Dating Dilemma
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- Your friend’s brother or cousin:
Your friend might have issues or find it awkward, so talk to them about it first.
- Your Cousin or Step-Brother
It’s not exactly illegal to marry them in the future, but people might think it’s weird.
- An ex-boyfriend
You finished with them for a reason, so make sure the problems are resolved or it won’t work out.
- Your friend
Changing from friend to boyfriend would be a big thing. Make sure it’s what you really want. Remember that there’s a risk of losing him as a friend if your relationship doesn’t work out.
- A guy who has a bad reputation:
Always be careful before going out with them. If they aren’t a nice person, they can sometimes treat you badly too. Don’t forget about their bad points just because you fancy them.
Guys NOT to go out with:
- Someone else’s boyfriend
Never do anything with a guy who is already in a relationship. He is unavailable so nothing can happen between you. If you both really like each other then it’s better for him end his current relationship first before starting one with you.
- A teacher or manager
This isn’t allowed no matter how you feel about them. Having relationships with them can get you into big trouble with your school, college or work place.
- Someone’s parent
It’s better not to go there. They are a lot older than you and it will be so embarrassing and awkward if the person finds out you want to be with their parent.
Dating
(going on a date with someone who isn’t your boyfriend yet)
What to do:
- Make plans for something interesting to do, something you’ll both enjoy, otherwise one of you will be bored.
- Try not to eat awkward foods before or during the date. The last thing you want is stains on your clothes or bad breath.
- Always tell a friend or family member where you’ll be, just in case anything bad happens.
- Take your mobile and keep it turned on and with you at all times, just in case you need it.
- Be on time. It’s better to be a little early and risk looking too eager, than being late and looking like you don’t really care.
- If you are running late for some reason, try to get there as quickly as possible and be sure to text them to let them know. You don’t want them to think you’ve stood them up.
- Offer to share the costs or pay for yourself. Guys will often try to pay for you and you can accept, but it would seem impolite just to assume they will pay. If they do pay for you, thank them.
- Ask questions, it’ll show that you’re interested in getting to know them.
- Research what they like and talk about that.
- Try not to go all quiet and shy, it’ll make them feel awkward if you don’t talk to them.
- Don’t feel nervous, just relax and enjoy it.
- Try to laugh at their jokes. Guys love to make girls laugh, so this will make them feel good. If it’s not a funny joke, don’t act rude and just smile politely.
- If the date gets kind of scary, go to the toilets and phone your friend or family member. They can talk and come over to find you if needed. Being on your own with a scary guy isn’t good.
- Make sure you have a friend or family member to pick you up or walk you home. Having a guy take you home can sometimes be polite; but it can often give them the wrong signals, especially if you’re alone with them in their car.
What not to do:
- Don’t wear anything tarty. Wearing revealing tops or too short skirts might get their attention but it’ll give the wrong impressions and make you look cheap and easy.
- Don’t wear too much make-up. It will look wrong and guys often don’t like to kiss or hug girls if they will get covered in make-up.
- Don’t wear lipstick. This will make it obvious if you kiss and make the guy embarrassed about getting it on his lips. Wear lip gloss or Vaseline instead.
- Don’t let them make you pay the bill. Make it clear that they either pay for you or you both pay your share. It’s rude to make a girl pay for both and can also show that they’re just using you to get free stuff.
- Don’t try to hug, kiss or hold hands, unless they seem as if they want to. They’ll think you’re being too forward if that’s not what they want at the time.
- Don’t talk about something that won’t interest them, it’ll just bore them.
- Don’t laugh at or make fun of them if they say something that you think is stupid. If you embarrass them, the date won’t go well.
- Don’t let them go too far. If they want to do something and you don’t, tell them to back off.
- Don’t do anything more than a kiss, it’s way too soon for that and will make you seem cheap, easy and slutty.
- Don’t think just because you’re dating that they are your partner or future partner. Dating is a test of whether you like someone or not, so remember that they can still turn you down and change their mind. They’re not your boyfriend just yet.
- Don’t agree to a date unless you think there’s a chance you can be together. You’ll just be leading them on or using them if you don’t.
- Don’t go on a date to make someone else jealous or because you have no better offers. This is unfair on them and will waste yours and their time.
Feelings Scale
These are the different types of feelings from the less to most powerful.
Attracted to someone:
- You are physically attracted to their looks and/or personality.
- You like to admire them.
- If they weren’t interested or broke up with you, you’d be upset and disappointed, but would get over it after a few days or weeks.
Fancy someone:
- You feel the above statements.
- You want them to be your partner.
- They make you blush or make you feel shy.
- You experience feelings of lust.
- You enjoy kissing, hugging, talking or being with them.
- You think, fantasize or dream about them.
- You are or would be happy as their girlfriend.
- You’d cry a lot if they weren’t interested or broke up with you; but you’d probably get over it in a few weeks or months’ time and move onto someone else.
Have strong feelings and really care about someone
- You feel all the above statements.
- You really want to be in a relationship with them or really need to stay with them.
- You’re really happy to be with them and it feels special.
- You’d be very upset if they said they weren’t interested or broke up with you.
- You miss them when they’re not around.
- They make you feel really happy.
- You always want to be with them.
- You put their needs before yours.
- You’ll be there to help and support them at any time.
- It would take you up to a few months to get over them.
True love
- All of the above but a lot stronger.
- You would do anything for them.
- You would risk your life for them.
- You hate spending time away from them.
- They are the most important person to you.
- You definitely want a future with them and think your relationship will last.
- Seeing them hurt would hurt you ten times more.
- You feel strange feelings like: walking on air, feeling light, being extremely happy for no reason, getting forgetful, unable to concentrate and you can’t stop thinking of them.
- Your heart fills with love when you see them.
- If they ever hurt or upset you, your heart feels as if it’s been pieced with a knife.
- If they ever left you, you would be devastated, heartbroken and you’d feel dead inside.
- You feel as if you will never get
over losing them and it can take years to get over them or stop having feelings for them.
Cool dictionary
Boy Magnet – (slang) A girl who attracts a lot of boys.
Saddo – (slang) someone who isn’t fun to be around because they’re always sad and give a negative presence.
Mega – (slang) Can mean either ‘big’ or ‘very’ depending which word you use after it.
Footie – short for football.
Hot – (slang) Handsome.
Moves – (slang) to approach a hot guy and flirt with them.
Ace – (slang) Fantastic.
Loser – (slang) someone who is weird and uncool.
Shallow – (slang) someone who is only interested in looks and not personality.
Friend Zone – (slang) When you get stuck being thought of as a friend with someone you fancy, so it ruins any possible chance of being their partner.
Wannabe – someone who wants to be or look like another person and copies them.
Chill out – means calm down or don’t worry.
Sad – (slang) Describes doing something that is considered weird, stupid or uncool.
Miffed – (slang) Annoyed, fed up or in a mood with someone.
Laughing his head off – Means laughing a lot.
Get the message – Realise something.
Chuffed – (slang) Very happy.
Downer – (slang) Either being miserable, too worried or too serious about a situation.
Wuss – Coward.
LOL – stands for Laugh Out Loud. Used in text messages or when using Social Network sites.
Bf – Short for boyfriend.
Bfs – Short for boyfriends.
Gf – Short for girlfriend.
Defo – Short for definitely.
Tongue-tied – When it’s hard to speak because you’re nervous.
On and on – Going on for too long.
Goss – Short for gossip.
An item – In a relationship.
Ownio – (slang) on your own.
Give a stuff – don’t care.
Mag – Short for magazine.
Miz – Short for miserable.
Hyped up – (slang) Getting ready and excited for something good to happen.
Tunes – Songs.
Fizzies – (slang) Fizzy drinks.
Well – (slang) Means very.
Cheesed off – (slang) Annoyed.
Gutted – (slang) Disappointed, sad or hurt.
Kinda – Short for kind of.
Go out with eachother – Be in a relationship.
Snogging – (slang) Passionate kissing. Officially means open mouth kissing.
It can also be used jokingly when you’re referring to seeing two people kissing on the lips and you’re exaggerating it.
About the Author and Illustrator
Michelle Leyland was born in 1990 and spent all of her life living in Lancashire. She has always loved writing and drawing and since the age of 13 has dreamed of becoming a published author and illustrator one day. She has written several fiction stories for children, teenagers and adults.
Michelle also loves to drum, dance, sing, daydream, go to concerts and read.
Visit her website: www.michelleleyland.com
Twitter: @MLeylandAuthor
Facebook page: Michelle Leyland (Author and Illustrator)
Books by Michelle Leyland:
Farm Frenzy (children’s)
Secret Love (adult’s)
Freedom Fighters: Twilight City - Book 1
Freedom Fighters: Dragon City - Book 2
Freedom Fighters: Lost City - Book 3
Dating Dilemma - Book 1 (Teen’s)
Sexy Love - Book 1 (Teen’s)
Bounty Hunter (Teen’s)
Coming soon:
Freedom Fighters - Book 4
Break-up Dilemma (Book 2)
Dating Dilemma
Book 1
Violet Star Publishing
Published by Violet Star Publishing.
United Kingdom
Category: Teenage, Fiction
Published in paperback 2013
Copyright Michelle Leyland © 2013
Illustrations by Michelle Leyland © 2013
Book Cover created by Diana’s Graphics © 2013
ISBN : 978-0-9926320-1-4
This is a work of fiction. Names, characters, places and incidents either are the product of the author’s imagination or are used fictitiously, and any resemblance to any actual persons, living or dead, events or locales is entirely coincidental.
All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or in any form or by any means, without the prior permission in writing of the author, nor be otherwise circulated in any form of binding or cover other than that in which it is published and without a similar condition including this condition being imposed on the subsequent purchaser.
Contents:
Chapter 1
Chapter 2
Chapter 3
Chapter 4
Chapter 5
Chapter 6
Chapter 7
Chapter 8
Chapter 9
Chapter 10
Chapter 11
Chapter 12
Chapter 13
Chapter 14
Chapter 15
Chapter 16
Chapter 17
Chapter 18
Chapter 19
Chapter 20
Chapter 21
Chapter 22