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The eighties were a decade when it was kind of unusual to have a baby. Oh, the lower classes still had them with more or less gusto, but professionals did not. Having a baby was indeed so quaintly rebellious and remarkable that a publishing niche was developed for men writing about babies, their baby, their baby’s first year in which every single day was recorded (he slept through the night . . . he didn’t sleep through the night . . .). The writers would marvel over the size of their infant’s scrotum; give advice on how to tip the obstetrician (not a case of booze, a clock from Tiffany’s is nicer); and confess that their baby exhibited intelligent behavior like rolling over, laughing, and showing fascination with the TV screen far earlier than normal children. Aside from the talk about the poopie and the rashes and the cat’s psychological decline, these books frequently contained a passage, an overheard bit of Mommy-to-Baby monologue along these lines: I love you so much I don’t ever want you to have teeth or stand up or walk or go on dates or get married, I want you to stay right here with me and be my baby. . . . Babies are one thing. Human beings are another. We have way too many human beings. Almost everyone knows this.
Adoption was an eighties thing. People flying to Chile, Russia, Guatemala, all over the globe, returning triumphantly with their BABY. It was difficult, adventurous, expensive, and generous. It was trendy then. People were into adopting bunches of babies of all different cultures, one of each. Adoption was a fad, just like the Cabbage Patch dolls, which fed the fad to tens of thousands of prepubescent girl consumers.
Now it is absolutely necessary to digress for a moment and provide an account of that marketing phenomenon. These fatuous-faced soft-sculpture dolls were immensely popular in the eighties. The gimmick was that the dolls were “born,” you couldn’t just buy the damn things. If you wanted one, you had to “adopt” it. Today they are still being born and adopted, although at a slower rate, in Babyland General Hospital, a former medical clinic right on the fast-food and car-dealership strip in the otherwise unexceptional north Georgia town of Cleveland. There are several rooms at Babyland General. One of them is devoted to the preemies (all snug in their little gowns, each in its own spiffy incubator), and another is devoted to the cabbage patch itself, a suggestive mound with a fake tree on it from which several times a day comes the announcement CABBAGE IN LABOR! A few demented moments later, a woman in full nurse regalia appears from a door in the tree holding a brand-new Cabbage Patch Kid by the feet and giving it a little whack on the bottom. All around her in the fertile patch are happy little soft heads among the cabbages. Each one of these things costs $175, and you have to sign papers promising to care for it and treasure it forever. There are some cheesy dolls in boxes that you wouldn’t have to adopt, but children don’t want those—they want to sign on the line, want the documentation, the papers. The dolls are all supposed to be different, but they certainly look identical. They’ve got tiny ears, big eyes, a pinched rictus of a mouth, and lumpy little arms and legs. The colors of the cloth vary for racial verisimilitude, but their expressions are the same. They’re glad to be here, and they expect everything.
But these are just dolls, of course. The real adopted babies who rode the wave of fashion into many hiply caring homes are children now, an entirely different kettle of fish, and though they may be providing (just as they were supposed to) great joy, they are not darling babies anymore. A baby is not really a child; a baby is a BABY, a cuddleball, representative of virility, wombrismo, and humankind’s unquenchable wish to outfox Death.
Adoptive parents must feel dreadfully dated these days. Adoption—how foolishly sweet, so kind of naive. With adopted babies, you just don’t know, it’s too much of a crap shoot. Oh, they told you that the father was an English major at Yale and that the mother was a brilliant mathematician and harpsichordist who was just not quite ready to juggle career and child, but what are you going to think when the baby turns into a kid who is trying to drown the dog and set national parks on fire? Adoptive parents do their best, of course, at least as far as their liberal genes allow; they look into the baby’s background, they don’t want just any old baby (even going to the dog and cat pound, you’d want to pick and choose, right?); they want a pleasant, healthy one, someone who will appreciate the benefits of a nice environment and respond to a nurturing and attentive home. They steer away (I mean, one has to be realistic, one can’t save the world) from the crack and smack babies, the physically and mentally handicapped babies, the HIV and fetal-alcohol syndrome babies.
Genes matter, more and more, and adoption is just too . . . where’s the connection? Not a single DNA strand to call your own. Adoption signifies that you didn’t do everything you could; you were too cheap or shy or lacked the imagination to go the energetic fertility route, which, when successful, would come with the assurance that some part of the Baby or Babies would be a continuation of you, or at the very least your companion, loved one, partner, whatever.
I once prevented a waitress from taking away my martini glass, which had a tiny bit of martini remaining in it, and she snarled, “Oh, the precious liquid,” before slamming it back down on the table. It’s true that I probably imagined that there was more martini in the glass than there actually was (what on earth could have happened to it all?), but the precious liquid remark brings unpleasantly to mind the reverent regard in which so many people hold themselves. Those eggs, that sperm, oh precious, precious stuff! There was a terrible fright among humankind recently when some scientists suggested that an abundance of synthetic chemicals was causing lower sperm counts in human males—awful, awful, awful—but this proves not to be the case; sperm counts are holding steady and are even on the rise in New York. Los Angeles males don’t fare as well (do they drink more water than beer?), nor do the Chinese, who, to add insult to insult, are further found to have smaller testicles, a finding that will undoubtedly result in even more wildlife mutilation in the quest for aphrodisiacs. Synthetic chemicals do “adversely affect” the reproductive capabilities of nonhuman creatures (fish, birds), but that is considered relatively unimportant. It’s human sperm that’s held in high regard, and in this overpopulated age it’s become more valuable—good sperm, that is, from intelligent, athletic men who don’t smoke, drink, do drugs, have AIDS or a history of homicide—because this overpopulated age is also the donor age. Donor sperm, donor womb, donor eggs. Think of all the eggs that are lost to menstruation every month. The mind boggles. Those precious, precious eggs, lost. (Many egg donors say they got into the business because they didn’t like the idea of their eggs “going to waste.”) They can be harvested instead and frozen for a rainy day or sold nice and fresh. One woman interviewed in the New York Times has made it something of a career. I’m not going to just sit home and bake cookies for my kids. I can accomplish things, she says. No dreary nine-to-five desk job for her. She was a surrogate mother for one couple, dishing up a single baby; then she donated some eggs to another couple, who had a baby; now she’s pregnant with twins for yet another couple. I feel like a good soldier, as if God said to me, ‘Hey, girl, I’ve done a lot for you, and now I want you to do something for Me,’ this entrepreneurial breeder says. (It’s sort of cute to hear God invoked, sort of for luck, or out of a lingering folksy superstition.) Egg donors are regular Jenny Appleseeds, spreading joy, doing the Lord’s work, and earning a few bucks all at once, as well as attaining an odd sense of empowerment (I’ve got a bunch of kids out there, damned if I know who they all are . . .).
One of the most successful calendars published each year is Anne Geddes’s BABIES. Each month shows the darling little things on leaves in the rhubarb patch, cupped in a tulip, as little bees in a honeycomb, and so on—solemn, bright-eyed babies. They look a little bewildered though, and why shouldn’t they? How did they get here? They were probably mixed up in a dish. Donor eggs (vacuumed up carefully through long needles); Daddy’s sperm (maybe . . . or maybe just some high-powered NYC dude’s); gestational carrier; the “real” mommy waiting anxiously,
restlessly on the sidelines (want to get those babies home, start buying them stuff). Baby’s lineage can be a little complicated in this one big worldwebby family. With the help of drugs like Clomid and Metrodin and Perganol there are an awful lot of eggs out there these days—all being harvested by those rich and clever, clever doctors in a “simple procedure” and nailed with bull’s-eye accuracy by a spermatozoon. One then gets to “choose” among the resulting cell clumps (or the doctor gets to choose; he’s the one who knows about these things), and a number of them (for optimum success) are inserted into the womb, sometimes the mother’s womb and sometimes not. These fertilized eggs, unsurprisingly, often result in multiple possibilities, which can be decreased by “selective reduction.” They’re not calendar babies yet, they’re embryos, and it is at this point, the multiple-possibility point, that the mother-to-be often gets a little overly ecstatic, even greedy, thinking ahead perhaps to the day when they’re not babies any longer, the day when they’ll be able to amuse themselves by themselves like a litter of kittens or something—if there’s a bunch of them all at once, there’ll be no need to go through that harrowing process of finding appropriate playmates for them. She starts to think, Nannies probably don’t charge that much more for three than for two, or Heaven knows we’ve got enough money or we wouldn’t have gotten into all this in the first place. And many women at the multiple-possibility point, after having gone through pretty much all the meddling and hubris that biomedical technology has come up with, say demurely, I don’t want to play God (I DON’T WANT TO PLAY GOD?) or It would be grotesque to snuff one out to improve the odds for the others or Whatever will be will be.
So triplets happen, quads and quints and sextuplets, even septuplets. That Iowa fellow, that billing clerk at the Chevy dealership, Kevin McCaughey? said, God could have given us one, but God decided to give us seven. Well . . . not exactly. Mrs. McC (or rather Mrs. McC’s ovaries) clearly overreacted to the drug she was administered, at which point Mr. McC’s sperm could have been sensibly withheld and added into the mix in another month when, dosage adjusted, fewer eggs would have been produced. But, too late for that now, they’re here—Brandon and Alexis and Natalie and Kelsey and Kenneth and . . . and . . . I forget—going through 350 diapers a week. And as soon as they—and all the other multiples too, even the less prestigious single baby—are old enough to toddle into day care, you can be assured that they’ll be responsibly taught the importance of their one and only Earth, taught the 3Rs: Reduce, Reuse, Recycle. Too many people (which is frequently considered undesirable—gimme my space!) is caused by too many people (it’s only logical), but it’s mean to blame the babies, you can’t blame the babies, they’re innocent. Those poor bean counters at the United Nations Population Fund say that at current growth rates, the world will double its population in forty years. Overpopulation poses the greatest threat to all life on earth, but most organizations concerned with this problem don’t like to limit their suggestions to the most obvious one—DON’T HAVE A BABY!—because it sounds so negative. Instead, they provide additional, more positive tips for easing the pressures on our reeling environment, such as car pooling and tree planting. (A portion of the proceeds from that adorable best-selling BABIES calendar goes to the Arbor Day Foundation for the planting of trees.)
Some would have it that not having a baby is disallowing a human life, horribly inappropriate in this world of rights. Everyone has rights; the unborn have rights; it follows that the unconceived have rights. (Think of all those babies pissed off at the fact that they haven’t even been thought of yet.) Women have the right to have babies (we’ve fought so hard for this), and women who can’t have babies have an even bigger right to have them. These rights should be independent of marital or economic status, or age. (Fifty- and sixty-something moms tend to name their babies after the gynecologist.) The reproduction industry wants fertility treatments to be available to anyone and says that it wouldn’t all be so expensive if those recalcitrant insurance companies and government agencies like Medicare and Medicaid weren’t so cost-conscious and discriminatory and would just cough up the money. It’s not as though you have to take out a permit to have a baby, be licensed or anything. What about the rights of a poor, elderly, feminist cancer patient who is handicapped in some way (her car has one of those stickers . . .) who wants to assert her right to independent motherhood and feels entitled to both artificial insemination into a gestational “hostess” and the right to sex selection as a basis for abortion should the fetus turn out to be male when she wants a female? Huh? What about her? Or what about the fifteen-year-old of the near future who kind of wants to have her baby even though it means she’ll be stuck with a kid all through high school and won’t be able to go out with her friends anymore who discovers through the wonders of amniocentesis and DNA analysis that the baby is going to turn out fat, and the fifteen-year-old just can’t deal with fat and shouldn’t have to . . . ? Out goes the baby with the bathwater.
But these scenarios are involved merely with messy political or ethical issues, the problematical, somewhat gross byproducts of technological and marketing advances. Let the philosophers and professional ethicists puzzle over this and let the baby business boom. Let the courts figure it out. Each day brings another more pressing problem. Implanted with their weak-cervixed daughter’s eggs and their son-in-law’s sperm, women became pregnant with their own grandchildren; frozen embryos are inadvertently thawed; eggs are pirated; eggs are harvested from aborted fetuses; divorced couples battle over the fate of cryopreserved material. “We have to have better regulation of the genetic product—eggs, sperm, and embryos—so we can legally determine who owns what,” a professor of law and medicine at a California university says plaintively. (Physicians tend to oppose more regulation, however, claiming that it would impede research.)
While high-tech nations are refining their options eugenically and quibbling litigiously, the inhabitants of low-tech countries are just having babies. The fastest growth in human numbers in all history is going to take place in a single generation, an increase of almost five billion people (all of whom started out as babies). Ninety-seven percent of the surge is going to take place in developing countries, with Africa alone accounting for 35 percent of it (the poorer the country, the higher the birth rate, that’s just the way it is). These babies are begotten in more “traditional,” doubtless less desperate ways, and although they are not considered as fashion statements, they’re probably loved just as much as upper-class western babies (or that singular one-per-family Chinese boy baby) and are even considered productive assets when they get a little older and can labor for the common good of their large families by exploiting more and more, scarcer and scarcer resources.
The argument that western countries with their wealth and relatively low birth rate do not fuel the population crisis is, of course, fallacious. France, as national policy, urges its citizens to procreate, giving lots of subsidies and perks to those French who make more French. The US population is growing faster than that of eighteen other industrialized nations, and, in terms of energy consumption, when an American couple stops spawning at two babies, it’s the same as an average East Indian couple stopping at sixty-six, or an Ethiopian couple drawing the line at one thousand.
Yet we burble along, procreating. We’re in a baby glut, yet it’s as if we’ve just discovered babies, or invented them. Reproduction is sexy. Assisted reproduction is cool. The announcement that a movie star is going to have a baby is met with breathless wonder. A BABY! Old men on their third marriage regard their new babies with “awe” and crow about the “ultimate experience” of parenting.
It’s as though, all together, in the waning years of the dying century, we collectively opened the Door of our Home and instead of seeing a friend standing there in some sweet spring twilight, someone we had invited over for drinks and dinner and a lovely civilized chat, there was Death, with those creepy little black seeds of his for planting in the garden. And along with De
ath we got a glimpse of ecological collapse and the coming anarchy of an over-peopled planet. And we all, in denial of this unwelcome vision, decided to slam the door and retreat to our toys and make babies—those heirs, those hopes, those products of our species’ selfishness, sentimentality, and global death wish.
Cats
I WAS ON A SWAN HELLENIC EDUCATIONAL CRUISE, #447, which had as its subject the Byzantine Empire, and I was frightfully lacking in comprehension of just about everything. On the second day I went to the ship’s library and began reading about Constantinople. I soon became distraught about the fall of the Byzantine Empire. It had happened on a Tuesday. Those fascinating people! That beautiful city! Those awful crusaders, those greedy Venetians. . . . I read on and on about the triumphant Turks, their baths and harems and eunuchs. They were always drowning people in the Bosphorus or gouging out the eyes of their relatives. There was also much garroting. The palace mutes and dwarves were supposed to be excellent manicurists. . . . Days followed nights, and I was still engrossed with the Ottomans as our elderly ship Orpheus (plucky, but doomed to be scrap the following season) close-cruised Mt. Athos. The cruise had barely begun, and I was already badly off in my timing. Even so, the monasteries, which looked like sprawling failed resorts built against the cliffs, were pretty fascinating and the close-cruising was accompanied by a thrillingly erudite deck talk by one of the lecturers. Women are not allowed on the Holy Island, although it was all the Virgin Mary’s idea. Not even female animals are allowed, no goats or chickens or cows or sheep, the reason for this being . . . being . . . that female animals require too much care or time, time that the monks would more wisely spend in prayer.