Your Teenager Is Not Crazy

by Jerusha Clark

  11. Sarah McKibben, “Wake-Up Call,” The Association for Supervision and Curriculum Development Newsletter 56, no. 4 (April 2014), http://www.ascd.org/publications/newsletters/education_update/apr14/vol56/num04/Wake-Up_Call.aspx. Accessed January 5, 2015.

  12. “Teens, School and Sleep: A Complex Relationship,” The National Sleep Foundation, http://sleepfoundation.org/sleep-news/teens-school-and-sleep-complex-relationship. Accessed January 5, 2015.

  13. “Let Them Sleep: AAP Recommends Delaying Start Times of Middle and High Schools to Combat Teen Sleep Deprivation,” American Academy of Pediatrics, August 25, 2014, http://www.aap.org/en-us/about-the-aap/aap-press-room/Pages/Let-Them-Sleep-AAP-Recommends-Delaying-Start-Times-of-Middle-and-High-Schools-to-Combat-Teen-Sleep-Deprivation.aspx#sthash.gXXwmkJO.dpuf. Accessed January 7, 2015.

  14. “Teens and Sleep,” 1.

  15. Dr. Helene A. Emsellem, with Carol Whiteley, Snooze or Lose: 10 “No-War” Ways to Improve Your Teen’s Sleep Habits (Washington, DC: Joseph Henry Press, 2006), 25, 44.

  16. Editorial board, “A Smarter Way to Start High-Schoolers’ Days,” The Washington Post, August 18, 2013, https://www.washingtonpost.com/opinions/a-smarter-way-to-start-high-schoolers-days/2013/08/18/e2d24276-f49f-11e2-9434-60440856fadf_story.html. Accessed January 7, 2015.

  17. McKibben, “Wake-Up Call.”

  18. Meeri Kim, “Blue Light from Electronics Disturbs Sleep, Especially for Teenagers,” The Washington Post, September 1, 2014, https://www.washingtonpost.com/national/health-science/blue-light-from-electronics-disturbs-sleep-especially-for-teenagers/2014/08/29/3edd2726-27a7-11e4-958c-268a320a60ce_story.html. Accessed January 7, 2015.

  19. Beth Kassab, “Are You Addicted to Your Smartphone?” Orlando Sentinel, November 25, 2013.

  20. Michelle Healy, “Docs Urge Delayed School Start Times for Teens,” USA Today, August 25, 2014, http://www.usatoday.com/story/news/nation/2014/08/25/pediatricians-late-school-start-time-good-for-teens/14338565/. Accessed January 7, 2015.

  Chapter 21 I’m Starving

  1. Some recommend following a 90/10 rule, and we can attest that the healthier you and your teen eat, the better you’ll both feel.

  2. Note: This chapter will cover topics of nutrition. For information on body image and the interplay during adolescence, turn to chapter 24, “I Feel So Ugly.”

  3. Dr. Daniel Amen, Change Your Brain, Change Your Body (New York: Three Rivers Press, 2010), 83.

  4. Adapted from Amen, 83–84.

  5. “Economic Census: Industry Snapshots, Accommodation and Food Services (NAICS 72),” US Census Bureau, 2012, http://thedataweb.rm.census.gov/TheDataWeb_HotReport2/econsnapshot/2012/snapshot.hrml?NAICS=72. Accessed January 8, 2015.

  6. See “2014 Restaurant Industry Forecast,” National Restaurant Association, http://www.restaurant.org/News-Research/Research/Facts-at-a-Glance. Accessed January 8, 2015.

  7. “What to Do When There Are Too Many Product Choices on the Store Shelves?” Consumer Reports, January 2014, http://www.consumerreports.org/cro/magazine/2014/03/too-many-product-choices-in-supermarkets/index.htm. Accessed January 8, 2015.

  8. J. Savage, J. Fisher, L. Birch. “Parental Influence on Eating Behavior: Conception to Adolescence,” The Journal of Law, Medicine & Ethics 35, no. 1 (2007): 22–34, accessed October 22, 2015, at http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2531152/#R3.

  9. Centers for Disease Control, “Nutrition and the Health of Young People,” updated August 28, 2015, and accessed October 22, 2015, at http://www.cdc.gov/healthyschools/nutrition/facts.htm.

  10. A. Hoyland, L. Dye, C. L. Lawton, “A Systematic Review of the Effect of Breakfast on the Cognitive Performance of Children and Adolescents,” Nutrition Research Reviews 22 (2009): 220–43.

  11. Rick Warren, Dr. Daniel Amen, Dr. Mark Hyman, The Daniel Plan: 40 Days to a Healthier Life (Grand Rapids: Zondervan, 2013), 38.

  12. You can find a list of the top fifty brain foods on the Amen Clinics website at http://www.amenclinics.com/cybcyb/50-best-brain-foods/.

  13. Marcus Samuelsson, “Cooking for Huffington Post’s Oasis and Teaching Healthy Eating Habits,” Huffington Post Food, October 6, 2011, http://www.huffingtonpost.com/marcus-samuelsson/cooking-for-huffington-po_b_998255.html. Accessed May 20, 2015.

  Chapter 22 What’s Wrong with Me?

  1. Steinberg, Age of Opportunity, 42–43.

  2. Ibid.

  3. B. Ellis, S. McFayden-Ketchum, K. Dodge, G. Pettit, and J. Bates, “Quality of Early Family Relationships and Individual Differences in the Timing of Pubertal Maturation in Girls: A Longitudinal Test of an Evolutionary Model,” Journal of Personality and Social Psychology 77, no. 2 (August 1999): 387–401, http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2791962/. Accessed December 24, 2014.

  4. B. Ellis, J. Bates, K. Dodge, D. Ferguson, J. Horwood, G. Pettit, and L. Woodward, “Does Father Absence Place Daughters at Special Risk for Early Sexual Activity and Teenage Pregnancy?” Child Development 74 (2003): 801–821.

  5. Dobson, Bringing Up Girls (Wheaton: Tyndale, 2010), 94.

  6. See Lorraine Pintus, Jump Off the Hormone Swing (Chicago: Moody Press, 2011), 39–42.

  7. Dobson, 204.

  8. Pintus, 30.

  9. Ibid., 41.

  10. Thomas Haberman and Amit K. Ghosh, eds., Mayo Clinic Internal Medicine Concise Textbook (Rochester, MN: Mayo Clinic Scientific Press and Informa Health Care, 2008), 879.

  11. Dobson, 201.

  12. Dr. Louann Brizendine, The Female Brain (New York: Broadway Books, 2007), 30.

  13. Fascinatingly, high levels of estrogen in infancy are similarly linked with the desire for closeness.

  14. Feinstein, 58.

  15. Amy LaRue, ND, “Xenoestrogens—What Are They? How to Avoid Them,” originally posted in the October 2012 newsletter of the Women in Balance Institute, http://womeninbalance.org/2012/10/26/xenoestrogens-what-are-they-how-to-avoid-them/. Accessed December 24, 2014.

  16. “TEDX List of Potential Endocrine Disruptors,” TEDX—The Endocrine Disruption Exchange, http://endocrinedisruption.org/endocrine-disruption/tedx-list-of-potential-endocrine-disruptors/overview. Accessed May 22, 2015.

  17. Feinstein, 107.

  Chapter 23 It’s Not All I Think About!

  1. Doug Carlson, “Teenage Brain: Studies Explain Risky Behavior,” Florida State University Press Release, August 28, 2014, https://www.fsu.edu/indexTOFStory.html?lead.bhide. Accessed April 14, 2015.

  2. Ibid.

  3. Jensen, 21.

  4. Portions of this paragraph adapted from Mark Oestreicher and Brock Morgan, A Parent’s Guide to Understanding Teenage Guys: Remembering Who He Was, Celebrating Who He’s Becoming (Loveland, CO: Group Publishing, 2012).

  5. “Pornography Statistics: Annual Report 2015,” Covenant Eyes, http://www.covenanteyes.com/pornstats/. Accessed April 14, 2015.

  6. “The Stats on Internet Pornography,” Daily Infographic, January 4, 2013, http://www.dailyinfographic.com/the-stats-on-internet-pornography-infographic. Accessed April 14, 2015.

  7. Ibid.

  8. See Valerie Voon et al., “Neural Correlates of Sexual Cue Reactivity in Individuals with and without Compulsive Sexual Behaviours,” PLOS One Journal, July 11, 2014; Simone Kühn and Jürgen Gallinat, “Brain Structure and Functional Connectivity Associated with Pornography Consumption,” JAMA Psychiatry 71, no. 7 (2014): 827–34; and see Your Brain on Porn at http://www.yourbrainonporn.com/porn-induced-ed-media for an extensive list of articles and videos on the topic.

  9. Oestreicher and Morgan, Kindle location, 448–51.

  10. Keller made this statement during a lecture on the topic “Redefining Work,” given at the Gospel Coalition’s 2013 National Conference. Accessed October 24, 2015, at The Acton Institute Power Blog, http://blog.acton.org/archives/55225-tim-keller-on-how-the-bible-shapes-the-way-we-work.html.

  11. Thanks to Mark Oestreicher and Brock Morgan for this stellar suggestion.

  Chapter 24 I Feel So Ugly

  1. Constanc
e Rhodes, Life Inside the Thin Cage (Colorado Springs: Shaw Books, 2003), 71.

  2. Ibid.

  3. See Dr. Naomi Weinshenker, “Teenagers and Body Image,” May 1, 2014, http://www.education.com/reference/article/Ref_Adolescents_Body/. Accessed February 4, 2015.

  4. See National Eating Disorders Association, “A Silent Epidemic,” 2012, http://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/silent-epidemic, accessed February 5, 2015; “11 Facts about Body Image,” DoSomething.org, https://www.dosomething.org/facts/11-facts-about-body-image; and Carolyn Costin, The Eating Disorder Sourcebook (Los Angeles, CA: Lowell House, 1999), 83.

  5. Dana Hudepohl, “How Much Would You Risk to Lose Weight?” Glamour, July 2002, 81.

  6. Shaun Dreisbach, “Shocking Body-Image News: 97% of Women Will Be Cruel to Their Bodies Today,” Glamour, February 3, 2011, http://www.glamour.com/health-fitness/2011/02/shocking-body-image-news-97-percent-of-women-will-be-cruel-to-their-bodies-today. Accessed February 4, 2015.

  7. Ibid.

  8. Jennifer L. Bedford and Susan Barr, “The Relationship between 24-Hr Urinary Cortisol and Bone in Healthy Young Women,” International Journal of Behavioral Medicine 17, no. 3 (September 2010): 207–215.

  9. Dreisbach, 1.

  10. For a scientific review of 77 studies that link media exposure to negative body image, see S. Grabe, L. Ward, and J. Hyde, “The Role of the Media in Body Image Concerns Among Women: A Meta-Analysis of Experimental and Correlational Studies,” Psychological Bulletin 134 (2008): 460–76.

  11. B. J. Gallagher, Everything I Need to Know I Learned from Other Women (York Beach, ME: Cohari, 2002), 109.

  12. Dreisbach, 1.

  13. Rhodes, 135.

  14. Michelle Graham, Wanting to Be Her (Downer’s Grove, IL: InterVarsity Press, 2005), 159.

  15. Ibid.

  16. J. Arcelus, A. Mitchell, J. Wales, and S. Nielsen, “Mortality Rates in Patients with Anorexia Nervosa and Other Eating Disorders,” Archives of General Psychiatry 68, no. 7 (2011): 724–31.

  17. Dr. Alan Schwitzer, quoted in Rhodes, Life Inside the “Thin” Cage, 22.

  Chapter 25 I Hate My Life

  1. Siegel, Brainstorm, 97–98.

  2. Ibid., 99.

  3. Ibid.

  4. Feinstein, 107.

  5. “Shrinkage, Not the Shrinks,” BrainWise, Johns Hopkins Department of Psychiatry and Behavioral Sciences (Winter 2008), http://www.hopkinsmedicine.org/psychiatry/about/publications/newsletter/archive/08_winter/shrinkage.html. Accessed December 23, 2014.

  6. Adapted from “Recognizing Teen Depression,” MedlinePlus, National Institutes of Mental Health, http://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/ency/patientinstructions/000648.htm. Accessed December 15, 2014.

  7. Bradley, 326.

  8. “Treatment for Adolescents with Depression Study (TADS),” National Institute of Mental Health, 2009, http://www.nimh.nih.gov/funding/clinical-trials-for-researchers/practical/tads/index.shtml. Accessed December 23, 2014.

  9. “Treatment of SSRI-resistant Depression in Adolescents (TORDIA),” National Institute of Mental Health, updated March 11, 2014, https://www.clinicaltrials.gov/ct2/show/NCT00018902, accessed October 24, 2015.

  10. Dr. Earl Henslin, This Is Your Brain on Joy (Nashville: Thomas Nelson, 2009), 145.

  11. Leaf, Switch on Your Brain, 31–32.

  Chapter 26 What If . . . ?

  1. E. J. Costello, S. Mustillo, A. Erkanli, G. Keeler, and A. Angold, “Prevalence and Development of Psychiatric Disorders in Childhood and Adolescence,” Archives of General Psychiatry 60 (2003): 837–844.

  2. Tara S. Peris and Adriana Galván, “Contextual Modulation of Medial Prefrontal Cortex to Neutral Faces in Anxious Adolescents,” Biology of Mood & Anxiety Disorders 3 (2013): 18, http://www.biolmoodanxietydisord.com/content/3/1/18#B2. Accessed December 22, 2014.

  3. These areas include the hippocampus, frontal lobe, and corpus callosum. See Leaf, 181–82.

  4. See Payne, 80.

  5. Ibid., 208.

  6. Dan Baker, PhD, and Cameron Stauth, What Happy People Know: How the New Science of Happiness Can Change Your Life for the Better (New York: St. Martin’s Press, 2003), 81.

  7. Ann Voskamp, One Thousand Gifts: A Dare to Live Fully Right Where You Are (Grand Rapids: Zondervan, 2010), 72.

  Appendix A The Truth about Substance Abuse

  1. See Siegel, Brainstorm, 264.

  2. Payne, 89.

  3. Statistics in this section from the US Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, “Alcohol and Public Health: Frequently Asked Questions,” http://www.cdc.gov/alcohol/faqs.htm#young. Accessed April 16, 2015.

  Appendix B The Truth about Self-Injury

  1. “Fast Facts: Overview,” International Society for the Study of Self-Injury, http://itriples.org/self-injury/fast-facts/. Accessed April 16, 2015.

  2. Quotes taken from a self-injury forum, “PRO_SI,” LiveJournal forum, http://pro-si.livejournal.com. Accessed April 16, 2015. Caution: this journal can be explicit and is not recommended for teens.

  3. Lewis Smedes, Shame and Grace: Healing the Shame We Don’t Deserve (New York: HarperCollins, 1993), 108.

  Appendix C The Truth about Suicide

  1. Statistics from the US Centers for Disease Control, “Suicide Prevention: Youth Suicide,” updated March 10, 2015, http://www.cdc.gov/ViolencePrevention/suicide/youth_suicide.html. Accessed April 16, 2015.

  2. Burns, 209.

  3. Ibid.

  4. “Suicide,” TeensHealth, reviewed by D’Arcy Lyness, PhD, July 2014, http://kidshealth.org/teen/your_mind/feeling_sad/suicide.html. Accessed April 17, 2015.

  Dr. Jeramy Clark received his Masters of Divinity and Doctorate of Ministry from Talbot Theological Seminary. He served as a youth pastor for seventeen years before becoming the pastor of discipleship at Emmanuel Faith Community Church. His role includes overseeing men’s and women’s ministries, care and counseling, and small groups. Jeramy roasts, brews, and savors coffee of all varieties, plays pickup basketball, is a drummer, and enjoys surfing.

  Jerusha Clark coauthored four books with Jeramy, including three bestsellers, prior to launching a writing and speaking ministry focused on helping others glorify and enjoy God, one thought at a time. Her books include Every Thought Captive, The Life You Crave, and When I Get Married. Jerusha has also written on depression, self-injury, and other mental health concerns. On quiet days, you can find Jerusha bodyboarding or reading at the beach, her absolute favorite place. Jeramy and Jerusha have two amazing teenage daughters and love ministering together at churches, retreats, schools, and conferences. The Clarks live in Escondido, California.

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