Your Hidden Symmetry

by Jean Haner

When I was writing The Wisdom of Your Child’s Face, I did a lot of research on the latest findings in Western theories of child development. One of the most compelling studies I discovered was about how you can actually predict a child’s future success based on one particular aspect of their parents’ behavior toward them. It’s not what you’d think—it doesn’t depend on how often parents praise their child or how many times they say, “I love you.”

  In fact, the single most important predictor of a child’s happiness and success is how much they feel recognized by their parents. If they feel their parents understand and acknowledge who they are, they have a genuine sense of acceptance, love, and connection. They feel free to be themselves for the rest of their lives.

  Yet I don’t think this ends in childhood. I think we all yearn to feel truly seen by the people in our lives, and it’s even more important to be able to see ourselves with love and acceptance as well. This work gives us that gift. Knowing that there’s a hidden symmetry to your personality allows you to step out of all the old limiting ways you’ve been viewing yourself and reclaim your true spirit. Just like everything else in nature, there’s an inherent grace, rhythm, and purpose to you and to your life that’s beautiful and right. And in the next chapter, Louise Hay gives you affirmations to help you embrace your true nature and live with joy.

  CHAPTER 9

  LOUISE HAY’S

  AFFIRMATIONS

  FOR YOUR TRUE

  NATURE

  As you recall, the ancient principles in this book are the result of research over thousands of years that developed a sophisticated map of how all of life works, and that can be applied to any system to see if it’s complete and true. In the Introduction, I described my amazed discovery that these principles completely validate Louise Hay’s work with affirmations. If you lay the map of the Five Elements and Nine Star Ki over the structure of her work, each affirmation is a perfect fit for one of the nine numbers.

  So Louise’s information can be powerful here in supporting you as you move fully into the most joyful expression of your true spirit. The affirmations that follow were designed by Louise to help you remember who you really are and step into the beauty of your true nature.

  Find the list of affirmations that matches your first number and choose one, two, or three of the phrases listed to work with each day. Select the ones that grab your attention or appeal to you the most, but also feel free to change it up and use other affirmations in that category, depending on what you sense you need at that time.

  You don’t have to only work with the affirmations that match your first number. You can use the affirmations for any of your three numbers in different ways. For example, if you’re a 9.1.4, definitely use the affirmations for Nine—but if you’re stressed or upset, you might also want to use the ones listed for the One nature, since that’s who you become during those times. And when it comes to your career or the challenges you recognize as belonging to your third number, then turn to the affirmations listed for Four.

  One

  I trust the mysterious and unseen process of life. I know that I am safe and will be all right.

  I have the inner reserves to overcome any problem.

  I allow my deepest emotions, as they help me deal with all of the experiences I have during the day.

  I become more proficient every day in every way. There are no limits to my abilities.

  Today I just show up and flow through the day.

  I have unlimited energy, and I use it well.

  I am discovering new wisdom within myself.

  I have the strength to remain calm in the face of change.

  Opportunities are everywhere. I have unlimited choices.

  I am in touch with my inner guides, who help me at every turn.

  Life always reveals what I need to know, exactly when I need to know it.

  I meditate each day. Going within helps alleviate tension and stress and allows me to hear what the Universe wants me to know.

  What a great adventure my life is!

  I have faith in the perfect unfolding of my life, and I can easily adapt to its ebb and flow.

  Instead of isolating myself, whenever I need help, I ask. I accept assistance from my many seen and unseen friends.

  Life is bringing me everything I need and more. My circumstances improve every day.

  I welcome change; I do not fear it. I am always safe.

  I easily handle any experience or situation that is put in my path.

  I have the reserves to overcome any problem.

  I trust the process of life.

  Two

  I attract loving, supportive people into my life.

  My needs are always fulfilled.

  I enjoy receiving help.

  I love to help and feel satisfied by a job well done.

  I take great pleasure in all the wonderful things in my home.

  I am a grown-up, able to take care of every challenge that arises.

  Life is very simple. What I give out, I get back.

  I am open and receptive to all of the wonderful things in life!

  I am comfortable enough to ask for what I want in positive ways.

  I give myself permission to be a friend to others and a friend to myself.

  Everyone in my family is divinely protected at all times.

  I am worthy of a healthy, intimate relationship with a like-minded person.

  I find relaxation and enjoyment in the simplest things in life.

  I nourish myself by saying no when I mean no, and yes when I mean yes. I know what I need.

  I am patient, tolerant, and diplomatic. My words and actions are kind.

  I bless everyone in my life.

  I am far more than other people’s opinions. My opinion of myself is the only one that counts.

  I joyfully help wherever I can. Whatever I give out comes back to me multiplied.

  I give up the victim role and affirm my power. The instant I ask for help, Life rushes to my assistance. I am safe.

  I am grateful for Life’s generosity. I am blessed.

  Three

  I can see any situation clearly and find a solution.

  I do not have to work so hard to get what I want.

  Every day, I am moving toward my goals.

  I am in control of my own life.

  My life is full of opportunities that come easily to me.

  I practice forgiveness every day.

  I am inspired to discover new visions for my life.

  There is no right or wrong; I move beyond judgment.

  Being organized and efficient allows me to be spontaneous.

  I surround myself with plants, trees, and other beautiful blessings of nature.

  Making decisions is easy for me, and I follow through with what I say.

  I keep my mind active and alive by exploring new frontiers. Learning keeps me mentally strong.

  I forgive everyone, including myself.

  I am willing to see how and where I need to change.

  I donate a portion of my time to helping others because I want to make the world a better place.

  I release the need to blame anyone, including myself.

  I am a leader. I try out new ideas, and I do what I want to do.

  Today is a new day. I am in charge of all aspects of my life.

  I honor and respect all the elders in my life.

  I do my best to make life better for everyone in the world.

  Four

  I am flexible enough to change my plans if necessary.

  I am grateful for the mentors in my life. I learn so much from others.

  I am constantly moving forward in the direction of my goals.

  I can easily see what has gone wrong and come up with a clear solution.

  I am focused and direct when I need to be.

  Releasing the need to be judgmental frees my life.

  I make my own choices in life. No one else gets to choose for me.

  I see potenti
al everywhere. I can use my mind any way I choose.

  Today I move freely and easily, knowing that each moment is new and special.

  I speak up clearly and state my purpose. I love the sound of my voice.

  I feel stronger simply by spending time in nature.

  Whatever I choose to do, I do with care and consideration.

  Today I can do whatever I put my mind to.

  I view all experiences as opportunities to learn and grow.

  I make positive changes easily and effortlessly.

  I make wise decisions, and everything works out for the best.

  I accept myself and know that I am headed in the right direction.

  The work I do results in making life better for everyone.

  This is a great day to create, imagine, produce, and visualize.

  Everything happens in the perfect time-space sequence.

  Five

  I have a community who loves and appreciates me.

  I always give 100 percent, and it is greatly appreciated.

  I am in a harmonious relationship with life.

  All areas of my life are abundant and fulfilling.

  I do something special for my partner today, and that makes both of us happy.

  I love my thoughts. My thoughts are my best friends.

  Life consistently supplies all my needs in great abundance.

  I share kind, loving thoughts with everyone in my world.

  I am open and receptive to meeting new and interesting people.

  I release all guilt and emotional hurt. I am free.

  I am totally and completely supported by Life.

  I am in harmony with all of my family.

  I see harmony and healing among all people everywhere.

  My life is fulfilling and satisfying.

  My home is a happy place to be. I bless everyone who enters, myself included.

  Today I bless with love every mouthful of food I eat.

  Patience is being at peace with the process of life.

  Today I thank everyone I meet for something.

  Life is here for me to enjoy.

  Today I am calm, centered, and balanced.

  Six

  I have achieved things I can feel proud of.

  I retain a sense of reverence in my daily life.

  I remember to breathe deeply each day.

  I have an easy rhythm to my daily life.

  I will always have more than enough for what I need.

  I am so grateful for all that I have.

  The only thing I have control of is my current thinking. This thought that I am thinking now is totally under my control.

  Spiritual growth comes in ways I do not expect, so I regularly sweep out negative thoughts to clear the way for the new.

  I am part of the Universe; therefore, I know there is an order, rhythm, and purpose to my life.

  I release the need to criticize or judge others and myself.

  I am doing the best I can with the understanding, knowledge, awareness that I have.

  I rise above all limitations. I am divinely guided and inspired.

  Other people respect me because I respect myself.

  I am willing to move out of my comfort zone and experience life in a new way.

  I respect my boundaries. I insist that others respect them, too.

  The point of power is in the present moment.

  Yesterday is the past. I turn my total attention to the present moment.

  To let go is not to regret the past but to live and grow for the future.

  I am willing to release the need to be right.

  I am so pleased with where I am and proud of my accomplishments.

  Seven

  I find beauty wherever I look.

  People love me when I am myself.

  I am worthy of a very good income. It comes easily to me.

  I appreciate all that I have and all that I am.

  I am always refining what I say and do, and my life runs smoothly.

  I now let go of old patterns, and I am willing to love myself as I am.

  I am good enough just as I am, and I always have as much as I need.

  The world is a work of art, and so am I.

  I am a clear thinker and express myself with ease.

  I am truly safe no matter what. I can face anything.

  My burdens are light—like feathers in the wind.

  My home and office are sacred havens. I treat my environment with respect and love.

  I am grateful to others for the kindness they show me. I am filled with praise and gratitude.

  My day begins and ends with gratitude.

  I rejoice in each passing year of my life.

  The money that comes to me today is a pleasure to handle.

  I release whatever I am not using, and polish to a high gloss the things that give me joy.

  The struggling is over. Whenever I need help, I ask.

  I give thanks for this perfect day.

  At the end of the day, I am aware that I will never live this particular day again. I am grateful to be alive.

  Eight

  I accept myself as someone who is supported by everyone and everything around me.

  Loving others is easy when I love and accept myself.

  My family and I express joyful and abundant health.

  Life is bringing me everything I need and more.

  I choose to think thoughts that make me feel good.

  I bless my home with love and put love in every corner.

  I can always find harmonious solutions to my problems.

  I am kind and generous to others, and they are kind and generous to me.

  I enjoy taking responsibility. I know there is something I can do to change my life.

  I have the ideal neighbors. They are warmhearted and supportive.

  I now take my power back. I do not have to please anyone. I am safe.

  It is okay to be my own best friend. Every day I do something kind for myself.

  It is with joy that I digest the experiences of my life. Life agrees with me.

  I support myself in big and little ways. I do not have to please anyone. I am worthy of a fulfilling, substantial life.

  I have friends I can talk to, and I feel safe with my friends.

  I create new and wonderful relationships. Instead of isolating myself, I choose to open up and let the love in.

  I am a willing receiver of all the good Life is bringing me.

  I am my best friend. Other friends may come and go, but I am always here for me.

  Life gets lighter and brighter the more I genuinely care about myself.

  I bless and thank my family for nurturing me.

  Nine

  I love to make others feel good about themselves.

  I find things to delight in every day.

  I feel beautiful and lovable.

  My heart is open but wise.

  If someone does not like me, I do not take it personally.

  I have fun with whatever I do.

  My life can expand and grow and be as big and glorious as I want it to be.

  I choose healthy stimulation. I speak positively with others and listen with compassion.

  My goal in life is to be in love with every moment. I choose to have fun doing this. I choose to be free.

  Today I feel the excitement and thrill of being alive.

  I allow other people to love me and see my greatness. I now discover how wonderful I am.

  Success comes to me when I give love to everyone.

  I fill each day with joy and laughter.

  It is okay to be sad sometimes. Sadness is just another feeling. I allow it to be, and then it passes away.

  Today my love shines out from my heart and touches everyone I see.

  This day is full of miracles.

  Deep at the center of my being is an infinite well of love.

  I beam kind thoughts to everyone I meet today.

  I laugh at myself and at life
, and nothing can touch me.

  I am having one joyous experience after another.

  Now that you’ve explored the hidden symmetry of your true nature, we’ll look at the patterns that affect you as you journey through time. In Part II, you’ll learn how your life has different cycles and seasons just as in the natural world, and how you can align with them.

  PART II

  HOW TIME

  AFFECTS

  WHERE YOU

  ARE

  “You are looking from the place

  you are looking for.”

  — AUTHOR UNKNOWN

  CHAPTER 10

  YOUR TEN

  DECADES AND

  FOUR GATES

  Our journey through life seems pretty haphazard. Things appear to happen as a result of our own efforts, as a consequence of random events, or because of what we view as good or bad luck. But there is an invisible symmetry to life as well, a rhythm of cycles that we all predictably move through; and in each phase of time, our attention will naturally be focused in a certain direction. Each stage of life is designed to guide us, to help us make further progress in our own personal evolution.

  When you discover where you are in these cycles, you can understand why you’re feeling the way you are and how your experiences during this period fall into a specific pattern. Each stretch of time gives you certain homework, too; if you do the work assigned for that phase, you make the most progress. Then the next stage of life builds on that to be even more positive and powerful.

  Having this information allows you to finally be in the right place at the right time, to go with the flow of your specific journey rather than fight the current. And it’s never too late to align with these patterns. As you read this chapter, if you find that in some stages you were headed in the wrong direction, you can trust that the lessons will reappear again for an opportunity to get back on the right path. After all, life loves you and wants you to succeed.

  We’ll start out by examining the rhythm of the decades. Each is associated with one or more of the Nine Star Ki numbers, but in this case, it’s not important to define them that way. Instead we can simply focus on the theme of each phase.

  While each decade is important, there are certain periods within them that are more significant. For one thing, each threshold you cross as you move from one ten-year stage to the next is considered to be a powerful turning point—for instance, stepping from age 29 to 30. But there are four of these transitions that are especially critical. The Chinese call them the Four Gates, and they occur as you turn 40, 50, 60, and 70. When you pass through each of these gates, you may experience a significant break with the past, so we’ll look especially closely at the meanings of these periods as we explore those decades.