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“are striving to be superwomen” Betsy Polk and Maggie Ellis Chotas, Power Through Partnership: How Women Lead Better Together (San Francisco: Berett-Koehler, 2014), p. 14.
She says, forthrightly Debora L. Spar, Wonder Women: Sex, Power, and the Quest for Perfection (New York: Farrar, Straus and Giroux, 2013), p. 234.
“We took the struggles and victories” Ibid.
“force field of highly unrealistic expectations” Ibid., p. 233.
She may be completely exhausted Betsey Stevenson and Justin Wolfers, “The Paradox of Declining Female Happiness,” American Economic Journal: Economic Policy 1, no. 2 (2009): 190–225.
As she tells the story Gro Harlem Brundtland, Madam Prime Minister: A Life in Power and Politics (New York: Farrar, Straus and Giroux, 2002), p. 57.
A HOUSE MUST BE CLEAN ENOUGH Nancy Gibbs, “Norway’s Radical Daughter,” Time, June 24, 2001, content.time.com/time/magazine/article/0,9171,152609,00.html.
“Among my friends” Miller, “The Retro Wife.”
Your spouse might Senior, All Joy and No Fun, p. 79.
an immediate emotional response Ibid., p. 87.
While single fathers Gretchen Livingston, “The Rise of Single Fathers: A Ninefold Increase Since 1960,” Pew Research Center Social and Demographic Trends, June 2013, pewsocialtrends.org/files/2013/07/single-fathers-07-2013.pdf; Kelly Musick and Ann Meier, “Are Both Parents Always Better than One? Parental Conflict and Young Adult Well-being,” Social Science Research 39, no. 5 (2010): 814–30.
Interracial marriage “Loving v. Virginia: The Case Over Interracial Marriage,” ACLU, aclu.org/racial-justice/loving-v-virginia-case-over-interracial-marriage.
“traditional idealized family” Mary Francis Berry, “The Mother of All Debates; The Father’s Hour,” New York Times, February 10, 1993, nytimes.com/1993/02/10/opinion/the-mother-of-all-debates-the-father-s-hour.html.
“[Fathers] not only directed” Ibid.
Home economics Viviana A. Zelizer, Pricing the Priceless Child: The Changing Social Value of Children (Princeton, NJ: Princeton University Press, 1994), pp. 62–64.
“The useful labor” Ibid., pp. 97–98.
“manhood flowed out of [men’s] utility” Susan Faludi, Stiffed: The Betrayal of the American Man (New York: HarperCollins, 2010), eBook, p. 816.
“a cloth-diapering wizard” Abigail Rine, “Feminist Housedude,” Mama Unabridged, March 21, 2013, mamaunabridged.com/2013/03/21/feminist-housedude.
Part III: Getting to Equal
Ginsburg once gave an interview Jeffrey Rosen, “The New Look of Liberalism on the Court,” New York Times, October 5, 1997, nytimes.com/1997/10/05/magazine/the-new-look-of-liberalism-on-the-court.html.
“You may think it can’t happen” Anne-Marie Slaughter, “Can We All ‘Have It All’?,” TEDGlobal 2013, June 2013, ted.com/talks/anne_marie_slaughter_can_we_all_have_it_all.
Chapter 8: Change the Way You Talk
“This new feature” Rich Ferraro, “Facebook Introduces Custom Gender Field to Allow Users to More Accurately Reflect Who They Are,” GLAAD, February 13, 2014, glaad.org/blog/facebook-introduces-custom-gender-field-allow-users-more-accurately-reflect-who-they-are.
“backing away from [my] State Department job” Gloria Feldt, “Why Women Must Seize This Moment,” CNN, March 14, 2013, cnn.com/2013/03/10/opinion/feldt-women-balance.
in the genre of women “dropping out” Tara Sophia Mohr, “Slaughter’s Story Made the Cover—What Stories Got Left Out?,” Huffington Post, July 9, 2012, huffingtonpost.com/tara-sophia-mohr/having-it-all_b_1658131.html.
“leaving to spend time with your family” Laura Rozen, “Policy Planning’s Anne-Marie Slaughter Signs Off,” Politico, February 3, 2011, politico.com/blogs/laurarozen/0211/Policy_Planning_chief_AnneMarie_Slaughter_signs_off.html.
“Ms. Flournoy’s announcement” Elizabeth Bumiller, “One of the Pentagon’s Top Women Is Stepping Down,” New York Times, December 11, 2011, nytimes.com/2011/12/13/us/michele-flournoy-resigns-as-a-top-pentagon-adviser.html.
“ ‘I can absolutely and unequivocally state’ ” Ibid.
“law firms trip all over themselves” Email to Anne-Marie Slaughter, September 14, 2011.
“Women don’t want to be singled out” White House Working Families Summit, Part 2, Washington, D.C., June 23, 2014, c-span.org/video/?320109-101/white-house-working-families-summit-part-2.
good “work/life fit” Cali Williams Yost, Work + Life: Finding the Fit That’s Right for You (New York: Riverhead Books, 2004); Dan Schwabel, “Cali Williams Yost: Why We Have to Rethink Work Life Balance,” Forbes, January 8, 2013, forbes.com/sites/danschawbel/2013/01/08/cali-williams-yost-why-we-have-to-rethink-work-life-balance.
“custom-fit workplace” Joan Blades and Nanette Fondas, The Custom-Fit Workplace: Choose When, Where, and How to Work and Boost Your Bottom Line (San Francisco: Jossey-Bass, 2010), pp. 10–11; E. Kelly Moen and R. Huang, “ ‘Fit’ Inside the Work/Family Black Box: An Ecology of the Life Course, Cycles of Control Reframing,” Journal of Occupational and Organizational Psychology 81 (2008): 411–33; Judy Casey and Karen Corday, “Work-Life Fit and the Life Course: An Interview with Phyllis Moen,” Sloan Work and Family Research Network, Network News 11, no. 9 (September 2009).
Chapter 9: Planning Your Career (Even Though It Rarely Works Out as Planned)
“Plans are worthless” From Eisenhower’s speech to the National Defense Executive Reserve Conference in Washington, D.C., November 14, 1957; in National Archives and Records Service, Public Papers of the Presidents of the United States, Dwight D. Eisenhower, 1957 (Washington, DC: Government Printing Office, 1958), p. 818.
If you’re an American woman Social Security Online, “Life Expectancy Calculator,” Social Security Administration, socialsecurity.gov/cgi-bin/longevity.cgi.
will live to nearly 95 Felicitie C. Bell and Michael L. Miller, “Life Tables for the United States Social Security Area 1900–2100,” Social Security Administration, April 7, 2009, socialsecurity.gov/oact/NOTES/s2000s.html.
your life expectancy is 82 Social Security Online, “Life Expectancy Calculator.”
due to the epidemic of obesity Barry Bosworth and Kathleen Burke, “Differential Mortality and Retirement Benefits in the Health and Retirement Study,” Brookings Institution, April 8, 2014, brookings.edu/research/papers/2014/04/differential-mortality-retirement-benefits-bosworth.
“people in their twenties” “Welcoming the Age of the Explorer,” Future of Work Research Consortium, October 2014, hotspotsmovement.com/uploads/newsletters/theexplorer.html; Lynda Gratton, The Shift: The Future of Work Is Already Here (New York: HarperCollins Business, 2011).
working at a “portfolio” of part-time jobs Barrie Hopson and Katie Ledger, And What Do You Do? Ten Steps to Creating a Portfolio Career (London: A & C Black, 2009).
David Brooks contrasts “résumé virtues” David Brooks, “The Moral Bucket List,” New York Times, April 12, 2015, nytimes.com/2015/04/12/opinion/sunday/david-brooks-the-moral-bucket-list.html.
interviewing ten Princeton graduates Lisa Belkin, “The Opt-Out Revolution,” New York Times, October 26, 2003, nytimes.com/2003/10/26/magazine/26WOMEN.html.
“Fund-raising for a Manhattan private school” Judith Warner, “The Opt-Out Generation Wants Back In,” New York Times, August 7, 2013, nytimes.com/2013/08/11/magazine/the-opt-out-generation-wants-back-in.html.
“seesaw marriages” Hanna Rosin, The End of Men (New York: Riverhead Books, 2012).
a new model of employer-employee relations Reid Hoffman, Ben Casnocha, and Chris Yeh, The Alliance: Managing Talent in the Networked Age (Boston: Harvard Business Review Press, 2014), eBook, p. 12.
“ ‘employees are our most valuable resource’ ” Ibid.
“talent really is the most valuable resource” Ibid., p. 19.
The air force is planning Stephen Losey, “Air Force to Offer 3 Years Off for Airmen to Start Families,” Air Force Times, May 15, 2014, airforcetimes.com/artide/20140515/CAREERS/305150044/Air-Force-offer-3-years-off-airmen-start-families.
“Some women leave the Air Force” Ibid.
McKinsey has a program McKinsey & Company, “Take Time,” Agile Future Forum, November 2014, agilefutureforum.co.uk/wp-content/uploads/2014/11/Case-Study-McKinsey.pdf.
This hypothetical applies equally Abbie E. Goldberg, Julianna Z. Smith, and Maureen Perry-Jenkins, “The Division of Labor in Lesbian, Gay, and Heterosexual New Adoptive Parents,” Journal of Marriage and Family 74 (2012): 812–28, wordpress.clarku.edu/agoldberg/files/2012/03/Goldberg-Smith-Perry-Jenkins-2012-JMF.pdf; Lawrence A. Kurdek, “The Allocation of Labor by Partners in Gay and Lesbian Couples,” Journal of Family Issues 28, no. 1 (2007): 132–48.
a now-famous essay Alix Kates Shulman, “A Marriage Agreement,” Up from Under 1, no. 2 (August–September 1970): 5–8.
Slate writer and academic Rebecca Onion Rebecca Onion, “The Pre-Pregnancy Contract,” Slate, July 10, 2014, slate.com/articles/double_x/doublex/2014/07/pre_pregnancy_contract_signing_on_the_dotted_line_to_avoid_household_conflict.single.html.
Chapter 10: The Perfect Workplace
It will increasingly be the world “Future of Work: There’s an App for That,” Economist, January 3, 2015, economist.com/news/briefing/2163735-freelance-workers-available-moments-notice-will-reshape-nature-companies-and?fsrc=scn/tw_ec/there_s_an_app_for_that.
they do not provide the pay and benefits Kevin Roose, “Does Silicon Valley Have a Contract-Worker Problem?,” New York, September 18, 2014, nymag.com/daily/intelligencer/2014/09/silicon-valleys-contract-worker-problem.html.
a prescient book Thomas W. Malone, The Future of Work: How the New Order of Business Will Shape Your Organization, Your Management Style, and Your Life (Cambridge, MA: Harvard Business School Press, 2004), p. 74. For information on SAGAFTRA, see sagaftra.org/union-information.
Bliss Lawyers Deborah Epstein Henry, Suzie Scanlon Rabinowitz, and Garry A. Berger, Finding Bliss: Innovative Legal Models for Happy Clients and Happy Lawyers (Chicago: American Bar Association, 2015).
Topcoder matches freelance computer coders “Future of Work: There’s an App for That.”
“we share stories” Email to Anne-Marie Slaughter, April 2, 2015.
Ninety-seven percent of openworking companies Openwork.org.
“[GM Financial] handed over” Interview with Kathleen Christensen, program director, Alfred P. Sloan Foundation, October 9, 2014.
Ryan, LLC Ellen Galinsky and Mike Aitken, “2013 Guide to Bold New Ideas for Making Work Work,” When Work Works, 2012, p. 6, familiesandwork.org/downloads/2013GuidetoBoldNewIdeas.pdf. All of the companies listed as winners are the Families and Work Institute’s and the Society for Human Resources’ When Work Works awardees. The selection process is rigorously designed to survey both employers and employees on effective and flexible workplaces. It uses the employees’ ratings to account for two-thirds of the winning score.
Ernst & Young Ibid., p. 62.
Deloitte has a program Cathy Benko and Anne Weisberg, “Mass Career Customization™: A New Model for How Careers Are Built,” Ivey Business Journal, May/June 2008, iveybusinessjournal.com/publication/mass-career-customization-a-new-model-for-how-careers-are-built.
“Over the course of a long career” Renee McGaw, “Life Balance Issues Are Gender-Neutral,” Denver Business Journal, January 18, 2009, bizjournals.com/denver/stories/2009/01/19/focus1.html.
consider 1-800 CONTACTS Openwork.org.
Delta Air Lines has created “Workplace Awards: Delta Air Lines,” When Work Works, Families and Work Institute and the Society for Human Resource Management, 2014, whenworkworks.org/workplace-awards/delta-air-lines.
Southern California Gas Company “Workplace Awards: Southern California Gas Company,” When Work Works, Families and Work Institute and the Society for Human Resource Management, 2014, whenworkworks.org/workplace-awards/southern-california-gas-company.
American Express employees Joan Blades and Nanette Fondas, The Custom-Fit Workplace: Choose When, Where, and How to Work and Boost Your Bottom Line (San Francisco: Jossey-Bass, 2010), pp. 58–59, citing “Telework Facts & Stats,” Telework Coalition, telcoa.org/resources/references/telework-tools/telework-facts-stats; “Workspace Utilization and Allocation Benchmark,” GSA Office of Government-wide Policy, July 2011, gsa.gov/graphics/ogp/Workspace_Utilization_Banchmark_July_2012.pdf.
the software startup Evernote Douglas MacMillan, “To Recruit Techies, Companies Offer Unlimited Vacation,” Businessweek, July 19, 2012, businessweek.com/articles/2012-07-19/to-recruit-techies-companies-offer-unlimited-vacation.
the Evernote unlimited-vacation benefit Ibid.
In an interview with the tech site Todd Wasserman, “Coming to a Couch Near You: A New Wave of Telecommuting,” Mashable, April 10, 2014, mashable.com/2014/04/10/the-telecommuting-dream-is-dead.
firms like Goldman Sachs Shayndi Raice, “Goldman Seeks to Improve Working Conditions for Junior Staffers,” Wall Street Journal, October 28, 2013, online.wsj.com/news/articles/SB10001424052702303471004579164051099280722.
Morgan Stanley’s chief executive William Alden and Sydney Ember, “Banks Ease Hours for Junior Staff, but Workload Stays Same,” New York Times, April 9, 2014, dealbook.nytimes.com/2014/04/09/banks-ease-hours-for-junior-staff-but-workload-stays-same.
“I know we discussed this a while ago” Stephanie Emma Pfeffer, “10 Steps to Negotiating for a Flexible Work Arrangement,” Woman’s Day, July 10, 2013, womansday.com/life/work-money/tips/a7013/flex-time.
British economists Andrew J. Oswalk, Eugenio Proto, and Daniel Sgroi, “Happiness and Productivity,” University of Warwick Working Paper, February 10, 2014, www2.warwick.ac.uk/fac/soc/economics/staff/eproto/workingpapers/happinessproductivity.pdf.
the results-only work environment Cali Ressler and Jody Thompson, Why Work Sucks and How to Fix It: The Results-Only Revolution (New York: Portfolio, 2008), eBook, p. 10.
“This program was based on the premise” Hubert Joly, “Best Buy CEO on Leadership: A Comment I Made Was Misconstrued,” Star Tribune, March 17, 2013, startribune.com/opinion/commentaries/198546011.html.
the Gap adopted ROWE “Diversity and Inclusion,” Gap Inc., Social & Environmental Responsibility Report 2011/2012, gapinc.com/content/csr/html/employees/diversity-and-inclusion.html.
insist that supervisors be clear Cali Ressler and Jody Thompson, “How to Get Employees to Manage Themselves,” ChangeThis, issue 106-01, June 5, 2013, changethis.com/manifesto/show/106.01.ManageWork/.
“We very much focus on results” Interview with Sabrina Parsons, chief executive officer, Palo Alto Software, December 17, 2014.
“We’ve given them a place” Ibid.
“Businesses operating in this skills-scarce world” Richard Dobbs, Anu Madgavkar, Dominic Barton, et al., “The World at Work: Jobs, Pay, and Skills for 3.5 Billion People,” McKinsey Global Institute, McKinsey & Company, June 2012, mckinsey.com/insights/employment_and_growth/the_world_at_work.
He sees those same forces Bill Gates, “Bill Gates—2008 World Economic Forum—Creative Capitalism,” Bill & Melinda Gates Foundation, January 24, 2008, gatesfoundation.org/media-center/speeches/2008/01/bill-gates-2008-world-economic-forum.
Chapter 11: Citizens Who Care
We used to have an infrastructure of care “Latest Annual Data,” United States Department of Labor, 2013, dol.gov/wb/stats/recentfacts.htm.
“an infrastructure for care” Ai-Jen Poo, with Ariane Conrad, The Age of Dignity: Preparing for the Elder Boom in a Changing America (New York: New Press, 2015), p. 143.
High-quality and affordable childcare The Family Care Alliance includes a Family Care Navigator on their website that helps caregivers find support services in their states, Link2Care, an online discussion and support group managed by the Alliance and the National Center on Caregiving, which is a clearinghouse for all federal legislation on caregiving policy and can be a resource for those who want to get involved. They have a free electronic newsletter available at caregiver.org, where you can subscribe to a twice-monthly briefing on the legislation, programs, and funding. See “About FCA,” Family Caregiver Alliance, caregiver.org/about-fca, and “Newsletters,” Family Caregiver Alliance, caregiver.org/newsletters.
Investment in early education The United States is barely managing to invest in state-funded pre-K, meaning two years of school before students enter kindergarten. The percentage of four-year-olds enrolled in state-funded pre-K has doubled in the past decade, but it is still only at 28 percent. Ten states have no public pre-K options at all. See W. Steven Barnett, Megan E. Carolan, James H. Squires, and Kirsty Clarke Brown, “The State of Preschool 2013,” National Institute for Early Education, 2013, nieer.org/sites/nieer/files/yearbook2013.pdf.
Oklahoma is the shining light of universal pre-K that can illuminate a path for other states to follow. All pre-K teachers in Oklahoma have a college degree, a certificate in early-childhood education, and they’re paid the same as elementary, middle, and high school teachers. See Robin Young interview with Steven Dow, “Why Oklahoma’s Universal Pre-K Is Successful,” Here & Now, February 20, 2014, hereandnow.wbur.org/2014/02/20/universal-pre-kindergarten.