering the pigeons from the mosque roof, who took to the sky in startled flight, momentary scudding shadows across the watery sun.

  Chila

  THEY WEREN’T REAL tears, you know. Well, by that I mean, I did feel sad, heartbroken even, but it was like being at the cinema, when you’re right there in the story, watching Clint in The Bridges of Madison County watch Meryl, with the rain plastering his hair to his forehead, and he’s saying goodbye, because he loves her enough to understand he’s got to let her go back to her boring husband, and you’re choking on your popcorn and screaming, Jump, Meryl, before he goes for ever. You’re there completely and then the lights come back on and you’re embarrassed because there’s snot down your top and you’ve got to get to Sainsburys before it closes. Well, Deepak was my Sainsburys, waiting for me at the end of the story. And I love a good cry, always have done. Like my mum’s always said, Life isn’t all ha ha hee hee, so if you know there’s going to be a few tears, you might as well try and enjoy them.

  And the other thing was, of course, that I knew everybody was watching to see how upset I was, because apparently, a girl who doesn’t cry at her doli is considered a hard-hearted bitch on wheels who must be glad to leave her family. Sick, isn’t it? I’ve heard of some girls who actually arrange for friends to slap them around a bit in the changing rooms beforehand or tell them a really tragic story, just to make sure they don’t look too satisfied when they leave their weddings. Nowadays, with seventeen video cameras following your every move, you can’t be too careful. You know that video is going all round the world to all the relatives who may never meet you, but will decide from the telly what sort of a wife and person you are. ‘You see that, Bunty? The trollop almost smiled at the camera. May she only bear daughters, the hair-dyed hussy!’ (That last bit is what I actually heard an old woman spit at one of my mates in Stratford Shopping Centre. Sad really, because that old woman must have been someone’s daughter once upon a time.)

  So I didn’t attempt a fainting fit or rip off my clothes like a crazy woman, because actually I didn’t have to try too hard. Seeing my dad blub sets me off anyway, and I was so knackered by the whole day and fed up of being stared at and seeing the surprise in people’s faces
when they looked from Deepak to me then back again that I just gave into it. Even the pandit put in his two pence worth. He actually asked one of my aunties if he was marrying the right couple. (And I know he had his eye on Deepak for his daughter a few years back. He reckoned you couldn’t do much better than marrying the seed from a man of god, that’s if you don’t mind the fact his curie has a squint and breath that could melt paint.) Anyway, he says to my auntie, ‘Well, I have known Deepak’s family many years and I think they had higher hopes for their only son. But if he loves her tender and she doesn’t have a wooden heart, it may work.’ He’s a weird bloke but he did do a lovely ceremony, even though the pelvic thrusts and his air guitar riffs didn’t go down too well with Deeps’ family. They were quite sweet to me. His mum kept bursting into tears every time she saw us together, which Deeps said was a compliment, as she’s not one to show much emotion. And his dad just kept patting him, saying, ‘Be happy. It’s done now. No mucking around any more, OK?’ His sisters are still a bit frosty with me but they’ll come round eventually, I reckon.

  There was a time, just after we announced the engagement, when they kept sending round their single girlfriends to Deeps’ place. All these gorgeous long-haired women in designer suits would just appear on his doorstep with a casserole of his favourite dish and ask if they could pop in and do a bit of ironing. (Deeps told me all about it, he thought it was pathetic, although he kept the food sometimes and we ate it after, giggling together like naughty schoolkids.) It was like the more his family didn’t want me, the more he did. Like being with me was something he had over them. ‘I could understand it with the white girls,’ he said, ‘but on paper you’re perfect. Apart from the qualifications bit.’ Anyway, like his dad said, It’s done, and like my dad said, Thank God, now we can die happy. I’ll get Deeps’ family round soon and cook them a slap-up dinner, so they can see how it’s all worked out.