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Alternative LIFESTYLES
A ménage à trois is best enjoyed by free-spirited, intelligent, and artistic people with progressive minds and bohemian beliefs, even if their lifestyles are outwardly as humdrum and conventional as any average couple.
You can be a secretary, lawyer, plumber, accountant, waitress, or cook and have very exotic and adventurous tastes in sex. Threesomes are definitely not just for rock stars, movie stars, and the rich and elite. And you don’t have to limit yourself to bars, dance clubs, and parties to make one happen. You can go beyond that and explore the world of strip clubs, professional escorts, and sex/swing clubs.
Escorts and Strippers
If they’re going to have a threesome, many people choose to do it with people who meet expressly for that purpose. There is an advantage to hiring an escort or stripper to engage with you and your man. By exchanging money, you know there will be no emotional confusion; you’ve hired this woman the way you hire a masseuse: to work on both of you, and that is that. It’s very unlikely that you or your man will develop feelings for a professional.
Also, in hiring someone, you can feel free to be blunt and tell her when to leave without hurting her feelings. You can comb the online sites like craigslist.org, which offers categories like erotic services and casual encounters. You and your boyfriend can have fun shopping for your third party, going through photos and reading ads, or making your own ad and describing exactly what the two of you would like to have and what you would like to do. This way there will be no pussyfooting around the issue. The person you hire will show up at your door ready to do exactly what you want and dive right into it and the both of you. With this freedom you can be more creative and play out fantasies.
Happy Hookers
Here’s something that doesn’t happen very often. Eric, who never had a three-way, was treated to one by two beautiful black hookers, and on the house no less! He was hanging out in a divey bar and bought them several rounds of drinks just to talk.
“It was late and, admittedly, I was feeling pretty lonely and didn’t feel like going home,” Eric says. So talk they did, in between singing very loudly and badly to the jukebox that Eric kept feeding dollars to. When the place closed down, the two streetwalkers each linked one of his arms and went to his place. “One of them was riding me while the other was sucking her tits and I was fingering her. It was a good night, or should I say morning. I think the sun was coming up,” he says.
Birthday Threesome Special
“Because everyone at this bar knows me, on my birthday I was getting shots all night long, shots and big tips, it was really nice,” says Lars, a muscular blond with a sexy deep voice. “One of the women who comes here is a stripper. She usually comes in after she finishes her shift to kick back, count her money, and have a drink. That night she brought one of her friends from the strip club, a really hot brunette. I’ve always favored girls with dark hair, and she had the body I like, more curvy with some meat to hold on to. They kept telling me they were going to do something special for my birthday.”
The gift was waiting when Lars closed the bar. The women took him back to his apartment with a duffle bag filled with sex toys. “I think we did everything that could possibly be done with dildos and vibrators,” Lars says, “which I needed because these two were a real handful and I had all those tequila shots in me.”
Lars says the secret to a successful threesome is to never stop being a gentleman. “You have to know that, even if it’s all about you, you have a responsibility to satisfy two other people. I wanted to do that—I wanted them to feel I gave them everything in one way or another. If they get it on with each other, I still get in there and do something to one or both of them, that’s what I’m there for.” Even with a bag full of fake phalluses and vibrating eggs, Lars’s favorite activity of the night had no toys at all. “When one girls rides me while the other girls sits on my face, that’s just perfect. Everybody is being pleasured, and all three of us were connected to each other. Pure bliss.”
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A Way Of Life
Having threesomes can be an entire way of life, not just something you do for your boyfriend’s birthday or on vacation in Brazil. Certain couples implement this as part of their sex life and consider themselves lucky to have found a partner who is so special, sexual, and giving that jealousy never comes into play. These are not the most common of couples, but their lives otherwise are. Three-ways are the way they get off best, but that’s not the only thing they do. They have as much sex with each other as they do with a third party on a Saturday night. Some couples go dancing every weekend while others go swinging every weekend, and those couples see it no differently. You and your boyfriend could belong to a bowling league and you could also belong to a sex club; the point is, this is how the two of you like to have fun.
True Story: Anna and Tony
Anna has never been afraid of taking what she wants and calling the shots. Although a successful international lawyer, the Polish-born, American-bred woman in her mid-thirties looks more like a centerfold than an attorney, with a tall, voluptuous frame and a classically beautiful face with full lips, high cheekbones, and long, thick golden hair. She recalls always being alone at Villanova Law School because no one knew what to make of the brainy beauty.
“The men were scared of me, and the women hated me. But I don’t let those things bother me, I just look out for myself and I don’t care what other people think,” she says.
Anna has an equally hunky husband, a tall, virile man of Latin descent who is as swarthy as she is fair. Anna and Tony have been married for nearly ten years and have two beautiful daughters. They have a home in the suburbs of New Jersey and live what most would consider the American Dream. What seems to have kept the relationship together is their sexual openness and sense of freewheeling adventure. “We have threesomes, usually on vacation. I’d say it’s best done on vacation, because it’s just part of the trip and you don’t have to take it back home with you,” says Anna.
Their first foray into a ménage à trois was during a holiday in Mexico, where the comely couple enjoyed going to strip clubs and soaking in the sights of the local lovelies. They decided one night to go for broke and pick up a dancer at one of the clubs. “Her name was Barbie. She had a great body and was an amazing dancer. Her pole gymnastics were amazing and I was really impressed with her.” It was Anna who was the assertive one and did the choosing of their sex partner. “I got really turned on by Barbie because she was really petite and my husband is so tall and big—I was really looking forward to watching her take him all in.”
And take it in Barbie did. Although it was difficult, because Tony noticed their little friend was more attracted to his exotic wife with the alluring accent than his movie star Antonio Banderas good looks. “He fucked her brains out, really hard, he really gave her the business, but I was there for the softness and sensuality. I laid down, I had her lay on top of me, face to face. We were kissing and rubbing on each other while my husband mounted her from behind and fucked her silly. It was so hot.” Just as both Anna and Barbie were on the brink of coming, Tony decided to pick up the tiny dancer, hoist her on his shoulders, and lick her clit into one screaming orgasm while Anna climaxed herself watching.
“The key to enjoying this with your husband is that you have to be in a very stable and secure relationship. If you have that, there is no danger at all. And you, as the woman, have to hold all the cards and take all the power. You should be the one to pick the woman, and the woman you pick should be actively bisexual so you can both enjoy her.”
But if your relationship is on somewhat shaky ground, Anna says it’s like nitroglycerin to the union and it will no doubt blow up in your face, even if it was all your idea to begin with. “We almost broke up over the one we had in Rio,” Anna admits. “Again, it was my idea, and I picked her up and she looked kind of bitch
y until she saw Tony. She did it because she really liked Tony and she wasn’t really into women or me. They were really hitting it off, and Tony was ignoring me because they were speaking in Spanish together. She was this thick Spanish woman with a huge ass, definitely his type. I think he was also trying to teach me a lesson because, again, it’s my idea and sometimes I think my strong sexual desires can make him feel inadequate.”
What stopped Anna from going into complete jealousy meltdown is the fact that the couple had paid the Spanish sex bomb—in fact, they’ve paid all of the women they have been with on these naughty vacations.
This particular experience has not deterred Anna one bit, although she realizes her mistake was proposing a three-way during a time when there was tension between her and her husband. A threesome is by no means a solution to a problem. It also isn’t a way to draw couples closer together when they’re having marital difficulties. However, it is most definitely a flavor-enhancing spice to an otherwise healthy but routine sex life.
“I just love the visual,” says Anna. “I like to be able to see my man with another woman. It’s a turn on watching him making some girl scream. And I love having the added stimulation, all of the hands on me. I love having a girl go down on me while I suck Tony’s big cock. It’s like we’re enjoying this fabulous feast. The fact that it’s naughty and taboo makes it very exciting. I’ve always wanted to be in an orgy, but never have, so this is the next best thing.”
What’s Better Than Two Girls and One Guy? Three Women and No Guy
Another three-way Anna enjoyed was one with two women during law school. Although not a drinker by any means, Anna and her classmates decided to let off steam after leaving the library. They ended up getting so intoxicated that they started daring each other to kiss.
“We went to my dorm room and it was great—me and one girl were really letting loose and doing everything you can imagine, while another girl was kind of hung up but had no problem receiving all we had to give. We took turns licking each other’s pussies well, except for that girl who wouldn’t reciprocate. But it was so much fun. I loved it. I love breasts, feeling them, licking them, resting my cheek against them.” Anna pauses, enjoying the memory, but then quickly adds, “I wish they hadn’t been so strange about it the next day. The other two woke up in my room and were very moody and distant. That’s too bad they were so hung up. It would’ve been a great stress reliever from cramming for exams all the time.”
Sex Clubs and Swing Clubs
Sex clubs and swing clubs are a great way to enjoy both mingling and meeting new people while also cutting to the chase. No one feels embarrassed, shy, or perverted because everyone is there for the same reason. Just walking into one of these places is very liberating and exciting because as you look around you, you can actually see public displays of three-ways and it’s okay not only to openly watch but to join in. Of course, there are rules and fees involved, but those are a small price to pay for what you are getting back, which is no bullshitting around. Everyone there is as horny and as ready as the both of you.
Of course, you should also go knowing your comfort level. And safe sex is not even a question; in all of these places, if you are seen not using a condom you will be told to leave. The more professional the situation, the more condoms are mandatory.
Also at these places, people are a lot more polite and respectful of one another. They call it an “adult club” because you have to behave like one. You may be surrounded by people screwing and sucking, but all of these people are also behaving like ladies and gentlemen, because again, if they aren’t, they will be thrown out. It has to be class all the way or you will never be allowed back again.
In addition, these establishments are all safe, clean, and legal throughout the United States, so you need not have to take a trip to Holland to explore your sexuality. You can look online for such places, or you can read the back of your local alternative newspaper or magazine. All of these places have a cover charge and some offer yearly fees for membership if you plan on going often.
True Story: Colin and the Sex Club
Colin, a graphic designer from New Jersey, recently made his first visit to a swing club in Las Vegas with his bi-curious girlfriend who lives in Nevada. A handsome African American male in his early thirties who is proud of his self-professed metrosexuality, Colin says he and his sexy Asian American lady friend, a medical salesperson, have been able to continue this bi-coastal relationship for the past two years with lots of phone sex. It was during his last stay in Sin City that they visited a swing club.
“There were a lot more women than men in the club, and it was very clean and pleasant,” Colin says. “Couples pay fifty bucks to get in, and single women pay twenty-five. There was no alcohol, which was fine by me because I don’t drink, but we did hit a bar before we got there because my girlfriend wanted a drink or two to loosen up.” Once inside and wandering around, they caught the eye of an attractive older blonde, possibly in her early forties, whom they both found appetizing.
“She was built the way we both like women, fit but thick with large breasts. So we sort of parked it near her and started fooling around in front of her. We didn’t know how to get it going, and we might have been a little too shy to talk to her, so we figured actions speak louder than words.”
It must have worked, because while the attractive couple began to shed clothing and become entwined, Colin’s girlfriend felt her dainty, manicured foot being sensually massaged by someone who was not her man—his hands were busy pulling down her top and kneading her ample chest. She looked over Colin’s bare shoulder and saw the older, sexy blonde on her knees in front of them and playing with her feet. Their eyes locked, there was a smile and a nod between them, and slowly the woman seduced Colin’s girlfriend. Her feet happened to be one of her erogenous zones, and when she began taking her toes one by one into her mouth, it was instant ecstasy.
“She let out this huge sigh—I knew that sigh, but I also knew it wasn’t entirely for me!” says Colin. “I saw we had a visitor, and I was very happy it was her. I watched her suck my girlfriend’s toes and I started pulling my girl’s skirt down—she usually doesn’t wear a bra and tonight she didn’t wear panties either—and I ate her out while this woman was basically making love to her feet. It was very erotic.”
Like good couples should, Colin and his girlfriend did discuss what would be okay and not okay before arriving at this club. Colin’s girlfriend only had two rules: She didn’t want them to be with another man, and Colin was not to kiss any women they might get involved with. Both rules were perfectly fine with him, as he wasn’t comfortable with the idea of being naked with another man and had no desire to kiss any lips but his own lady’s luscious full ones.
The ample blonde eventually joined the couple on the couch, and Colin and his girlfriend enjoyed feasting on her big nipples. “It was nice to share this woman together. We both enjoy all the good things in life: good food, good wine. And now we were sharing this fine sexy woman. It was great—it was amazing actually,” Colin says.
He was also pleasantly surprised at how assertive and generous his girlfriend became about sharing him. “At one point she was stroking my dick and fingering her own pussy at the same time and asking this woman, ‘Do you like my man’s big black dick? Do you want this big black dick? Do you want it inside you, fucking your brains out?’ “
Once taboos are initially broken, the fear is gone, and things begin to work out well, so wonderful in fact, that things can go farther. Colin says for him it had to be all about his girlfriend and her pleasure. “If I felt she was apprehensive and nervous, I wouldn’t have even gone with her, even if it was her idea to go. So as we went along I wanted her fully relaxed, fully turned on, with the knowledge that nothing would happen that she didn’t want to happen and at the same time anything was possible.”
Her wish was his command, and so were the wishes of their eager new playmate, who indeed did want that big black dick. Colin sai
d this woman rode him like a bucking bronco while his girlfriend sat on his face and licking their new friend’s breasts. “It’s an amazing feeling when you’re with two women and they’re both coming at the same time. Imagine making two people come at the same time? Wow.” He himself held back, and when the blonde got off him he turned his girlfriend over and ravaged her from behind while she orally serviced the blonde, and this time they all orgasmed at the same time. Wow, indeed.
Although Colin and his girlfriend don’t use condoms with each other, they did use a condom with this woman and wouldn’t have had it any other way. “You have to be safe, to feel you can let go and have fun,” he says. The woman was the only encounter they had that evening. Afterward, they drank juice together and made small talk. The woman worked at a nearby casino as a poker dealer, but they learned little else. Once they politely wandered away, they mainly enjoyed playing dirty voyeurs and enjoyed other couples watching them. “There was also the odd guy who kept looking at us while he was jerking off—that was more funny than anything else,” says Colin. When asked whether he would ever do this again, Colin laughed and said, “We did, the next night on my way to the airport. It was a good way to sleep through my red eye flight.”
True Story: Tony and Tina
Tony and Tina, two Italian-Americans in their late twenties from Brooklyn, met through mutual friends who set them up on a blind date. Tina, an adorable, petite brunette with large dark eyes, had recently left a painfully bad relationship in which her boyfriend had repeatedly cheated on her. She wanted to go to a party where she needed a date, and her friends who were also going knew a nice single young man, Tony, an equally cute, dark-haired guy who worked in computer programming on Wall Street.
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