It was an instant love connection, and their evening ended with a heavy duty makeout and fool-around session in the hot tub of his apartment complex. They have now been together six months, and are inseparable. When you sit with them, you can see their genuine friendship, affection, and attraction, and they can barely be near each other without touching or kissing. They currently live apart because Tina feels she needs some space living alone between her last experience and this one, but she also says she’s sure a year from now she and Tony will be living together. And Tony says he’s sure in no time they will be making plans for the most raucous wedding party in Brooklyn.
“A wedding where after the party 30 people or so will be watching us get it on together!” he proclaims. Tina playfully elbows him and says, “No, no. That night it will be just us.” And Tony nods and says, “Yes, just us with 30 people watching!”
Come again?
Let’s fill in some holes, so to speak.
Here’s the deal.
Tina is a swinger. She got into the swinging life with her ex-boyfriend, who, despite being able to share Tina with dozens of sexy women at private parties, still found it necessary to cheat on her compulsively. Tina, who enjoyed the life very much, mainly indulging in threesomes with her boyfriend and another woman, wasn’t going to let a broken heart stop her from having fun. There was a swinger bikini party coming up, but she needed to bring a date in order to attend. A swinger couple who knew Tony as a nice, good-looking, upstanding, and easy-going guy set up the date. But as is the practice in swinger parties, you must be a couple of sorts; you cannot bring a blind date to one of these sexy exclusive affairs. So they went out on an initial date, during which they hit it off to the degree that they spent a passionate night together and then had breakfast together, followed by a day of shopping at a nearby outlet mall.
Tony had been told about Tina’s proclivity to swing and have sex with a third female party. It didn’t shock him in the least bit, as he had enjoyed many similar experiences in college. “All of my experience were those college party experiences where people were drunk and wild things happened. And those were great, but it’s not the same thing as this of course. I’ve always been a very sexual person, and I couldn’t believe my luck that this sexy, wonderful girl was so open and confident like that. I was ready to give it a try,” he explains. So Tony and Tina went off to the bikini party, where his main concern was running into Tina’s ex. Once they realized he was not there, however, Tina taught Tony some swinger lingo and rules.
This bikini party was an “off premises” party where people meet, party, and lightly fool around, but the main action happens at a block of hotel rooms that have been reserved by the people who own and operate these soirées. Tina explained that she only enjoyed what is called a “soft swap,” which is sex engaged with only a third party, a woman, as opposed to a “hard swap” which consists of male couples exchanging women for full-on penetration sex. Tony also learned that these parties were just as much about socializing as they were about having sex.
“People are there to have fun. They just come up to you and say hi. You have some drinks together, you talk, and everyone is really polite. I would probably worry about going to a regular club or party with Tina more than to any of these swinger parties. When I leave her to go to the bathroom, I know no one is going to use the opportunity to hit on her. You’ll find more respectful people in the swing scene than you’ll ever find anywhere.”
They ended up having a wonderful time, with Tina introducing Tony to all her friends and eventually joining them at the designated hotel floor where Tony and Tina got it on with her ex-boyfriend’s sister. “Okay, okay, that part might sound strange,” says Tina laughing and blushing. “I was glad he wasn’t there, but I was really glad she was. I always found her attractive, but obviously a three-way with her before was out of the question. But now I could, and we did, and it was fantastic.”
The session was mainly about the pleasures of oral sex. The two women went down on Tony together, then the ex’s sister went down on Tina while she alone sucked off Tony to completion. Tony then had sex with Tina while the ex’s sister played with his balls. “It’s a great spooning sex position,” says Tony, “I get off so intensely that way, fucking Tina while another girl plays with me from behind, there’s nothing like it—I came like a rocket that night.”
Tony also saw how much pleasure it gave Tina to have another woman in the mix, although Tina says she has never and would never be with a woman one-on-one. “When another girl is involved, I know Tina will be fully satisfied, and that’s what it’s all about for me,” says Tony. “I love her and I want her getting off to the highest level. I’m happy to do it for her, and besides, what guy in his right mind will say no to that?”
But again, like any other couple involved in such practices, they too have rules that they adhere to. Tony is not allowed to kiss other women or penetrate other women, and Tina is also not allowed to kiss or full-on bang other men who may be watching.
They also have to pick the woman together. It must be a mutual decision, which they admit does come into conflict every so often because, as it turns out, their tastes are different. “Tony likes small brunettes like me, and Asian girls. I know he’s got his Asian fixation, but I’m not into them. I enjoy being with women who are the total physical opposite of me: blondes with big tits, fake or natural, it doesn’t matter to me.”
Tina, while enjoying kissing, suckling, fondling, and receiving oral from a woman, will not rub clits together. When pressed for why, she just laughs and blushes some more, “I think it’s just gross, I don’t know. Who knows why some things are okay and others are not, but that skeeves me out!” On the other hand, their swing/three-way practices have made Tony one of the most true-blue mates one could have, an absolute dream for women, in fact. He turns down his friends’ invitations to strip clubs unless he can bring Tina and they can enjoy a lap dance together, and he swears his eyes never linger on other girls when Tina isn’t around. “We check out girls together. It’s so much more fun! So when I’m not with her I don’t feel the need. It’s like I walk around with blinders on.”
On more than one occasion, Tina has been chatted up and seduced by a woman who Tony did not at all find to his taste. Case in point was at a swinger Halloween party where a she-devil approached Tina and charmed her into disrobing. “I thought she was gross actually, but Tina was like, ‘Oh she’s so sweet and nice, c’mon, c’mon.’ So although I didn’t really participate like I usually do, I did get off on stepping back and watching her get off. She’s so confident and sexual, it’s very hot to me.”
If Tony and Tina do have arguments as a result of their sexual three-way recreation, it’s usually over Tony bragging about it to friends or showing photos from a party of Tina and another woman getting it on. “You’re allowed to have cameras, but of course you have to ask permission first,” says Tony. “But yeah, I mean I’m a guy and I’m doing this crazy, sexy thing, but it’s only as great as it is if you can tell your buddies about it and make them jealous! I admit it, that’s part of it for me, absolutely. Besides, my girl is gorgeous and sexy and so open-minded, I’m proud of that and I want the world to see that I’m the luckiest motherfucker in the world, okay?”
Tina, who works as a nurse in a Manhattan hospital, half-smiles and shakes her head. “It’s private to me! I don’t mind that he takes the photos; we can both look at them when we’re alone together and it gets us horny, so that’s fine. But I don’t want my business out on the street and he knows it, but he can’t help himself.”
That issue aside, the relationship continues to thrive, and Tony and Tina go to private swing parties at least twice a month. When they both see a woman they like, they either kiss and hug in front of her and see how she reacts or just introduce themselves and talk and mingle, enjoy company on an intellectual level first and then see where it goes from there. Many times Tony says the real action between them doesn’t happen until they
get home. “The car ride home is always quiet. We’re both going over what happened in our heads, and then the minute we get home we just tear each other’s clothes off and fuck our brains out for hours. It’s very intense.”
Tina also says it’s long after the parties when she enjoys the experience the most. She says sometimes when she’s with a patient, an image will pop into her head and it will be hard for her to get the image out. All she can do is be patient, do her job, call Tony, and race back to his place as soon as possible so they can have more wild one-on-one sex fueled by their threesome memories.
“I was born with no shame, and it’s great to finally meet a girl who not only understands that but likes it,” says Tony with a big smile. “She’s the sexiest woman I’ve ever met. She’s so open about it and it gets me so hot. In fact, I’ll bet you anything she’s probably sopping wet right now just talking about it.” Tina shyly leans into his neck, looking very pretty, and feels close to him because what he is saying about her is completely true. “He’s very into me and he opens himself up to me,” she says. “He’s not afraid to love.”
Last Words
Opening yourself is what good sex is all about, no matter how intense or casual it can be. No matter what the situation is, sex is the joy of being open and free to other people, but most of all yourself. Discover yourself sexually and contemplate how far you want to go, it could be the beginning of a delicious awakening within you. Above all else entering the world of multi-partner sex should be something you are curious about exploring. The fact that you can travel this road with your boyfriend or girlfriend just adds to the pleasure because you have a close, intimate friend with you to enjoy the trip with. It’s about feeling curious about the other options, not about boredom. You are a beautiful person inside and out and you want to enjoy the ultimate in great sex with your partner. Or you could be awakened by your partner who thinks the world of you and would like to try exciting and new avenues of sex with you. This is all part of the experience of life.
It’s good to try different things, and it may turn out that it isn’t for you necessarily, but you can say that about trying all kinds of different things. To know what you like or don’t like you have to experience them for yourself, and there’s no shame in saying it wasn’t all it was cracked up to be, but boy wasn’t it fun finding out?
Living isn’t a spectator sport and although sex can certainly be with voyeurism and porn, it’s a lot more gratifying and satisfying to actually do than to watch or daydream. Ask yourself: why not? It’s as simple as that, why not? Talk about it with your partner or with a friend. As you have learned by now, having a three-way is a lot more common than you thought. Be daring and challenge yourself, you’ll be surprised by what actually lies deep inside you, you’re a lot sexier than you give yourself credit for. So explore those fantasies. Be safe, be kind, and be sweet to the people who are joining you for the celebration. It’s going to be quite a trip, and I wish you (and myself) the very best as no one should settle for anything less.
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ISBN-13: 978-1-59233-271-7
ISBN-10: 1-59233-271-4
eISBN-13: 978-1-61673-569-2
Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data
Speiser, Lainie.
Threesomes : for couples who want to know more / Lainie Speiser
p. cm.
ISBN 1-59233-271-4
1. Group sex. 2. Sexual fantasies. 3. Sexual excitement. I. Title.
HQ23.S64 2007
306.77--dc22
2007023918
CIP
Cover and interior design by Carol Holtz
Layout by Rachel Fitzgibbon
Photography on following pages by Jack Deutsch: 6–7, 16, 26, 35, 108–109, 111, 113, 114, 117, 119, 120, 122, 124–125, 129, 130, 133, 135, 137, 148
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