BARS
I’ve always been really jealous about one thing with men, and that’s that they can go to a bar alone and won’t be seen as a prostitute, lush, or loser. Men go to bars alone all the time when they’re bored. They watch the game, they bullshit with the bartender, they play the jukebox, they play pool, they even read books and newspapers. Men are so comfortable in bars that even men who don’t drink alcohol like to stop for a little distraction with soda or a juice. For men who have nothing to do and no one to hang out with, it’s better than sitting home and watching TV.
So girls, take advantage of this. The two of you should sit next to him and chat him up. Ask him what he’s reading or compliment his musical selections. These two subjects alone should strike up enough conversation.
If one or both of you know how to play pool, that’s the easiest way to get things going, because for a lot of men, pool is like foreplay. While your girlfriend plays, you can have your time with him, when he plays, your girlfriend can fill you in on how it’s going. If you both play, lay down some quarters and take turns playing him. Make a sex bet out of it: The loser has to buy the next round of drinks, and the winner gets to fool around with two women. Lose on purpose, ladies! Playing a game is a great way for the three of you to get to know each other and get the ball rolling. You loosen up, make jokes, bust balls, and best of all check out each other’s asses when you bend down to make your shot.
PARTIES
Parties are a great place to pick up a guy. If you’re both at the same party, chances are he’s a friend of a friend, so it’s a safe bet that he’s not creepy or a psychopath or a sadistic murderer. As the safety value goes, I would definitely recommend this method for finding a man for two women. Everyone is a lot more social because you’re in someone’s house, and the atmosphere in general is a lot more casual.
No one will think anything of two women leaving with a man at a party. Sure, they may make jokes, but for the most part people will think that you’re all heading in the same direction. At a house party, anything can go, but again, you are in your friend’s contained environment, so nothing bad should happen.
Is It Okay to Call Him on Your Own?
You and your best girlfriend had a three-way with an adorable, funny, and nice guy last week and he slipped you his number before he left. You felt you had a moment and wouldn’t mind seeing him again on your own, but should you? Most definitely, but let your girlfriend know first. It’s not exactly asking for permission, but it’s giving her the respect she deserves.
True Story: Patrick, Naomi, and Debbie
Patrick, a set designer from California, recalls a party during which he spotted an attractive, well-endowed girl named Naomi, whom he had admired around campus but never spoke to other than the casual hello. As the gathering was winding down, the two of them ended up flirting while playing cards together. This led to a makeout session on the couch, and Patrick finally made his move to seal the deal. Naomi was not only willing but asked if she could bring her girlfriend Debbie with them. Needless to say, Patrick and the girls got into their cars and he followed them home.
“The funniest thing I remember Naomi saying before we got into our cars was, ‘I think you’re the luckiest guy in town right now,’ and I laughed and said, ‘Funny, I was thinking the same thing about you two girls! ’ “
Once at the apartment, the girls went to the bathroom to freshen up while Patrick quickly took off his clothes and waited for them on the bed. Naomi came out of the bathroom first, turned down the lights, and joined Patrick on the bed. “I said my hands were cold, and she said, ‘Well warm them up on these,’ and she put my hands on her big boobs, which I loved. We started kissing, and then her friend Debbie came out of the bathroom, took her clothes off, and joined us.”
Patrick says it was pure heaven taking turns sucking on the girls’ hard nipples and watching them suck each other’s breasts as well. They spent a long time sucking, licking, and feeling each other. Patrick still had his boxer shorts on, and the girls noticed his impressive hard-on poking through.
“I think this is the coolest thing a guy can experience. Not only is he getting it on with two girls, but he’s working them both up so badly that they’re getting demanding! I pulled out my cock and said, ‘There you go ladies, what do you think of that?’ They were impressed. It’s a good feeling for a guy to have two women impressed. They both started sucking my cock at the same time, passing it to each other, holding each other’s heads while they took turns. Amazing!
“ ‘Alright ladies, who wants to get fucked first?’ I asked, and both their hands shot up in the air, and that was really cool to see. So Debbie said she wanted to go first, and she insisted I wear a condom, which I’ve never enjoyed doing, but she insisted, they both insisted, so I did it.”
Patrick got on top of Debbie and began to ride her, while Naomi was kissing and sucking her friend’s breasts, making her come very quickly. Patrick kept on screwing her, enjoying how Naomi was holding Debbie’s legs up and giving him orders to bang her hard—until Naomi couldn’t bear to play director anymore and told Debbie to get out from under Patrick so she could ride him. Naomi rode Patrick fast and hard, and when she was on the brink of orgasm, she grabbed Debbie by her hair and thrust her tongue in her mouth.
“After that, I was a little spent, but I hadn’t come yet and I still had a hard-on, so I suggested they go down on each other while I watch and jerk off. Whoa! They didn’t like that at all. They both snapped at me and said, ‘We don’t do that!’ One thing I can tell women is, go easy on the guy so he doesn’t lose his boner okay? Don’t be so quickly insulted, be caring. Once they said no, I knew how adamant they were and said ‘That’s cool,’ and let it drop.”
Patrick put on another condom and started having sex with Debbie again, this time doggie style. This went on much longer, while Naomi put a robe on and went to the kitchen for a drink of water. During this time Patrick had his first orgasm but was in no way finished with either of them. He went to the bathroom to clean up, and when he came back he told Naomi, who was still sipping on her glass, that he was still horny and ready to roll, to which Naomi casually put her glass down on the dresser and, still wearing her robe, proceeded to suck him off. They eventually made their way back to the bed, where Debbie was waiting for them. “I’m sure we came all together. It was explosive and draining actually. The girls collapsed and fell asleep together, and once that happened, I got dressed and went straight to work.”
The mistake Patrick admits to making is expecting a connection or acknowledgement of this lusty union later. When he saw Naomi at another party weeks later, he was happy to see her and immediately approached her. She pretended she didn’t know him at all and quickly blew him off. Patrick says his feelings were definitely hurt.
“I guess it’s not supposed to be talked about, but instead put away in some kind of fuck file in your head. Once things are done like that, people like to leave them as they are. So you can’t pursue it again. Just be happy that you’re the lucky bastard who hit the jackpot and be satisfied with that.”
Set Limits
MAKE A PACT
When choosing a man to share, you have to get a few things straight.
Number one is that the minute one of you feels uncomfortable or changes her mind, it’s over. Finished and done with, no questions asked. Otherwise, if one of you stays behind with the man, it could ruin your friendship forever. The one leaving will say, “You totally wanted him for yourself the whole time,” or the always popular, “You dumped me for a guy and put my feelings and our friendship aside so you could get laid.”
Friendship between women can be a hell of a lot more intense than between two men, or even between a man and a woman who are romantically involved, so be extra sensitive to each other’s needs and make sure you want the same thing.
Discuss how far the two of you would like to go with each other, and if you don’t want to go far with each other, how you will handle it when the
man you choose tries to maneuver some breast-to-breast action between the two of you.
Will you be cool with each other afterward? Will you need to talk about it? Of course, a lot of this depends on the level of friendship you have with this woman, but for the most part I do recommend a talk before you go off on your manhunt.
Insecurity and jealousy can play into this just as much as if you were with your boyfriend or husband. How are you going to feel when the man you’ve picked up seems to pay a bit more attention to your friend than to you? If this does happen, don’t take it out on your girlfriend afterward, unless you see that she was encouraging him to leave you out, and even then only if you are absolutely certain that is what was happening. Make sure your anger isn’t just over the fact that you think your friend has better legs than you do. When you have a threesome, you must be confident and comfortable with yourself. This is definitely not the time to think you are anything less than beautiful and sexy.
But then again, you should elect a leader out of the two of you; the instigator, the rabble-rouser, the dominant woman who will send the message home to this man. Because most men who are worth their salt are gentlemen and will wait for one of you to give a real sign, don’t one of you wait for the other to do it. Work that out before you leave the house.
And speaking of signs, create a sign or a safe word the two of you can use when you want to put the kibosh on this guy or this situation, even if it’s during sex. That way no one has to worry about anything. You will both feel safe and secure.
Discuss how you’ll both feel if you do end up going further than you ever imagined you’d go.
BE CHOOSY
Women can be a lot harder to please than men. When men are horny and the company is pleasant, there really are few women they won’t sleep with. Not so for women, perhaps maybe not as much with each other, but definitely when choosing a man as their third-party playmate.
Be respectful of how long it takes your friend to find the right guy, even if it takes all night. The man you both bring home must be someone who you both like. Otherwise, if your girlfriend is not so high on the guy, she will either put all her attention on you (which you might not mind) or shrink away to where you will be more or less the only one in the mix. Remember, a ménage à trois is supposed to be about three people actively participating at the same time, so don’t cheat your girlfriend out of the best possible experience.
BE TRUE TO YOUR GIRL
Okay, so even if the man you choose is hot, clean, and sane, it doesn’t mean he won’t turn out to be a jerk. He may decide he likes you more than your girlfriend or your girlfriend more than you. And when one of you goes to the bathroom or to get a drink, he might make his intentions to be with just one of you very clear. This is rude and disrespectful.
However, if you find you like the guy, whisper, “Next time, alone,” and then later ask your girlfriend whether it’s okay that you see him on your own. But do not go along with it for that moment, even if your girlfriend doesn’t care. This is supposed to be a team sport, and no one enjoys being a benchwarmer.
Where to Go Once You’ve Found the Guy
While there is safety in numbers, you still want to be as safe as safe can be. So, unless you know the guy, stick to going to either your place or your girlfriend’s place, because these options offer more control of the situation and fewer bad surprises.
Unless you personally know the man, you just don’t know what or even who will be waiting at his place. Don’t be uptight, but of course don’t be an idiot either. Play it safe. You and your girlfriend should discuss everything discreetly during a trip to the bathroom together so when you make your move you have a definite plan and there’s no room to waiver from it.
Once you’ve broken the ice and there has been sufficient flirting between all three of you, all one of you needs to say is, “Wanna move this party to my place?”
Make the Move
He’s going to wait to see what either one of you will do, so know that right away, it’s for the two of you to initiate, because when you take control the evening will be what you both want it to be. Your new boy toy will be happy to have either of you, or even both of you, call the shots.
More men than you think are actually good guys and in this case would rather you say what you want so they don’t accidentally say or do the wrong thing and totally mess up the sexual opportunity of a lifetime.
It’s so much fun to assert your sexuality in this way, and it’s fun to do it with a girlfriend as your partner in crime. You two naughty girls are up to no good, and your man can’t wait for both of you to use him and wreak havoc all over his and each other’s bodies. In this case, it’s fun to get to it right away, so if the three of you jump in a cab, don’t be too shy to sit him in between you and start rubbing his thighs, kissing his neck, or cupping his package. There’s no reason to wait if you don’t want to.
If you’re walking down the street, start the physical connection right away. Each of you can link an arm so he feels like a real stud. Let the sexual energy of the two of you course through his veins and let him know this is really going to happen, buddy.
Once at your place or your girlfriend’s place there are a few ways you can play it. You can sit him on the couch between the two of you with some drinks and music and each take turns kissing him. You can start this by saying to your girlfriend, “Shall I see if he’s a good kisser?” When she gives you the nod, turn his face toward yours and go in for a good, long kiss, but not so long where you’ll get carried away and the two of you will go off on your zone.
One of you might say, “Why don’t we freshen up and take a nice hot shower?”
Think of this man as a delicious dessert you and your gal pal have decided to share. So you take a few bites and then pass him her way, and while she’s kissing him you can start unbuttoning his shirt or massaging his hardening member. Do this back and forth until it’s starting to drive him or all three of you crazy for the real action to begin.
Another way you can play it is to suggest a shower. Spending a few hours at a bar or in a party drinking and smoking, you all might need a refresher, and both you and girlfriend may feel a lot more comfortable knowing the man you’ve picked up is clean enough to eat off of. Taking a shower is a good way to sensually introduce your bodies to each other before you start screwing and sucking and getting dirty and messy. One of you might say, “Why don’t we freshen up and take a nice hot shower?” Take him by the hand and lead him there, and have him undress for both of you before either one of you takes off your clothes, or better yet, you can all undress each other while the water is running.
Once inside the shower, the strong water pressure and the three of you in a semi-small space should get your blood pumping. Take turns soaping each other up and take your time to explore each other’s bodies. Press yourself against your girlfriend’s back while you and your guy wash her body. Kiss each other in the shower with the hot water falling on your faces and off your bodies and stimulate each other’s genitals while you’re rinsing off the soap. This will get all three of you stirred up, and then when you’re finished dry each other off very thoroughly.
Rub his cock with the towel and rub each other’s breasts with it, too, and then maybe taste each other’s clean tits right afterward. All three of you will want to run to the bedroom after that.
Some men want to see a little bit of a show before they begin. If you’re all listening to music, put on a show for him. The two of you can do a slow, grinding dance and kiss each other a little. If you don’t feel comfortable kissing your girlfriend on the mouth, kiss her neck and caress her instead.
You may need to break the ice between the two of you more than with him to begin, so this is the easy way to go. Look over at him and ask him whether seeing the two of you is getting him hot, which may seem like a stupid question, but asking stupid questions and stating the obvious with sex is all part of the game. You know what you’re doing, but it helps to actually hear
it. “Is your cock getting hard watching us together? I think you need to pull your cock out and show us what you’ve got. Show us how excited we’re making you.” He may just jump up and join you, or he may start stroking himself and ask the two of you to come back to the couch and tend to his rock-hard cock. Either way, you can’t lose.
Double Team
It’s great to play stud service with a man who wants two women to use him for everything he’s got. Remember, he is there for both of you, not just one of you. But to keep that going, you both have to be active participants continuously through the experience. And if both of you don’t feel quite so comfortable fooling around together or going into heavy petting and touching, that’s totally okay. There is still plenty to do.
While he’s sitting on the couch or laying down on the bed, one of you can start sucking his cock while the other sits on his face. I suggest facing your girlfriend while she sucks his cock to keep the three-way feeling going and to get the sexual charge of watching the action. The same goes for her watching your clit being licked and devoured by this hot man.
Take yourself out of the mindset that this is your girlfriend and totally let go and get into the moment. Before you know it, you’ll find yourself going into a 69 position, and both of you will have your mouth on his cock while he’s munching away at your pussy. Your girlfriend can work his balls while you taste her saliva all over his slick, hard dick. You can start kissing each other over his cock, letting it get a little sloppy, and allowing your respective mouth juices drip on his dick. This will drive him totally nuts.
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