The Girlfriend Experience

by Rebecca Dakin

  6 Don’t wave utensils in the air

  7 Keep your elbows off the table

  8 Don’t reach across the table

  9 Don’t forget to say please and thank you 10 Always excuse yourself when leaving the table

  Well-presented and take pride in your appearance For every date, I make sure that I turn up looking my best. I am always freshly shaven, showered and tidy, and I make sure my nails are filed and looking nice, toenails trimmed. I don’t wear polish often because it chips too quickly and I would never go on a date with chipped polish. My clothes are clean, fresh and well-pressed. I also ask what the gentleman is wearing, so I can dress accordingly.

  Adaptable to situations and different people Generally, I find I can get on with most people. If you have this quality, it will be extremely useful in your career as an escort. One day you might be with a high-flying businessman the next you could meet someone who stacks shelves in a local supermarket! You need to be comfortable around people and able to adapt to different situations and personalities. There are guys who meet escorts because they lack social skills, and an escort has to be able to put people like that at ease.

  Diplomatic

  As an escort you really must try and think before you speak, which I sometimes find difficult – I am a very outspoken person. I have had guys boast to me about how they are deceiving their wives, and in that situation I find it very difficult to keep quiet. I mean, what can I say? I can’t speak my mind. I think they forget that we are actually ladies ourselves, and for them to be talking about cheating on their wife is not pleasant to hear. I would rather it wasn’t spoken about at all – I don’t need to hear it. If they need to speak with their wife, I would rather they left the room but sometimes they don’t and sit winking at me. I have to smile sweetly and let them get on with it.

  You might find that you end up having different views on some things. That’s OK, but you need to be diplomatic and know when it’s best to change the conversation to something positive and safe, like the weather!

  Able to put your own personal problems and issues aside

  Gentlemen book escorts for time out from their home and work life, so the last thing they want is to be burdened with your problems. Actually, I find my dates very therapeutic. Because I have to be focused on someone else, I can forget about my own troubles. I would never dream of turning up and moaning about my personal life, boyfriends, friends or work. Again, I hear horrible stories about girls breaking down and saying they are just doing it for the money; this puts the guy in a very awkward situation, and some girls purposefully

  do this and take advantage. I know one escort that bragged to me that she had told a guy that she lived in a really dodgy part of Manchester (totally untrue) and that she feared for her safety, but couldn’t afford to move anywhere else. He listened to her, advised her, didn’t sleep with her because he felt guilty, and then ended up feeling so sorry for her that he helped her move to a safer, more expensive area and paid her mortgage! That is deceitful and totally inappropriate.

  You must not talk about anything that implies you don’t enjoy your job. If you don’t enjoy it, don’t do it! Once, I interviewed a lady to join an agency that I was thinking of setting up. She proceeded to tell me how she had three young boys by different fathers and that her house was threatened with repossession so she desperately needed the money. I knew she would say the same to any gentlemen she went to see!

  A Good judge of character

  I insist on speaking with potential dates on the phone – I don’t mind contact by email initially, but I must speak to the gentleman to confirm a date. You have to go by your instincts. The people I enjoy meeting the most are those who seem to want to go out of their way to ensure my comfort. They ask if I have any preferences for hotels and food, and say they would like me to wear whatever I’m comfortable in. They don’t ask about services, they are just happy to go with the flow. Sometimes I get it wrong, but generally I have been very lucky with the dates I’ve accepted, and I’ve had some wonderful experiences.

  In addition to all of this, you must also: Have a good sense of humour

  Having a good sense of humour is a bonus. If you can make people laugh, you are on to a winner. Everybody likes to laugh. Men love cheeky, suggestive jokes.

  Have a warm and friendly personality If you are going to offer the ‘Girlfriend Experience’ then you need to have a warm and friendly personality because this will help put people at ease.

  Not let anyone disrespect you

  Being a GFE doesn’t mean you have to put up with being treated with disrespect. If someone says or does the wrong thing, and it offends me, I let them know. After all, I’m a real person, with real feelings. If you feel uncomfortable about anything, it’s OK to say so. Use your instincts, and don’t let anyone treat you with anything other than respect. Gentlemen are paying for your time and company, but this does not entitle them to treat you badly. You are well within your rights to walk away. It depends on the situation and it’s up to your discretion whether to return any of the gentleman’s money.

  People only disrespect you if you let them. At the end of the day, your health, safety and comfort are of paramount importance!

  Here is some of the sexual terminology used in the world of escorting…

  69 Simultaneous fellatio and cunnilingus.

  A Anal sex.

  A-levels Anal sex.

  AC/DC Bisexual (male or female).

  AWO Anal sex without a condom.

  Bareback Without a condom.

  BBBJ Bareback Blow job – fellatio without a condom; not necessarily to completion.

  BBBJTC Bareback blow job to completion.

  BBF Bareback Fuck – sexual intercourse without a condom. BBW Big Beautiful Woman.

  BDSM Bondage and Discipline, Domination and Submission

  – sadomasochism.

  BJ Blow job.

  Breast Relief The man’s penis is rubbed between a lady’s breasts.

  Brown Shower Defecation in a sexual context.

  Butt Plug A small dildo used to stretch the anus, usually before anal sex.

  Cappuccino After the man comes in the escort’s mouth, she dribbles it out like a frothy coffee.

  CIM Come In Mouth – the man ejaculates into the escort’s mouth.

  Clockwatcher Girl who leaves on the dot after her appointment has ended or sometimes before.

  COB Come On Body. The man ejaculates over the escort’s body.

  COF Come On Face. The man ejaculates over the escort’s face. Completion Orgasm – OWO to completion means until you come.

  Covered With a condom.

  CP Corporal punishment.

  Creampie Ejaculation in the vagina (or anus) without a condom.

  Cunnilingus Oral sex on a woman.

  Cut Man who is circumcised.

  DATY Dining at the Y – oral sex on a woman.

  DFK Deep French-kissing.

  DP Double penetration – one penis in the vagina, another in the anus.

  Extras Services charged extra for, such as anal sex or come in mouth.

  Facial This is where the man ejaculates over the girl’s face. Fellatio Oral sex on a man.

  Fisting A whole hand inserted into the vagina.

  FS Full sex/service.

  Full service Oral and vaginal sex.

  Full strip Likely to mean that the lady takes all her clothes off.

  GFE Girlfriend Experience.

  Going down Oral sex.

  Golden shower Urination in a sexual context. Usually means that the lady urinates over her client, or at least for the client to watch.

  Greek Anal sex.

  Half-strip Topless.

  Hardsports see Brown Shower.

  HJ Hand-job – the escort masturbates the client’s penis. Hobbyist US term for a regular user of an escort’s services. HR Hand-relief/hand-job.

  HS Hardsports, see Brown Shower.

  Incall The client visits the escort.

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bsp; John Male client.

  Massage parlour Officially offering massages, but extra services are usually offered separately.

  MFF A male-female-female threesome.

  MFS Massage and full service.

  MILF Mother I’d Like To Fuck – a mature female escort. Mish The missionary position.

  MMF A male-male-female threesome.

  O/O-levels Oral sex.

  Outcall Where the escort visits the client in his home or hotel.

  OW Oral with a condom.

  OWO Oral without, see BBBJ.

  OWOTC Oral without to completion.

  Pearl necklace The man ejaculates over the girl’s

  breasts/shoulders/neck.

  Private Time Sexual services after dinner/theatre date. Provider The service provider; i.e. the escort.

  PSE Porn Star Experience.

  Punter see John.

  Raincoat Condom.

  Reverse Client taking on a role that would usually be performed by an escort – for example, reverse oral is the client performing cunnilingus.

  Rimming Anilingus.

  Russian see Breast Relief.

  Sandwich see DP.

  Sausage Sandwich see Breast Relief.

  Service Provider/SP see Provider.

  SM or S&M Sado-masochism. See also BDSM.

  Snowballing The guy ejaculates into a girl’s mouth and they pass it between them, mouth to mouth.

  Solid Sports see Brown Shower.

  Stirring the porridge Vaginal sex after the girl has had unprotected sex.

  Straight Sex Intercourse.

  Submissive Lady who will allow the client to spank/cane her and generally submit to his will.

  Swallows The escort swallows the client’s semen.

  Tit Fuck Breast Relief.

  Toys Sex aids that the lady uses/inserts into herself such as dildos or vibrators.

  Tromboning The escort kneels behind the man and rims him while giving a hand-job.

  Uncovered Without a condom.

  VFM Value for money.

  Watersports/WS Urinating, either on someone or them on you.