Cinderella Ate My Daughter

by Peggy Orenstein

169 Alexis Pilkington: Oren Yaniv, “Long Island Teen’s Suicide Linked to Cruel Cyberbullies, Formspring.me Site: Police,” Daily News, March 25, 2010, www.nydailynews.com/news/ny_crime/2010/03/25/2010-03-25_li_teens_suicide_linked_to_cruel_cyberbullies_police.html; “Cyber Bullies Harass Teen Even After Suicide,” The Huffington Post, March 24, 2010, www.huffingtonpost.com/2010/03/24/alexis-pilking ton-faceboo_n_512482.html.

  169 half of young people: Associated Press and MTV, “A Thin Line: Executive Summary,” MTV, December 2009, www.athinline .org/MTV-AP_Digital_Abuse_Study_Executive_Summary .pdf. A report by the Pew Internet and American Life Project put the rates of cyberbullying at one-third of teens; 38 percent of girls in that survey experienced harassment versus 26 percent of boys. Amanda Lenhart, Cyberbullying, www.pewinter net.org/reports/2007/cyberbullying.aspx.

  170 39 percent: The National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy, Sex and Tech: Executive Summary.

  171 the annual “slut list”: Tina Kelley, “A Rite of Hazing Now Out in the Open,” The New York Times, September 18, 2009, p. A13; Tina Kelley, “When the Cool Get Hazed,” The New York Times, September 27, 2009, p. WK5.

  172 Megan Meier, the girl: Steinhauer, “Verdict in MySpace Suicide Case”; “Cyber Bullies Harass Teen Even After Suicide.”

  172 Phoebe Prince seems to have: Emily Bazelon, “What Really Happened to Phoebe Prince?” Slate, July 20, 2010, www.slate .com/id/2260952.

  Chapter 10: Girl Power—No, Really

  180 café au lait variation: While young black women are not affected by exposure to idealized images of white women, they report higher levels of body dissatisfaction after viewing those of African-American women. Cynthia Frisby, “Does Race Matter?” See also Taneisha S. Buchanan et al., “Testing a Culture-Specific Extension of Objectification Theory Regarding African American Women’s Body Image.”

  180 the first pass: Bobbi Misick, “Controversy over ‘The Princess and the Frog,’ ” Weblog entry, Essence, November 30, 2009, www.essence.com/entertainment/film/critics_dispute_prin cess_and_the_frog.php.

  180 Disney also miscalculated: Ibid.

  181 by consulting Oprah Winfrey: Chuck Barney, “Disney’s First Black Princess Has Parents Excited,” Contra Costa Times, December 11, 2009, www.popmatters.com/pm/article/117751 -disneys-first-black-princess-has-parents-excited.

  182 marketing to children under twelve: Sarah Ellison, “Marketing to Children Sparks Criticism in Europe,” The Wall Street Journal, December 18, 2000, p. 1. Denmark, meanwhile, bans ads aimed at children within ninety seconds of children’s programming. State broadcasters in Belgium can’t air ads directed at kids for five minutes on either side of a children’s show. In Greece, there are no toy advertisements before 10 P.M. Norway, the Netherlands, Ireland, and Austria all have some restrictions.

  184 squat thrusts in an oversized cage: See Miley Cyrus “Can’t Be Tamed” video, released May 2010, www.youtube.com/watch?v=sjSG6z_13-Q. Cyrus also made headlines in 2010 for kissing a female backup dancer during an onstage rendition of that song. “Girl-on-girl” action between straight women is another example of female sexuality as a performance for others’ pleasure.

  186 Your attempt to deconstruct: Author’s interview with Sahara Byrne, Department of Communications, Cornell University, May 28, 2010. See also Sahara Byrne and Philip Solomon Hart, “The Boomerang Effect”; Sahara Byrne, Daniel Linz, and James W. Potter, “Test of Competing Cognitive Explanations for the Boomerang Effect in Response to the Deliberate Disruption of Media-Induced Aggression.”

  186 the “forbidden fruit” effect: Amy I. Nathanson, “Identifying and Explaining the Relationship”; Nathanson, “The Unintended Effects of Parental Mediation of Television on Adolescents.”

  186 Meanwhile, a 2009 study: Byrne, Linz, and Potter, “Test of Competing Cognitive Explanations.”

  186 pointing out inaccurate: Nathanson, “The Unintended Effects.”

  186 talking to little girls: Byrne et al., “Test of Competing Cognitive Explanations.”

  186 Going all Amish: Nathanson, “The Unintended Effects”; Byrne and Hart, “The Boomerang Effect.”

  187 Lyn Mikel Brown: Lamb and Brown, Packaging Girlhood, pp. 263-294.

  187 otherwise, your presence: Nathanson, “Identifying and Explaining the Relationship.”

  187 ones who are skeptical: Author’s interview with Erica Weintraub Austin, Edward R. Murrow School of Communication, Washington State University, May 8, 2010.

  189 The studio’s lack of interest: Manohla Dargis and A. O. Scott, “Memos to Hollywood,” The New York Times, May 3, 2009, p. MT1.

  189 The Princess and the Frog: Dawn C. Chmielewski and Claudia Eller, “Disney Restyles ‘Rapunzel’ to Appeal to Boys,” Weblog entry, “Company Town,” Los Angeles Times, March 9, 2010, http://articles.latimes.com/2010/mar/09/business/la-fi-ct -disney9-2010mar09.

  189 Pocahontas grossed $346 million: http://boxofficemojo.com/movies/?id=pocahontas.htm.

  189 Up, released six months before: Chmielewski and Eller, “Disney Restyles ‘Rapunzel.’ ”

  189 Ed Catmull: Ibid.

  190 merchandising blockbuster: “Disney’s ‘The Princess and the Frog’ Merchandise in High Demand Weeks Before Film’s Debut,” November 18, 2009, http://fefwww.istockanalyst.com/article/viewiStockNews/articleid/3647634#.

  190 Disney shelved its plans: Chmielewski and Eller, “Disney Restyles ‘Rapunzel.’ ”

  191 neither maimed nor killed: See Bettelheim, The Uses of Enchantment, p. 149.

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