Odd Girl Out
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Hoffman, Jan, [>]
hooks, bell, [>]–[>]
Hope (student), [>]–[>]
humiliation, [>], [>], [>], [>], [>]
humor, jokes, [>], [>]–[>], [>], [>], [>], [>], [>], [>]
hypersensitivity, [>]–[>], [>]–[>]
hypocrisy. See duplicity
"ideal" girl, characteristics, [>]–[>]
identity, female, [>], [>], [>], [>], [>], [>]
"I'm so fat" (code word), [>]–[>]
indirection, indirect aggression, [>]–[>], [>], [>], [>], [>], [>]–[>], [>]–[>]
injustice, fighting, [>]–[>]
insecurity. See alliance building; popularity; relational aggression
instant messaging, [>]–[>], [>], [>], [>], [>]
insults, public, [>]–[>], [>], [>], [>]–[>], [>], [>], [>], [>], [>]. See also code words; social media
interventions
anti-bullying policies and programs, [>], [>], [>]–[>], [>]–[>]
bodily harm standard, [>]
changing school and friends, [>]–[>]
by educators, school authorities, [>]–[>], [>]–[>], [>]–[>], [>]–[>]
protocol for, [>]–[>]
and speaking truth to power, [>]–[>]
See also parents and guardians
intimacy
and anger, [>], [>], [>]
and female friendships, [>], [>]–[>], [>]
and social media, [>]–[>]
Iris (mother), [>]
isolation
as consequence of bullying, [>], [>]–[>], [>], [>], [>]–[>]
fear of, [>]–[>], [>], [>], [>]–[>], [>]–[>]
self-awareness as consequence of, [>]–[>]
self-imposed, [>], [>], [>]
See also silent treatment
"it's a phase," [>]
Jackie (student), [>]–[>]
Jacobs, Connie (mother), [>]–[>]
Jacobs, Kelsey. See Kelsey (student)
Jacqueline (student), [>], [>]–[>], [>]
Jane (student), [>], [>]
Janet (adult), [>]–[>]
Jasmine (student), [>], [>]–[>]
Jawbreaker (movie), [>], [>]
jealousy, [>], [>]–[>], [>]–[>], [>]–[>], [>]–[>]
Jennifer (student), [>], [>]
Jenny (roommate), [>]–[>], [>]–[>], [>]
Jenny (student), [>]–[>], [>]–[>], [>], [>]
Jessica (student), [>]–[>], [>]–[>], [>]–[>], [>], [>]
Jessie (student), [>]
Jill (student), [>], [>]–[>], [>]
Joanna (student), [>]–[>]
Johnston, Jessie (student), [>], [>]
Johnston, Paula (mother), [>]–[>]
Johnston, Susie (student), [>], [>]
jokes. See humor, jokes
Judith (student), [>]–[>], [>]
Julie (student), [>]–[>]
Juliet (student), [>]
Kaminski, Kim (counselor), [>], [>]
Kaplan, Chloe (student), [>]–[>]
Kaplan, Margaret. See Margaret (mother)
Karen (student), [>]
Kate (student), [>]–[>]
Kathy (student), [>]–[>], [>]
Katie (student), [>]
Kayla (student), [>]
Keisha (student), [>], [>], [>], [>]–[>], [>]
Keller, Tasha (student), [>]–[>], [>]–[>]
Kelly (student), [>]–[>], [>], [>], [>]–[>], [>]
Kelsey (student), [>]–[>]
Keltner, Dacher, [>]
Kendra (teacher), [>]–[>]
Kenya (student), [>]
Kim (student), [>], [>]
kindergarten, [>], [>], [>]
Lacey (student), [>], [>]
Lambert, Erin. See Erin (student)
language
inflammatory, [>]
for discussing bullying, [>], [>], [>], [>]
See also code words; insults; nonverbal communication
Latinas, [>], [>], [>]–[>], [>]–[>], [>]
Laura (student), [>]
Lauren (student), [>]–[>], [>]–[>], [>], [>], [>]
leadership behaviors, [>], [>], [>]–[>], [>]–[>]
Leah (student), [>], [>], [>]–[>], [>]
legislation, [>], [>], [>], [>]
Leslie (student), [>], [>]
Levine, Madeline, [>]
Lexie (student), [>]
Limber, Susan, [>]–[>]
Linda (mother), [>], [>], [>]–[>]
Lindsey (student), [>]–[>], [>]–[>], [>]
Lisa (student), [>], [>], [>]–[>]
listening, [>], [>]–[>], [>]
"Listening Guide" (Brown and Gilligan), [>]
Liu, Kathy (student). See Kathy (student)
Lori (student), [>]–[>]
loss, fear of
and abandonment, [>], [>]–[>], [>]–[>], [>], [>]–[>], [>]
and alliance building, [>], [>]
and the politics of popularity, [>]–[>]
and showing leadership, [>]–[>]
and tolerance of bullying, [>], [>]–[>], [>], [>]–[>], [>]
See also alliance building; relational aggression
low-income girls, stereotypes and myths about, [>]
Lucia (student), [>]–[>], [>], [>]
Lynn (school counselor), [>]–[>]
Mackenzie (student), [>]–[>]
Maggie (student), [>], [>], [>]–[>]
Mallory (student), [>]
manipulation
as bullying, [>], [>]–[>], [>]–[>], [>]–[>], [>]
and female sexuality, femininity, [>]–[>], [>]
by mothers of bullies, [>]
and popularity, [>], [>]
using social media, [>]–[>], [>]
manly women, [>]
Marcie (student), [>]
Margaret (mother), [>], [>]–[>]
Maria (student), [>]
Marilyn (teacher), [>]–[>]
Marissa (student), [>]–[>]
Martin, Leah. See Leah (student)
Mary (mother), [>]
Mary (student), [>], [>]
Maryann (teacher), [>]–[>]
masculinity, [>], [>], [>]–[>], [>]
Maura (student), [>]–[>]
McCullough, Shelley, [>], [>]
meals, family, [>]
meanness, mean girls
asking question about, [>]
ignoring, [>]–[>]
as relational aggression, [>]–[>], [>]–[>]
repressing, [>], [>], [>], [>]–[>]
See also girl bullying
mediators, "middlegirls," [>]–[>]
Meeting at the Crossroads (Brown and Gilligan), [>]
Megan (student), [>], [>]–[>], [>]–[>], [>]
Meghan (student), [>], [>]–[>]
Melanie (student), [>], [>]
Melissa (student), [>], [>], [>], [>]–[>]
Meredith (student), [>]–[>]
Michelle (student), [>]–[>], [>]–[>], [>], [>]
middle-class communities, [>], [>], [>]–[>]
middlegirls, [>]–[>], [>], [>]–[>]
middle school, [>], [>]–[>], [>]–[>]
Miller, Allison, [>]–[>]
minority identity, [>]
Miranda (student), [>]
modesty, [>], [>], [>]
Mollie (student), [>]
Molly (student), [>]–[>]
mothers, [>], [>]–[>], [>]–[>], [>]–[>]. See also parents and guardians
multitasking, [>], [>]
name-calling, [>], [>], [>]. See also code words; insults
Nancy (student), [>], [>]–[>]
Naomi (student), [>], [>], [>], [>], [>]
Natalie (student), [>]–[>], [>]
new students, hostile response to, [>], [>]–[>]
niceness
appearance of, and covert bullying, [>], [>]
assumptions about, [>], [>]–[>]
deemphasizing, [>]
femininity and, [>]–[>], [>], [>]
and "good" leaders
, [>]–[>]
Nicki (student), [>], [>]
Nicola (student), [>], [>]
Nicole (student), [>], [>], [>], [>]–[>], [>]
Nikki (student), [>]–[>]
noninterference strategy, [>]–[>], [>]
nonverbal communication
and covert aggression, [>], [>], [>], [>], [>]
expressing anger/contempt, [>], [>], [>], [>], [>], [>]–[>]
and online communications, [>]–[>]
and relational aggression, [>]–[>], [>], [>]–[>]
normal, acting, [>]–[>]
note passing, [>], [>], [>], [>], [>], [>], [>], [>], [>]. See also social media
Noura (student), [>], [>]
Ntozake (administrator), [>]–[>]
nurturers, girls as, [>], [>]–[>], [>], [>], [>], [>], [>], [>]
Nydia (student), [>]
Olweus, Dan, Olweus Bullying Prevention Program, [>], [>]–[>]
Omeggle website, [>]
oppression, experience of, [>]
Orenstein, Peggy, [>], [>], [>]
ostracism. See alliance building; cliques; exclusion
othermothers, [>]
panic, panic attacks, [>], [>], [>], [>], [>], [>], [>]
"parent covenant," [>]
parents and guardians
and alliance building, [>], [>]–[>]
bullying by, [>]–[>]
bullying of, [>]
communications with schools, [>]–[>], [>]–[>], [>]–[>]
defensiveness of, [>]–[>], [>], [>]
fear of confrontation/silence, [>], [>]–[>], [>]–[>], [>], [>], [>]
feeling helpless, [>], [>], [>]–[>], [>]
feeling shame or anger, [>], [>]–[>], [>]–[>]
hiding bullying from, [>]–[>], [>], [>], [>], [>], [>], [>], [>]–[>], [>], [>]
interventions/responses by, [>]–[>], [>]–[>], [>], [>]–[>], [>], [>]–[>], [>]–[>], [>]–[>]
labeling of, [>]
need for honest communications, [>], [>]–[>]
providing empathy and support, [>], [>]–[>], [>]–[>], [>]–[>]
role in girls' bullying, [>], [>]–[>], [>]–[>], [>]–[>]
setting limits, [>]–[>], [>]–[>], [>]–[>]
supervising use of social media, [>], [>]–[>], [>]–[>], [>], [>]–[>]
passions, discovering, [>]–[>], [>]–[>]
passivity, [>], [>], [>], [>], [>], [>]–[>], [>], [>]. See also manipulation
passwords, [>], [>]
Patchin, Justin, [>]–[>], [>]
Patricia (mother), [>]–[>]
Patterson, Natalie. See Natalie (student)
Patterson, Susan (mother), [>], [>]
peer pressure, [>]
Peralta, Carmen (student), [>]–[>], [>], [>]
perfection, perfectionism, [>], [>], [>]–[>], [>]–[>], [>]–[>], [>], [>], [>]–[>], [>]–[>], [>], [>]
Petra (mother), [>], [>]–[>]
physical aggression, [>]–[>], [>], [>], [>]
physical ailments, [>]
Pipher, Mary, [>], [>]
Play Like a Man, Win Like a Woman (Evans), [>]
Popular (TV show), [>], [>]
popularity
and alliance building, [>], [>]–[>], [>]
attaining, proving, [>], [>], [>]–[>]
and dating, [>]–[>]
and fitting in, belonging, [>], [>], [>], [>]–[>], [>], [>], [>], [>]
importance, [>], [>], [>], [>], [>]
politics of, [>], [>]–[>], [>]–[>]
resentment of, [>]–[>], [>]
and social media, [>], [>]
and social skills, [>]
power and control
and alliance building, [>]
children's desire for, [>]
education as source of, [>]
expression of, boys vs. girls, [>]
girl power vs. femininity, [>]
and relational aggression, [>], [>]
speaking truth to power, [>]–[>]
using social media, [>]
preschool, [>], [>]–[>]
Price of Privilege, The (Levine), [>]–[>]
privacy
flaunting, and exclusion/isolation, [>]
in high school, limits, [>]–[>]
and social media, [>]–[>], [>], [>]
profiles, on social media, [>]–[>]
psychological aggression, [>]–[>]
Puerto Rican girls, [>]–[>]
"punking out," [>]
Queen Bee Moms and Kingpin Dads (Wiseman), [>]–[>]
questions to ask
about aggression and bullying, [>], [>]–[>], [>], [>]–[>]
about friendships, [>], [>]
about psychological aggression, [>]
about use of social media/technology, [>]–[>]
Rachel (student), [>]
racism and oppression, [>]–[>]
Raneesha (student), [>]–[>]
reality television, [>]
real life vs. virtual life, [>], [>], [>], [>], [>], [>]. See also cyberbullying; social media
Rebecca (coach, mother), [>]–[>]
Rebecca (student), [>], [>], [>], [>], [>]
Reena (student), [>], [>]
Reese (student), [>]–[>], [>], [>]
relational aggression
behaviors associated with, [>], [>]–[>], [>]–[>], [>], [>]
clique expulsion, [>]–[>]
defined, [>]
handling of, by educators, [>]–[>], [>]–[>]
harm caused by, [>]
identifying, [>]–[>]
invisibility of, [>], [>]
long-term effects, [>], [>]–[>]
and popularity, [>]–[>]
resisting, [>]
using third-parties for, [>]
See also girl bullying
relationships
among African American girls, [>]–[>]
dynamics of, [>]–[>]
false assumptions about, [>]
female need for, [>]–[>], [>], [>]–[>]
importance of, [>], [>], [>]–[>], [>]–[>], [>]
insecurity about, [>]–[>]
learning about, [>]–[>], [>], [>]–[>]
and the paradox of authenticity, [>]–[>], [>]–[>]
relational instability, [>]–[>], [>]–[>]
role of conflict in, [>]–[>], [>]–[>]
and social status, [>]–[>]
truthfulness and, [>], [>]–[>], [>]–[>], [>]
using social media/technology, [>]–[>], [>]–[>], [>], [>]–[>]
See also anger; conflict; friends; popularity
repression. See anger; emotions, feelings
reputation, [>], [>], [>], [>], [>], [>], [>]
research on bullying, [>], [>], [>]–[>], [>], [>], [>]
resistance
among working-class girls, girls of color, [>]
to daughters who are bullies, [>]–[>]
encouraging resilience, [>]
fighting back, [>]–[>]
and standing up for others, [>]–[>]
using GIRL protocol, [>]–[>