Ménage à Phone
Edward and Josie, a happily married couple in their early 30s, choose phone sex to have their sexy threesome sessions. “We call 900 numbers and have some really hot three-ways on the phone,” says Edward. “My wife is an imaginative person and loves to talk dirty, so they’re really great. And while we’re on the phone, we either jerk off separately or we take care of each other. It’s great and it’s safe.”
Most people engaged in a three-way are rarely sober. In about 95% of the cases, a few glasses of some kind of joy juice have been consumed to loosen up and let inhibitions run free.
Casual Sex Buddies
No-strings-attached casual sex buddies are perfect partners to engage in a three-way with, especially for beginners. Casual sex buddies are people with whom you may have engaged in sexual activity from time to time, but with no emotional ties. With a casual sex buddy, you don’t have to deal with jealousy and hurt egos, so all three of you can just go mad all over each other. Fewer rules, more orgasms. Look through your black book and suggest it to your most adventurous special friend. He or she will love you for life … in that casual sex buddy way, of course.
If your girlfriend has never had a three-way before, that doesn’t mean the idea doesn’t sound intriguing and titillating to her.
To see whether your girlfriend is up for the challenge, hang out with her over drinks during a fun night out and broach the subject—but do it lightly, in an ambiguous, joking way. Tell her that you and your boyfriend have talked about having a threesome with another woman, and you have to admit, you find the idea pretty arousing and wouldn’t mind giving it a go. See how she reacts. Your friend may reveal that she’s done it before and has enjoyed doing it herself. If this is the case, ask her for details, because if there’s one thing we women love to do it’s tell each other stories of our encounters without missing one detail.
The more she tells you, the more turned on you’ll both get. Sidle up to her while she tells you about her three-way encounter and sit closely, thigh to thigh, and smile and look into her eyes. She’ll get the idea that you, too, have ideas about her. Ask her as a friend whether she might show you and your man the ropes on how this is done. Tell her that she’s beautiful and you’d rather have an experience like this with someone you like and trust, someone who won’t be weird about it afterward, and someone who won’t try to call your boyfriend behind your back the next day.
If your girlfriend has never had a three-way before, that doesn’t mean the idea doesn’t sound intriguing and titillating to her. Having a hot ménage à trois would be another wild experience for the two of you to share together, no different than going hiking in the Mayan ruins or checking out that jazz club in a particularly dicey neighborhood in Harlem.
The two of you have done all kinds of things together so why not try screwing a guy together? If she knows you won’t freak out on her during the experience and if you talk thoroughly about what you have in mind, it could be just another naughty scheme the two of you have cooked up. The more you talk about the possibilities, the more exciting it will sound, and it will become less about her and your boyfriend sleeping together and more about the two of you doing something you both have never done before.
If you want a good girlfriend to join you and your boyfriend, think clearly about whether doing this will ruin your friendship. Will it be awkward the next time you go shopping because the last time you hung out you were both naked and playing with each other’s tits? If this makes you shudder in disgust rather than lust, then the answer is no, don’t try this. But if it’s something the two of you will laugh and talk about in the future as one of the many crazy things you’ve done together, then go for it.
Only after you feel this is a definite option should you mention it to your guy. Don’t worry about whether he finds your girlfriend attractive. Trust me, once you say, “Donna and I were talking about how much fun we could have taking turns on you and fooling around with each other,” he will not only get rock-hard, but will also say, “Are you serious? Really? Okay. I’m ready.” Men are a lot easier to please in matters of new sexual experiences than women are. In this case, use it to your advantage.
For your boyfriend, it will be about you allowing him this amazing treat, so you can call the shots and choose the woman. He will be most interested in how far you will go and how into it you will be. And the fact that the third party will be your friend will make it triple-hot for him: There’s the taboo factor that he will be allowed to fool around and hopefully hump your friend, then there will be his own imagination, in which you’ve always lusted after your girlfriend and that you’ve always wanted to ravage her body when you were both changing after a workout or in the dressing room at Macy’s.
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Please, Please Don’t
1. Have a threesome only for your boyfriend.
2. Choose a woman that you aren’t sure about mentally or physically.
3. Use this experience against each other in an argument.
4. Go against the rules you discussed prior to doing this.
5. Feel guilty about what you’ve done.
6. Get jealous even though you adhered to the boundaries.
7. Do this as a way to have sex with someone new.
8. Treat the third party like your paid sex slave (unless you actually did pay).
9. Neglect your partner during the experience.
10. Have a three-way without enjoying it to its fullest.
A STRANGER
Understandably, there could be too much of an “ick” factor in having a three-way with one of your girlfriends.
Such an act of sexual abandon may well be best shared with someone you’ve never seen and will never see again after it’s over. One-on-one sex with a stranger can be one of the most thrilling experiences you can have, making sure of course that you’re having safe sex and that you’ve picked a partner who isn’t a threat to your well-being.
Barring those factors, when you have sex with someone you don’t know, you can really let go and be whoever you want to be. You can do whatever you want to do and say whatever you’d like, because you’re not going to see this person ever again. You’ve already done a risky thing by taking her home, so you may as well go for broke and pull out all the crazy stops. You can be reckless and free-wheeling and experiment in whatever way you’d like. After safety and respect, anything goes and everything should.
An ordinary night out will turn into an extraordinary night of adventure and hot pursuits when you and your boyfriend go out looking for the hot lady who’s going to give you both a lot of pleasure. It’s all up to you and what you want because chances are your man will be happy with almost anyone you choose to be with.
Bars are more ideal than parties because of the anonymity factor. The two of you are going on a very sexy and private adventure, and no one you know needs to be privy to it.
Be deliciously reckless and spontaneous. As you and your man are at the bar—and remember, stay by the bar and not at a table; it’s difficult to be social when you’ve separated yourselves from the main flow of traffic—check out the scene and when you see a potential match, make the first contact yourself and initiate a conversation in the same way you would with a woman at the gym, clothing store, or at your office.
Smile at her, compliment her, and be very friendly—a bit friendlier than you would usually be; you want your would-be lover to know somewhat what’s on your mind from the get-go.
And have your boyfriend jump in and agree with what you’re saying: “Yes, that is a very sexy dress,” he could say. “We both love women in those wrap dresses; they’re so flattering to a curvy figure.”
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It’s Ladies’ Choice Guys, let your woman make the pick and all you have to do is give a thumbs up or down, which really is the best way to go since women have a much higher standard of beauty than men do. Remember, women are the ones who spend all their time looking at other women in an array of fashion and
celebrity magazines, soap operas, and chick flick movies. In other words, she’ll probably score a better-looking woman for both of you than you can for yourself—after all, isn’t Angelina Jolie the number one sex symbol for women all over the world? Not too shabby fellas.
Choosing the Location
Don’t suggest going to the stranger’s house. Lots of single women have roommates, although there are obviously many who don’t and would prefer to party in their own environment.
But if it’s you who is asking your woman out, so to speak, it’s better to play the host and invite her over to your place to continue the party. Suggest some wine, music, and getting cozier there. If you’ve planned this properly you’ll have all the proper tools at your homestead: condoms, lube, music that you like, your favorite beverages, and snacks.
Keep it on your terms by doing this in your own comfort zone. You’ve decided to throw a very special erotic party, it’s best to do it where you feel the most relaxed—your own home. Whisk your woman and boyfriend away in a cab and go for it.
Getting It Going
Sure, it could be like in the movies, and the minute you get home you could all start mauling each other. Heck, it could even start in the cab, with your new friend sitting between you and you both starting in on her right away by kissing her neck on one side and fondling her legs on the other.
Sometimes pretense just seems pointless, so if you’re ready to roll, then by all means roll. But then again, life isn’t always like the movies, so you need to make your moves with a little more finesse.
Once you get back to your place, immediately make your pretty guest feel right at home and wanted. Be hospitable, offer her a drink, ask her what her favorite tunes are (you can have your man play DJ, it’s good to give him a job that keeps him occupied), dim the lights, and light candles, incense, the works. Create a very sexy environment for all three of you. The seduction you give to one person shouldn’t be any different than the seduction you set up for two.
Positioning is everything to get it started. Sit together, with your new friend in the middle. Or if you want to make sure you stay the star of this show, then you sit in the middle with your guy on one side and your girl on the other and work up to the two of them touching slowly and gradually. Sit close to her with your knees touching, make a toast to new friends and good times, and tell her you’re glad she came over and joined you. Tell her how you love her perfume and lean into her neck or even her cleavage to get a good smell. When you pick up your head you could go in for a kiss. Slowly, sweetly, and gently, treat this woman the way you would want to be treated. This is a new and exciting experience, so savor it all and take your time, there’s no rush.
After you’ve kissed her and she reciprocates, start enjoying her face and body. Stroke and play with her long hair while your boyfriend rubs her neck gently. Spoil her with nice, slow touches, tease her a little and make her involuntarily moan and mew with pleasure.
Put the palm of your hand against her breast and lightly make circles until you find her erect nipple. Ask her whether she likes it and whether you should continue. While her eyes are closed and her head is back, keep sexy eye contact with your boyfriend and let him know you’re liking this very much. Ask him if he’d like you to pull up her shirt and play with her breasts, then before he can answer—and he may hardly be able to say a word in sheer ecstasy—lean over and get started by answering the question yourself and start fondling her.
Keeping eye contact and whispering sexy things to your boyfriend and to your new friend again helps you keep control of the situation and lets everyone know that you are in charge.
Ask her whether you can get more comfortable and take off your shirt and guide her hand on your body. Ask her if she likes how you feel. Put your hand between her legs and say to your boyfriend, “Oh, she’s getting wet. Do you want to feel her wet little pussy, baby?”
Another way to get things started is to get up after a little chatting and invite her to dance with you. The music doesn’t have to be sentimental; a nice groove would do just fine. Put your arms around her waist and move with her, work up to closer contact, nuzzle her hair and her neck, tell her how smooth her skin is, how nicely her waist fits in your hands. Make her purr and she will become intoxicated with you and your actions. You’re doing this to experience the pleasure of being with a woman, so enjoy her feminine figure and softness.
The World’s Most Famous Three-Way Position
The daisy chain is and will forever be the most famous and popular position for three-ways. It works for any combination—two girls and one guy, two guys and one girl. The participants form a straight line in which each one is performing oral sex or screwing one another. It’s a beautiful thing—pretty as a daisy, some might say, though I bet you never thought of this when you were making them in kindergarten.
Get used to the rhythm of the three of you being one quivering, electrified being, and again take your time, go slow, and just sink into each
Keep it going with the two of you alone for a bit, and, again, lean in for a soft kiss, not necessarily open-mouthed right away, but to feel the softness of her full lips. Rub your cheek gently across hers.
Your boyfriend will be watching very, very closely and getting highly aroused, so tease and tantalize him for awhile and let him enjoy the view. You have instructed him on manners and behavior before going ahead with this, so he knows not to just whip it out and stroke it like he’s home watching porn.
Give him a sweet, sweet torture—you’ll feel the power of your erotic behavior pulse through the room and give you a buzz like you’ve never known before. And then when you think the time’s right, signal him over her shoulder to get up and join the two of you while you’re nibbling her delicious neck.
He could be behind her, holding her hips and swaying with the two of you, or he could have his arms stretched out and hold you, pulling her nice and snug between the two of you so she can feel his erection. Get used to the rhythm of the three of you being one quivering, electrified being, and again take your time, go slow, and just sink into each other.
Reach over and stroke your boyfriend’s face and hair. Kiss your lady friend, dropping her head back into the crook of his neck and shoulders while he licks and nibbles her ear and neck. Place your hand on her breast while you stroke the other through your clothes. Whisper sexy things, ask her if she likes this, ask her if it feels good, and ask your boyfriend whether his hard cock feels nice against her beautiful round ass.
And then maybe it’s time to start slowly disrobing your girl. Put her hands on your body, on your breasts, inside your dress or top. Guide her hand to your erect nipple and see if she starts stroking you. Take her arms and have her reach around to your man and tell her to squeeze his ass. Be playful, be sensual.
If you don’t want her to kiss your man, that’s perfectly alright, but then you must pick up the slack and do the kissing yourself, which you’ll probably enjoy because you may never have kissed a girl before and you’ll be enjoying the feel of her tongue and mouth.
Tell her you love the way she kisses and encourage her to keep it going with you while your boyfriend continues to touch her, stroke her, and rub himself slowly against her. Then reach over and feel his hard cock, maybe change positions and put yourself in the middle and enjoy feeling their roaming hands and tongues all over you. Face your boyfriend and have your lady put her arms around you and have her kiss your neck and ears. Put her hands on your breasts while you make out with your boyfriend, then work her hands lower and lower as you do the same to your man.
Surely at this point, he’s so hard he’s ready to burst through his pants, so maybe you should ask him if the two of you can see his big hard cock. Release him from his clothing bondage and stroke him up and down, and let her see it, and ask her if she wants to touch him too. “He’s so hard and turned on by us, feel just how horny we make him.”
Past the Heavy Petting
It’s your home, it’s your experie
nce, so you don’t necessarily have to go the boring bedroom route, and you may want to keep your bed for just you and your man. You also may not want to initiate an uncomfortable sleepover. You want your guest to feel comfortable and relaxed, but maybe not that much. Since this is all fun and play, consider keeping it in the living room. Don’t break the mood or movement for a second. You could have some blankets and pillows handy to stretch out on your rug and or to spread on your couch.
So once clothing is being shed, keep taking the lead and playing sexy hostess. Put a glass of wine to her lips for a little revitalization and moisture and then go in for a deep, long kiss. Ease her clothes off, ask her to turn around, and you and your boyfriend can check out her body, play with her ass, and give it a half-hearted smack or two. Bring her back to the couch and have her sit back while you and your boyfriend suck on her nipples and take turns massaging her clit.
Then, when you’re both feeling really hot, keep her sitting and straddle her. Gently move your breasts toward her face so she takes your nipple in her mouth. Tell her how good it feels. Vary between kissing her deeply and rubbing your breasts and nipples against each other. Rub your throbbing clits against each other and enjoy the softness of your bodies fusing together.
Then have your boyfriend go from behind you and have him enter you that way. If you have a deep couch, he won’t even have to squat, but can comfortably rest his knees on either side of you. The three of you will find your rhythm, and she will get off just as much as you will with your clits touching and rubbing against each other.
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