Your boyfriend could very well want to please you and keep you by changing things up with another man, and there’s nothing wrong with that at all. Many men who have threesomes get the most satisfaction from watching the sheer pleasure their girlfriend gets. I see nothing sinister in that. Instead, I see a confident and secure man who wants to give you as much sexual satisfaction as possible.
So whether it’s your cup of tea or not, there’s no reason to pooh-pooh him but every reason to applaud and be thankful that he is thinking of you and your sexual need to explore. This idea can come up when a man knows you have a limited sexual history, or at least one that is a lot smaller in numbers than his.
Some men just flat out think it’s really hot to watch their sexy mama take on two cocks and it’s as simple and basic as that. The turn-on of primal three-way sex is transforming their girlfriend into the nympho of their dreams.
He may be turned on by you being slutty, a woman who can’t get enough cock, a whore who needs to take on two men to be fully satiated. The man who wants to share you and/or watch you with another man is the same man who enjoys calling you a dirty bitch right before he’s going to come. And that’s just part of sex play. It doesn’t mean that’s what he thinks of you outside the realm of sex. When he calls you those names during sex and sex play, that’s just part of the fantasy and a big part of what’s getting him hot and hard. It’s the same reason he wants to see you working it with another man.
Where to Go/Who to Do
Guys, if you want to better ensure that nothing sticky will happen, then a stranger is the way to go, and heading to bars and clubs is fine. I wouldn’t scout out during a party necessarily, unless you want all your friends to know that you and your girlfriend brought a mutual friend that you all hang with home. Gossip runs in small circles, and that’s something you and your lady will probably not want.
The kind of man to bring home is a man whom both of you feel comfortable with and trust. This doesn’t mean you should choose a wishy-washy wimp of a man who will just go along with anything because he is lonely and desperate to get some pussy. In fact, that would be the last man I would pick, because needy people can be the most dangerous of all. That’s the type of guy who will try to worm into your lives and make the two of you a trio. You don’t want that guy. Rather, pick a man who is friendly, happy, talkative, and fun-loving—a regular guy’s guy, but one with an edge. You’d be surprised how many regular jeans and T-shirt/pint of beer men have done some pretty wild things. I wouldn’t choose the posing/preening wanna-be rock star/model either, because he won’t be enjoying anything but having the two of you as an audience, which translates into a shitty lover for your girl and a smarmy jackass for you.
Choose a man who is just shooting the shit with you guys for the hell of it, and then over time and drinks and lots of storytelling, the two of you will be able to connect on a more sexual and intimate level. Even though this man in question knows that the two of you are a couple, try to make things as equal as possible, like all three of you take turns buying rounds. Have your guy play pool or darts with him, and then you can take him to the jukebox to pick out tunes. If he smokes and both of you do too, take turns going out for a cigarette with him. He will notice you each making efforts to bond with him separately and he will wonder what the deal is. And that’s when you tell him.
Breaking the Ice
Play this one carefully. If your boyfriend tells him you two are feeling frisky and fishing for cock, he’s going to run, and run fast. This kind of combination could look creepy to strangers, and you really can’t blame the guy. He doesn’t know what he is walking into, and you read about these setups all the time and it turns out that he will get nothing but to be beaten and robbed. He could feel the same way if the girl is doing the initiating. He might think you’re using him to play some sort of a jealousy game on your boyfriend, which could also result in a beating.
So the best tactic is for the both of you to do it together, once trust and rapport has been firmly established. After you’ve talked about some of the wild and crazy things you’ve all done, and after you’ve lightly flirted with him (in front of your boyfriend) and you’ve stayed at the bar/lounge/club long enough, you could just say, “Hey, do you party? We’re going to head back to our place and want to know if you’d like to join us.” Even if he’s not exactly sure about what’s going on, if he says “yeah sure,” that means he definitely wants to find out.
True Story: Angela Has Two Men
Being young, beautiful, and adventurous, Angela has been the object of lust for two men at once. But once her boyfriend broached the subject, Angela immediately said that she would be disgusted if she saw any kind of homosexual or homo-erotic activity going on between him and another man. “I know it’s a double standard and it’s not fair,” she admits. “But I’m sorry, it just skeeves me out.”
Still, always up for trying something different, she and her boyfriend went out that night and found themselves at a bar looking for their potential male number three. They came across a young man who was a friend of a friend of her boyfriend’s. “We had it in our heads totally, so when this guy jokingly said, ‘Man your girl is hot, we should have a threesome with her,’ not knowing at all what we had been talking about, just kidding around, I took that as a sign that we should go for it.” Angela laughed and came clean with their plans, and soon enough they were back at her boyfriend’s apartment.
The trio waited a while, hanging out, smoking, drinking, listening to music, and waiting to see who would be the brave one to make the first move. Getting impatient, Angela’s boyfriend said, “We all know why we’re here, so while I go to the bathroom, why don’t you two get it started?”
This was all they needed to hear. Angela and their bar boy began passionately kissing until her boyfriend came back and suggested they get more comfy and move the action to the bedroom. “This guy was really into watching us get it on, me and my boyfriend, that’s what revved him. So I was blowing my boyfriend while he watched and fingered me. Then I blew him while my boyfriend ate me out. I didn’t have sex with anyone but my boyfriend, but I did plenty of things with our friend, too.”
Getting It Going
So you brought your chosen guy back to your place, put on some music, made drinks, and maybe passed a joint around.
A lot of people I hang out with put the TV on with the sound down as just a visual and play whatever music they want over it. You’ve dimmed the lights and you’re all sitting on the couch, chilling and grooving, and you’re all thinking the same thing: And now what? As a couple bringing home a man, it’s your responsibility to start the action. Your guest certainly won’t start it for the slim chance that he has read your intentions incorrectly and doesn’t want to leave with a black eye and a bloody nose. You are both hosting, so it’s up to you to make it happen, and you can do it one of two ways.
You can either get very cozy on the couch, have your girlfriend sit between the two of you and have her sit very close to him while you sit very close to her. Start nuzzling and nibbling her neck while she puts her hand on either his thigh or even his neck, massaging either body part.
Once you’re all comfortable with that, put your hand between your girlfriend’s legs or under her dress and massage her crotch. She in turn should either do the same to your guest or she could take his hand and put it under her shirt or just flatly on her breast and hold it there for a second so he knows she really wants him to touch her. Keep the petting session going until everyone is hard and wet, while maintaining your girl in the middle between the two of you.
Ladies, you could also go the sluttier route that many people enjoy immensely: Put on a show for the two men, giving them each a lap dance—a real one straight out of a titty bar. This is a way for the men to have male-bonding fun while you enjoy all the attention. This is also the big plus for women to having a three-way with two men—all the attention and appreciation you will receive.
When you lap dan
ce your guest, he will enjoy it, and you’ll know it, but he may also still be a little scared or apprehensive, so it’s up to you to wipe away those fears. Remember, fear plus anxiety equals no erection. Take his hands and place them on your ass and hold them there so he knows you want him to fondle and give you a squeeze or even a spank. Rub your tits against his face, stroke his hair or kiss and nibble his ear.
When you leave your guest and lap dance your man, look at your guest some of the time, giving him a sexy, smoldering look that lets him know you’re enjoying him watching you. Put on a real show for your guest, take off your shirt, or if its already off, pull down your bra so he can check out your tits. Close your eyes and arch your back and have your man play with them a little bit. Take off your skirt or pants and straddle your man in a backward cowgirl position. Let him check out your ass, rubbing against your boyfriend’s cock. His will probably get hard as hell just from watching. He’ll be relaxed and hard in no time.
Get into the rhythm of this session; all three of you are in a band and you should all keep time with each other.
Taking Position
Stand up and undress for the men, and instruct them to do the same (if they haven’t already). Sit your man down, get between his legs, and give him the most decadent blowjob of your life. Go slow and deep and play with his balls and lick them as well.
Your guest might be jerking off and watching, so motion him over and tell him you want to get screwed. Have him go behind you and reach around to play with your pussy and tits. When you’re ready, tell him to penetrate you. The faster he pumps you, the faster your head should be bobbing up and down on your boyfriend.
Get into the rhythm of this session; all three of you are in a band and you should all keep time with each other. It feels so good to be filled from all sides like this that you all could comthis way. But it’s nice to change things up, so stop and move your man to the floor and your new friend to the couch and do the same thing. Your boyfriend should be talking dirty to you, asking you if you like having one cock in your mouth and another in your pussy, and you should be letting him know with moans and sighs and whimpers yes, yes, yes.
You could also keep blowing your boyfriend while sitting on the other man’s face, again trying to keep the pace even between the three of you and telling your boyfriend how good it feels to be eaten out while sucking his beautiful cock.
If your boyfriend wants to see what’s going on with the other guy because that’s part of what gets him off, sit your guest back on the couch and straddle him in backward cowgirl position so your man can see his cock sliding in and out of you. It would be really hot if your boyfriend even helped you along the way, grabbed you by the hips, and bounced you up and down on that hard cock, and doing it so good he made you come because of it. While riding your guest, you could also have your boyfriend stand in front of you so you can keep sucking him. Encourage your new friend to move you up and down while you’re giving your boyfriend head as well.
It’s fun playing with two hard dicks, so when they’re resting and you want to get them both going again, sit between them and give them hand jobs at the same time. You’re in between them, so while there is a safe distance for the guys, they will also be titillated by watching you jerk off two cocks at once.
You should be able to sit back and get the royal treatment too. Lie down and have one man suck and play with your tits while the other one is going down on you. Or sit up and have one man lick your pussy while another squats in front of you so you can comfortably give him head. In servicing you and giving you the best time of your life, their boundaries could lighten up and they could each suck one of your tits while your boyfriend fingers you.
A really daring move is for you to screw your boyfriend while he lies down and the other man spoons you from behind and plays with your tits and kisses your neck, or sucks your tits while you are bouncing up and down. From this position, he could be able to play with your clit while you ride your man. Of course, for this position to work, no one can be uptight about your guest potentially brushing fingers on your man’s joint. Just make sure to keep changing the men’s positions so they can both equally enjoy the experience with you, and you of course with them, because you know that like snowflakes no two hard cocks are the same.
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What to Do If Swords Cross
There’s no reason this should happen, unless you want it to, of course. If you’ve had a little too much to drink, though, and you stumble while changing positions, it could happen. Just say, “Excuse me,” and move on, and if you want to laugh, by all means laugh! Smiles are sexy too. Good lovers don’t take themselves too seriously.
Patrick and the Couple
Rugged but sweet with twinkling green eyes, Patrick fondly and affectionately remembers his first adult experience with his buddy Rob and Rob’s girlfriend, Vicky. One night, hanging out over beers and smokes, Patrick, who always found Vicky very appealing, felt the vibe in the room changing, getting warmer and looser than usual.
“This was during the time of taking ecstasy and experimentation, though we weren’t on any kind of drug that night,” Patrick says, “But we were all definitely in the mood for letting go and getting into some fantasies.”
It all started with Vicky giving backrubs to the two young men, giving them an excuse to take their shirts off, building the energy, and setting the mood. Then Vicky took her own shirt off, and Patrick and Rob both rubbed her down at the same time, starting with innocent touches and slowly progressing to more provocative ones, kneading her breasts, her ass, her legs, and eventually working their way to her increasingly dampening pussy. “All you can do is slowly push the boundaries. If she’s cool with it, you go a little farther, and if you get a positive reaction from that, you go even farther,” Patrick says. “Eventually it got to the point when I was really worked up and asked her, ‘You have to be honest with me. What do you want to happen here?’ “
Patrick and Rob looked at each other for mutual approval—yes they definitely knew where they wanted this to go, but what of Vicky? The relationship between them was couple and best buddy of one of the couple. Sure there was some harmless flirtation between Vicky and Patrick, as can happen over time, but the subject of moving the trio’s relationship into a sexual direction had never come up, not even in the most drunken jesting.
“I truly believe you have to keep the ball in the woman’s side of the court,” says Patrick. “A woman has to be comfortable and know that nothing will happen unless she wants it to happen and that relaxes her and gives her comfort.” Once that was established, Vicky expressed that she didn’t want to have intercourse with the two men together but was very happy to indulge in some delicious heavy petting and oral stimulation.
“I was very proud of me and Rob, because we were naked in front of each other, naked and in very close proximity,” Patrick says, “but neither one of us was hung-up about it at all. The situation was wonderful because the mood was very light-hearted and cool. We all loved and cared about each other, so there was no awkwardness about it.”
Patrick and Rob spent most of the night appreciating Vicky and her ample figure. They kissed Vicky all over her body, from her forehead to her toes. Vicky sucked her boyfriend’s cock while Patrick ate her out and then Rob and Patrick switched positions repeatedly while Vicky had several orgasms on each of the best friend’s lips and tongues. The two men ended up jerking off opposite of each other and coming all over Vicky’s face and tits, porn style, which is what pleased them the most, having borrowed each other’s precious stashes of smut for years. They both enjoyed the same kind of porn, so Patrick and Rob were able to share their appreciation and enjoyment of it on a whole different level.
“Afterward, we just hung out on the couch, all three of us, still naked, and just kinda laughed and talked. It was very cool and relaxed. Rob even said to me, ‘Dude you’ve got a big dick.’ But the way he said it wasn’t gay at all. It was like telling another guy that he’s good at bas
eball.”
For Patrick, the experience should have brought their friendship even closer together, bonded them in a way that few heterosexual men can be together, but this was not the case. Although they did stay friends, a three-way never happened again and eventually Vicky drifted off to another relationship. Patrick notes, “Sex is about good feelings and it’s the one thing that men can do when it’s okay to be vulnerable and opening yourself up.”
Making Her Feel Good
Whether it’s with a friend or a stranger, remember to be sweet and tender to your girl once the other guy has gone. Kiss her, hold her, and be loving to her so she knows she has nothing at all to be ashamed of. Let her know without words that she’s still as special and as wonderful to you as she was before and that you loved what just happened, and, more important, loved watching her enjoy it.
If you’ve got enough energy, you should take a nice hot shower together, clean her up, wash her hair, and spoil her. Lovingly dry her off and bring her back to bed and make love to her and tell her you love her right before you fall asleep for what will no doubt be until late in the afternoon. And when you wake up, remember that nothing has changed and you are both doing as great, if not better, because your relationship has moved up into the level of absolute, unquestioning trust.
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