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Murphy, Michael, 9
music, 107–12
Musset, Alfred de, 9, 34, 49, 64, 114, 128–29
Napoleon Bonaparte, 81, 170
narcissism, 8
Neal, Patricia, 47, 178–79
Necker, Madame, 184
Neeson, Liam, 143
neocortex, 195
neo–ladies’ men, 227–35
making of, 237–41
the reality, 232–35
Nesbitt, Catherine, 149
Nesle, marquise de, 41
Neumann, Erich, 71
neurochemistry, 144
neurotransmitters, 202
Nicholson, Jack, 19–20, 23–24, 56–57, 124–25
Ninon de Lenclos, 236
Niven, David, 35, 80, 199
Nochimson, Martha, 154
Noel, Miriam, 106–7
nonverbal expression, 164–70
norepinephrine, 37, 202
No Reservations (movie), 132
novelty, 201–6, 229–30
Noyes, John Humphrey, 72–74
Nye, Maria, 77
Oberon, Merle, 199
O’Brien, Tim, Tomcat in Love, 215
Odin (myth.), 203
Odysseus (myth.), 55, 88, 101, 128, 146
Ogas, Ogi, 229
Ogma (myth.), 162
Oneida Community, 73–74
online porn, 224
“ornamental brain” theory of evolution, 180
Orpheus (myth.), 49, 109
Ortega y Gasset, José, 33, 79, 233, 245
Ortigue, Stephanie, 193
Osbourne, Fanny, 69
Osiris (myth.), 52, 55, 145, 152, 196
Other Man, The (movie), 143
Other One, The (Colette), 37
Otway, Thomas, 42
Out of Africa (movie), 53
Ovid:
The Art of Love, 191
on eloquence, 163, 172, 185
on gift-giving, 127
on kindness, 66
love manual of, 79, 84, 91, 114, 122, 138, 145, 154, 191
on music, 112
oxytocin, 124, 161
Pacana, Gregory, 8
Paglia, Camille, 45, 224
Painter Surprised by a Naked Admirer, The (L. Freud), 50
Palmerston, Lord “Lord Cupid,” 34–35
Pan (myth.), 169
Paradise Lost (Milton), 4, 105, 146, 150
Paris (myth.), 46, 162
Parvati (myth.), 209
passion:
and the art of love, 24, 191
baggage accompanying, 67, 212–13
effectiveness of, 36–37, 132–33, 134
and playfulness, 195–96
and poetry, 185
quest for, 137–38, 142, 227, 245–46
retaining, 92–93
and setting, 104
“Passion” (Munro), 88
Patten, Susan Mary, 150
Peacock, Molly, 232
Pease, Barbara and Allan, 165
Pentland, Alex, 43
People, “Sexiest Man Alive,” 24, 99
Perper, Timothy, 237
Person, Ethel, 87, 197, 208
personal space, 166
Pertschuk, Michael, 228
Pessl, Marisha, Special Topics in Calamity Physics, 203
Peter K. (priest), 70
Petronius, Satyricon, 171
phallus, etymology of, 39
Phil, Dr., 13, 20, 194
Phillips, Adam, 145, 197, 209
Phillips, Susan Elizabeth, 114, 162, 177
Physiology of Marriage, The (Balzac), 82, 97, 159
Picasso, Pablo, 107
Piercy, Marge, Small Changes, 187
Pinker, Steven, 63
Pisana, Camilla, 88
Pitt, Brad, 72
Plato, 62, 151, 156
Playboy of the Western World (Synge), 187
player seducer, 16–18
playfulness, 195–97
pleasure, 82–86
pleasure principle, 83, 85, 200–201
Plutarch, 38
poetry, 185–89
Polignac, contesse de, 41
Pollock, Jackson, 141–42
Porter, Cole, 51
Potemkin, Prince Grigory, 12, 43, 56, 99, 131
Powell, Marlene, 239–40
Power, Udana, 124
power plays, 207–13
praise, 143–50
Pride and Prejudice (Austen), 63
Priestley, J. B., 171
priming, 104
Primrose (musical), 65–66
prolactin, 124
Prose, Francine, 180
Psyche (myth.), 105
psychopaths, 9
PUA (pickup artist), 16–17
Puisieux, Madeleine de, 184, 216
Purple Violets (movie), 49
Pushkin, Alexander, Eugene Onegin, 118
Putney, Mary Jo, 56
Pyle, Missi, 99
quarrels, 207–13
quicksilver man, 51–54
Quinn, Anthony, 72
Rake, The, 140, 177
Raleigh, Sir Walter, 53, 80, 102, 148
Ramachandran, V. S., 48
Rank, Otto, 8
Rauschenbach, Emma, 156, 157
Ray, Catherine, 89
Récamier, Juliette, 174
Reed, Gail S., 8
Reese, George, 159–60
Reeves, Amber, 218
Reik, Theodor, 143
Renaissance, 110, 140, 236
Reyneau, Betsy, 189
Richardson, Dorothy, 218
Richardson, Samuel, Clarissa, 5
Richelieu, Louis François du Plessis, duc de, 41–42, 118, 204–6, 216
Rick the fire captain, 31–32, 59, 122–23, 234–35
Ridgway, Christie, Unravel Me, 153
Ridley, Matt, 138
Rilke, Rainer Maria, 48
Rinehart, Lisa, 118
Roach, Joseph, 32, 55
Roberts, Nora, 76
Rockets, Rusty, 48
Rogers, Ginger, 35, 178
Rollin, Betty, 78
Romantic era, 26
Romantic love, 37
Ross, JoAnn, One Summer, 169–70
Rossellini, Isabella, 118
Roth, Philip, Portnoy’s Complaint, 187
Rougemont, Denis de, 4
Roxie (journalist), 221–23, 228, 229, 231–32
royal rush (male initiative), 136–42
Rubirosa, Porfirio, 85, 116, 123–24, 231
Rush, Norman, 76, 88
Rushdie, Salman, The Ground Beneath Her Feet, 52, 109
Russell, Bertrand, 76, 183
Russell, John, 50
Sade (movie), 190
Sade, Marquis de, 25
Sam (retail magnate), 191–92
Samaroff, Olga, 111
Sand, George, 34, 64, 128–29
Sanger, Margaret, 219
Sarkozy, Nicolas, 87
Sartre, Jean-Paul, 87, 100, 183
Satanic seducer, 4–7
genuine, 5–7
in Paradise Lost, 4
Satyricon (Petronius), 171
savoir faire, 79
Scarlet Pimpernel (Orczy), 204
Schiffer, Irvine, 32, 55
Schine, Cathleen, 74
Scott, Randolph, 24
Sebastian D. (indie producer), 136–37
Second Sex, The (Beauvoir), 1
Seducer (Kjærstad), 214–15
seducers:
future prospects, 241–46
genuine, 18–20
heartthrobs, 20–24
ladies’ men, 24–27, 235–36
names for, 2
nowadays, 221–41
player, 16–18
professional, 5–7
Satanic, 4–7
stereotypes of, 3, 6, 13, 25
warnings about, 3–4
woman-pleasers, 8–12
Seduction (Baudrillard), 93, 99
Seifer, Judith, 224
self
-absorption, 8
self-realization, 86–90
senses, 97–133
appearance, 99–103
body language, 113–16, 165–66
dance, 113, 116–19, 134
food and wine, 129–32
gifts and wealth, 125–29
music, 107–12
setting, 103–7
sexpertise, 119–25
Serres, Michel, 183
setting, 103–7
sex drive, 39–42
sexpertise, 119–25, 229
sexual addiction, 8
sexual ambiguity, 45–48, 101
Shakespeare, William, 143, 163
shamans, 49, 55, 71, 163, 185–86, 240
Sheehy, Gail, 155
Shiva (myth.), 83, 88, 101, 152, 169
and bisexuality, 46
and dance, 117, 214
as fertility god, 52, 145
and mystery, 203
and Parvati, 75, 209
Shriver, Lionel, 161–62, 209
silence, 161, 165, 170
Silver, Rebecca, “Fearful Symmetry,” 56
Simon, Simone, 35
Simone, Madame, 166
Simons, Ilana, 186
Sinatra, Frank, 23, 31, 38, 112
Singer, Irving, 135, 238
Sircello, Guy, 180
Skelton, Barbara, 211
skin, 123
smile, 114–15
Smiley, Jane, 233
Sobieski, Leelee, 99
social IQ, 78–82
sociopaths, 9
Socrates, 38, 92
Solomon, 34
Solomon, Robert, 62, 143, 208, 213
sophistication and irony, 26
Spade, David, 179
Sparks, Nicholas, The Notebook, 103–4
Spender, Stephen, 50
Spielrein, Sabina, 156–57
spirituality, 70–74
spontaneity, 201
Staël, Germaine de, 141
Stallworthy, Jon, 185
Stanfill, Francesca, Shadows and Light, 5
Stanger, Patti, 33
Steinem, Gloria, 78
Stendhal, 70, 154
Stepp, Laura Sessions, 229, 230
Steve (fict.), 131
Stevenson, Polly, 89
Stevenson, Robert Louis, 68–70, 126, 138, 190
Stokowski, Leopold, 25, 38, 110–11
Straus, Jillian, 227
Strauss, Neil, The Game, 16–18
Strozzi, Filippo, 88, 140
surprise, 203
Susann, Jacqueline, Love Machine, 5
Swayze, Patrick, 118
Sweetest Thing, The (movie), 147
Swift, Kay, 35
Symons, Donald, 13
Synge, John Millington, Playboy of the Western World, 187
Talleyrand-Périgord, Charles-Maurice de, 57, 170
Taylor, Elizabeth, 172, 188, 208
Taylor, Timothy, 122
Terell, Tom, 142
Thackeray, William Makepeace, 221
Their Eyes Were Watching God (Hurston), 110
Thomas, Anjani, 188
Throckmorton, Bess, 80
Tiefer, Leonore, 226
Time Traveler’s Wife, The (movie), 179
Titanic (movie), 49
Tolstoy, Leo:
Anna Karenina, 5, 139, 167
“Kreutzer Sonata,” 109
Torchia, Mike, 168
Tracy, Spencer, 207
transcendence, 71
transference, 58
Travolta, John, 72
Tree, Herbert Beerbohm, 115
Trickster (myth.), 176
Trina (filmmaker), 221–23, 228, 239
Tristan and Iseult (myth.), 152
Turgenev, Ivan, 57, 182–83
Turrentine, Jeff, 104
Unbearable Lightness of Being, The (Kundera), 80, 203
unconscious, 83, 104, 147
Unger, Roberto, 213
Updike, John:
Gertrude and Claudius, 128
Witches of Eastwick, 146–47
Valentino, Rudolph, 25
Vance (ladies’ man about town), 36, 134–35
Vanderbilt, Gloria, 111
van de Velde, Theodoor Hendrik, 237, 245
Ideal Marriage, 113
Varda, Agnès, 244
variety, 202–3
Velez, Lupe, 47
Venus (myth.), 177
Viardot, Pauline, 57, 183, 233
Vicky Cristina Barcelona (movie), 82
Victoria, queen of England, 170
Vidal, Peire (fict.), 140
Vilmorin, Louise de, 149
virtue/morality, 61–66
Vishnu (myth.), 117
voice, inflections, 166–67
Volland, Sophie, 184
Voltaire, 10, 61, 76, 159
vulnerability, 55, 57
Wainger, Leslie, 176
Walcott, Derek, Joker of Seville, 187
Walters, Barbara, 78
Warner, Marina, 232
Warre-Cornish, Mollie, 189
Warren, Lisa Solod, 227
Washington, Booker T., 91
Watson, Cynthia, 104
Waugh, Evelyn, 150
wealth, 132
and gifts, 125–29
and prestige, 12–13, 228
Weber, Max, 33
Wedding Date, The (movie), 220
Wells, H. G., 53, 218–19, 231
Wesley, Mary, Not That Sort of Girl, 139
West, Mae, 33
West, Rebecca, 219
Wharton, Edith, Summer, 146
Whitman, Walt, 86
Who’s Afraid of Virginia Woolf? (play), 212
Williams, Robin, 58
Williams-Wynn, Alexandra, 50
Wilson, Mary, 155
Wiseman, Richard, 186
wit, 174–79
Witches of Eastwick (Updike), 146–47
Wolff, Toni, 157
woman-pleaser:
genuine, 9–12
pathologic, 8–9
women:
as choosers in mating, 241
estranged, 226–27
Wood, Lana, 44, 170
Woolf, Virginia, 78, 189
Wright, Frank Lloyd, 38, 49, 106–7, 216
Wuthering Heights (Brontë), 37, 153
Wynn (antique dealer), 119–20
X-Men (TV), 238–39
Yeats, William Butler, “Leda and the Swan,” 187
Zahavi, Amotz, 59, 127
Zhivago, Dr. (fict.), 68
ziggurat, 105
zöe, 34
Zoe (art dealer), 221–23, 227, 228, 230, 246
Zuckerman, Mort, 78
Photo Insert
The great Casanova
The great Hindu sex deity, Shiva, dancing the Dance of the Cosmos
The penultimate sex god Dionysus seducing Ariadne
“Second Dionysus,” Alcibiades, ca. 450–404 BCE
“Hero of the boudoir,” Louis François Armand, duc de Richelieu
“The most remarkable lover of his time,” Gabriele D’Annunzio
The “mad, bad, dangerous to know” romantic poet and ladykiller, Lord Byron
“Sweet man” Duke Ellington pursued by women
“Fanatical lover of women,” Robert Louis Stevenson
Irresistible Rubi, the “last playboy”
Crooner and “woman’s man” Sam Cooke
Former President Bill Clinton turning on the charm
“Adonis of the drawing room,” Prince Clemens von Metternich
“The most remarkable lover of his time,” Gabriele D’Annunzio
“Genius” and ladies’ man Aldous Huxley
Elizabethan “darling,” Sir Walter Raleigh
“Golden Tiger,” Prince Grigory Potemkin
Pianist and heartthrob Franz Liszt, who ignited a “Lisztmania” throughout nineteenth-century Europe
French romantic writer and “enchanter” François-René Chateaubriand
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�Great lover” Carl Jung
Charmer, author, and casanova, Roald Dahl
Rock star “Mick the Magic Jagger”
Warren Beatty in high seduction mode
Woman slayer and American author Jack London flaunting his body beautiful
Actor David Niven laughing a conquest into bed
The indecently magnetic French actor Gérard Depardieu
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