Memories of a Marriage

by Louis Begley

  This book is a work of fiction. Names, characters, businesses, organizations, places, events, and incidents either are the product of the author’s imagination or are used fictitiously. Any resemblance to actual persons, living or dead, events, or locales is entirely coincidental.

  Copyright © 2013 by Louis Begley 2007 Revocable Trust.

  All rights reserved. Published in the United States by Nan A. Talese / Doubleday, a division of Random House, Inc., New York, and in Canada by Random House of Canada, Limited, Toronto.

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  Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data

  Begley, Louis.

  Memories of a Marriage : a novel / Louis Begley.—First edition.

  pages cm

  1. Autobiographical memory—Fiction. 2. Nineteen fifties—Fiction. 3. Marriage—Fiction. 4. Psychological fiction. I. Title.

  PS3552.E373M46 2013

  813′.54—dc23 2012043331

  eISBN: 978-0-385-53748-3

  v3.1

  For Anka

  All you need is love, love, love is all you need …

  —THE BEATLES

  Contents

  Cover

  Title Page

  Copyright

  Dedication

  Epigraph

  Chapter I

  Chapter II

  Chapter III

  Chapter IV

  Chapter V

  Chapter VI

  Chapter VII

  Chapter VIII

  Chapter IX

  Chapter X

  Chapter XI

  Other Books by This Author

  About the Author

  I

  ONE EVENING IN May 2003, not many days after George W. Bush’s astonishing announcement that the “mission” had been accomplished, I went to the New York State Theater to see a performance by the New York City Ballet company. I had hoped to find an all Jerry Robbins program, and there was, in fact, such a program scheduled for later that month. Unfortunately, the date was inconvenient—I had accepted a dinner invitation from a newly remarried classmate—and I had to settle for a performance that included the official premiere of Guide to Strange Places, one more of Peter Martins’s empty creations. The music by John Adams left me indifferent. If only, I said to myself, Martins had allowed us to go on thinking of him as the magnificent dancer he had been in his prime and being grateful for his management of the company, instead of giving us again and again occasions to deplore his choreography. Unable to concentrate on the movements, brilliantly executed by the cast, that seemed to me to lead to nowhere, I allowed my thoughts to turn to Jerome Robbins. He had been my wife Bella’s and my dear friend, regularly inviting us to rehearsals. We would watch him go over each segment of a ballet tirelessly: scolding, correcting, and cajoling, until a mysterious change, often imperceptible to Bella and me, signaled that the music and the dance had come together and now corresponded to his vision. He would clap his hands, turn to his assistant Victor, and say, That’s it, the kids have got it, let’s go and eat. Jerry was ravenously hungry after rehearsals. We would tag along with him and Victor to Shun Lee, a Chinese restaurant on West Sixty-Fifth Street, where Jerry, so abstemious in daily life, devoured one after another the mild Cantonese dishes that were his favorites. He died in 1998, fifteen years after George Balanchine, and the curtain went down on a great era in ballet history that their work had defined. I was grateful to have seen so much of it while they were still alive, danced by dancers they had formed. Would the company for which they had created so many masterpieces continue to perform them in high style? I hoped it would, at least for the remainder of my years.

  At the intermission, I got a whiskey at the bar and, the weather being mild, went out on the open terrace. The fountain in the center of the plaza had not yet been redesigned and programmed to keep time to a beat as intricate as Fred Astaire’s steps and no easier to decipher, but I liked it anyway and never tired of looking at it. I was bewitched. How wonderful, I said to myself over and over, how glad—really how happy—I am to have come back to live in this city! For much of my life I had dreaded admitting to myself or others that I was happy. To do so, I was certain, was to invite the gods to strike where I was most vulnerable. Not my own person, but Bella or our little Agnes. Alas, the full measure of punishment had already been meted out, leaving me diminished but invulnerable. We had been living between Paris and New York, with longer stays abroad because of Bella’s family, all of whom were there. Soon after the beginning of one of our New York sojourns Agnes was killed—instantaneously—by the falling limb of a tree in Central Park, which also gravely injured the nurse who was taking her home from the Children’s Zoo. Our grief was extreme. Unable to speak about the disaster for two years or more, we suffered in silence and, without need for discussion, concluded that we would not have another child; Agnes’s place could not be taken, and we did not wish to give another hostage to fortune. We stayed away from New York as much as possible, learning to live for each other and for our work. We were hardly ever apart. I am a writer and so was Bella; we designated as our offices two adjoining rooms of every habitation we occupied, whether in New York City or the house on a rocky hillside outside Sharon, Connecticut, I inherited in the fifties from a maiden aunt or the apartment in Paris near the Panthéon.

  Then one winter, which for professional reasons we were spending in New York, Bella, who had never complained of an ache or a pain, who never caught colds or allowed jetlag to upset her sleep pattern, whose digestion triumphed over every cuisine, began to suffer from lingering sniffles and strange little infections; red blotches appeared on her skin. She joked that if either of us were a drug addict sharing needles or sleeping with fellow addicts she would think she had AIDS. But in her case, she said, she had simply been beaten down by the interminable New York winter. I thought she was right. For the first time in our lives we went south in search of the sun, to Barbados, the only appealing island where a place to stay that met our requirements—those indispensable two offices and close proximity to the beach—was immediately available at a price that was not outrageous. The beach house in St. James turned out to be perfect. We worked at our desks starting in the early morning. Before lunch, we luxuriated for an hour or two in the sun and the caressing Caribbean Sea that regaled us with an unending fashion show of fish darting about the coral reef, and then went home for lunch and the postprandial nap that was our moment of choice for making love. Afterward, until late in the evening, we worked again. After a week of this paradisal existence, Bella told me, as we were leaving the lunch table, that for once we would have to rest quietly during our nap. She hurt everywhere and, it seemed to her, particularly down there. She had noticed some strange bleeding. Would I mind? Immediately, I told her that we must book seats on the next available flight to New York and see our family doctor and whomever else he thought appropriate. She refused categorically, insisting that we stay on the island through the remaining two weeks of our lease. There was no reason to sacrifice even one moment of our idyll. It didn’t take long, however, after we returned to the city to learn that there had been reasons aplenty. Bella’s symptoms were those of acute lymphoblastic leukemia that had attacked her bone marrow and was methodically, implacably subverting it. Increasingly draconic treatments would be followed by perhaps a month’s remission. The cycle was repeated over and over, leaving Bella ravaged an
d exhausted, with no hope of cure or longer-lasting remission, according to her hematologist, other than a successful bone marrow transplant. Bella’s only sibling, her older brother, was eager to be the donor. The consanguinity and the resulting near-perfect match of their blood types reduced considerably the risk of rejection. After considering the protocol she would be required to observe following the transplant, and the benefits she could expect, about which she was stubbornly skeptical, Bella decided against the procedure. I don’t believe this cancer will leave my body, and I don’t care about gaining a couple of years, she said. They won’t be good years. We’ve had such a splendid life together. Let’s not settle for one in which I will be so horribly diminished. Neither of us wants that. There was no hiding of the fact that I agreed. With the help of opiates we had saved up she died in my arms, peacefully, some six months later. And what can be said of me? I am on a rack, but I still have my work. I do it conscientiously and modestly for the pleasure it gives me, expecting no other award. And I have my memories. Dante’s Virgil was wrong to tell him that there is no greater sorrow than to remember past happy times when one is in misery. Memory is a solace. Perhaps the only one. Memory is also the best of companions.

  My reverie was interrupted by a voice I knew, although I didn’t immediately identify it, calling out my name: Philip! I turned and saw a tall slim lady in her late sixties or perhaps early seventies, strikingly good looking and turned out in a black suit I attributed to Armani and black pumps. A black pocketbook hung from her shoulder on a gold chain. I blinked as I realized who she was. Many years had passed since I had last seen her. How many I couldn’t immediately calculate. But yes, without doubt, it was she.

  My goodness, the lady continued, what’s the matter with you, don’t you know me? I knew you right away, even with your back turned. Your hair is all white, it’s still cut too short, and your ears still stick out. I had no idea I’d changed so much. For God’s sake, I’m Lucy Snow. Lucy De Bourgh Snow.

  Yielding to irritation because her voice had been much louder than necessary, I replied using Hubert H. Humphrey’s standard response to strangers who introduced themselves while he pumped their hands: Of course you are, and I’m glad to see you.

  Well, I should hope so!

  This was said somewhat sternly.

  What are you doing here? she continued. I thought you’d given up on New York.

  Not in the least, I told her. I’ve been away a good deal, but I’ve never stopped being a New Yorker. This time I’ve come home to stay.

  That’s good news, she said, we will reconnect.

  In rapid order she went on to inform me that she was living in the city but since she still had her place in Little Compton was able to keep one foot in Rhode Island; that both her parents were dead, as was her sister-in-law Edie; that her brother John hadn’t remarried, was living in the big house in Bristol, and took even more seriously than their parents its significance in the history of the state; and that there were many things to catch up about. Thereupon we heard the gong summoning us to our seats. As we separated—she was in the mezzanine and I in the orchestra—she announced she’d look for me at the next intermission.

  I made a sincere effort to pay attention to the goings-on onstage—a Balanchine ballet that was not one of my favorites—but it was no use. I couldn’t stop my mind from wandering. Good heavens, Lucy! I wasn’t sure that I had seen her more than once or twice after her and Thomas’s divorce, and that would have been in the late seventies. Possibly in the early eighties. In fact, it seemed likely that the only times I had given her any thought must have been when I saw Thomas, alone or with his new wife, which I had done with some frequency, and inevitably when I read Thomas’s obituary. Other than the obituary, it all seemed desperately long ago. Lucy could have been one of those Radcliffe, Smith, or Vassar girls of good family who came to New York in the 1950s after college in search of a husband or the dream job. You met them at a cocktail party given by somebody’s aunt or godmother. They were mostly attractive—Lucy had been, depending on the angle from which you saw her, a great beauty or a jolie laide—and if conjugal bliss and raising the perfect family in Bronxville, Scarsdale, or Morristown was not their principal immediate object, they wanted to write. In the meantime, they were looking for a job in book publishing or at Time, LIFE, or the Saturday Evening Post. Unfortunately, the men who dispensed such jobs thought that girls of their sort were best suited to answering the phone and bringing coffee. A good way to break out of the stereotype and escape was to go to work instead for a fashion magazine. That’s what Lucy did. A couple of years after Sylvia Plath’s stint there, she competed successfully for a summer job as guest editor at Mademoiselle, went back to Radcliffe for her senior year, and after graduation proved once again clever or lucky. She wangled a year’s internship at the Paris Vogue, a posting that must have made the aspiring writers and journalists among her classmates break out in hives from envy.

  Lucy was apparently special in other ways as well—at least in the context of the early 1950s. A man I played squash with twice a week, at the Harvard Club when I invited and at his grand Park Avenue club when it was his turn, had remained a regular on the debutante party circuit. He had been at the ball the De Bourghs gave for Lucy at their mansion the summer before she started at Radcliffe and had kept up with her during the New York season that followed, at the Junior Assemblies and every other conceivable venue, apparently including some he didn’t care to specify. She was ravishing, a knockout, he told me, she electrified every stag line and would have easily been the debutante of the year if it hadn’t been for rumors about the unfortunate business at Miss Porter’s just as she was due to graduate. She’d gone AWOL—according to the account he’d heard she’d shimmied down a rope from her dormitory window—and was discovered sleeping off a bender at a Howard Johnson’s outside Farmington. Her swain had already departed, and she refused to reveal his name to the police or the headmistress or even her parents. Mr. De Bourgh pulled strings and wrote a big check so that she was allowed to graduate, and he and Mrs. De Bourgh went ahead with the party. Whether they held their noses was an open question, since the invitations had been sent out and it would have been a bigger embarrassment to cancel. My squash partner made these revelations as we rested in his club’s locker room after an arduous match. In keeping with the atmosphere of the place, he added a personal testimonial: She fucks like a maenad. A snooty maenad!

  Paris was where I got to know her well. At first we’d only run into each other at American embassy functions. Ambassador Dillon and his successor, Amory Houghton, had been at school with her father; they made a point of looking after her. Later she began to invite me to the elegant little dinner parties she gave at her apartment on rue Casimir-Perier, a short walk from place du Palais Bourbon, where Vogue had its office at the time. Then one thing led to another. There were many young American students and expats in Paris at the time. The strong dollar made luxuries affordable. Lunch for two at Lapérouse, with a decent bottle of wine, set one back, after a generous tip, perhaps twelve dollars. The war in Algeria had not yet heated up, and the lure of the intellectual and literary life in Paris was at a zenith, stoked by the reputations and powerful personalities of Sartre, Simone de Beauvoir, and Camus, as well as the vogue for existentialism and French cinema. Lucy stood out among the Americans of her age. As is well known, the very rich are different from the rest of us: they possess and enjoy early and are convinced that they are better than we. Lucy wasn’t very rich herself, but the aura of historical importance and wealth that surrounded her was unmistakable. Her forebears, the eighteenth-century De Bourghs, had been well-to-do ship owners in Bristol, Rhode Island. The one who was her direct ancestor, James De Bourgh, had commanded a ship before he was twenty; during the War of 1812 he was a dreaded privateer on the American side; after a career in Rhode Island state politics he became a U.S. senator. His huge fortune, consolidated through cotton manufacturing, had been earned in the slave trade; w
hen he died in the late 1830s he was said to be the richest man in Rhode Island and possibly the second-richest man in the country. I suppose it was John Jacob Astor who beat him out for the first place, but I’ve never taken the trouble to confirm my hunch. Although by the time I met Lucy, the De Bourgh saga was hardly known to anyone who wasn’t an American history buff, and even I, who qualified as such, had initially had only a sketchy recollection that there had once existed an important De Bourgh, I had perforce become familiar with it. One simply couldn’t spend much time with Lucy and not hear about James De Bourgh and his Rhode Island contemporaries and rivals, the far-better-known brothers John and Moses Brown. She inveighed against the gradual frittering away of the De Bourgh fortune under the stewardship of James’s descendants, among the more feckless of whom she counted her own father, and American trade policies she blamed for the collapse of New England textile mills in the 1920s, which her grandfather and his brothers had failed to anticipate, but so far as she was concerned her family’s glow had not been diminished. Besides, as she used to say, losing your shirt is a relative concept. Everything depends on how many shirts you have left. We’ve still got many to go.

  She astonished me by turning down the junior editor’s job in New York that the magazine offered her at the end of the internship. Living in New York, she said, wasn’t for her. Instead, she went home for the summer in order to get in some good tennis, she said, and in the fall returned to Paris, her apartment, and her dinner parties. After one of them, while we were having a nightcap, I asked what she planned to do now that she was back.

  To live! she answered breezily. To dare to live!

  She expatiated on that concept in the course of subsequent conversations. Wasn’t she an heiress of all the ages, duty bound to take full advantage of her education—she had a comically high opinion of her Radcliffe degree in Romance languages and literature—and above all her freedom? Family trusts, though hardly as ample as they might once have been, allowed her to carry on the way she did. Why take a job she didn’t need or particularly want and, coincidentally, deprive someone to whom it might make a real difference?