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5. Rohr and Ebert, The Enneagram, 33.
6. Ibid., xii–xiii; type descriptions for the nine types given here (e.g., “the need to be perfect”).
7. Riso and Hudson, The Wisdom of the Enneagram, 75.
8. Available at the Enneagram Institute’s website: www.enneagraminstitute.com.
9. Richard Rohr, Everything Belongs: The Gift of Contemplative Prayer (New York: Crossroad Publishing Company, 1999), 75.
10. I like the reflection questions for each type in David Daniels and Virginia Price’s book The Essential Enneagram: The Definitive Personality Test and Self-Discovery Guide (New York: HarperOne, 2000).
11. The VIM method in a nutshell:
Vision: First, you need to catch the vision of where you could go, of who you could be if you changed. What would that person look like? Picture it in your mind’s eye.
Intention: Commit to the process. Willard calls this our “intention.” You must decide that you truly intend to change and are willing to do what it takes to make that happen. In theory, this is the simplest step, although getting to the point where you’re ready to change is anything but easy. For effective change to happen, you have to decide to do it.
Methods: Finally, you must determine methods, or practices, that will make this change possible. For Willard, this often meant the classic spiritual disciplines: reading, prayer, reflection, worship, solitude.
12. Daniels and Price, The Essential Enneagram, 80–109; these pages contain an in-depth examination of what the 4As look like for each Enneagram type.
13. Riso and Hudson, The Wisdom of the Enneagram, 35.
14. Don Richard Riso and Russ Hudson, Discovering Your Personality Type: The Essential Introduction to the Enneagram (New York: Houghton Mifflin Company, 2003), 87.
Chapter 10 Your Personality Is Not Your Destiny
1. Christopher J. Soto, Oliver P. John, Samuel D. Gosling, and Jeff Potter, “Age Differences in Personality Traits from 10 to 65. Big Five Domains and Facets in a Large Cross-Sectional Sample,”Journal of Personality and Social Psychology 100, no. 2 (February 2011): 330–48.
2. Kaufman, “Can Personality Be Changed?”
3. Carol S. Dweck, Mindset: The New Psychology of Success (New York: Ballantine, 2006).
4. Ibid.
5. Gottman, The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, 23.
6. Winston Churchill, speech in the British House of Commons regarding the rebuilding of the Commons Chamber, which was destroyed by German bombs during the blitz, October 28, 1944. London, October 28, 1943.
7. Gretchen Rubin, Better Than Before: Mastering the Habits of Our Everyday Lives (New York: Crown Publishers, 2015), xi.
8. Ibid., 58–73.
9. Aimee Groth, “You’re the Average of the Five People You Spend the Most Time With,” Business Insider, July 24, 2012, www.businessinsider.com/jim-rohn-youre-the-average-of-the-five-people-you-spend-the-most-time-with-2012–7.
10. Jane Austen, Emma (London, 1815).
11. Winifred Gallagher, Rapt: Attention and the Focused Life (New York: Penguin, 2009), 53.
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