Threesomes: For Couples Who Want to Know More

by Speiser, Lainie

“She was asking us silly questions about porn, the kinds of questions most women have but are probably afraid to ask. But Lisa always said anything that was on her mind. She was asking us about watching porn together and the ‘money shot’—why men need to see the come shot in porno movies.” Sam practically giggles with embarrassment and titillation over the conversation.

  After more jokes, more beer, and more irreverent talk, Lisa said she was just as sexy and hot as any of the girls in those movies, and she challenged her two male companions by saying, “I bet if you guys met a girl who wanted to get it on with the two of you, you’d both run home to your mommies.” Like Beavis and Butthead, the two college seniors turned red, stammered, and giggled, but through it all Sam somehow managed to invite Lisa back to his room to watch some of these pornos with them.

  Sam says he wasn’t sure Lisa liked him at all, and even ventures to say he thought she might have been more attracted to his friend Steve, who was athletically built with an easy, confident personality and who had much more of an active sex life than Sam could ever hope to have. What made him believe this even more is when Lisa leaned over and planted a kiss on his friend before excusing herself to go to the bathroom—a quick kiss but a soul kiss just the same, in which Sam could see Lisa used her tongue.

  “When I come back, let’s go to your place, and you studs can show me what you can do,” Lisa said, but Sam says the tone of her voice was more sarcastic and in jest than anything. Sam was speechless, nervous—and very aroused at the idea. “I really wanted her. I was so horny, and honestly I might have sucked a dick just to be able to fuck her, anything. I was her dog and she didn’t even know it!”

  Steve watched her walk away, her shapely body dressed in denim and leather. He fumbled with his wallet to pay the tab and told his inexperienced friend to follow his lead no matter what happened and not to pussy out, as he put it.

  Back at the small dorm room with no place to watch TV but an unmade bed and a computer chair, the three students cracked open beers and watched a little porn that Sam can’t recall the nature of because he was too distracted by Lisa. She made cracks about it and massaged his leg, allowing her hand to travel upward. She turned to Sam and said, “Kiss me.” And for the next half hour, the two men took turns making out with Lisa, all on her call. She would turn to Sam and kiss him for awhile and then she would stop, take a breather, check out the dirty movie and turn to Steve and they would kiss for awhile.

  “I still didn’t know where it was going to go. I think Steve and I just decided that Lisa was going to be the boss and she was going to call all the shots. I was willing to do whatever she wanted. Steve being there didn’t make me feel weird at all. In a way I think I felt safer because he was.”

  In this case, the ménage à trois was the best way to break the ice between Sam and Lisa. The sexual pressure was off him because Steve was the buffer. Sam could finally show the free-spirited, sassy Lisa all the things he wanted to do to her. The fact that he would be disrobing in front of another man didn’t hinder the situation at all. He had worked out with Steve and had been in a locker room with him, so it wasn’t really new territory. He was more concerned over whether Lisa would like what she saw and enjoy his kiss, his touch, his tongue, and his cock.

  After a while, Sam could barely restrain the rock-hard erection in his pants, kissing Lisa’s hair, ears, and neck while she deep-kissed Steve and put her hand under his sweater. It drove his libido through the roof, making him braver and bolder. He whispered in Lisa’s ear, “So what do you want to do? What do you want us to do?”

  Sam slid his hands under Lisa’s shirt and unhooked her bra with surprising grace. Lisa stopped kissing Steve, got up, stood in front of the two young men and said, “Let’s just do it.”

  She pulled off her shirt, pulled off her boots, and pulled down her tight jeans, as Sam and Steve shimmied out of their own clothes as quickly as possible—one not noticing the other’s nakedness but both very aware of each other’s full arousal and anticipation. This was really going to happen. As it turned out, Lisa wasn’t all talk.

  Lisa looked directly at Sam and smirked. “I always knew you’d have a lot of girth,” she said, and got on her knees before him. Sam let out a deep, loud sigh as Lisa took him into her mouth while Steve sat next to them stroking his hard-on and patiently waiting until Lisa told him what to do next. Sam says Steve was instructed to play with her from behind, pinching her nipples and fingering her pussy, while she continued to give Sam a great blowjob.

  “She looked so beautiful sucking my cock. I held her hair in my hands—she had all this wild, bushy, crazy hair, and I always wanted to touch it. Steve was fingering her, getting her really hot.” Sam said she gave great head, almost too good, so he pulled her up and placed her straddle style on his lap.

  “I don’t know what got into me, but I just put her on my dick and started moving her up and down. She was surprised at me too, but man, it was awesome. I think Steve was jerking off behind her. He liked it, I think. He jerked off and came all over her ass.”

  Just like those porno movies Lisa had enjoyed making fun of, they made their own scene, no longer amateur observers, no longer inexperienced, awkward young adults, but sophisticated sexual people. They formed their own circle, with mutual respect, warm feelings of friendship, and intimacy.

  “The porn we put on had long ago ended. We didn’t even notice. We were just going at it like crazy.”

  Being young, virile men, Sam and Steve were more than able to satisfy Lisa several times, in a variety of ways. Sam says he felt he won Lisa over by caring that she didn’t get too messy.

  “I wiped her off—not just my jizz, but Steve’s too. Not knowing this would happen, I didn’t have paper towels and stuff like that. I used my bed sheet. But she liked that,” Sam laughs. “You should definitely remember to have water, paper towels, stuff like that as your orgy tools. I think that’s important.”

  Sam went down on Lisa while she sucked his friend’s cock, enjoying pleasing her and bringing her off to yet another orgasm. “You have to be giving to be a good lover, but I think even more when you’re in a three-way. You should be even more attentive and sensitive to make sure she’s not getting sore or drying up. It’s asking a lot to handle two guys at once, but Lisa didn’t seem to have any trouble.”

  Afterward, in the wee hours of the morning, Steve was tired and perhaps could see that there was something else going on that was beyond dorm-room sex games. Lisa and Sam were definitely making a connection, kissing and touching and even holding hands while resting.

  “I was being a gentleman actually. I asked her if she was thirsty, I lit her cigarettes, just stuff like that. We were laughing together, like we understood each other’s humor and in-jokes. So Steve left. He went back to his room to sleep it off, and I stayed with Lisa.”

  And Sam didn’t leave for a day or so. They curled up together and slept, woke up together and snuck off for a shower, came back to his room and had more sex, and through this experience became boyfriend and girlfriend, and eventually married three years later.

  Keep the flow mellow, slow, and sensual, and your two men will follow your lead.

  Men Will Be Men

  Although men often don’t have the same kind of insecurities and feelings of possessiveness and jealousy that women do, make no mistake, they are there.

  One guy can have a better body than the other, or one guy can have a much bigger penis than the other, so you have to be sensitive to those things. And your being sensitive to both of them will make them be sensitive to you and what you want or don’t want as well. When one guy gets up for water or the bathroom, you should just talk and chill with the other, so as not to leave out his friend. He may want you to keep his hard-on going, and if you feel comfortable with that, then use your hand and talk dirty to him until his friend returns. And when he does return, stop and tell the friend to hurry and catch up to the two of you. Be a friend to the guys and they will be a friend to you.
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br />   And as far as the dreaded double-penetration question goes, you’ll find that that is the stuff for porn and less for regular people. Most men think such an act is a homosexual one, and thank goodness they do because you are opening yourself to a lot of physical damage if you don’t know what you’re doing.

  So keep it simple. Men are happy with less than you think. And when it’s time for them to go, tell them you’re getting tired and are hitting the hay. They may want to stay because they’re tired, so invite them to crash wherever you want in the living room while you, the queen of men, can retire to your chamber, with the door closed.

  7

  Bringing ANOTHER MAN Home

  You’re a lucky girl if you have a man who not only is open to bringing another man home, but brings up the subject himself.

  That boyfriend of yours is a rare breed of self-confident man—not just confident that you won’t prefer the other man, but confident in his own sexuality, not to mention penis size.

  A lot of men say they don’t want to have a three-way with another guy involved because they think there’s something gay about it or they wouldn’t feel comfortable even being naked around another man. Actually, those men just don’t feel confident enough in their own appearance or sexual prowess. Or maybe they don’t want to admit, the way women readily do, that they may feel jealous or threatened by seeing their girlfriend or wife enjoying sex with another man—or worse, they don’t want to see her prefer sex with another man. Maybe she’ll do things with the other guy more enthusiastically or maybe she’ll do things with him that she has refused to do with you. And yes, what if there is a sword crossing, what if the girlfriend begins to wonder whether he’s gay after that? Well, it’s good to know that men and women worry about the same things, save the gay panic.

  But let me tell you this: Any man who enjoys porn, even if only from time to time, would enjoy the experience of watching his lady get it from another man. In a way, it’s the same feeling a man would have enjoying the view of his girl kissing and fondling another girl, but much more primal and blood-pumping. It’s like your girlfriend has become the sexy, slutty, porn vixen of your greatest jerk-off fantasies. She’s a woman who can’t get enough and who aims to please. It’s exciting to see your steady partner in that role from time to time, because sometimes you guys forget just how hot she really is to other people.

  Bringing another man home is the next step to that same satisfying feeling that you get when you notice other men checking out your girl. You like the fact that other men want her; it makes you proud and it turns you on, of course. This is seeing how much other men really want your woman and what an amazing, sexual, and exquisite woman she is.

  It will amaze you how much you’ll be turned on to see her ability to give a man a raging hard-on by just taking off her clothes in front of him. You know what a good lover she is, but have you ever really seen her in action? Seeing your girlfriend give another man head will give you a whole different perspective on how hard she works and how much she loves it. And she’ll love you watching her do this. The more you watch her and encourage her, the harder she’ll work to take all of that cock in. But always remember, there should be no fear. Your turn will be next.

  Any man who enjoys porn, even if only from time to time, would enjoy the experience of watching his lady get it from another man.

  Setting the Ground Rules

  Give your man the same sensitivity that you would want if you two were picking up another woman. Men have their own rules and regulations, and it all varies. Kissing the other guy is usually a no-no, but again, this varies, and some men may not mind it at all. Some men find the idea of their girlfriend sucking another guy’s dick offensive but have no problem in the least with her getting screwed by a stranger. You both have to get these things cleared up from the get-go to prevent any bad aftermath. Men have fragile egos and may question later how you seem to be a lot more enthusiastic with working your mouth away on someone else’s dick than you normally do when it’s just the two of you.

  Of course, you really don’t know what’s going to upset someone until after it actually happens, but that’s why talking helps. In talking about it, you both will realistically picture these acts occurring. For example, say you run into an ex of yours and your boyfriend says once he is at a safe distance, “You screwed that guy?” Men have very visual imaginations, and he’ll know how much he can handle right away. On the other hand, you both may be pleasantly surprised and find yourselves going farther than you discussed, too, if the feeling in the room is sexy and secure.

  If you and your partner have a sex life that is highly verbal, implement that practice into this experience. Saying things like, “Do you want to see me get banged, baby? Do you want to watch him screw the shit out of me while I deep-throat your huge cock?” is an erotic but easy way to keep all action at a comfortable level and to stay within the boundaries.

  Make sure at all times that you keep physical contact with your man, even when another man is plowing you righteously. You can always ask him to passionately kiss you while it’s going on and keep that level of intimacy exclusively between you. Don’t let him sit there unattended—unless that’s exactly what he wants. He may just want to jack off while watching you with another man, like watching his very own porno flick in 3-D. But even then, when he’s ready to come, include him and ask him to come into your mouth or on your face or body.

  Dealing with Double Penetration

  Double penetration always comes up when talking about two men and one woman three-ways, thanks to the porn industry. Your man may enjoy watching it, as a lot of men do, but don’t worry about this subject actually coming up during your three-way. It’s a very difficult position to achieve, and what’s more, it’s not a physically safe one, even if both men are wearing condoms.

  You don’t go straight to doing headstands on the balance beam during your first gymnastics class; likewise, you won’t want to try to fill your ass and your pussy at the same time during your first three-way. You are in for a world of tearing, bleeding, and soreness if you do.

  However, if man-woman-man three-ways become part of your sexual repertoire, you can practice together with a dildo, study up with some hardcore porn, and check out a book or two on exotic sexual positions. Some three-ways can be purely sensual and erotic while others, particularly when it’s with two men, are done to have nasty, dirty, raucous consensual sex. Both are wonderful, just be prepared and smart.

  Make sure at all times that you keep physical contact with your man, even when another man is plowing you righteously.

  Keeping It Safe

  You and your girlfriend may be at the point where you don’t use condoms anymore, but use them anyway during any kind of three-way combination. I emphasize this more when you’re bringing in another man. It’s just good manners to do this, because if you’re not using a rubber and the other man is being told to, he may feel unclean and left out. Just because this man isn’t your lover or friend, it doesn’t mean you shouldn’t be sensitive to his feelings. And when you wear a condom, he will not question having to wear one too, so have a box of your favorite brand handy.

  Remember this: Curiosity does not spell gay. It’s just that, being curious.

  Having a Three-Way Isn’t Gay

  There’s nothing homosexual about having a three-way with another man. Like everything else in life, it’s what you make of it.

  Men, if you want to have such an experience but are worried about how it might look to your girlfriend, to the other guy, or most important, to yourself, think twice about doing it. Bringing home a man whom you think might be bisexual is not a good move if you’re feeling a little hung up about the issue. If you think he is as heterosexual as you are but just looking for some sexual adventure and a new experience, then chances are nothing that can be construed as gay will occur.

  But remember, you’re going to be naked around another man and the two of you are going to be stroking your respective co
cks and checking each other out while you share your girlfriend. If that alone feels uncomfortable to you, than a man-man-woman three-way isn’t for you. If you’re worried about being turned on by the man who is manhandling your girl, guess what? You’re supposed to be. That’s the point. But acknowledge that what is turning you on isn’t the man as much as it is watching your honey satisfying and turning on another man. Keep those feelings in check and it should go smoothly.

  Why Your Man Wants a Man-Woman-Man Three-Way

  I’ll admit it, the first time a man brought up the idea of bringing another man home, my eyebrow did go up. I felt suspicious. Why would my boyfriend want to bring another man home? Is it some sort of weird setup to see what I will or will not do? Is this the same concept that my parents had the time they said I could drink as long as it was under their roof and watchful eye? Does he know I’m curious about being with other men and so he’s bringing the idea up himself to keep control of it? And then there is the dreaded: Does this mean he’s bisexual or bi-curious?

  Ladies, unless he tells you during your talks about this three-way that he is bisexual or bi-curious, then rest assured he probably is not. If he says he may want to get his dick sucked by the man you bring in, then you have a bi-curious man on your hands, and that may or may not sit well with you.

  There is a huge double standard with these things. Girls can say they want to explore their girl-on-girl sexual leanings and be applauded, loved, and cherished for it. When a man expresses this type of curiosity, even in the vein of kink, he’s immediately emasculated or branded gay. That’s not fair and you know it, so if this is perhaps the case, then remember this: Curiosity does not spell gay. It’s just that, being curious. And if your boyfriend just thinks it’s hot to have another man watch and perhaps jerk off while the two of you go at it, that’s not gay either, he’s just being an exhibitionist.