Rudy's Rules for Travel
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PRAISE FOR
Rudy’s Rules for Travel
“As often as Rudy’s rules caused trouble for his anxiety-riddled wife, they also led to astonishing moments of wonder, especially at the kindness and generosity of strangers. . . . From exotic destinations like Bali to more personal excursions to uncover family history, Rudy’s travels are imbued with his unceasing optimism and boundless enthusiasm, leaving the reader convinced that his rules are well worth following.”
—Booklist
“This intelligent and entertaining memoir has fun with the lifetime perambulations of Mary and her late husband, a World War II airman who had faced the terror of death on an almost daily basis, and survived. Rudy came out of this character-shaping experience with both a zest for living and a fearless attitude. Their travels followed Rudy’s rules, the most important of which was—to trust in the kindness of strangers. This memoir is an insightful record of human interactions and a hilarious account of their journeys, with a laugh on almost every page.”
—Charles B. Churchill, PhD, historian and author of
Adventurers and Prophets and Through the Needle’s Eye:
Elite Rule and the Illusions of Freedom
“Mary K. Jensen’s delightful writing hooks you into each chapter, making you laugh out loud at her observations and humor. I would have liked to spend my vacations with these two travelers, but I am glad I could at least take these journeys through her writings.”
—Cathy Chase, author of JUMP
“Among the reasons people ride on roller coasters are to experience thrills and surprise and test personal boundaries, but, unlike traveling independently overseas, roller coasters are basically predictable. Mary K. Jensen, while crafting warm, vivid pictures of the places she and her fearless husband, Rudy, visited, makes it possible for us to feel what it is like to be pulled along, always wondering what’s coming next on trips to new destinations. While rewarding readers with insights gained from the encounters that she and Rudy had, this book inspires stepping into the unknown.”
—David Tykol, Editor, International Travel News,
Sacramento, CA
RUDY’S RULES
FOR
TRAVEL
Copyright © 2018 by Mary K. Jensen
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Published 2018
Printed in the United States of America
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LCCN: 2017955000
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She Writes Press is a division of SparkPoint Studio, LLC.
“The kindness of strangers” reference: from A Streetcar Named Desire, Tennessee Williams, 1947.
Certain descriptions and dialogue are based on Tales and Memories, Rudolf S. Jensen, 1999.
“Life is not a journey to the grave….” Reprinted with permission of Mark Frost, The Match: The Day the Game of Golf Changed Forever. 2007. Good Comma Ink, Inc.
“An Old Man” reprinted with permission of author Robert Pinsky, Robert Pinsky Selected Poems. 2011. Farrar, Straus and Giroux.
All photos not taken by the author are credited to Shutterstock.
Although this is a true story, some names and identifying details have been changed to protect individual privacy.
Book design by Stacey Aaronson
TO RUDY
COMING TO AMERICA
TABLE OF CONTENTS
CHAPTER ONE
EDINBURGH, SCOTLAND
RUDY’S RULES FOR TRAVEL
CHAPTER TWO
MEXICO CITY, MEXICO
CHAPTER THREE
OAXACA, MEXICO
CHAPTER FOUR
PUERTO ESCONDIDO, MEXICO
CHAPTER FIVE
WEST GERMANY
CHAPTER SIX
ITALY
CHAPTER SEVEN
YUGOSLAVIA
CHAPTER EIGHT
SPAIN AND PORTUGAL
CHAPTER NINE
CZECHOSLOVAKIA
CHAPTER TEN
BERLIN, EAST GERMANY
CHAPTER ELEVEN
HUNGARY
CHAPTER TWELVE
RUSSIA
CHAPTER THIRTEEN
FINLAND
CHAPTER FOURTEEN
EGYPT
CHAPTER FIFTEEN
NEW ZEALAND
CHAPTER SIXTEEN
THAILAND
CHAPTER SEVENTEEN
BALI, INDONESIA
CHAPTER EIGHTEEN
TIBENHAM, NORWICH, ENGLAND
CHAPTER NINETEEN
FRANCE
CHAPTER TWENTY: CRUISES
DIPPING DOWN INTO THE BUCKET
CHAPTER TWENTY-ONE
AND OTHER TRANSITIONS
CHAPTER TWENTY-TWO
SOUTH DAKOTA
MARY’S RULES FOR TRAVEL
EPILOGUE
RUDY’S RULE
RUDY’S RULES
FOR
TRAVEL
CHAPTER ONE
RUDY’S RULES FOR TRAVEL
MOST HONEYMOONS DO NOT START THIS WAY.
I tell myself there are good reasons why I have crawled out the attic window at midnight and am now lying outside on the sloping roof in Edinburgh dressed in a light cotton nightgown, somewhat secured by a bed sheet strung round my waist and tied to a handy balustrade. It is, after all, a record-smashing heat wave in the Scottish capital. Hotels and air conditioning are not in our budget, and all non-attic bed and breakfast rooms were reserved weeks ago. By others.
I know all that, but I also know that the real reason I am on the roof, clutching my pillow and my groom, is because of one of Rudy’s Rules for Travel, perhaps the most significant one of all. Rule One: Adapt.
BEFORE that scorching summer of 1980, Rudy and I had traveled together several times. (Notice I say “traveled” and not “vacationed.” There is a reason for that.) I had learned that he had many rules, and that some were easier to follow than others. Following the rule about choosing lightweight luggage was, for example, easier than following the rule about adapting.
RUDY knew a lot about rule making: he had been raised in a German home and was a school principal nine months of the year. Each school holiday, in a transformation not unlike that of Clark Kent to Superman, he exchanged suit and tie for battered jeans, faded navy captain’s hat, plaid shirt, and backpack, leaving razor and dress shoes scattered behind. Even his eyes changed: in the school year, the deep blue eyes could be narrow and fixed unwaveringly, sternly, on sixth-grade boys who would destroy classroom peace. But when ready for travel, the blue eyes danced.
My fearless half was made for adventure travel—not the climb-Everest kind of adventure, but the can-you-make-your-own-way adventure. In fact, in the late twentieth century, when we traveled, you did not need to dive, climb, or kayak to feel a surge of explorer’s adrenalin. When a traveler descended the steps from the airplane and walked onto a foreign tarmac, it was without online reservations, GPS, Google maps, ATM cards, translation apps, Uber, Skype, or Trip Advisor. There was no CNN, nor were there online state department bulletins to warn of global hotspots.
Most importantly, yesterday’s traveler ventured without a cell phone. When you were lost, you were
lost alone. This was not entirely a disadvantage: no demanding boss could find an escaping worker, and news of tragedies across the world was kept at bay, restricted to the daily English newspaper—if and only if the traveler chose to read it.
In those years, contact with home meant writing postcards that, with luck and first-class postage, arrived two weeks later. Or it meant spending hours in a local phone booth pleading with an operator who insisted, in perfect English, she did not speak English. One was simply “abroad.”
RUDY and I were a picture of contrast. He was tall, thin, farsighted, confident—an artist and scholar. I was not. Not any of that. We were of different generations and mind-sets. As I was being born, Rudy was flying one of his first bombing missions over Germany. As my parents were pushing my stroller in a Victory Day parade, he was in the middle of the Atlantic, coming home in a troop ship with his wounded comrades. And as I was walking to kindergarten clutching my nap-time blanket, he was one of those GIs who had never dreamed of college yet stood smiling in cap and gown. For him, travel was a way to piece together the parts of his life. For me, travel was a way to make the storybook pictures come alive.
Most significantly, my new husband and I lived at opposite ends of the risk-taking continuum. Imagine a horizontal bar, if you will. On its far left is the ultimate risk-taker, and on the far right the ultimate worrier. I am the one clinging to the bar on the far right, while Rudy is dancing on the left edge. You get the picture.
A similar continuum shows our typical thought patterns. While I pondered my latest catastrophic awareness, Rudy could take a spontaneous leap straight off the edge. Put in neurological terms, I had an overly developed frontal lobe and he a damaged impulse-control center. Put in astrological terms, I was a Libra, he a Taurus. When we met, I was a newly hired psychologist in his school district. Before long, he was explaining to friends that we were ideally matched: I needed an administrator; he needed a psychologist.
Many of our differences can be traced to the brown chair that sat near the front door of my childhood home. Under the surveillance of our half-Irish mother, the chair governed the comings and goings of my younger brother Donnie and me. We could be racing through the house, grabbing textbooks and snacks, catapulting toward the front door, but we were captives until we had each placed our bottom in the chair and taken three deep breaths, 1 . . . 2 . . . 3. . . . Forgetting a homework assignment or lunch pail restarted the cycle: racing back into the house, mother watching for bottom to hit chair, then chest heave three times before the race to school could resume.
“You’ll see the good luck,” Mom would call after us. “Stay composed.”
Rudy had never sat down to gain composure. He had, instead, an ease with exploration that came naturally and at a young age. By age four, he completed two transatlantic crossings, the first in 1921 while carried in the womb of his mother from New York City to Hamburg, Germany. His papa, a Danish seaman, was an admirer of German culture who harbored two dreams: one, that he would father a German citizen and two, that he would own a saloon on Hamburg’s lively Reeperbahn. Achieving the dreams meant nothing when his wife, Rudy’s mother, died suddenly. Papa found foster care for the toddler and headed back to sea. Years later, he sent for Rudy to join him in America.
And so it was that the four-year-old experienced his first independent international travel. Dressed in a tiny sailor suit, blonde curls escaping a captain’s hat, blue eyes gleaming, and trained to salute the ship’s officers, Rudy crossed the Atlantic for the second time, but now virtually alone. He learned a lifelong travel lesson about depending upon kind strangers: two elderly ladies shared their cabin and mealtimes with him, and the captain helped him sail bright red balloons off the ship’s stern. Sailing into New York Harbor, the little boy spotted his papa on the dock and was certain he called his name.
Rudy grew up on the streets of Washington, D.C. during the Great Depression. He and his schoolmates, from Italy and Greece, found ample adult role models: Chisel Chin the cop, Fast Eddie the numbers runner, Horse Face the cabbie and card room dealer. I never knew the Depression or the streets. I came home after school to a small, bungalow-style house in Southern California where a mother in a pink-flowered apron was placing a plate of warm chocolate chip cookies on the kitchen table.
Rudy’s family never owned a car, but instead used every form of bus and train that plied the city. The highlight of humid summer weekends was dragging heavy crab traps onto a small steam train, heading to Chesapeake Bay, and bringing home—yes, on the train—a week’s worth of feisty critters housed unhappily in burlap bags. Rudy had had, we might say, the perfect introduction to public transportation around the world.
I, on the other hand, was driven to school each morning in my father’s well-used but shiny, cavernous black-and-white Cadillac. Donnie and I sat in the backseat, dodging ice chips that flew from the air conditioning vents, until Father rounded the corner in front of our school. Then we slid down between the seats, covering our heads with jackets, lest classmates who knew how to use the public bus should see us in the Cadillac.
“Please, please drop us at the next block,” we pled from under the jackets.
Our father was not a seaman or world traveler; our father was an accountant. Each spring, Donnie and I counted the days to April 15th, when tax season would end and we could embark on our annual family adventure. The ritual began with stuffing the Cadillac with seashore clothes, a sand pail, and food supplies, then taking a careful look at a large map and setting off. Twenty-five minutes later we would arrive at our destination: a local beach-area motel. We would then unpack our clothes, pail, and food, and settle in for a three-day stay.
As our parents saw it, the glorious part of the holiday was that there was no long drive from home, no telephone, and no way clients could find Father. As I saw it, the annual outing was a rare opportunity to gather material for fourth grade Show and Tell. Surprisingly one day, Donnie, barely five years old, was the source of key intelligence: an older boy he met at the sandcastle pointed with concern to an island, a distant landmass barely visible across the bay. As children of the Cold War, we knew how to duck and cover under classroom desks. Still, it never occurred to me before that day that there might be a wider, threatening world out there, just beyond San Diego. I was learning the lesson that you can never be too cautious. Donnie and I were certain Russia lurked on the island.
NOW, on this steamy night in Edinburgh so many years later, Rudy, my groom, arms draped about me, snores softly on the sloping roof. I stay awake, for I have rules of my own: “Remain Alert. Expect the worst.” Scotland may not be known for earthquakes or monsoons, but one can never be too careful.
RUDY’S RULES
FOR
TRAVEL
1. ADAPT.
2. RUN CROSSCURRENT.
Avoid groups. Schedule your own tour. Shower at night, keep drapes open, rise with first light. Be first at breakfast. At the museum, start at the last exhibit and move forward.
3. GO IN DISGUISE OR, MINIMALLY, KEEP A LOW PROFILE.
Accept that Americans are not always popular. Study natives’ clothing, haircuts, shoes; outfit yourself at a secondhand store. Speak any language but English if you can; at the least, lower voices when dining and on public transit.
4. NEVER LET LUGGAGE HOLD YOU BACK.
Use one small, child-sized case or backpack. Prepare to run unimpeded through airports and stations, up stairs, over cobblestones.
Which is closely related to this rule:
5. NEVER SHOWER ALONE.
Position the day’s dirty clothes under your feet, add soap, stomp, as in crushing grapes.
6. RIDE WITH LOCALS, NOT TOURISTS.
A low-cost way to meet the people and their livestock: ride their buses, vans, ferries, colectivos, tuk-tuks.
7. LOOK FOR THE FREE LUNCH: YOU NEED TO SAVE FOR THE NEXT TRIP.
You don’t get what you pay for if you miss bargains. Exception: elephant rides (see Thailand chapter).
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br /> 8. AVOID RECOMMENDED RESTAURANTS.
They will be crowded, pricey, and the food likely mediocre. Choose cafés off the main square, with no tour bus or English menus in sight. Better yet, bring deli food to your room.
9. YOU CAN’T GO HOME AGAIN.
Never visit the same place twice; there are too many places. Returning risks spoiling first memories.
10. SELECT SOUVENIRS BY WEIGHT AND VOLUME.
Recommended: earrings, miniature Christmas ornaments.
11. RELAX. SOME KIND STRANGER WILL APPEAR.
12. PUT THE BUCKET IN ORDER.
Don’t count on tomorrow. You will likely never be healthier than you are today. You certainly will never be younger. Move physically challenging destinations to the top of your bucket list. (Think: climbing pyramids, squatting over toilets, mounting steep stairs without handrails.) Consider moving politically tenuous places higher: there may be no better days ahead. Cruises can wait.
13. NEVER COME HOME WITHOUT HAVING PLANNED THE NEXT TRIP.
That is what all those hours on the return plane are for.
CHAPTER TWO
IT IS LONG BEFORE ONLINE RESEARCH AND EXPEDIA WHEN
Rudy and I plan our first trip together. I have an early sign that the journey to Mexico City might not be the luxurious vacation of my dreams, when Rudy appears at my apartment door with a tiny case, a gift for me.
“I remembered your luggage was huge. This one will go anywhere.”
“But that’s a child’s suitcase.”
“Exactly.”
“But at most it holds one set of clothes.”
“Exactly.”
Reaching an impasse on luggage, we turn instead to sharing results of our research for the trip. Each of us has promised to gather information. I have gone to a travel agency; Rudy has gone to the library. I come to the table with five slick tour brochures carefully annotated for their positive features, likely omissions, and daily cost. He presents a map and three thick books, one that promises the reader will be bilingual in Spanish in thirty days, one detailing Mexican history, and one that introduces techniques for archeological digs.