The Expatriates
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It is also, she tells herself, because she finds herself already too surrounded by people who depend on her. Given fifteen minutes in the same room, Puri will tell her of her family in the Philippines and their various medical ailments, their debts, their divorces, all of which Puri—and, by implication, Hilary—is responsible for. Puri will weep and all but rend her clothes. Their lives in that country are operatic: epic tales of affairs and jail time and abandoned children and mistresses and sickness and thirteen-hour bus rides. Hilary adjusts her bangles and makes sympathetic noises, but she cannot understand what Puri is talking about. She pays Puri triple the usual rate and hopes that recuses her from further responsibility. Puri is short, squat, with a farmer’s build. She is not honest, but she is clever, and from what the expatriate women say, you cannot have both.
Puri bangs around when Hilary is in the kitchen, asks loudly what she is looking for. She cannot stand to have intruders on her territory. She inhales sharply over Hilary’s cooking, signaling her complete disbelief that someone can have so few skills. The ma’am is not supposed to cook.
And Sam. Sam, the driver. Sam is a trial: proud and angry and a ruinously bad driver. He has dented their car twice, parking, and rear-ended someone at a red light. But she cannot fire him. He has not done anything really bad, she tells David, who shakes his head at her indecision. If I ran my office the way you run this house, he says before he leaves for the morning. The statement lingers. What would happen? she thinks. What would happen?
When Julian came into their lives, the few people they told assumed they were going to adopt him. And she thought so too. Once she and David took him out for dim sum on the weekend, an awkward outing, both parties not knowing how to move it forward, how to take the next step, paralyzed by the notion that it might be a mistake from which they would never recover. She cannot understand all the other families around her, the ones who add to their families with such single-minded, deliberate simplicity and assurance.
“I just knew,” they say. “As soon as I walked into the orphanage and saw Mei, as soon as I did, I knew that she was mine. She looked at me and I looked at her and we both knew.”
“How?” she wants to ask them. “How did you know?”
But, of course, no one ever asks that. They tell their stories all in the same way: how they filled out their applications and waited and waited, the sudden call, the hastily booked flight, the anonymous hotel room they bring their new child to, the formula bought on the fly. The children never cry, because it never did them any good in the orphanage. Then they have tantrums. These adoptive parents have a network, and they help one another. They know their children when they see them.
They seem wholeheartedly good in a way that she cannot understand, because she is in some way bad, or selfish, or ignorant, or unwilling to believe, because she cannot recognize her child when she sees him. They believe her to be one of them, but she is not.
“You’ll know,” they say.
So she looks at Julian and tries to know. But all she can see is the questions. What if he hates her? What if he tries to run away? What if he has some genetic disease that will waste him away before he turns thirteen? What if—and this is the big one—what if she can’t love him? She knows these are selfish questions, not the kind she is supposed to be asking. She is supposed to care about his well-being, about how his life will be, but she cannot shake off her commitment to herself. Sometimes she thinks that is what the nine months are for, so that women can get to know the person inside them, that it is a mingling at first of self and child, and then after the baby is born, that is when you can become the selfless, generous mother you are supposed to be. She doesn’t have that yet, she thinks. Maybe nine months of getting to know him is what she needs.
And then, just when she and David seemed to be moving to some sort of decision, there was a spate of articles in the paper about a family who was essentially giving up their adopted child. Facts were murky and hard to come by, but the family was Dutch, and the child, Chinese. They had adopted him about three years ago, and they wanted to give him back. There were outraged letters to the editor, saying that adopting a child was not like buying a pair of pants—you couldn’t return him when he didn’t fit. There were racial overtones, of course, the privileged white minority and the beleaguered local community.
She read each day’s developments with a heightening sense of dread. She was implicated in this, she knew it. There was some lesson being taught, but she didn’t know what it was. Was what they were doing worse than this family? They were essentially trying out Julian, without adopting him, bringing him home, interacting with him, seeing if this could work. At brunch at the American Club, a woman brought it up, quite aggressively, and so now she doesn’t mention it anymore. Another thing to be ashamed about.
David lets her drive the process. He is supportive enough, but she knows he thinks she is being crazy about the whole thing, that it will just happen if they relax. Or that they can adopt. He is noncommittal about either situation, which seems to her a strange reaction to something so momentous, but she doesn’t push him on it. He seems to dissolve into the workday and come back spent. Whether they’re driving to a restaurant or taking turns in the shower in the morning, the complaints and discontents of their marriage have reached a granular level that surprises her with its mundane primacy: He never recaps the toothpaste; he never lets her know his schedule, then acts surprised when she is not available or is miffed when there’s nothing for him to eat. They bother her in a deep, distant way, as if they are coming from far, far away. Marriages are mysteries to everyone, she supposes, most of all to the people in them, if they are not paying attention.
Hilary sits and waits for her friend—her chronically late friend, who has told her she needs to see her—so that they can have lunch. She sits and waits at the table, seeing the white surface of it made gold by the light, with the sounds of shouting children and bursts of laughter and women’s chatter surrounding her, and wonders how she can feel so closed off from it all, how she feels as if she’s in an echo chamber, apart from everyone else, excised from the collective experience of a cool winter afternoon.
But she remembers. She remembers having moments when she felt lifted with gratitude. It was dizzyingly gratifying to feel that you wanted nothing more than what you had at that moment: a hot latte with a full head of foam, and a newspaper filled with facts you were about to learn, a man sitting next to you who wanted to be there. Those moments are there in her past, glimmering like small flames in the far, far dark of her memories. Maybe she has to go back to go forward to get there again. Maybe that’s what she needs to do.
Olivia arrives, finally. Forty minutes late.
She is Chinese, striking.
“Hello, darling,” she says. Never an apology for being late. People wait for Olivia. She takes off her sunglasses and waves them around. “Nice day for December, isn’t it? I love that you can sit outside in Hong Kong year-round. Nowhere like it.” The sky is crisp and blue, the blue-green sea meeting it in a flat line. She is wearing tan wool trousers and a brown chunky-knit sweater.
“It’s wonderful today.”
“Let’s get some drinks.” She waves her hand to the waiter. “Hello, Kevin,” she says. “Chrysanthemum tea.”
Hilary asked Olivia once why she didn’t speak Cantonese to the staff. Her English is perfect but stiff, as if she is elocuting, not talking.
“I do when I’m with family and other Chinese,” Olivia had said, surprised. “I’m with you, and I think it would be impolite.”
“Like you were talking about me to them or something?”
“I suppose,” she said. “I haven’t really thought about why, just do it naturally. Sometimes I don’t even know what I’m speaking unless someone comments on it.”
The tea comes, and Olivia pours Hilary her cup first. This is something Hilary loves, how everyone is so polite here at
the table. They serve others the choice bits first, would never dream of eating before a guest, never drink the last of the wine, fight to pay the bill. An admirable trait of Asian culture, but then you are horrified when you go back to the United States and it’s a free-for-all and every man for himself.
“My mother would faint, us sitting outside,” Olivia says. “She always says that you should retain warmth. After I had Dorothy, she didn’t let me go outside for a month, literally. You know, the confinement period, when they make you eat foul broths and teas and you can’t wash your hair.”
“This is for you,” Hilary says, and gives her a shopping bag tied with red ribbon. “Belated birthday. Open it later, though. I hate it when people open presents in front of me.”
Olivia is a citizen of the world, one of those effortlessly cosmopolitan people. She has lived in London, New York, Paris, but prefers Hong Kong to all else. She has been to every restaurant, every spa, every good hotel. She can hold forth on where to get the best massage in Morocco, a good driver in Italy, a yoga teacher in Bali.
She is not beautiful; she is sophisticated looking, with good bones, matte skin, perfectly arched eyebrows, long, thin fingers that are always buffed and filed, nothing as vulgar as nail polish. “I do think all those women who spend all that time getting manicures are insane,” she once said to Hilary, who burst out laughing. “But you spend so much time on grooming!” she said. “Your haircuts, your clothes, tailoring your clothes.”
Olivia just blinked, unmoving. “I do not,” she said simply. “That is different.”
Hilary admires her a great deal. Olivia’s very presence seems to suggest that alternatives exist.
“So I went to Burberry this morning because I had to pick up something that had been altered, and a shopgirl was there who used to help me at another boutique—you know the salesgirls move around a lot. She had just done a stint over at Tsim Sha Tsui at the Louis Vuitton, and she told me the most screamingly funny stories!”
This was another Hong Kong peculiarity. Olivia is Chinese, local-born and bred, went to a Cantonese girls’ school and then to the American school before college in California with Hilary. Yet she has English mannerisms and speech.
“Like?”
“You know, no one we know ever shops over there, it’s all for the mainland people. Have you ever been over there? Nathan Road, Canton Road, Tsim Sha Tsui, with all the big luxury boutiques?”
“No, I barely buy that stuff over here.”
“But she said it’s like a zoo. There are children having tantrums, eating McDonald’s, licking the mirrors! She said once she went in to clean a dressing room and someone had peed on the floor! Peed! They’re really animals!”
Hong Kong people are like the landed gentry in England, beset by pesky, redolent immigrants, Hilary thinks. People like Olivia are disdainful of their mainland counterparts, who sweep over the border in overwhelming numbers with their fat wallets and arriviste ways. She makes fun of how they buy up baby formula and Ferrero Rocher in enormous quantities—these have become currency in the mainland for some reason—and thinks of them as not quite people.
But it seems Olivia wants to talk to her about something else.
“So I wanted to ask you something,” she says, bringing the cup of tea up to her lips.
“What?” Hilary asks.
Olivia puts the cup down.
“If you knew something about a friend, something that was important, would you tell her, even though it might hurt her?”
Hilary looks at her. Olivia is fiddling now with the fork, unable to look up. It is odd to see the unflappable Olivia visibly nervous.
“What kind of thing?” she says slowly.
“You know, important stuff. Stuff that might change their lives.”
“Is it,” Hilary says slowly, “to do with me?”
“Yes.”
“I don’t know,” Hilary says. “I don’t know.”
There is a pause.
“I think you should know,” Olivia says gently.
Hilary looks away, at the horizon, where the sea meets the sky. She makes a decision and looks up at the kind eyes of her friend.
“Not today, please,” she says, making the kind of statement that makes her wonder if she knows who she is anymore. “I can’t hear anything life-changing today. I have a dinner party tonight.”
When she gets back home, the salad she somehow managed to eat a jumble in her stomach and mind, Julian is gone, and Puri is furiously chopping something in the kitchen, and the table is already set, ready for the caterer. She is having a dinner party, but she doesn’t really have anything to do. She thinks of the tired jokes that Hong Kong housewives make, when complimented on their food at dinner parties: “Thank you, it’s homemade—meaning made in my house,” or “Thank you, I’m a great supervisor.”
She wants a drink, but it’s only three in the afternoon. Puri is in the kitchen, so she goes in and makes herself a vodka tonic, trying to seem like it’s perfectly normal to mix yourself a cocktail in the afternoon.
The fact is, the helpers see everything. They see the fights, they see the messiness. They hear the arguments, are witness to the silent, toxic aftermath as they pour the coffee and clear the breakfast plates. They know which vase got thrown, because they clean it up in the morning. They know when sir gets a call from a strange woman with an unknown, hesitant voice, or comes in at 3:00 a.m. when the ma’am is in America, or when the teenage children throw a party when their parents are out of town and hand them $500 to “clean up” and keep their mouth shut. They know so much.
So why does she care? Hilary ponders this as she goes to her desk and takes her first sip. Ah, that warm thrum of the alcohol traveling down your body and hitting your stomach. She doesn’t care so much, it’s just that you can’t walk around naked or eat peanut butter standing in front of the fridge in front of someone who’s not your family. That’s the price you pay for having live-in help. Boo hoo. Poor her.
Hilary sips at her drink and wonders how many calories she is taking in. It’s not the alcohol she’s worried about: It’s that she is always looser, more lenient with herself after a few drinks. A small bag of potato chips, a slice of cake out of the fridge. It all adds up.
Her body, her body, her body. This is what she thinks about at night, lying on the sheets, after David has gone to sleep and she can hear him breathing. She imagines her old fat distributed uncomfortably over her, lying, puddlelike, on her bones.
She is thin now, but in an unnatural way, with pudgy arms and thighs that would not slim down no matter what she did. But she has kept off the weight for thirty years, something her mother praised her for. After her childhood episode with being the fat girl, she made herself be uninterested in food. Ate to live, didn’t live to eat. Nothing tastes as good as thin feels—isn’t that what the ads said? David once came across photos of her as a child, and he couldn’t believe how big she had been, even though she had been a little girl and still cute, though she could tell he didn’t think so. In college, she read a story by Andre Dubus about a fat girl who lost weight, got married to someone who worked for her father, and got fat again, and then the husband found her disgusting. She read it fast, furious, her face hot. She threw it down as soon as she finished, as if it were pornographic. In class, she didn’t participate in the discussion, as if to do so would let others see what she had been. She saw herself in that story but didn’t like to think about what that meant. Of course, she would never let herself get fat again.
The thing was, she and David had never fit. They were mismatched. She had never known why he asked her out. When she saw photographs of his ex-girlfriends, they were sharp-cheeked blondes with shallow blue eyes, mean-looking brunettes in small, tight dresses. She asked him once, early on in their relationship, “Am I a different kind of girl for you?” and he replied, not without affection, “You’re the kind o
f girl I marry.”
He was handsome, in a seamless sort of way, especially in a suit. He was better looking than most of the other guys she had dated. She had not had a very serious boyfriend before him. Everything had just fallen into place. Right time, right guy, right age. And now they have been married for ten years.
They are having the dinner tonight for a new person at David’s firm, someone who just made partner in San Francisco and then was relocated here. David told her that the promotion had been contingent on the understanding that the man relocate his family to Hong Kong for at least three years. Having been here so long, Hilary doesn’t understand why anyone is reluctant to come to Hong Kong, with all its advantages. There’s also an old friend of David’s, from California, who is passing through with his wife, another couple from Tai Tam, and the Reades. A comfortable mix of people.
The menu: Three canapés: sesame salmon tartare in phyllo tarts, Peking Duck spring rolls, mini cheese quiches for the vegetarians—vegans had an obligation to declare themselves in advance. Then a chicory salad with roasted garlic and goat cheese tumbles, and the main course: Chilean sea bass with an olive tapenade and mashed turnip, cappellini primavera for the vegetarians. For dessert, warm caramel tart with burnt-sugar ice cream and coffee or tea. A nice Italian pinot grigio and a red cabernet from Australia. Leafing through menus at her desk, she often floats above herself and sees the woman she’s become, eerily similar to her own mother, someone she thought she would never be. She knows that canapés have to be easily eaten in one bite, knows how much and what kind of wine to order for different crowds, has different sets of china and linens to set different moods.
The money has always come from the women in the family. Real estate, so quaint an industry in new-age San Francisco, but all those tech titans needed office space and places to live. It seemed quite natural to have David sign a prenup. “It’s the family custom,” she said at the time, nervous. It was true. Her father had signed one as well. Of course, her father had gone on to make his own fortune in real estate, then technology investments. “You should be so lucky,” her mother said. She had sized up David pretty well when they first met for lunch at a pier-side restaurant. “He knows how to eat an oyster, at least,” she said after he’d gone to the bathroom. She had always been a snob.