The Alex Chronicles:Girlfriends & Secrets

by Tracy Reed

  “You have got to go", I yelled.

  “Baby, what are you talking about? What’s wrong?”

  “I’m tired of coming home every day and seeing you sitting here watching television and scratching your stomach. You’re supposed to be working. If anyone should be home watching television, it should be me.”

  “But you know it’s been a little slow and I—”

  “I don’t want to hear it", I shouted.

  “Please, can’t we just talk about it?” He turned away from me but facing a mirror where I could see him counting. Like the idiot he is, he turned back around and said, “Oh, I know, it must be that time of the month.”

  Hello, village, I found your idiot. My fist connected with his jaw and when his mother came over, he had been out cold for a couple of hours. When she asked me what happened, I told her. I also strongly suggested she get out of my face before she found herself lying on the floor next to her. I packed my bags and wrote him a lovely parting note. “I’m divorcing your trifling lazy behind and if you try contesting, I’ll track you down like the lazy dog you are and run you over with your car detailing van. And that goes for your meddling Mama too. Love, Taylor.”

  I was gone. I moved to Buckhead, a suburb of Atlanta and went to work re-inventing myself. Now I’m a successful real estate broker. I heard from a former friend that Jerry got married again and is living in West Virginia. So whenever anyone brings up marriage, I tell them I've been there, done that, and burned the t-shirt.

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  Since we’re sharing, I have to confess I’ve had a couple of relationship incidents more like family close calls.

  I was dating this amazing man and things were getting serious, but I broke it off when I discovered I had dated his older brother when I was in college. Sure I could have kept seeing him, but why ask for trouble.

  The other situation happened with my mentor, Andrew McNeal. I met Andrew at a restaurant downtown. I was sitting at the bar waiting on some friends and he approached me. At first, I thought he was soliciting me. Anyway, the way he approached me was like a brother. I never would have imaged this silver haired vanilla chip had that much swagger. Yes, I’m down with the swirl. I don’t see color. I’m sort of like the United Nations. I’ve dated an heir to the Saudi throne, an Asian tech millionaire, a ginger with the backside of a brother, a Frenchman that showed me how his people earned their own kiss, and this African guy who said he wanted me to meet his father, the king.

  Andrew showed me how to market not only my business but myself as well. In no time at all, I went from peddling single family residences in the middle class suburbs, to moving luxury properties in Buckhead. Girlfriend was on her way. People were beginning to seek me out. No more cold calls. I was on my way up.

  Things were going fantastic with me and Andrew. We were good for each other. We fed off of each other’s energy. He was so smooth, I didn’t even realize I wanted to get married again. We started talking about a possible future together. But first, he wanted me to meet his kids. I knew I was in the home stretch until I looked up and saw my ex-boyfriend. Holy Crap! No wonder things felt so comfortable with Andrew, he was the original to the copy I had dated.

  My perfect thing was shot to hell. Not only did I lose a good man, I lost a great mentor.

  You'd think after that experience I would have been a little more careful. Please. That’s like asking a lion not to roar. Life is meant to be lived.

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  So what’s my secret? I don’t have one. You’d think with the wild life I’ve led, I’d have secrets jumping out of the closet. Maybe it’s because I live by the YOLO Rule…You Only Live Once. I know I’ll only come this way once and I plan on enjoying myself. But I would like a baby, not necessarily a husband. And according to nature, that window is about to close. I’ve prayed about it and, despite what people think, I have faith that it will happen. If not by my womb with my egg, then by egg donation, embryo donation, adoption or however God wants to do it. Who knows, maybe I’ll change my mind about marriage, and do it the old-fashioned way.

  But there is that one thing with Jason that I’m trying to keep hidden from my girlfriends. Of course they know he’s younger than me. No, this is something I didn’t even know until I had gotten invested in the relationship. Now I’m trying to figure out if I should break things off or not. Just when I think I have the answer, I remember what I saw at the spa.

  We did a couples day at the spa. My God, the man looks like a Greek statue. He’s cut from top to bottom…tight skin covering a mass of hard muscles and packing. How do I know? I cheated and looked when they told him to turn over. Mercy me. I instantly went from relaxed to hot and tense.

  Jason would be a good candidate for marriage. He has some very strong qualities. And from what I saw at the spa, I don’t think that that baby thing would be a problem. I think I need a little more time before making a rash decision that could cost me my hot, young boyfriend.

  I do have something that I’m keeping secret from my cousin Alex though. I’ve arranged a blind date for her when she comes to Atlanta for her store opening. My cousin is a sweetheart, but when it comes to meeting men, she hasn’t been too open. Unlike my friend Dionne, I have the gift of matchmaking.

  This guy is perfect for her. I used to date him, but he just wasn’t right for me. He’s a little too old. It’s not like he’s headed for the grave or anything like that, but he’s too old for me. And, I don’t like men with facial hair. I like my men clean shaven and or bald.

  I have a good feeling about him and Alex. They have quite a few things in common. He’s a widower and she’s sort of a widow. They’re both workaholics and entrepreneurs. He’s more of a homebody, which is another reason he wasn’t right for me. I like going out. Alex likes to stay home curled up with a good book.

  I know she usually dates average height, brown skin guys. So this guy is tall and dark. The height issue can be resolved with a pair of stilettos and once she sees his beautiful eyes, nothing else will matter. He’s quiet, attentive, has a good sense of humor, a warm smile, great style and he loves God. The only drawback is he lives in New York. But she goes there often enough that it could work.

  I think Moses could be the one for her, or at least the one for right now.

  DIONNE

  I’M DIONNE BURKE, AND I am married to a wonderful man thanks to my friend, Alex. God always puts someone in your path to help you, and when it comes to Quentin and me, it was Alex. I have a good life. My husband and I have been married almost three years. We own a media relations company with plans to expand. We don’t have children, and that’s something his annoying mother brings up on a regular basis. It’s not like we aren’t trying. We’re trying every chance we get.

  I wanted to adopt. Quentin made the mistake of telling his mother, hoping she’d be happy. No, that mean old goat said if we adopt, she’d die of a broken heart and cut him out of her will. I tell you, it would be worth it just to see if she’d really die. Forgive me, God. I know that’s not right, but she gets on my nerves.

  I love the Lord and I love Quentin, but it’s becoming more and more difficult to breathe. My girlfriends don’t realize the pressure I’m under to compete and maintain my place in this family. His father is a neurosurgeon and his mother, Satan’s Handmaiden, is a fertility specialist. They own a medical plaza with doctors specializing in everything from cosmetic reconstruction, to cardiology, to vascular medicine, to oncology. They also lease space to a couple of GPs and OBGYNs. All the doctors are expected to donate time to my mother-in-law’s pet project, The Kenderson Free Clinic, named after her late father, William Kenderson, III.

  My in-laws are on the boards of several charities, and they regularly open their house for fundraising events. Quentin’s older sister is a general practitioner married to a cardiologist. They have two children and their practices are located in my in-laws building. This, of course, makes them the family favorites. My brother-in-law
, Adam, is the wild child. You name it and he’s done it; drugs, alcohol. I recall Quentin saying something about his having slept with several of his sister’s friends, which she, nor his mother were too happy about. He completely changed when his best friend was killed in a car accident. At the funeral, he said the Spirit of God spoke to him and told him to teach His Word.

  He left home and went to the seminary. He came back, worked with a local church and, a few years later, formed his own ministry. For our second date, Quentin took me to his brother’s church. It wasn’t until we got married that I became a member, mostly out of family loyalty. I liked my church but I wanted to show my support for my brother-in-law. The rest of the family stops by every now and then, but won’t join. His mother says they are very comfortable at their church and have too many obligations. She said it wouldn’t be fair to abandon their pastor. He’s ninety-five and reads the same three scriptures every week. Trust me, he doesn’t know if he has on matching shoes, let alone miss her meddling behind at the church bake sale.

  I love my husband and I want him to be happy, but his mother is making it difficult. She makes it a point to mention his ex-girlfriend, Stacy, whenever she can. It’s no secret I’m not her choice for Quentin. She wanted someone she could control, but she got me. Because I’m quiet, people think I’m fragile, but I’m not. My friends say I’m a people pleaser, which explains my poor choice in men prior to Quentin. I thank God for using Alex to bring us together, because I probably would have ended up with I don’t know what.

  I’m learning from my friend, Chloe, how to be a lot more aggressive and assertive. She says I need to explode every now and then. I’ve tried it at work, but I haven’t gotten up the nerve yet to let loose on my mother-in-law. Given the right situation, even the quietest of people have been known to snap. I just hope it’s not in private, because I need to let the family know I am nothing to be toyed with. That’s right, I am a strong, black woman. I can do all things through Christ Jesus who strengthens me. Once I actually get that in my spirit and believe it, my mother-in-law had better watch out. I will be taking names and kicking butt, and she’s number one on my list.

  My mother-in-law only wants me around when it suits her needs. Step one in my plan to establish myself in this family, is to not be at Katherine’s beck and call any more. If she wants to talk to me, she needs to take a number and call me at a decent time. No more calling after nine-thirty. That’s Quentin and my time to reconnect.

  And no more demanding we come over at a moment’s notice for a family gathering. I have a family, too, and we need to spend more time with them. And there will be no more talk about shooting me up with baby making juice. Quentin and I will get pregnant the old-fashioned way. If she has a problem with that, then she can talk to God.

  And there will be no more talk about Quentin’s ex, Stacy. I’m his wife and she had better get used to it because I’m not going anywhere. And no more telling me once I get the house decorated she can host a fundraiser at our home. First of all, we like our home the way it is and, if we decide to host a fundraiser it will be because WE want to and not because SHE says we HAVE TO. And if she doesn’t like the way our home is decorated, then don’t come over. And no more telling me how to dress. I know how to dress, and if I need help, I’ll call Alex.

  Who does she think she is? I’m a grown woman. I’m her daughter-in-law not her daughter, and I am only obligated to extend my affection to a certain point. And if she keeps pissing me off, I’ll use those heart paddles and shock some sense into her. She’s been campaigning for a tongue-lashing and I’m about to cast my vote and give it to her. She’s been running this family like we’re prisoners and she’s the warden. Well, I’ve got news for her, my parole came through and I’m not taking any more of her crap.

  I think I’m one major PMS surge away from losing my cool. I hope I remember all of this when I explode. But until then, I will be the dutiful, supportive, loving and hopeful wife my husband married, who packs a loaded gun.

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  When I met my four best friends in college, I had a little girl crush on each of them. I wanted to be like all of them.

  I wanted to be pretty like Chloe. I wanted Taylor’s sassiness, Alex’s style and Kendell’s cooking skills. I never really knew where I fit in. It seemed like they all had plans. The only plan I had, was to finish college, get a good job and possibly leave with a husband. When I left college, I left with a degree and still no real idea of what I wanted to do. I also failed in my quest to graduate with a fiancé.

  After a couple of years, I ended up at an accounting firm. I hated it. It was stable and that made my parents happy.

  Honestly, my childhood hasn’t been story book. I was born with a twin brother, Donnie. I know, Donnie and Dionne. You’d think my parents would have been a little more imaginative. I can’t really blame them though. They had been trying for quite a while to get pregnant and when they did, it was twins. Unfortunately, Donnie died when we were five. It really messed my parents up. At one point I thought they were going to get a divorce.

  They managed to patch things up and tried to get pregnant again, but it never happened. They decided to turn all of their attention on me. Lord have mercy, I love my parents, but it was difficult there for a while. So when I got to college and met these amazing girls who were so carefree, but with goals, I wanted to be just like them.

  When I was younger, I wanted the fairy tale, complete with the perfect marriage to a wonderful man, a couple of kids, a dog, a fulfilling career and the perfect three bedroom Craftsman style bungalow with a white picket fence. I got the husband and the marriage. But, I also got a nagging mother- in-law, no kids, and a four bedroom Santa Barbara style house. Instead of a dog, I got half ownership in Burke Media, my husband’s company, and the job as its CFO. And the picket fence was swapped out for a boxwood hedge.

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  So what’s my secret? I no longer believe in fairy tales and don’t know how to tell my husband I don’t want a baby or a dog. But it might be too late.

  KENDELL

  MY NAME IS KENDELL MARTIN and I own Tangerine Spice, one of the hottest restaurants on the West side. At least that’s what my publicist says. But my publicist is also my best friend’s husband.

  What’s my story? It’s a story that’s as old as time. I was in love with a wonderful, compassionate, attractive man. His family owned a vineyard, which produced a high quality organic wine and sparkling wine, which my dad was excited about. After our third date, my dad went to work creating new recipes for his restaurants, Blue Dove, Blue Belle and Blue Cafe to be compatible with their wines. My ex-boyfriend’s father and my Dad worked out an arrangement to serve their wine at all of his restaurants and mine. It was a match made in entrepreneur heaven.

  My ex was constantly making references about our getting married. You know things like, “I told my dad to hold back some of the port for our wedding”, “Madrid would be a great honeymoon location", “I don’t want a big wedding, just a few family and friends”, “I think three children would be nice, two boys and a little girl I can spoil as much as I spoil you". I went so far as to start interviewing wedding planners. After three years of this premarital talk, I just came out with it and asked.

  “When are we getting married?”

  “I have no intentions of ever getting married”, he replied.

  “Then tell me what is with all the wedding talk?”

  He didn’t have an answer. Turns out he was just saying what he needed to say to keep me happy because of the business arrangement between our fathers.

  When we broke up, my dad was more heartbroken than I was. I recovered quickly, but it took him a little longer. To help him get over this breakup, I took him to Napa and introduced him to several far more superior organic wines. Before we got back home, he had forgotten all about the ex and his father’s sub par wine.

  Do I regret the time I spent walking in total oblivion? Yes, and n
o. Should I have been a little more in tune with what was going on? Yes. Should I have asked him early on how he felt about marriage? Most definitely. Will I make the same mistake again? I pray to God I don’t.

  After wasting all that time with someone who basically lied to me, I turned my love life over to God and promised to listen to Him. He told me to trust Him, and I have only been trusting Him with part of my life. I have too much to accomplish to waste my time with someone that doesn’t really know what he wants to do. Or who will say whatever he has to in order to seal the deal.

  And what happened to “Mr. I Have No Intentions of Getting Married”? His dad made him an offer he couldn’t refuse. Seems I wasn’t the only woman he was engaged to not marry. Rather than lose another big contract, his dad made him marry his other non-fiancé. Seems her father owned five Sizzlers. Now he’s living in Idaho, managing one of his father-in-law’s restaurants. And yes, they serve his dad’s wine. Pay back can be painful. I almost feel sorry for him, but you shouldn’t make marital promises you don’t intend to keep.

  Shortly after our breakup, I started seeing a wonderful, amazing, sensitive, sexy man that adores me. He’s everything I want. I told my girlfriends about him and they were excited and eager to meet him, until I disclosed he only exists in my very vivid dreams. That’s when they surmised I was losing my mind. I’m not crazy I just have a very active dream life. Too bad my awake state isn’t as exciting.