Master/slave Relations: Handbook of Theory and Practice

by Robert J Rubel PhD

  3. Master now accepts conditional responsibility for this slave. At this stage, this includes the slave's spiritual, social, emotional, physical, and mental well-being. This slave accepts full responsibility for informing Master of all fears, concerns and anxieties on any and all topics, and also to inform him of any real or perceived dangers or safety concerns, whether or not they relate directly to him or to them as a couple. Concurrently, this slave recognizes and agrees that Master's decisions on any topic represent the final word regarding the resolutions of such issues. The slave will not be punished for respectfully stating these concerns. Master strives to listen to the slave's concerns with a clear and open heart and mind.

  4. At this time, Master specifically declines to accept responsibility for the slave's financial well-being. This topic will be discussed and addressed in a later contract phase.

  5. The slave agrees to dress in the styles and fashions selected by Master, and Master does not make such dress requirements of this slave as to represent financial hardship or burden.

  6. During this trial period, Master and slave will play by SSC rather than RACK rules. That is, the slave agrees to accept responsibility for using safewords or safe gestures when necessary. The slave acknowledges that the physical play safeword is red. Master accepts the responsibility for stopping activities in progress to assess situations where the slave uses a safeword, and he will, to the best of his ability, immediately modify or stop the activity. The slave agrees to hold no ill will due to his decision. Master will not punish the slave for the use of a safeword or safe gesture.

  7. During this trial period, this slave agrees to use Master's given name, , as an emotional safeword. That is, if Master says something that violates an emotional boundary with the slave, the slave agrees to communicate emotional hurt to Master by prefacing such comments with his given name.

  8. The slave agrees to answer fully and promptly any and all questions asked by Master. This is a FULL DISCLOSURE Contract. Further, this slave agrees to volunteer any information that Master should know regarding this slave's physical, mental, or emotional state. Master will not use this information to harm the slave in any way.

  9. The slave has previously stated personal limits in a checklist, and Master will not violate these limits without prior negotiation with and consent by the slave.

  10. The slave agrees to address as Master, unless otherwise directed. The slave agrees to abide by such Manual of Protocol as Master ultimately creates. The slave agrees to speak respectfully to him at all times, including times not spent in a scene. Master may address the slave in any way he chooses that is not emotionally abusive.

  11. Master will furnish the slave with such token(s) of ownership as he sees fit; the slave agrees to wear such symbol(s) at all times, except when the slave states to do so would be inappropriate or would non-consensually involve others.

  12. The slave agrees not to have any sexual encounter other than with Master for the duration of this Contract, except to the extent that Master is aware of and approves such encounters. The slave will not engage in sexual self-pleasuring actions without requesting specific prior permission from Master.

  13. The slave agrees to and understands that minor infractions of this Agreement will be dealt with through Correction, and that continued inappropriate behavior or material breach of contract will be Punished by withdrawing attention for a specified period, and/or by administering manageable physical discipline in private. Any Correction or Punishment will end in debriefing and forgiveness.

  14. If the slave commits an act that violates the trust that Master has placed in the slave, a third party (selected by Master if not mutually agreed upon) will be chosen to hear the issue and to administer a Consequence.

  • The slave agrees to abide by any Ruling made in such a case.

  • There will be a debriefing and forgiveness that will complete the cycle.

  • Time with this slave-in-training must not take away from established times with members of Master's Leather Family.

  Fluid Bonding

  Unprotected sexual intimacy is a very special Gift between Master and the slave. Master will provide the slave with a hardcopy of his STD report, and agrees that since that STD report, he has not had unprotected sex with any person outside the Family, and will not have unprotected sex with any other person outside the Family while fluid bonded with this slave.

  In a general sense, fluid bonding between Master and this slave will occur once these terms and conditions have been met on both sides:

  • Test negative for all STDs in a test taken at an appropriate time after last sexual encounter with another person.

  • Agree that ALL future sex partners are pre-negotiated.

  • Agree that ALL future sex partners will use condoms during intercourse.

  • If there is a lapse by either party when striving to conform to these conditions, the party who has had the lapse will return to this negotiated state by immediately bringing this issue - like any other moral/ethical issue - to the other person's attention.

  • In the event of an episode of unprotected sex, there will then be a period of protected sex between this slave and Master sufficient to enable the lapsed person to be retested for STDs and to obtain test results.

  Master will...

  • Use the slave in any way he so desires, and for any purpose he desires.

  • Encourage the slave to explore his/her slave heart.

  • Serve as a Guide for the slave in the slave's quest for submission and spiritual connection through BDSM.

  • Give the slave Directives and Instructions that may carry beyond their physical time together.

  • Provide the slave such tokens of ownership as he chooses.

  • Correct inappropriate behavior in whatever manner he chooses. Such correction will end in debriefing and forgiveness.

  EXAMPLE OF A COMPLICATED CONTRACT

  Here is an example of a very complicated (but specific) contract, taken from many different sources, both from books and websites. Obviously, you will need to negotiate your own limits prior to creating this or any other contract. The bulk of this material came from a public-domain website: http://www.londonfetish- scene.com/wipi/index.php/Contract. I sense that it's been created by an attorney with OCD, but that's strictly my opinion.

  [Commentary on this Contract: I hasten to add that I have not ever tried to use this contract - nor would I. I have read it carefully a number of times and have done some editing, but it does not, in fact, sing to me. For a long-term contract, it seems to me that the Master has allowed the slave to retain far too much personal will. Worse, as I read some of these clauses, it would be easy for the slave to trigger a safe period when - in reality - Master is simply training the slave in a way that the slave finds uncomfortable. At any rate, I'll leave it in this book because it is so thorough, and because it should cause you to think about clauses you would want to modify when you create your own specific M/s contract.]

  Mutual Respect

  This contract describes the respective roles and responsibilities of Master and slave. This contract assumes that each party holds the other in equal respect; that Master and slave each think of the other as having equal value to themselves. Master is not better than the slave; the slave is not less than the Master.

  Contract Provisions

  1. I agree to please Master to the best of my ability. I understand and accept that I now exist solely for Master's pleasure, to be trained, disciplined, punished and rewarded if and when Master deems it necessary.

  2. My Master has agreed not to inflict any physical harm upon my body that would require the attention of anyone outside of our relationship, and has thoughtfully agreed that no discipline, training, or punishment shall take place if he has consumed any alcohol or any drug which would thus impair his ability to keep me from any physical, mental, or emotional harm.

  3. My Master and I understand and agree that during the period ofthis Contract, I hold
veto power over any command given by Master only under these specific circumstances:

  a. Where a command conflicts with any existing laws and may lead to fines, arrest, or prosecution.

  b. Where said command may cause extreme damage to my life, such as losing my job, causing family stress, etc.

  c. Where said command may cause long-term bodily harm or psychological trauma.

  d. Where said command is issued in a public place that was not agreed upon beforehand, and reveals to anyone else our relationship.

  e. Where said command is issued during a time that Master has consumed sufficient drugs or alcohol to be considered legally under the influence of said drugs or alcohol, thus impaired in his ability to keep me from harm.

  4. I agree to accept, without hesitation, any punishment, reward, discipline, or training regimen my Master decides is needed, whether earned or not, whether physical or mental or emotional.

  5. My Master and I have agreed beforehand that punishment, discipline, and/or training, shall not involve any of the following, defined hereby as "Abuse:"

  a. Drawing or release of blood.

  b. Burning or mutilating my body in any way.

  c. Drastic loss of circulation.

  d. Inappropriate and hurtful language intended to upset me (emotional or verbal abuse).

  e. Internal bleeding or complications.

  f. Loss of consciousness, hearing, sight, smell, touch or taste.

  g. Withholding of any necessary materials, such as food, water, sunlight, and/or warmth, for extended periods of time.

  h. Forcing the consumption of any illegal drug in any form at any time.

  6. My Master and I have also agreed that because my body now belongs to Master, he shall immediately undertake the responsibility of protecting my body not only from temporary harm, as stated directly above, but also permanent bodily harm.

  7. My Master and I have agreed beforehand that punishment, discipline, and/or training shall not involve any of the following, hereby defined as "Permanent Bodily Harm:"

  a. Death.

  b. Any damage that involves loss of mobility or function, including broken bones.

  c. Any permanent marks on the skin, including scars, burns, or tattoos, unless accepted by the slave.

  d. Any loss of hair, unless accepted by the slave.

  e. Any piercing of the flesh which leaves a permanent hole, unless accepted by the slave.

  f. Any diseases that could result in any of the above results, including sexually transmitted diseases.

  8. My Master and I have also agreed that because my mind now belongs to Master, he shall immediately undertake the responsibility of protecting my mind from permanent harm.

  9. My Master and I have agreed beforehand that punishment, discipline, and/or training, shall not involve any of the following, hereby defined as "Permanent Mental Harm:"

  a. Formal brainwashing or hypnosis sessions, unless expressly agreed upon by the slave, and then only by a third party trained professional.

  b. Electric shock to temples or any other mind altering application of force or energy.

  c. Any mind altering drugs of any kind.

  d. Sleep, food, sunlight, or other forms of deprivation or neglect specifically designed to break down my mental capacity in any way.

  10.1 am aware that as a slave, I will be required to maintain a positive outlook and have correct thinking, as such. I welcome Master's assistance in those areas.

  11. My Master and I have agreed that at any time I may utilize a "Safe Word," and that whatever punishment, discipline, or training that is happening at that time shall immediately, and without hesitation, cease, and that time shall be called a "Safe Period," wherein the following rules shall apply:

  a. During any Safe Period, Master and I shall resolve any issues before continuing any punishment, discipline or training.

  b. I must have a valid reason for using a Safe Word, and I must supply a specific reason each time I use it.

  c. No punishments, discipline, or training will take place during a Safe Period, and I shall be free to express my concerns and to speak freely without fear of harm or punishment.

  d. I understand, and willingly accept, that I will continue to address Master with respect and love at all times, and that deviations from this rule are subject to punishment at a later time.

  e. There is no limit to the number of times during any given period the Safe Word may be utilized, and thusly, Safe Periods.

  12. My Master and I have agreed that I may ask for a "Free Period" to express my concerns, and to speak freely without fear of harm or punishment. The following rules shall apply at all times:

  a. These shall occur only once per day, and only if requested by Master or I.

  b. They shall never last more than one hour, unless Master wishes it to continue past that time.

  c. They are not cumulative.

  d. My Master has complete control over when these Free Periods shall take place, but has agreed that they shall take place on the same day that I request it.

  e. There will be no punishment, discipline or training applied during Free Periods.

  13.1 understand, and willingly accept, however, that I will continue to address Master with respect and love at all times, and that deviations from this rule are subject to punishment at a later time.

  14. For clarification purposes only, the Safe Period is a time that all interactions with Master cease immediately while we work to resolve some problem or issue. A Free Period is a time that Master grants during which time I am free to choose my own actions/activities; no instruction or training is scheduled during my Free Period.

  15. During the duration of this contract, I accept and agree not to take any other Master, Dom or lover, or to be sexual or submissive to any other person, without the express and explicit direction and command of Master. I further understand that to do so without such explicit direction will result in the immediate termination of this contract.

  16. My Master has agreed that he shall take no other submissive or slave without first discussing it with me and considering my emotional response to such a proposal.

  17. My Master has agreed that he will not upset my emotional balance or ignore me in favor of another submissive or slave.

  18. My Master and I have agreed that he shall never under any circumstances give me to another Master, unless the safety guidelines of this contract are wholeheartedly followed by that Master at all times and without exception. It is Master's sole responsibility to determine if this other Master will agree to these terms and will follow these rules. Master agrees that a breach of contract by any other Master would also be considered by me to be a breach of contract by my Master as well.

  19. My Master and I have agreed that all physical evidence of my slavery to Master shall be kept in strictest secrecy, except where Master and I have agreed otherwise.

  20. My Master and I have agreed that any alterations to this contract will be printed and signed and attached as addendum to this original contract before said addendum is enforced, and that it will not be necessary to include any edicts or commands or rules, etc., put forth by my Master into this contract.

  21. I agree to give all of my worldly possessions to my Master, to give my physical body to my Master, completely and without exception, and to pleasure Master as he requests, and as often as he requests.

  22. I understand and accept willingly that Master may punish me, command me, train me, and love me how Master sees fit, at any time, any place, under any circumstance.

  23. My Master and I have agreed that Private Rules of Conduct (protocols) shall be created, and that it will be my responsibility always to know any changes to any rules of conduct set forth, and to follow them explicitly without exception; that Master may change these rules of conduct at any time, without prior notice, and that these rules are to govern my actions within and outside the confines of Master's house.

  24. My Master and I have agreed that publicly, w
e shall both conduct ourselves in such a manner as not to call attention to our Master/slave relationship, that I will defer to Master at all times in public, and shall call him by his proper name when appropriate, and that Master has agreed that only people we have both agreed upon shall know about our relationship and/or contract.

  25. Parties or gatherings specifically created for other Masters and slaves shall not be considered public places. Our participation in such parties will be voluntary to both parties. During these gatherings I shall abide by all rules, edicts, and commands of my Master, just as if we were in private, with no exceptions.

  26. If, during a party or gathering specifically created for other Masters and slaves, Master wishes me to participate in any way with another slave or Master, he has graciously agreed to discuss this with me beforehand and make such requests in these situations with my acceptance beforehand.

  27. I agree and willingly accept my duties as slave.

  28.1 shall speak of Master in terms of love, respect, and adoration at all times. I will address him at all times as "Sir" or "Master," or however else he sees fit, and I shall abide by all items set forth in this contract, as well as any future edicts, commands or orders to the best of my ability, and understand that there may be adverse consequences should I not carry out Master's requests or follow his rules to his satisfaction.

  29. Master has granted me the freedom to to engage in any and all activities not actively forbidden by this contract, or by later edict of my Master, and all rights and privileges not otherwise noted in this contract belong to Master, and he may exercise them as he chooses.

  30. Master and I have agreed that no part of this contract is intended to interfere with my career. My Master wishes me to work hard and honestly, in general, and to conduct myself in a manner calculated to bring honor and respect to both of us.

  31. Master has graciously agreed, during periods of work, that I am permitted to schedule appointments, to dress in a manner appropriate to work, and to leave the house when necessary for work. During periods of work, or if at home, I may answer the telephone, if necessary, and discuss business without the express permission of my Master.