The Handbook for Bad Days
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Thank you, Allard. I am thankful that we handle our friendship so cautiously. Our sons couldn’t have wished for a finer father.
Thank you, friends whom I can call in the middle of the night. I love all of you dearly, but I’d like to give a special shout-out to Fabienne, Kim, and Tess, who on the worst of bad days came by to paint my ceilings while singing, were willing to hear the same story ad infinitum, and next to whom I could also just sit in silence for hours on end, if necessary.
Thank you colleagues and freelancers at Happinez, with whom I’ve spent years of exploring the most essential, wonderful, and meaningful sides of life in all its aspects. This workplace has brought me so much. And thank you, Adrienne and Marije, aka “the mothers.”
Thank you, Lisette, for a last-minute and frank mail exchange. Thank you for all the wise, inspiring, quirky, brave women and men I’ve met on this path. Yes, you.
Thank you, Martine, at Kosmos Publishers. I wouldn’t have wanted to do it with anyone but you. Thank you, Joris van Wijk, for filling my heart and soul with a twist of rationalism. Thank you, Jan, for your patience and alertness. Thank you, Maaike, for your efforts to promote this book. And a standing ovation for Annelinde, the best art director I know, who always manages to exceed my imagination!
Thank you, Victor Verbeek and Marleen Reimer, for your thoughtful, insightful translation.
Thank you, Julia Foldenyi, at Shared Stories. I’m grateful for your support and guidance, and without you, this edition would never have been possible.
Finally, thank you to the whole team at Tiller Press for your outstanding work to bring this book to new readers. I’m so grateful to each of you, most especially Hannah Robinson, to whom I owe special thanks as my editor. Thank you for the love and care you gave my manuscript—improving and clarifying it, even in translation. What a great privilege to be edited and published by someone with so much passion for all aspects of my work!
// About the Author
Eveline Helmink is a journalist and writer living in Amsterdam. She is an editor in chief at the international media brand Happinez, which shares insights and inspiration for personal growth and a meaningful life. Follow her on Instagram @Eveline.Helmink.
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// Sources and References
I included quotations from the following authors, teachers, and/or books:
Maya Angelou, I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings (New York: Random House, 2002).
William Bloom, The Power of Modern Spirituality: How to Live a Life of Compassion and Personal Fulfilment (New York: Little, Brown, 2011).
Julia Cameron, The Artist’s Way: A Spiritual Path to Higher Creativity (New York: J. P. Tarcher/Putnam, 2002).
Pema Chödrön, When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times (Boston: Shambhala, 2020).
Geertje Couwenbergh, Zin, 7th edition (Utrecht, NL: AnkhHermes, 2019).
Davidji, Destressifying: The Real-World Guide to Personal Empowerment, Lasting Fulfillment, and Peace of Mind (Carlsbad, CA: Hay House, Inc., 2015).
Clarissa Pinkola Estés, PhD, Women Who Run with the Wolves: Myths and Stories of the Wild Woman Archetype (New York: Ballantine Books, 2003).
Elizabeth Gilbert, Big Magic (New York: Riverhead Books, 2015).
Bernard Glassman, Bearing Witness: A Zen Master’s Lessons in Making Peace (New York: Bell Tower, 1998).
Natalie Goldberg, Writing Down the Bones: Freeing the Writer Within (Boulder, CO: Shambhala, 2016).
Aldous Huxley, Brave New World (New York: Harper Perennial, 2006).
Rutger Kopland, Collected Poems (Amsterdam: Van Oorschot, 2015).
Hans Korteweg, Het Droomjuweel: de rijkdom van dromen in ons bestaan (Utrecht, NL: Kosmos, 2008).
Elisabeth Kübler-Ross and David Kessler, On Grief and Grieving: Finding the Meaning of Grief through the Five Stages of Loss (New York: Simon & Schuster, 2005).
Mark Manson, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life (New York: HarperOne, 2016).
Helen McDonald, H Is for Hawk (New York: Grove Press, 2015).
Mark Nepo, The Endless Practice: Becoming Who You Were Born to Be (New York: Atria Books, 2014).
Inez van Oord, Als je leven een cirkel is, waar sta jij dan? (Utrecht, NL: Kosmos, 2015).
Gretchen Rubin, Better than Before: Mastering the Habits of Our Everyday Lives (New York: Crown, 2015).
Sharon Salzberg, Lovingkindness: The Revolutionary Art of Happiness (Boston: Shambhala, 2004).
Sharon Salzberg and Robert A. F. Thurman, Love Your Enemies: How to Break the Anger Habit & Be a Whole Lot Happier (Carlsbad, CA: Hay House, Inc., 2013).
Cheryl Strayed, Tiny Beautiful Things: Advice on Love and Life from Dear Sugar (New York: Vintage Books, 2012).
Max Strom, A Life Worth Breathing: A Yoga Master’s Handbook of Strength, Grace, and Healing (New York: Skyhorse, 2010).
Shunryu Suzuki, Zen Mind, Beginner’s Mind: Informal Talks on Zen Meditation and Practice (Boston: Shambhala, 2006).
Eckhart Tolle, The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment (Vancouver: Namaste Publishing, 2004).
Lynne Twist, The Soul of Money (London: W. W. Norton, 2017).
James Wallman, Stuffocation: Living More with Less (New York: Viking, 2015).
Alan Watts, Out of Your Mind: Tricksters, Interdependence, and the Cosmic Game of Hide-and-Seek (London: Souvenir Press, 2019).
I used a quote from an interview with Jack Kornfield that appeared on the website www.lionsroar.com. Jack is the author of books such as After the Ecstasy, the Laundry: How the Heart Grows Wise on the Spiritual Path (New York: Bantam Books, 2001).
I quote Harvey Mindess, whose writings include Laughter and Liberation (Abingdon-on-Thames, UK: Routledge, 2011).
I quote words attributed to Rainer Maria Rilke. A good place to start with Rilke is New Poems: An Anthology, 2nd edition (Amsterdam: Rainbow Essentials, 2016).
I quote from Cheryl Strayed, Wild (Amsterdam: Rainbow Essentials, 2018).
Not quoted in this book but worth checking out (and there’s so much more):
Brené Brown, Rising Strong: How the Ability to Reset Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead (New York: Random House, 2017).
Glennon Doyle, Untamed (New York: Dial Press, 2020).
Elizabeth Lesser, Broken Open: How Difficult Times Can Help Us Grow (New York: Villard, 2005).
John C. Parkin, F**k It: The Ultimate Spiritual Way (Carlsbad, CA: Hay House, Inc., 2014).
Sophie Sabbage, The Cancer Whisperer: Finding Courage, Direction, and the Unlikely Gifts of Cancer (New York: Plume, 2017).
Websites
www.elephantjournal.com
www.lionsroar.com
www.risingwoman.com
www.goop.com
www.dictionaryofobscuresorrows.com
www.ted.com
And of course, I shouldn’t forget the fifteen volumes of Happinez, from which I keep a collection of thoughts, words, sentences, and insights in my heart. Published by WPG Media, Amsterdam; www.happinez.nl.
// Illustration Credits
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Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data
Names: Helmink, Eveline, author.
Title: The handbook for bad days : shortcuts to get present when things aren’t perfect / Eveline Helmink ; translated by Victor Verbeek & Marleen Reimer.
Other titles: Handboek voor mindere dagen. English Description: New York, NY : Tiller Press, [2021]
Identifiers: LCCN 2020034578 (print) | LCCN 2020034579 (ebook) | ISBN 9781982152765 (hardcover) | ISBN 9781982152789 (ebook)
Subjects: LCSH: Happiness. | Stress (Psychology) | Emotions.
Classification: LCC BF575.H27 H4713 2021 (print) | LCC BF575.H27 (ebook) | DDC 158.1—dc23
LC record available at https://lccn.loc.gov/2020034578
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