Blow Her Mind: His Illustrated Guide to Orgasmic Oral Sex So Good She'll Tell her Friends About It! Master Advanced Cunnilingus Tonight
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Blow Her Mind
His Illustrated Guide to Orgasmic Oral Sex So Good She'll Tell her Friends About It! Master Advanced Cunnilingus Tonight
Melinda Holmes
Atlanta, Georgia USA
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Copyright © 2012 Melinda Holmes
Words from Our Readers
"I didn't intend to buy this guide, but my friends convinced me to do it, and in the end I did not regret it since it's taught me a lot about the human body and the female sexuality."
Amanda C. Geno, Texas
"I'm so happy that times have changed so much that books like this one can be produced. Knowing your body is very important and this useful guide tells you everything about it and its secret cravings."
Patricia T. McMillan, Buffalo
"Before reading this book I thought there was something wrong with my body since I couldn't enjoy the same amount of pleasure that my friends did when it came to sex. Now I know that I did nothing wrong and I have this book to thank for it."
Anna R. Dye, Scranton
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Why You Should Read This Book
A lot of relationships fail for the simple reason that the partners are not happy in bed. In most of the cases the unhappy party is the woman, since the men are easy to please, but at the same time seem unable to return the favor. One of the reasons that that happens is that they don’t really know what to do to offer pleasure to their partner. They go through the motions thinking that they are doing a fine job, but the truth is they doing anything but. No wonder that so many women have to fake an orgasm.
I’ve decided to write this book to help women in particular, and couples in general, overstep this obstacle. In this comprehensive guide you’ll find everything you need to know about the female body, about the sensual being that thirsts to be pleased. You’ll also discover more than a few suggestions about how to lead a healthy sex life, problems that can arise and the solutions, techniques that can help bring about the desired results and much more. If there’s one thing that you’ll take away after reading this book is that old adage: "Where there’s a will, there’s a way". Yes, there is...
Table of Contents
Words from Our Readers
Why You Should Read This Book
Forward and Author’s Profile
Uncovering The Mysteries of Cunnilingus
Pleasure from the Mastery of Cunnilingus
The Female Orgasm – Give Her More than Just One!
The Vulva – An Anatomical Pleasure Chest
The Mons Pubis
The Front Commissure
The Clitoral Shaft
The Clitoral Hood
The Clitoris
The Frenulum
The Labia Minora and Labia Majora
The Vaginal Opening
The Fourchette
The Perineum
Female Erogenous Zones
Hair
Neck
Ears
Lips
Breasts
Arms
Stomach
Along the Spine
Bottom
Vulva
Legs
Feet
Inside the body - G-Spot
Preparation
Hair
Shaving
Waxing
Laser Hair Removal
Depilatory Creams
The Male Partner and His Hair
Earning Your Red Wings – Yes or No?
Being Careful About Oral
Women Are NOT Balloons
Keeping Things Clean and Fresh
Hygiene products
Do It Right And Make Her Ask For It
Men and Women are Just NOT the Same
How to Proceed Successfully After Preliminaries are Done
Women are Men at Half Speed
Techniques
Foreplay
The Flutter of Angel Wings
The Snake Charmer
The Venus Butterfly
Passion Sauvage
Sadie Hawkins’ Revenge
Love Letters
Ascend Into Heaven
Nosy, Nosy, Nosy
Lip Locking the Nanny
The Insolent Tongue
Tempest in a Teapot
Spiraling Into Pleasure
Sucking it Up!
Whirlpool of Desire
The Cool Breeze
Additional Techniques
Hand Use in Cunnilingus
The G-Spot
Toys
Variety and Positions
Traditional
The Cliff’s Edge
Soixante-Neuf
Taking Her From the Rear
SOMF
Kneeling
Soaring Through the Azure
Dominatrix
The Doctor is IN
Circus Tent
Warnings and Common Problems
Dry Vagina
Vaginal Farts
Women CAN Fake It
Inability to Orgasm
Sexually Traumatized Partner
Conclusion
One Last Thing...
Disclaimer
While all attempts have been made to provide effective, verifiable information in this Book, neither the Author nor Publisher assumes any responsibility for errors, inaccuracies, or omissions. Any slights of people or organizations are unintentional.
This Book is not a source of medical information, and it should not be regarded as such. This publication is designed to provide accurate and authoritative information in regard to the subject matter covered. It is sold with the understanding that the publisher is not engaged in rendering a medical service. As with any medical advice, the reader is strongly encouraged to seek professional medical advice before taking action.
Forward and Author’s Profile
I decided to write this guide, when several of my girlfriends complained that the men they met had no real idea of how to please them. "They bang and bang into me – and it is pleasant - but that fat cock by itself isn’t going to bring me off. Why don’t they know what we like? Don’t they know mouths are made for more than just kissing?"
Sometimes I’m slow to follow up on suggestions, but this one was urgent – because I’d been noticing the same thing: "When they’re in a threesome, with me and another girl, they get it, and pretty fast, and everyone has a good time. They watch one of
us, and figure out how to lick just right. But when they’re one on one...I just don’t know."
It became apparent that there needed to be a really good guide to cunnilingus written, and fast!
As an erotic fiction writer – I’ve been writing for the last 13 years, since I graduated from a small, primarily female Catholic college in California – I’ve developed a lot of relationships with people who are professionally involved with satisfying people’s lusts. The adult film industry has perhaps the most experienced and beautiful fuckers on the face of the Earth. I thought, why not conduct an investigation into their experiences and preferences, along with the requisite ‘real science’ physiological study, and share it with you?
My personal experiences count for something, too. I’ve had fun with a lot of other women – a woman really does know what another woman likes. But I’ve had just as much fun and pleasure with boyfriends of all ages, and from all walks of life, not to mention in threesomes, some MFF and some MFM. I like being the center of attention in those parties!
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"Baby, you’ve got the sweetest little body," Susanne said. "I want to kiss every little part of you, taste your sweet, creamy honey, inhale your hot, musky fragrance, caress the softness of your skin with my lips, nuzzle your ears...share my breath with you..."
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In that quote from a girlfriend, you can find what makes men and women different in their approach to sex and even love. The men who come to understand what that secret is are the ones who consistently satisfy their women – whether bathroom fucks in a bar while pushed up against a wall, one-night stands in ‘no-tell motels,’ hook ups in the back of an SUV, or even marriages of thirty years or more, in a queen-sized bed that’s sagging from ten years of constant pounding.
By satisfying their women, they’re guaranteeing their own pleasure. You don’t have to be a Latin scholar to understand what quid pro quo means. "You scratch my back, and I’ll..."
I was a relatively naive liberal arts grad, with a freshly minted, but worthless, Bachelor of Arts degree in an arcane field – but with a desire to write. Susanne, the blonde, LA traffic cop who had pulled me over for a broken tail light, and later that night pulled my panties down to show me the pleasures there between my legs, and who subsequently initiated me into all the delights of girl on girl lovemaking, was for many years my muse, and guided me into my current profession.
I want to share the things that make me cum when I’m naked in bed with a man, or two men, or a man and another woman, and we’re doing unspeakably hot things to each other. Or the things that two women do together in the fragrant beauty of a Sapphic relationship, so different from men. But most of all, I want to reveal to you the one, special secret thing that men and women do that drives me wild – and most importantly for this guide, drives all other women wild!
Join me as we stroll through the secrets of the lovemaking of men and women who know how to cum, and how to make their female partners cum endlessly through cunnilingus. I guarantee that you’ll learn some of the best ways to please a woman, drive her wild with desire, and make her yours!
Dedicated to Susanne, for opening the door, and to Sam, who really, REALLY gets it.
Uncovering The Mysteries of Cunnilingus
There are a couple of questions that I never stop hearing from men just starting to become interested in actually pleasing their lovers instead of just themselves: "Just what is cunnilingus? And what’s in it for me? Or, for her?"
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Well, everybody’s favorite Internet resource says:
Cunnilingus is an oral sex act performed on a female. It involves the use by a sex partner of the mouth, lips, and tongue to stimulate the female’s clitoris, vulva, or vagina. The clitoris is the most sexually sensitive erogenous zone for most women, the stimulation of which may result in the production of erotic sensations or sexual excitement. A female may receive cunnilingus as part of foreplay to produce sexual arousal. Sufficient oral clitoral stimulation can result in an orgasm.- Wikipedia
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But to the woman receiving cunnilingus, referred to in Victorian times as "tipping the velvet," and more commonly today as "licking pussy", "carpet munching", and "muff-diving," it is far more than just a clinical description. The fact is, according to one study, that only sixty-eight percent of married women enjoy intercourse (the man’s cock penetrating her pussy), with the women experiencing an orgasm only twenty-five percent of the time. Doing the math, that means that fucking a woman may result in her having an unforgettable experience only seventeen percent of the time!
Think about that – all the time, money and effort that a man puts into meeting, dating, bedding (or even marrying!) a woman is wasted if, not only is she not going to cum and experience the mind-bending pleasure of a female orgasm, but she’s going to have to lie there while she gets pounded into by her lover, and then lie to him – "Oh, yes, it was wonderful," she says, then slips off to the bathroom to jill off (masturbate) when he falls asleep. No wonder women often look wistfully for a better lover.
On the other hand, in that same study, eighty-two percent of the women revealed that cunnilingus is the most enjoyable sexual act for them. And those women orgasmed eighty-one percent of the time. That means that licking a woman’s pussy correctly can result in her orgasm an overall sixty-six percent of the time!
"Oh god...oh god...oh, shit...yessss." That’s got to be a more rewarding thing for a man to hear – I know I like hearing a woman moaning uncontrollably with lust...
Which do you think that a woman prefers, in terms of her own satisfaction – fucking alone, or cunnilingus followed by fucking? Which do you think will result in her being happier, and giving you what you want?
If you’ve ever watched straight adult videos (and who hasn’t?) you may have noticed that the majority of action shows a woman sucking a guy’s dick, and him fucking her, usually in her pussy.
Q: So, doesn’t that mean that adult film stars find blowjobs and fucking to be the most appealing way to have sex?
A: Well, for male adult film stars, sure. But for women, absolutely not – you see, most porn videos are designed to appeal to males, who constitute the vast majority of viewers and purchasers. If you’re a straight male, of course having your cock sucked, and pounding a beautiful woman’s hot pussy (or ass) is what you want to see, and do.
But that doesn’t mean it’s also what a woman wants. As we’ve learned from studies, endless interviews and personal observation, it’s really not. Oh, cock sucking and getting our pussies pounded is fun...but not FUN!!
Do you know what I mean?
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"Tom had been an enthusiastic lover, he took me out to dinner, brought me flowers, even when I wasn’t expecting them, but something was missing. When we made love, he never wanted to lick me...down there...I can hardly believe I’m telling you this!"
Anyway, I finally worked up the nerve to insist that he do it, if he wanted me to do the same for him. He finally did, and as it turned out, he loved it...but not as much as me!"- Cathy, 26
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Please don’t be offended that having a cock in our pussies isn’t the absolutely greatest pleasure that a woman experiences. It really is terrific, but... the difference, to a large extent, is based on physiology. The nerve endings that lead to orgasm in a man are primarily located along the shaft and in the head of his penis – thus, friction against that part leads to his pleasure. Sliding that deliciously hot and tasty meat rod in a woman’s wet, slippery pussy, or wet mouth, is definitely going to feel great – but for you more than her.
Women, on the other hand, have the majority of their nerve endings located in the clitoris, which is not effectively stimulated by fucking. The vagina has relatively few nerve endings compared to the clitoris (none deep inside), and the inner mouth (not the lips) has none related to sexual pleasure.
If you watch the average video of a male adult film star fucking a female star’s pussy or ass cl
osely, you will invariably see her hand creeping in between their two pounding crotches to rub around particular parts of her vulva, and bring herself to orgasm. It’s not the best way for her to cum, but it makes her reactions more authentic and still allows for the director’s required list of activities in the film.
Now, if you happen to catch a lesbian video produced for the female market by one of the better video sources out there – the ones that advertise as being "by women" and "for women," you’ll see that cunnilingus, and certain other acts, are the most common and preferred means by which women bring each other off. If you’re a male, you won’t need to put on a dress or have a sex change to please a woman as effectively, or better than women themselves do – and I can guarantee you, women know exactly how to bring each other off!
The secrets of the men who always have beautiful women around them are easy to understand and learn – but they’re carefully guarded. Now, you too can learn the techniques of cunnilingus that turn women on, and can absolutely make them demand that you "lick my pussy again... please!" and then beg you for more!.
Pleasure from the Mastery of Cunnilingus
During my research I discovered that the question many guys ask is, "Why does it have to be so fucking hard to make a woman cum?"
Too often that question is followed by, "Okay, I get it – licking her pussy will get her off, so I’ll hold my nose and do it."
Unfortunately, that in turn almost always leads to "Well, that didn’t fucking work, so I just fucked her – she loves my dick, sucking it and feeling it fill her little twat."
It’s inevitable that the conversation would ultimately conclude with, "Yeah, really, I left her. I got tired of her – she doesn’t know what she’s doing in bed and just lays there."