Four Waifs on Our Doorstep

by Trisha Merry

  Four Waifs on

  Our Doorstep

  First published in Great Britain by Simon & Schuster UK Ltd, 2015

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  Copyright © 2015 by Trisha Merry and Jacquie Buttriss

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  While this book gives a faithful account of the author’s experiences, some names and details have been changed to protect the privacy of the individuals involved. Trisha Merry is a pseudonym.

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  To my amazing family. Every day I thank my lucky stars that I have you in my life. I love you all very much.

  Contents

  1. Four Hungry Waifs

  2. Change of Plans

  3. Bedlam

  4. Bath-time Blues

  5. Revelations

  6. Fish and Chips

  7. Knickerbocker Glory

  8. Mary Poppins

  9. Dicing with Death

  10. Mum’s Boyfriends

  11. Starting School

  12. Whistleblowers

  13. Telling Tales

  14. A Dry Place on the Mattress

  15. Fire! Fire!

  16. Over My Dead Body!

  17. The Freeing Order

  18. Choosing Names

  19. Christmas Capers

  20. Knitting with Fog

  21. Just a Joke

  22. The Runaway

  23. Making a Statement

  24. The Pit Bull

  25. A Devastating Allegation

  26. Repercussions

  27. Reaching Out

  28. A Wary Reconciliation

  29. Golden Wedding

  30. Nemesis

  Epilogue

  Acknowledgements

  1

  Four Hungry Waifs

  ‘6 March 1997 – Children taken into police protection.

  7 March 1997 – Emergency Protection Order made in respect of all four children, who are taken to foster carers.’

  Social worker’s case notes

  It was eleven o’clock at night when we heard a vehicle pull up outside our house. I peeked out through the curtains and saw a white minibus parked under the street lamp. Two women got out and came up the path.

  ‘They’re here!’ I called to Mike, and he joined me in the hallway as they knocked on the door. I immediately opened it.

  ‘Hello,’ said one of the women. ‘Mr and Mrs Merry?’

  ‘Yes, that’s right.’

  They introduced themselves – a social worker and a support worker. ‘I believe you are expecting us?’

  ‘Yes, do you have the children with you?’

  ‘We do. We’ve just woken them up, so they’re still a bit sleepy I’m afraid,’ said one.

  ‘They’ve had a difficult day and a long journey, but they slept most of the way,’ added the other.

  We stood out on the doorstep, ready to welcome them, as the support worker carried the youngest and the social worker ushered the other three up our path towards us. I can remember my shock, even after all those years, and the hundreds of children we’d cared for.

  As the eldest, a boy with a shaven head, approached, I noticed the big wet patch down the front of his light-coloured trousers. He looked petrified. They all did. In all my years of fostering, I had never seen children look more frightened than these four. If I could have taken a photo of them that evening, it would have been just like those sepia prints I’d seen of Dr Barnardo’s urchins, taken off the streets of London in Victorian times.

  They trembled in their thin, shabby clothes, much too light for the cold of the night, the younger two in T-shirts and nappies, the elder boy’s jumper torn and half unravelled up one sleeve. Then there was the obvious bruising on their pinched faces and bony hands . . . I dreaded to think what other unseen injuries they might have.

  Both the boys’ heads were shaved; the older girl’s hair looked as if it had been badly cut with blunt scissors, all jagged and tufty, and the younger girl had bald patches where her hair had apparently been pulled out in clumps. This child also had her arm plastered and in a sling, a swollen lip and a black eye. She looked very frail. The other girl had a black eye too. The baby was lethargic and seemed to have some sort of skin condition. He turned his head away when I looked at his face.

  The eldest of the four was almost rigid with anxiety, his expression darting from one sibling to another, as if checking they were all right.

  We were experienced – we knew we had to keep our faces right, our expressions smiling, but in that brief moment when I took in that sight of the four of them, I thought: Oh my God! Then my brain went into overdrive, imagining the lives these poor waifs must have led, and wondering how we were going to cope with their various needs.

  As the children came nearer, we could smell them. When you look at a healthy baby’s skin it has a bloom on it – a shine, doesn’t it? But when you see children that aren’t washed, their skin is dull and textured, like suede. These four were grubby all right, very grubby, and all scratching their heads and bodies like crazy.

  Steeling ourselves and still smiling, we took a few steps towards them and gave them all hugs. That was the most important thing. I remember the three older children’s faces, their looks of astonishment, mixed with acute apprehension.

  ‘Welcome to our home. Come on in – we’ve got hot chocolate and bickies for you,’ I said as I ushered them into the hall. ‘This will be your home too for as long as you stay. We’ve been really looking forward to seeing you.’

  As Mike took the two social workers and the children into the sitting room, I dashed upstairs and found a pair of my grandson Brett’s trousers for the elder boy to change into. Fortunately they fitted well enough, with a belt round the waist and the bottoms turned up. He looked relieved to get rid of his wet trousers, out in the hallway, though he trembled with fear.

  ‘I couldn’t help it,’ he wailed, unable to stop the tears. ‘I told them I needed to go. I asked them to stop, but they wouldn’t. I knew you would be very cross with me.’

  ‘No, I’m not. It wasn’t your fault, so there’s no reason for me to be cross.’ I gave his unyielding body another hug. ‘You don’t need to be worried about anything in this house,’ I tried to reassure him.

  ‘But I do. I have to worry about the others,’ he replied with a quiver in his voice, as he wiped away his tears with his shabby sleeve, leaving a smear across his cheek.

  I wanted to take him out of all his clothes and put on clean ones, but realised that would be too traumatic for him so soon.

  ‘Simon needs to have his nappies changed,’ he said as he zipped up his trousers. I remember being quite surprised by this remark. Yo
ung children don’t usually notice such things.

  ‘Do you know when he was last changed?’ I asked him.

  ‘When the social workers came this morning. One of them did it.’ That would have been more than twelve hours before. ‘I usually have to try to do it,’ he added.

  ‘Well, I have lots of nappies, so I’ll change him straight away.’

  ‘Caroline too?’

  ‘Yes, Caroline too.’ I grabbed the nappy bag from the downstairs cloakroom and we went back to join the others.

  ‘What’s your name?’ I asked him.

  ‘Hamish,’ he said.

  ‘And how old are you, Hamish?’

  ‘Seven.’

  I had to pick up my jaw. He didn’t look any older than four or five, his body so bony and his face very thin. To be honest, I thought he looked half starved, so perhaps that was why he was so small for his age.

  ‘Can you introduce me to your sisters and brother?’

  ‘Yes, this is Anita,’ he said, pointing at the girl with tufty hair. Then he turned to the younger girl. ‘Caroline has a broken arm.’ Finally he pointed at the baby, now plonked onto the floor and making no effort to move. ‘And this is Simon.’ As he spoke, I noticed there was something odd about Hamish’s speech. Perhaps a slight impediment of some kind.

  ‘I’m Trisha and this is Mike.’ I smiled my warmest smile to them all.

  ‘What does it say on your top?’ asked Anita with a cheeky grin.

  ‘I straightened my T-shirt and pointed out the words to her, one at a time. ‘“I’m the boss.”’

  ‘What does that mean?’ she asked, tilting her head to one side.

  ‘It means I’m the one that organises things in the house. Like cooking, for instance.’ The three older children’s faces lit up. ‘Now, I expect you’re tired, after your long journey.’

  I could not fail to notice the girls’ dismay, and Hamish’s look of alarm. Panic more like. His eyes darted to the hallway. Did he want to leave? Was it something I’d said? . . . or maybe something I hadn’t said? At that moment, I realised.

  ‘. . . and I expect you’re hungry. Let’s get you something to eat.’ As I said this, his expression immediately switched to one of immense relief.

  ‘For all of us?’ asked Hamish. ‘We’re all very hungry.’

  ‘Yes, for all of you. What would you like?’

  ‘Can we have pasta?’ asked Anita.

  ‘Yes, of course you can.’

  Just then, the two women stood up.

  ‘I’m afraid we have to leave now, if that’s all right with you,’ said the social worker. ‘We have a long drive back.’

  I showed them out to the front door. ‘Did the children bring anything with them, any clothes or wash things, or anything?’

  ‘No,’ answered the social worker. ‘Nothing but what they are wearing.’

  It must have been an urgent case then, I thought, as most children bring something with them, whatever their circumstances. I remembered Caroline’s arm being in a sling when I opened the door.

  ‘The agency told me Caroline was in hospital,’ I said. ‘Was that because of her arm . . . or something else?’

  ‘Yes, she has a broken arm,’ said the support worker. ‘She’s had the injury for several days, but it’s only been treated today.’

  I shuddered at the thought of the pain she must have been in.

  ‘Can you tell me anything else about the children?’

  ‘I’m afraid not, Mrs Merry.’

  As I closed the door, I knew these women weren’t allowed to say anything. After all, it was an emergency care order and we would probably only have the children with us for a week or two, so what did we need to know? As usual, we foster parents were left in the dark, to work things out for ourselves.

  Of course, to be fair, it was sometimes possible that a family had not been known to the authorities until something traumatic happened, such as a parent’s serious injury or death.

  But I had developed an instinct over the years, and straight away, looking at these children, there was no way they wouldn’t have been known to Social Services. Absolutely no way. For a start, we only had to look at them to see how underfed they were, not to mention the injuries, or anything unseen.

  ‘Come on, kids,’ I called. ‘Come to the kitchen and tell me what you want to eat.’

  Well, it was a stampede!

  I opened the fridge door. We had a big, American-style fridge, packed from top to bottom with food.

  They were transfixed. Caroline was actually trembling when she looked at all the food.

  ‘You can have cereals, or fruit, or eggs, or baked beans on toast . . .’ Usually, newly arrived foster children would happily choose something from what I had suggested. But I felt as if I was going about it all wrong with these four, as the older three all rushed at the fridge, with Hamish pulling things out and handing them to his siblings. The girls fought to grab their own food too. Meanwhile, Simon, the placid baby, seemed almost unaware of what was going on.

  ‘OK, OK. There’s no need to rush. We have plenty enough for all of you, so let’s take everything through to the dining room.’

  So we carried all the food we could from the kitchen to the dining room, setting it all out on our long dining table until it was almost fully covered. The children stood and looked at it all in stunned silence. The sight of so much food seemed to overwhelm them.

  Normally, I would have made sure they all washed their grubby hands but, for once, I realised that the most important thing was to feed them.

  Suddenly I remembered what one of the girls had asked for earlier. ‘You can all choose anything you like to start with, then sit down at the table to eat, and I’ll quickly cook some pasta for you as well.’

  Hamish went forward first and picked up various things with his hands to give to the others, then took some for himself. This started a feeding frenzy as they grabbed everything they could, snatching from each other. They crammed their food straight into their mouths and wolfed it all down, still standing up, while clutching at more in case it disappeared.

  ‘You can sit down to eat,’ I repeated, but that seemed to confuse them, so I decided to leave table manners to the next day. I filled some bowls with cereals of their choice – we had lots to choose from.

  As soon as they realised that if they finished this, they could have something else, they began to calm down and just concentrated on eating. But Hamish was still shaking as he ate, turning this way and that to make sure his siblings were all right.

  I brought in a big tureen of pasta in tomato sauce, and they all wanted some. I filled up big bowls to the brim for each child and watched them ladle it into their mouths with their hands, making a terrible mess, which satisfied them no end. I had put out cutlery for them, but they seemed to have no concept of eating with a knife and fork.

  For somebody so tiny, Caroline could certainly put her food away. She managed to eat three full bowls of pasta before she finally had to give in. Anita’s eyes darted across the table as she ate.

  ‘I can do with some more,’ she announced with her cheeky grin.

  Hamish fed himself and Simon by turns.

  I watched them as they finally began to flag. The difficult bit, I thought, is that we’re looking at four filthy children, and I could almost see their hair and clothing move with lice, but they must be so tired and so anxious. I can’t bath them tonight – they can barely stay awake, now that they’ve filled their tummies.

  So, catering for the children’s evident insecurities, Mike and I committed the sin of turning one double bed around, so that the side was up against the wall. Then we took the children to the bathroom for a quick wash – not a popular move, especially as they didn’t seem to be familiar with soap. Caroline held back, outside the door, so I didn’t insist. We would have to leave a more thorough wash until the morning.

  We only had one pair of pyjamas that weren’t too big. They were my grandson Brett’s. The legs were too
long for Hamish, but at least he could tie the waist so they didn’t fall off. The other three had to go to bed that first night in what they had on, minus their ill-fitting footwear – quite an assortment. Hamish had his feet crammed into a cracked pair of plastic sandals, Anita wore floppy wellington boots and Caroline was in threadbare slippers. None of them wore socks, except for Simon, and when I took his off, I was shocked to see what looked like a deep cigarette burn on his grubby ankle.

  Hamish’s face lit up – a picture of wonder – at the sight of a thick, clean duvet covering the soft, springy mattress. He kept touching it all as if it was a new experience. We laid all the children side by side across the bed. This way, if they woke in the night, anxious or confused, they would have the security of each other nearby.

  That first night, and every night after, we left their bedroom door open, with their light and the landing light on. Our bedroom was directly opposite theirs, across the corridor, so we could see into their room and all the way to the bed.

  When Mike and I had finished cleaning up the mess we were worn out. We sat down with a hot drink before bed and just looked at each other. I think we were both shell-shocked.

  ‘I hope we haven’t bitten off more than we can chew,’ I sighed.

  Mike remained very quiet. He just gave me a look that was supposed to be encouraging. He’s always so positive, but I knew he was really thinking: Mmm, have we done the right thing?

  We were both feeling very apprehensive. Seeing those poor waifs arriving on our doorstep in that state and watching their behaviour with the food and everything . . . it had all been quite upsetting. I knew we were both quiet because I was thinking and Mike was thinking, and neither of us wanted to voice those thoughts. Not yet anyway.

  As I lay in bed, mulling it all over in my mind while Mike slept, I could see across the landing how restless the children were and how fitfully they slept. Every now and then one of them would moan or cry out, especially Anita who wailed the loudest, and the first few times I got up to go and comfort them, only to find they were crying in their sleep. Back to bed I went, wondering about their nightmares.