Russian Allure

by Oksana Boichenko

  Anywhere you go people will be asking you if she is your daughter.

  It doesn’t seem like a big deal, but it can really take toll on a relationship. You need to be prepared to deal with all these things, you must be confident, you must learn to turn a deaf ear to your friends and family in some instances. If you care what others think or are not sure you can handle these things, DO NOT BEGIN A RELATIONSHIP WITH A YOUNGER WOMAN. It might sound harsh, but your marriage will not sustain the pressure if you listen to others and question your relationship and your wife’s motives.

  Now let’s do a little test which can help you calculate whether you are prepared to date and marry a younger lady. If the test shows that you are not 100% ready, you will know which aspects your need to work on. This is what you need to do: mark “agree” or “disagree” in response to each of the 30 questions below.

  Agree

  Disagree

  I have high self-esteem.

  I respect opinions of others, even if I disagree.

  I like to read and patiently teach others how to improve their life.

  I am a sexually healthy man.

  I respect myself too much to get involved in a relationship with a woman who doesn’t have respect for herself.

  I don’t care what other’s think.

  I understand that younger women need to be treated differently; they should be pampered with designer clothes, shopping, and salon treatments.

  I think impeccable clothes are necessary to make a good impression not only on women, but on potential business partners as well.

  Young women are naïve and stupid.

  Paying for woman’s beauty treatments is not an expense, but an investment.

  I am in an excellent physical shape and take care of my health.

  I bear authority, coworkers ask me for advice.

  I am a romantic, I know how to create a romantic atmosphere or know when to hire someone to do it for me and my sweetheart.

  I am attentive; I remember or have someone remind me about all holidays and important events for my loved ones.

  I am a financially stable man.

  I don’t have patience for people, if they don’t get me right away, they must be dumb.

  Everyone has unique talents; they can become prominent with just a little help in developing them.

  I don’t think I deserve interest from much younger women.

  It is important for my friends and family to accept my wife.

  I love to give gifts, it sincerely brings me pleasure.

  My wardrobe is impeccable, I like looking stylish and modern.

  I think younger women should be treated no different that women of my own age.

  Young women don’t know much, they need to listen and do as I say.

  Life is too short to get stressed over things. Fix what you can, don’t stress over something you can’t change.

  I can’t tolerate stupid people, I have to explain to them what they don’t understand and why they are wrong.

  I don’t think sex is important for women, it is only important for a man.

  People at work respect me and value my opinion.

  I am overweight, but it is all in my bad genes, I can’t do anything about it. A woman will just have to love me for the way I am.

  What I drive matters. I have to have a vehicle that reflects my status and shows that I am in charge.

  I love to mentor and would be glad to help to a young lady to become successful at whatever her passions are.

  Some of these questions seem similar and ask about the same things in a variety of ways. Some of them reflect inner values, while others focus on a mental position, others are just fun and give you something to think about. All this is done to give you the most accurate result. Now, let’s calculate your score.

  Give yourself 3 points for every “agree,” except questions 9, 16, 18, 19, 22, 23, 25, 26, 28 – if you marked any of them as “agree”, mark “0”.

  Give yourself 3 points for every “disagree” in response to questions 9, 16, 18, 19, 22, 23, 25, 26, 28.

  Add points from both columns and add 10 bonus points to your score to get the total.

  If your total is 85 +, you have a good chance to meet, date, and have a relationship with a younger woman.

  If your score is lower, go back and reflect on the points for which you received “0” – I suggest that you try to implement positive statements in your life or remove negative aspects if the statement is negative. The questions 9, 16, 18, 19, 22, 23, 25, 26,28 are an indication of aggression, intolerance, disrespect, low self-esteem, being concerned about other people’s opinion, and lack of taking responsibility for your own life. These qualities will not help you meet a younger woman or create a relationship with her. Such qualities as respect, tolerance, patience, generosity, high self-esteem, and accountability are a must to establish a successful relationship with a younger woman.

  You really should be able to tick off every point on this list before you start building a relationship with a younger woman. Don’t think that I am being cruel – my experience shows that otherwise you have little chances of making such relationship work, so I am just trying to save you time, money, and heart ache. If you feel you lack some qualities, you can always develop them with enough patience and motivation.

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  CHAPTER 8: TURNING DATING INTO MARRIAGE

  Is your Russian bride ready to settle with you?

  Now that you’ve found a wonderful Russian woman you want to meet in person, you need to know how to determine whether she is ready to settle down and if she likes you.

  The most important thing for you to remember is that your Russian woman will not make the first move. As you remember, Russian women are very traditional, so even if your lady likes you a lot, she will wait for you to initiate a phone conversation, a video chat, and, especially, a personal meeting. Along with that you must also know that a Russian woman will NEVER turn down a personal meeting if she is sincere and truly interested in you. If you are corresponding with a woman on a dating site and have offered to meet in person, but she finds excuse after excuse to postpone the meeting, you can be certain that you are either being scammed or wasting your time.

  How soon is an interested woman ready to see you in person? Instantly! It is a natural human reaction to want things right this second. It is like asking someone when they want to become happy – I doubt you’ll ever hear: “Three months from now”. A woman who is genuinely attracted to you and has nothing to hide will be ready to meet you the minute you propose to meet. Don’t confuse this with situations when a woman has to juggle personal circumstances of some sort to ensure she can give you adequate attention. For example, you ask if your woman wants to meet and get in response: “You are welcome to come right now, but I will be able to spend more time with you in a month when I can take time off from work”. This is definitely something to be excited about – she wants to make sure she can spend as much time with you as possible which is a clear sign of her interest. Below you will find some information that will help you make informed decisions.

  If you want to know whether your woman is ready to meet you, these are the things to watch for:

  She talks of travel and asks if you have plans to travel anywhere in the near future (of course, the smart thing to say is that you would want to visit her country because she is there).

  She asks how far you live from her and how long it would take you to get to her country.

  She asks about your leave and how often you take long trips.

  She asks if you’ve told your parents or friends about her.

  She says that she told her friends or parents about you, and they think you are handsome, inte
resting, etc.

  If you haven’t written in a few days, she sends you her last email again or inquires whether everything is all right with you.

  Once you mention that you want to come over, she asks about the details of your trip (when you plan to arrive, where you will stay, etc.).

  She refers to your letters things you’ve discussed previously and remembers every detail because she wants to participate in your life.

  A woman is ready to commit to you if she talks about the following things:

  She talks about wanting to create a family.

  She talks about having children and how soon she would want it to happen.

  She asks you if you are interested in having children.

  She is genuinely interested in learning about your life, in particular, about your family. She asks about them during every conversation.

  She asks about life in your country, about your family traditions.

  Some other things will give you a clear indication that a woman is ready to settle:

  She has worked at the same place for a while as opposed to changing jobs frequently.

  She has a vision of what she wants her future life/career to be as opposed to trying to figure out what she wants to do with her life.

  She takes responsibility for her actions/life.

  Of course, if you still have doubts, it is always a good idea to find a tactful way to discuss her intentions and the future of your relationship. If you choose to approach this topic, be sure that you ask things in a way that will not offend your woman – if she is truly interested and you sound as if you question her, you have all chances to ruin a perfectly fine relationship.

  Here, there, anywhere

  When my clients find women they are interested in, they frequently have difficulty deciding where to have their first meeting. Many of them want to have a woman visit their country to show her what her possible future might be and to see whether she would be able to adapt to new living conditions. Others find it exciting and exotic to visit a woman’s country and really enjoy seeing where she comes from. Many couples consider meeting on a neutral territory to be the best option.

  Since it is often difficult if not impossible for women from Russia and Ukraine to travel to the United States due to financial and visa limitations, I will not discuss this option. However, I will outline in detail advantages and disadvantages of visiting your woman’s country and meeting on a neutral territory.

  MEETING IN HER COUNTRY

  ADVANTAGES

  DISADVANTAGES

  A woman will feel more comfortable at her home town, especially if she has never traveled overseas.

  Meeting her family and friends is a great chance to show them that you are a good choice for their daughter. It will be easier for your bride and her family to deal with distance if her family feels you will take good care of her.

  It is a good chance for you to find out what your bride will be like in a few years – after all, if you want to know what you wife will look like 20 years from now, take a look at her mother. Jokes aside, by visiting her family you will be able to see what is important in her life, who has the main role, who makes decisions, how her father is being treated – and that’s exactly what you can expect.

  You can see if she is what she said she is. Being on her own territory, your woman will act natural, so you will see her true personality.

  Visiting your lady’s home country will give you a good understanding of your cultural differences, which can help avoid misunderstandings in future.

  Meeting her friends will tell you more about who she is as a person (in Russia there is a saying “Tell me who your friends are, and I will tell you who you are”).

  Seeing her home will tell you how well she takes care of it, what her preferences are in decorating/lifestyle. Pay attention to her book shelves and photographs – they will tell you more about your sweetheart than a thousand words.

  She might be able to negotiate better deals on accommodation, souvenirs, etc. to save you money during the visit.

  Traveling abroad is a great way to plan a meeting with several ladies if you are not committed to a particular woman. You can meet them without feeling “stuck” with a particular person. Even if you are interested only in one woman, you can meet other women from the city/region if something goes wrong during your meeting.

  You have no chance to see how she would adapt in a foreign country.

  There is no way to escape routine problems as you could if both of you were on vacation (for example, your woman might have to go to work, keep prior commitments, etc.).

  You need a visa to enter all Former Soviet Union countries, except Ukraine.

  Not knowing the language or traditions of the country you are visiting can cause all sorts of misunderstandings and awkward moments. For example, men often get uncertain because they don’t know what woman’s friends or family members are really saying.

  Long flights (very long flights!). It can take up to 28 hours to get to Kazakhstan from the US, for example.

  You will spend money. In many cases, pricing might come as a shock to you. For example, I have heard numerous complaints from foreign men about how expensive accommodation is in Ukraine.

  Many of her friends might be forceful in giving advice or sharing their opinion of you, if it is dictated by jealousy, such “advisers” can easily ruin a potential relationship

  If you are not careful, you will be taken advantage of in a financial sense – foreigners are often charged through a “special pricing structure” (normally 10 times higher than regular prices).

  Food might be difficult to adjust to. Many foreigners complain of upset stomach, some even lost weight due to the total cleansing of the system.

  The number of beautiful available women might get you confused and distracted from the one you originally came to visit. It can also be the reason for a break up.

  You will be limited in the opportunities of surprising your woman in a romantic sense (i.e. planning a picnic or a trip, even booking a restaurant).

  Discomfort of being in a new, different environment can distract you from the original goal of your trip and cause you to focus on discomfort instead of building the relationship.

  MEETING ON A NEUTRAL TERRITORY

  (Better if it is a romantic destination – for example, the Caribbean)

  ADVANTAGES

  DISADVANTAGES

  Nothing can beat a date in a romantic setting on a tropical island.

  This is your chance to do something truly amazing for your woman. Few women get a chance to travel, some of them have never seen an ocean; in most countries sea vacations are considered a vacation of quality and elite level.

  Both of you will be relaxed and will not be bothered by routine tasks. When you visit a woman in her home country, she will most likely have commitments to keep (children, work, studies, family), so you will get to spend 2-3 hours a day with her at best. Being on vacation, you can spend 24/7 together, getting to know each other in ways that are not possible otherwise, enjoying the same activities together: water skiing, jet skiing, scuba diving, hiking, swimming, and so on. Would you choose 2 hours a day or 24 hours day? One day on a tropical island would equal one or two weeks of your stay in her country!

  You will have a chance to see how she behaves away from home. Being on her own will show you her ability to adjust to a different country, culture, and society.

  Being in a new setting can bring out qualities in your woman you wouldn’t see at her home environment.

  You will save time. A trip to the Dominican Republic is a lot quicker than a visit to Russia, Ukraine, or Kazakhstan. Coming to Punta Cana will only take three hours of your time.

  You don’t need to think about what to do and how to entertain your lady – tropical paradise and plenty of activities will take care of that for you. You will not run out of things to do.

  You will see a lot more of your woman than you would during a visit to her home country. Ye
s, I am talking about seeing her in a bikini, and no, I am not suggesting anything indecent. Every person relies on visual perception to determine their interest in the opposite sex. Being on a beach is a great way to test your chemistry and decide whether both of you like what you see. Imagine meeting the same woman in a fur coat – how well do you think you can determine attraction in this case?

  You do not need an entry visa.

  Your lady will most likely not require a visa to travel to the Caribbean.

  You will be in an English-speaking environment as most personnel and tourists will know the language.

  No police, no cops, anything goes – even drinking and driving.

  The number of women to meet is limited. If something goes wrong during your meeting(s), you might not have a chance to enjoy your vacation.

  If something goes wrong between you and your woman, being together in a fairly secluded area can be unpleasant and tense.