How to Heal Yourself When No One Else Can

by Amy B. Scher

  The Basic Concept: Whatever You Focus On Grows

  We know now that our bodies, like the universe, are full of vibrational frequencies. The law of attraction, which is based on energy and vibration, states, “That which is like unto itself is drawn.” It means that we are all sending signals out like antennae, picking up on and drawing back to us exactly what we are tuned in to. Similar vibrational frequencies attract each other. Some examples are: frequencies of love attract more love; frequencies of fear attract more experiences that cause fear; frequencies of lack (whether it be linked to money, love, or health) attract more lack.

  In other words, whatever vibration or energy you give attention to in your life is drawn back to you from this big universal pool, or what Pam Grout, author of E-Squared and E-Cubed , calls the “field of infinite potentiality.” No matter what you call the energy force, though, we are saying that whatever you focus your energy on grows. So if you are feeling really good and full of positive emotions, you are sending out that signal to the Big U, drawing “matches” for that, such as health, abundance, and love, back to you. If you are feeling bad and are full of yucky emotions, you are sending that signal out and are drawing more of what matches that, such as lack, poverty, illness, and negativity. As we learned in the section on surrender, it’s important to be okay with where you are. What’s really cool is this: It’s much easier to be okay with where you are if you shift your thinking about where you are to a more positive place. And if you shift your thinking about where you are to a more positive place, you’ll then attract more of that positive vibration, which will help you move forward.

  When I first learned about the law of attraction, it scared the bejeezus out of me and I hated the concept. I worried that every negative thought was making me sick. I decided I’d just pretend it never existed and I’d be just fine. But in time, I got my first law-of-attraction slap in the face when I attended a healing conference. Someone was giving an example about healing from cancer and, on a whim, asked the audience members if those with cancer would raise their hands. When the hands went up in the 500-plus-person crowd, it became obvious that 95 percent of those with cancer were seated next to each other in one long row of chairs. Astoundingly, after a short discussion, the row of people admitted almost none of them knew each other or that their seatmates had cancer. They had just been drawn together. Hello, law of attraction , right?

  This is when I realized that hating the law of attraction and ignoring it is much like playing a game without reading the rules. So I decided to look at it again, in a different way, and find a way to make it work for me. When I did, I was able to be less terrified and more empowered by it. I truly believe it helped me feel better in my everyday struggle to be okay with what I was living through. Not only that, but I do believe it helped me heal, too. That’s why I really want to help you understand and use it—without any of the bad feelings or fear I had.

  Let me reassure you here that all of the work you will be doing throughout this book will increase your vibration, your positive energy, and help you shift your thoughts, and therefore will automatically work to your benefit regarding the law of attraction. The less negative energy you are storing within your body, the higher your overall vibration and energetic focus will be, without even consciously trying. You’re already moving in the right direction just by being here. Hooray! However, changing your conscious thought pattern is something you can do right now, and all the time. That’s why I am sharing this process with you here.

  My Perspective on the Law of Attraction

  Because of the “like attracts like” concept, the law suggests that by simply changing your thoughts, you can change how you feel, which then affects your energetic vibration and your reality. Most law-of-attraction gurus teach that your thoughts create your reality—end of story.

  I am a bit of a law-of-attraction liberalist, though. I believe our thoughts and the vibrations behind those thoughts greatly influence our reality. Like, big time. We are co-creators in our lives. Nothing happens completely to us. However, I think there are some other factors at play, too. As much as I believe that we are powerful beings, I also believe that sometimes yucky things just happen in life, and we can’t make ourselves crazy trying to trace back to how we “attracted” them.

  As far as shifting your energy to the positive, here’s what you need to know. When your desire or vibration aligns completely with your highest good, that is your superpowered point of attraction. What that means is that you’re in charge of trying to send out the best signal possible (yeehaw!), but the universe is also conspiring for your highest good. Delays in manifestation have always been beneficial for me, so don’t jump to the conclusion for yourself that they are due to some wrongdoing or thinking on your part. Your manifestation process has some universal puppet strings attached and they’re pulling you in the right direction, too. In other words, you’re pretty darn cool and powerful, but it’s not 150 percent you, okay?

  I know it can be hard to swallow the idea of being in such a powerful co-creating position of our realities, because we have learned that everything in life happens to us. And it can feel like just so much responsibility to know we can change things to such a drastic degree. In her book A Return to Love , Marianne Williamson, an author and spiritual leader, says, “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us.” Truth.

  In addition to making us afraid of our power, the law of attraction often activates our “blame-brain” mode. It’s my fault for thinking negative thoughts. Before you start to freak out, though, it’s important to remember a couple of key things.

  First, manifestation doesn’t happen instantly. Hallelujah! The vibration must have some momentum or force behind it. That means that you get lots of time to practice turning your attention to what you want to attract more of and turning away from that which you don’t want. Trust me, I have many, many “imperfect” thoughts and I don’t immediately get struck down by terrible things. It’s because each of my fleeting thoughts does not hold enough power to throw some cosmic force into a fit. Thank goodness.

  Another thing to keep in mind is that intention counts for a lot. Having strong intention that we want to feel better or feel relief from our current situation is actually a high vibration. So even when we’re feeling really, really crappy, we have the biggest opportunity to use that to send out the signal of I want to feel good . We can focus on the positive feeling or desire of the good. Our strong desire to feel good counts for so very much, so even these “bad times” are nothing to beat yourself up about. Great news, right? This Abraham-Hicks quote explains it so well: “There will be a time, not so far from now, that you will look back on this phase of your life and instead of condemning it or beating up on it … Instead of blaming or guilting, you will feel appreciation for it, because you will understand that a renewed desire for life was born out of this time period that will bring you to physical heights that you could not have achieved without the contrast that gave birth to this desire.” 8

  Think of the law of attraction as a universal matchmaking service. It’s not out to hurt or punish anyone. It’s just trying to find an energetic match to and for you. No one gets in trouble for “bad” or “negative” thoughts or beliefs. It’s all just an energy dance we are doing with the universe. It’s our job to learn to be our best vibration and just let the universe match us up real nice with what’s meant to be for us.

  Find a Better-Feeling Focus

  Feeling better is really all about a subtle shift from always focusing on what’s going wrong to focusing on what’s going right, even if there doesn’t seem to be much going right. I’m not at all asking you to ignore the negative (trust me, I tried and that definitely doesn’t work). But acknowledging it and feeling it and then choosing to shift your thinking and feeling to even just a slightly better focus is a very healing practice. This will help during the
times of surrender when you must work with what you have in the moment. For this practice, baby steps are actually preferred. You can inch yourself to feeling good where you are, and it will be much easier than trying to make massive leaps. If you find a way to spin a thought toward the positive even just one time a week, you’re headed in the right direction.

  Focus on a Solution

  While focusing on symptoms and discontent is going in the wrong direction, focusing on a solution can invoke the positive. It doesn’t matter what the thing is. As long as you can find a way to feel good about it, your signals are golden. Many of us who are strong believers in the natural healing paradigm can become desperate or down if we turn to anything other than natural healing modalities. We feel like failures. Really, though, any energy you put toward your healing can be beneficial, as long as you find a way to feel good about it. I’ll give you this example so you can see how it works, even with something you might tend to feel bad about. Instead of saying or thinking “I’m taking medicine because this virus is destroying my body and I can’t heal myself fast enough,” you’d shift to “I am taking this medicine to help heal my body while I do the inner work. This is giving me an opportunity to relax and get some support to heal my body, which will help me feel good even faster.”

  Do you see how that works? Do you see how that would help you relax into where you are right now? Changing your thoughts and focus can be done in a subtle way and still be powerful. Your next thoughts could be something like “I won’t need this support forever.” “I’m thankful I have this option so I can relax because that’s healing.” “It feels good that it’s not all on me right now.”

  This type of thought-pattern transformation helps you find relief with where you are, and in that, you raise your vibration, too. Remember the surrender experience we talked about earlier? Well, the gentle redirection of your thoughts fits right into that. The fastest way to get to a new, better-feeling situation is to make peace with your current situation. If you constantly fight against the unfairness of your situation, you hold yourself as a match to that energy, and it’s very hard to get somewhere better.

  Identify What You Want

  Stop when you find yourself talking about or thinking about what you don’t want, and immediately start telling yourself what you do want. Instead of “I can’t stand this pain anymore. I can’t live like this because it’s just so horrible,” try “I want to feel good. I want to be able to live freely.” Do not use any negative words when you shift your talk, because whatever you focus on grows. You are trying to grow the positive, which is what you do want. If you focus on “I don’t want to feel this way,” you are giving your focus to feelings of what you don’t want and sending out signals for that very thing.

  Journaling

  I don’t keep a journal in the traditional sense. However, I do have a “manifestation journal” that I use occasionally. In it, I write not about how I feel, but how I want to feel or what I want to be happening. This is an excellent way to raise your vibration and start feeling good about things even if you aren’t quite there yet in reality. It invokes the emotion or feeling that you do want. For example, when my literary agent was shopping my work around, I was going through some cycles of self-doubt, which all writers go through. But in my journal, I was actually writing about how good it felt to know I was working with the right publisher and how perfectly everything was working out. I imagined the call I got from my agent and described it in my journal as if it had already happened. By adding details about the call, the offer, and how it made me feel, I was triggering the positive vibration of my desire in an effort to help me manifest that into reality. And we know how influential feeling good is by now, right? For this exercise, just write your journal or diary entry as you would any other, but make it up! Write as if all your grandest desires have come true that day. This technique really is effective, not to mention fun.

  Find the “Why”

  By asking yourself why you want something, you can bring up the positive emotion that will help you attract more of it. Remember, thoughts alone are not enough—we need the feeling behind them.

  For example, ask yourself, “Why do I want this healthy body?” Your answer may be something like, “So I can travel again.” “So I can work full-time doing something I love.” “So I can be a part of the family more.” Visualizing these things will bring up the positive emotion to shift your vibration to a positive place. Pay attention to how you feel when you’re doing this shifting and visualizing. If something feels bad to visualize (even if it’s seemingly positive), find something else to focus on that invokes only positive emotion. Our hidden fears and agendas can sometimes bring up negative emotions, so pay careful attention to this.

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  You now have three very solid ways to turn your attention to a positive place. But before we wrap up, here’s one last, but very important, reminder. You are not allowed to use this knowledge as a weapon for blame. I truly believe it’s our job to do what we can to hold a positive vibration, but timing is divine and sometimes things are just doing what they need to do because of something we can’t see. It’s important not to blame ourselves when things don’t happen as we intend, but instead to just keep on doing what we can. Keep inching forward. You’re doing just great.

  You now know some powerful ways to build a strong healing foundation: correcting polarities by grounding, organizing your energies by encouraging a crossover pattern, balancing the thymus gland, and inching your way to better thoughts and feelings. Make sure you attend to them all lovingly and very consistently. This is where it all starts, baby!

  In the next chapter, we will learn how to identify blockages so we can really start to balance the energy system for deep healing.

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  7 . John Diamond, MD, “Thymus Gland, The,” John Diamond, MD , www.drjohndiamond.com/qdiamond-wikipediaq/129-thymus-gland-the.

  8 . Abraham-Hicks, “Law of Attraction Journals,” Abraham-Hicks Publications , www.abraham-hicks.com/lawofattractionsource/journal.php.

  Part Two

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  Identify Blockages

  I get emails and questions about various energy-therapy techniques from around the world, all amounting to virtually the same thing: “Is this technique effective?” These emails usually include links and summaries and explanations of how each technique works. Sometimes I am familiar with them, and sometimes I’m not. But it doesn’t matter, because here’s the thing: there are many wonderful and effective techniques out there, and while I have my favorites (which you will learn in part three), the specific techniques you use are less important than you think.

  The essential ingredient for your clearing is to make sure you work on the things that are keeping you stuck. A technique has its full power only if you are applying it to something relevant to your challenge. That’s why you are going to spend a lot of time learning how to figure out exactly what’s connected to your challenges in the first place. In order to align with your healing, I am going to help you identify the blockages that prevent you from doing so. Once you’ve identified those blockages, we can work on releasing them.

  The two best ways I know to identify blockages are by using a technique called muscle testing to get answers from the subconscious mind, and by learning to interpret the language of our bodies. Both of these approaches will allow you to view your current challenges in a whole new light. First, you will learn how to ask your subconscious mind, which is like a virtual tape recorder, exactly what you need to work on. Next, you will learn to interpret your body’s own language, which can provide major clues for your healing.

  Then, when you apply the techniques in this book—and maybe even some others that you alread
y know—you’ll be aiming them at the origin of the imbalance. That’s the true key to effectiveness. That’s where the magic happens.

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  Chapter Five

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  Get Answers from

  the Subconscious Mind

  We can’t solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them.

  —commonly attributed to albert einstein

  What is keeping me from feeling calm? Why can’t I get better? How come this person triggers me with every little word they speak? Why do I sabotage all my efforts to help myself ? What is it that makes me so overwhelmed with life? What is contributing to this illness or challenge?

  If you recognize any of these questions, you already have the answers; you just haven’t been able to access them yet. There is an entire separate part of your being that’s really in control of your life—and that’s your subconscious mind. The subconscious mind is like a human computer, recording everything that has happened in our lives. This includes programming we receive as children, through memories, messages, perceptions, and experiences. Our subconscious mind then makes “rules” to live by based on that data or programming. The subconscious mind is basically, in kid terms, the boss of us !

  In this chapter, you’ll learn about the programming of the subconscious mind, the importance of tapping into that programming in order to heal, and exactly how to do that using a technique called muscle testing (sometimes called energy testing or applied kinesiology).