Scary Old Sex

by Arlene Heyman

  For Len, and in memory of Shepard

  CONTENTS

  The Loves of Her Life

  In Love with Murray

  At the Happy Isles

  Dancing

  Night Call

  Artifact

  Nothing Human

  Acknowledgments

  THE LOVES OF HER LIFE

  “Would you like to make love?” Stu called out to Marianne as she entered their apartment. She walked toward his office. It was mid-Saturday afternoon and Stu was still in his purple pajamas at the computer, a mug of coffee on the cluttered desk. He had a little wet mocha-colored stain under his lip on his beard, and his wiry gray hair stood up thinly around his large bald spot. He looked at her shyly for a moment, then looked back at the computer screen. His office was a small room off the entrance foyer, the glossy hardwood floor littered with unruly piles of papers and journals—she spotted Dissent, MIT Technology Review, the Hightower Lowdown. Beside these were stuffed canvas bags, a white one imprinted with SCHLEPPEN in black, a bright-blue one with multicolored flowers above the words GREENPEACE RAINBOW WARRIOR. Unframed photos of children and grandchildren lay scattered on the marble radiator cover.

  Marianne had just come back from a frenetic brunch with her son, Billy, at a bistro on Madison Avenue and hadn’t yet taken off her coat. Because his wife was divorcing him, Billy was distraught. From her point of view as an ex-social worker, Marianne had always considered her son’s wife a borderline personality—from the human point of view, an outright bitch. And Marianne would have rejoiced that they were divorcing except that Billy was distraught. She had tried to comfort him at the same time that she was urging him not to give in to his wife’s outrageous demands: Lyria wanted the apartment and the country house and half of Billy’s business. “Only half?” Marianne had asked, but Billy was deaf to her sarcasm. He put away one Grey Goose after another while the poached eggs he’d ordered turned into hard yellow eyes and he kept making throat-clearing, half-gagging sounds, sounds he’d made occasionally when he got anxious as a kid; she didn’t think she’d heard those sounds in twenty-five years. She had joined him in a Grey Goose herself, trying to smooth away her edginess, and since she rarely drank, she was still tipsy. Marianne wanted either to go to the gym to work it off or try for a drop-in appointment at her hairdresser’s where she would be cosseted. She could use some cosseting.

  But she knew how hard it was for her husband to ask for sex, even after three wives; Marianne was his fourth. Why was it so hard? The best Stu had come up with was fear of rejection. She didn’t understand—if you were out one day, you might be in the next. But he was reluctant even to ask for all dark meat from the Chirping Chicken take-out place and also he tended to buy the first item a salesperson showed him. His timidity annoyed her. He thought he was just an easygoing, nice guy. Cooperative. And many agreed with him.

  She had other resentments, some small. He never brought her flowers, although she adored flowers. “I buy you printer cartridges,” he’d said. “And flash drives.”

  Some resentments were chasm sized. He didn’t make enough money, and what he made he was always giving to obscure political groups working for “social justice” or to one of his numerous importuning adult children—the major beneficiaries of his modest will.

  And he dressed badly, and called her superficial when she complained, though lately he had let her go clothes shopping with him. Clothes delighted her. A tall, slender woman with prominent cheekbones, slanted blue eyes, and dramatic silver-white hair, Marianne attracted admiration—she did a little modeling for Eileen Fisher, one of the few fashion designers whose ads occasionally featured older women. She was proud of being, hands down, the best-looking of his wives. He loved her, she knew, in part for her looks, and so it wasn’t fair that he criticized her for caring how he looked.

  And couldn’t he be even a little seductive, instead of asking for sex as if he were asking for a game of tennis?

  In spite of it all, or perhaps because of it, she tried never to reject him when he asked: it softened her up toward him, making love. And it got him away from his computer, and connected him to another human being—namely, her. She tried to do it at least once a week.

  It didn’t sound like much: she had made love three or four times a week with her first husband, who’d been younger than she, and who had died eleven years ago. But now that she was sixty-five and Stu seventy, spontaneity was difficult. She had acid reflux, and so had to stay upright for two or three hours after a meal or else suffer burning pains in her chest. And she had to insert Vagifem, low-level estrogen tablets, in her vagina twice a week so her tissues didn’t thin out. He used Viagra half an hour before sex, and because he tended to come too soon if they weren’t making love often, and once a week wasn’t often, he also took a dose of clomipramine, an antidepressant that had as a side effect retarded ejaculation. The Viagra made him feel flushed for the rest of the day and the clomipramine made him spacey. So they usually had sex toward evening, if not at night.

  He didn’t really come too soon; he never came until after she climaxed. But she got most of her pleasure from intercourse after she had come, an oddity, perhaps, but that was how she was. She hated remembering what sex had been like for her in her twenties, before she’d accepted herself, and when the received wisdom was that you weren’t a real woman unless you came vaginally—that is, no hands. The huffing and puffing and the squeals and screams of orgasmic pleasure she had faked! And this was in the dawning age of feminism! She had heard from a neighbor, a high school teacher, that even now freshman girls were sucking off senior boys without getting anything in return.

  While Stu wanted to last after she had come, it was difficult. If she told him, as he was thrusting after her orgasm, “God, this feels good,” he immediately came. If she said nothing, merely looked beatific, he also came. So now, ironically, she suppressed any noises she might have made and often lied to him that she hadn’t come in order to keep him at it. And if he got notice that she wanted to make love, he masturbated ten hours before, because then he definitely lasted longer. In short, for them, making love was like running a war: plans had to be drawn up, equipment in tiptop condition, troops deployed and coordinated meticulously, there was no room for maverick actions lest the country end up defeated and at each other’s throats …

  So she called to him now, “Yes, dear, that would be very nice, making love.” She removed from her pocketbook the note card on which she always wrote down the time she had taken her last bite of any meal, checked her watch, and did the acid reflux calculation: “Give me forty-five minutes, please.” She hung up her coat, leaned against the wall for a moment to steady herself from the alcohol, while she watched him hotfoot it out of his office to the bathroom medicine chest, where he took his pills. He joined her in the foyer, gave her a little hug. Then he returned to his computer to keep working until the medicine would take effect.

  “No frills today, huh?” she called after him, disappointed that he’d gone back to work. They might have talked about Billy’s predicament, or this or that.

  “The server’s down in New Jersey and I’ve got a hundred e-mail complaints.” His eyes were fixed on the screen.

  She walked down the long hallway to their black-and-white-painted bedroom and undressed there, put on a loose cotton robe. Placing some pillows between her back and the wall, she sat down in the lotus position on the kilim and did some breathing exercises, then tried to meditate. Her son’s wretchedness kept intruding itself; she had images of slapping Lyria around until her face was the same color as her long, flaming hair, Lyria who didn’t work or cook or clean, who took voice lessons but never sang when anyone was around to hear. A silent, sullen diva. She would pout or suddenly go into a tira
de at Billy, no matter who was around to hear. Their apartment, littered with musical scores and smelling of cat piss—she owned half a dozen Persian cats, which she didn’t take care of, so the place was covered with hair—was uninhabitable. Marianne and her first husband, and now just Marianne, had paid for years of therapy for Lyria, without so much as a thank-you. Or any sign of improvement. Yet Billy loved this woman. Although Marianne repeated and repeated her mantra, she could not block out her daughter-in-law’s high, thin voice. Finally Marianne gave up. She showered, put on a sleek sky-blue nightgown, swirled a minty mouthwash around in her mouth to get rid of the taste of vodka.

  She and Stu used to watch porn sometimes to warm up for sex, but not after she’d read Gloria Steinem’s essay about how Linda Lovelace was beaten and literally enslaved by her husband and keeper, Chuck Traynor; after Lovelace managed to escape, the same man married Marilyn Chambers and treated her the same way. With that knowledge, watching Deep Throat or Behind the Green Door was worse than crossing a picket line. So she resorted to her own manifold fantasies. She had asked him did he fantasize while making love and he said no, he thought about her. He didn’t ask about her. Was this an unliberated aspect of their marriage, that they didn’t tell each other their fantasies? He claimed he didn’t have masturbatory fantasies. What he had was an “athletic sex” video on his computer: he did everything at his computer.

  Now she got into bed under the bright-white duvet and readied the box of tissues and the tube of K-Y Jelly.

  He came in naked and she remembered again why she did not like to make love in the daytime. She joked sometimes that no one over forty should be allowed to make love in the daytime. There he was, every wrinkle exposed, as if he were in a Lucian Freud painting. He had loose flesh on his chest, small sagging breasts beneath his nipples, and little pink outgrowths here and there. His pubic hair was colorless and sparse, and he happened to have the smallest penis she had ever seen, although he was a large bear of a man. His penis looked like a small round neck with an eyeless face barely peeking out above his pouchlike scrotum. When she got angry at him, she felt like telling him so, yelling it out, but she figured if she did that, he’d never get another erection; and erect, he was big enough to do the job so long as they didn’t use Astroglide or any of those thin liquid lubricants. She couldn’t feel him then. But the thick K-Y Jelly provided some traction and he did just fine.

  She didn’t like how she looked anymore, either. Her breasts and waist were not bad, maybe better than that, if you ignored the yearning her breasts seemed to have developed for her waist. But tiny, bright-red raised spots had appeared here and there on her torso—she recalled her father had had them in old age. And her ass and thighs were bony, the flesh hanging a little. And while her pubic hair was still blondish brown, you could see the skin beneath. Where was that thick bush of yesteryear?

  He moved in next to her under the duvet. It was winter and, mercifully, the whole episode might take place under cover. Although once she got into it, she got into it, and also she kept her eyes and her critical faculties shut, at least mostly.

  She moved into a spoon position with her back up against his chest and her ass against his penis. She felt him grow hard. He tried to turn her toward him and she resisted for a moment, then yielded. “Talk to me,” she said. “Tell me something intimate.”

  He laughed. “You first.”

  She said, “I’m afraid I’ll die without ever making another movie I’m proud of.” After being a social worker for years, in an act of bravery or foolishness, she had trained as a documentary filmmaker. But she had trouble raising money—her first husband had underwritten her two best films—and since he died, she’d shot mostly commercials.

  Stu said, “I have three faculty members coming up for tenure and I have to read their books. And I’ve put it off and off.”

  “That’s not intimate. That’s something you’d tell anyone. Tell me something you’d tell only me, your wife.”

  “You want me to share some misery with you. I don’t have any. I’m a contented man. I love my work.” He paused. “And I love my wife.”

  She kissed him hard.

  He began rubbing her nipples.

  “Not like that, sweetie. You’re doing it mechanically. Pull on them. Bite them a little. Pay some concentrated attention.”

  He obliged. She lay back and after a moment felt the sensations start high up, way back in her vagina. Higher. What was higher than that? The cervix, the uterus—her first husband, a doctor, had drawn her diagrams she vaguely remembered. The cunt.

  Too soon he said, “Shall I eat you?”

  “Not yet. Don’t stop doing what you’re doing.”

  “I can do both at the same time.”

  “Always multitasking, aren’t you.”

  He grinned and took a pillow from the bed and laid it on the floor, then went down on his knees on the pillow and she moved to the edge of the bed and opened her legs wide. She ran her hands through his hair that was still sticking up. He needed a haircut. He often needed a haircut and a beard trim—he let white stubble grow on his cheeks sometimes for days, and on his neck; he just didn’t notice. Evidently nobody else noticed, either, at least no one commented to him about it, but it offended her aesthetic sensibilities. And in bed it scratched her face, and occasionally the skin on the inside of her thighs. She would sometimes shave him herself, although she wasn’t into cutting his hair. Now he opened the tube of K-Y Jelly and smeared some on her nipples, then pulled at them while he ran his tongue over her clitoris. She found herself thinking about her strawberry-blond-haired granddaughter, Jeanine, age four, who had smeared bright-orange finger paints all over her legs and face, laughing delightedly. She had smeared them on her grandma as well, and they ended up taking a bubble bath together in the master bathroom. Would it be more difficult to see her granddaughter, now that her son was getting divorced? Not if Billy got joint custody or at least decent visiting rights—he might even bring Jeanine around more, for what was a single man to do by himself with a small child? Well, she supposed these were unliberated thoughts as well, for there were many men now who helped bring up the children. Her deceased husband, David, had been pretty good with Billy, even sewing up rips in his clothes, although David had been the busiest of orthopedic surgeons. How witty and playful he was, once painting flowers on her ass in bed; another time he had constructed a man with a fuse box for a chest and a papier-mâché face and put pajamas on him and had the creature waiting under the covers for her when she came in expecting to make love. Now she thought she couldn’t let herself think about David. She’d get sad and wonder why she had to be with Stu instead of with David, why did David have to have a heart attack at fifty-two and die? Lean and light-boned David, who’d run six marathons, pale skin shiny with suntan lotion, bush of black hair sweat-slicked to his scalp. She could still see him in his signature red shorts and black T-shirt reaching out to take the paper cup of water someone offered him, barely breaking his stride.

  Death had come out of nowhere. David was playing a fathers-and-grown-up-sons ball game with Billy, Billy who had the same fair, eager-to-burn skin, the same perspicacious hazel eyes. David had run after a long ball in that effortless, loose-limbed, almost jaunty style of his, he’d leaped high, reached and got his glove on the ball, held on to it, held on to it, and collapsed. She had been sitting there watching, thought he was fooling around, she’d even stood up and applauded. Marianne knew if she pursued this line of thought she’d never come, and it wasn’t fair to Stu, who was working away with his tongue. She bent over, blinking back tears, and kissed his head, then rubbed his neck for a while, massaged it. “Do you want to come in me, dear?”

  He bobbed his head once but went on eating her. She put her hands under his armpits, trying to pull him up, and said, “It’s enough, dear. I don’t want you hurting yourself.” He had arthritis in his neck, and once, while eating her, had developed back spasm and was laid up for a month—she’d waited on
him hand and foot, sucked him off, and still felt guilty.

  He got into bed beside her now and ran his tongue over her hand.

  “Got a hair stuck in your mouth?” she asked him.

  “Yes, but I’ll swallow it.”

  “You don’t have to. Wash your mouth out, honey. I can wait.”

  But he shook his head.

  She took the tube of K-Y Jelly and squeezed some onto her fingers and lathered his penis with it, rubbing him to grow his erection. Slowly he entered her, and she put some jelly on her forefinger and started rubbing her clitoris while he moved in and out. He was over her, supporting himself on his hands, and she looked at his shaggy beard and knobby skin, which hung a little around his kindly face. She had cherished his kindness, remembered their first date at the Moroccan restaurant he’d taken her to, where the tablecloths were rose and chartreuse with little mirrors sewn on them. Did she eat? Through much of the meal she’d wept about her husband, dead a year, worried to this stranger that she was leeching the marrow out of her twenty-seven-year-old son whom she called sometimes two or three times a day to hear his scratchy-edgy voice, so like his father’s. And Billy had his father’s long, thin fingers—she’d made a short video of the movements of her son’s hands. Billy’d quipped while she shot it that he didn’t think the film would have wide appeal. And she bemoaned not having had more children with her husband. A daughter. And Stu listened and nodded and patted her arm, and passed her a little cellophane pack of tissues he carried with him because his nose was often congested.

  Stu had seemed a little—oh, more than a little—heroic to her. His sheer size in the tiny restaurant. Big blocklike hands. They had their appeal. Still did. And some things he’d done back in the day impressed her, though she’d had to pull them out of him: he’d dreamed up software, armor really, that protected computer networks from attack—saved the traffic lights—imagine New York City without traffic lights! And one time he’d even gone in to rescue the police department from a hacker, although he had mixed feelings about police departments.