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by Ron Lieber


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  Index

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  Abercrombie & Fitch, 76–77

  Advent, 83

  alcohol, 201

  Allowance Manager, 55

  allowances, 14, 45–70, 94, 200, 207

  bank and, 54–56

  budget and, 49

  chores and, 45–46, 55, 66–70, 83

  clothing and, 57–60

  containers for, 52–53

  debit cards and, 79

  essay requirements and, 61

  giving and, 49–52, 129, 130, 131

  interest e
arnings in, 51

  saving and, 47, 49, 51–52, 54

  spending from, 47–52, 55 (see also spending money, by kids)

  taxes and, 52, 62

  and wants vs. needs, 56–66

  when, how much, where, and how, 48–54

  alma maters, 131

  American Institute of Certified Public Accountants, 66

  amusement parks, 79, 193–94

  anxiety, fear, and worry, 19, 23–24, 94

  Apple, 205

  athletic activities, 106–8, 116, 153, 179

  college admission and, 106, 108

  paying for, 161–64

  authoritarian parents, 31–32

  authoritative parents, 32

  automobiles, 55, 57, 61, 64–66, 68, 115

  bake sales, 109

  banks, 205

  allowances and, 54–56

  checking accounts, 55, 56

  saving accounts, 53, 54–55

  banned items, 61–62, 98

  bar and bat mitzvahs, 117–18, 141–42

  Beels, Margaret Rabi, 22

  behavioral economics, 3

  Bella Ha, 141

  Belpedio Schreiber, Katie, 78

  Bible, 144

  Deuteronomy, 175

  Biddle, Ed, 186–87

  Biddle, Pippa, 185–87

  bills, 37–38, 39

  Birch Rock Camp, 190–91

  birthdays, 102, 104, 105–6, 118

  gifts and (see Gifts)

  Biskar, Neal, 144

  blessing before meals, 175–77

  Bone Room, 104

  books, 75

  Born to Buy (Schor), 18

  Boston Gear Works, 164

  bottles and cans, redeeming, 147–51, 166–68

  Brandeis Hillel Day School, 118, 141–45

  Briskman, Pam, 104

  budgets, 203, 204

  allowance and, 49

  charitable giving, 132–34, 207

  clothing, 59

  prepaid debit cards and, 78–79

  vacation, 75

  camps, overnight, 97–98, 187–91

  cans and bottles, redeeming, 147–51, 166–68

  cars, 55, 57, 61, 64–66, 68, 115

  Carter, Christine, 177

  Central Carolina Community Foundation, 135

  Cepeda, Agustín, 176

  Cepeda, Lisa, 175–76

  Cepeda-Benito, Antonio, 176

  character traits. See values and character traits

  charity, 34, 41, 47, 106, 119

  budget for, 132–34, 207

  ECHOage and, 105

  solicitations for, 129–30, 132

  See also giving

  Charles Schwab, 24

  checking accounts, 55, 56

  Cheerful Money (Friend), 17

  Chicken Soup for the Soul books, 137

  chores, 55, 98, 155–57

  allowances and, 45–46, 55, 66–70, 83

  appropriate, for different ages, 155–56

  expectations for, 155

  meal preparation, 156–57

  paying for athletic pursuits through, 163

  choruses and orchestras, 179–80

  Christmas, 102, 106

  Christmas Carol, The, 83

  Clarke family, 147–50

  class, 111, 172–74

  and gaining perspective through teammates, playdates, and field trips, 177–83

  clothing, 57–60, 86–87, 94, 96, 114, 145, 202, 203, 204

  Colbert, Stephen, 72

  college, 5–6, 54, 204–5

  financial aid for, 5, 40–41

  paying for, through work, 151, 164–66

  saving for, 55, 61, 65, 134, 138

  sports and, 106, 108

  student loans and, 5, 6

  college admissions, 166, 185

  jobs and, 152–53, 166

  Columbia University, 182

  commercials, 85, 94–95, 100, 101

  Common Cents Penny Harvest, 125

  communities, 187, 200

  diversity in, 171, 177

  giving and, 120–21

  community service. See volunteering

  compassion, 126

  competence, 155

  Complete Guide to Creative Gift-Giving, The (Yates), 82

  consumerism, 92–98

  See also materialism

  conversations about money, 15–43, 113, 200, 207

  age-appropriateness and, 17, 18

  about athletic involvement, 108

  emotions and, 4, 19

  gender and, 24–25

  about giving, 119–22, 129, 131, 134–35

  about giving to homeless, 123–28

  lying and, 19–20

  need for, 1–14

  parents’ fights and, 19, 23

  about parents’ spending decisions, 96, 201–5

  social class and, 173

  social media and, 174

  values and, 9, 12–13, 14

  See also questions about money; silence around money

  Council for Economic Education, 9

  counselors, 110

  coupons, 77–78

  custom, 101, 106

  credit cards, 55–56, 203

  offers and rewards from, 129–30

  credit unions, 55

  curfews, 98

  curiosity, 11, 12, 21–22, 36, 39, 194

  See also questions about money

  Daily Show with Jon Stewart, The, 169–70

  Damon, William, 92, 155

  Dario, Jim, 40

  Dartmouth College, 153

  Davis, Magnolia, 38–39

  debit cards, 55–56, 59, 203

  prepaid, 78–79

  Deering, Rich, 191

  Degeneres, Ellen, 118

  delayed gratification, 47–48

  Dell, Michael, 174

  Delta Dental, 102

  depression, 94, 175, 177

  deprivation, 111, 115

  symbolic, 187–88

  Deuteronomy, 175

  developing countries, volunteer trips to, 166, 185–87

  Dewey, Bramson, 89–91, 99, 113–16

  Dewey, Mike, 89–91, 113, 116

  dignity, 96

  economy of, 93

  dignity gauntlet, 93–94, 96, 111

  Disney World, 78

  Dismorr, Blanche, 67

  diversity, 171

  divorce, 28–29

  dollar stores, 80–81

  Dominican Republic, 186

  donations. See charity; giving

  Dorsch, Travis, 107

  downward mobility, 7–8

  Drouillard, Andrea, 162–63

  Drouillard, Cali, 162–63

  Duckworth, Angela, 154–55

  Duong, Jonathan, 202

  Dutton, Andrea, 28–29

  Dwight, Bill, 60–61

  EARN (Earned Assets Resource Network), 68

  Earnings. See income

  ECHOage, 105–6

  economic crisis of 2008, 8, 73

  economics, behavioral, 3

  economy of dignity, 93

  education. See school

  Egypt, 175

  Ehrenreich, Barbara, 144

  Elixir Entertainment, 118

  Embrey, Lori, 78–79

  Engelhart, Talia, 206

  Engelhart, Yoni, 205–8

  emotions, 3–4, 19, 113, 203

  empathy, 126

  employee pension plans, 6

  Engel, Susan, 124

  entitlement, 11, 66, 67, 69, 95–96

  envy, 3, 5, 115, 174, 175

  evolution, 122

  Facebook, xii, 61, 74, 103, 163

  family businesses, 65, 151, 158, 172

  farms, 158–60

  Family Guy, 24

  FamZoo, 55, 60

  farmers markets, 77, 193

  farm families, 158–60

  fear, anxiety, and worry, 19, 23–24, 94

  feelings, 3–4, 19, 113, 203

  Feiler, Bruce, 103–4

  financial crisis of
2008, 8, 73

  financial difficulties:

  from divorce, 28–29

  from job loss, 26–28

  First Kids Bank, 206

  First National Bank of Dad (Owen), 54

  Fogarty, James A., 10, 20

  Fong family, 66

  food preparation, 156–57

  401(k)s, 6, 52

  Fowler, Blair, 85

  Freakonomics books (Levitt and Dubner), 3

  Friend, Tad, 17

  Fun Ratio, 74–76, 81

  Gallo, Eileen, 126

  Gallo, Jon, 126

  Gans, Joshua, 201

  garage sales, 127

  Garner, Dwight, 81

  Gates Foundation, 168

  gender, 24–25

  generosity, 11, 12, 14, 82, 106, 119, 120, 122, 130

  See also giving

  gifts, 61, 106, 119, 142

  blank-check approach to, 134

  custom coupons as, 101, 106

  ECHOage and, 105–6

  Gilchrist, Lucy, 183–84, 185, 187

  giving, 14, 117–45

  allowance money and, 49–52, 129, 130, 131

  to alma maters, 131

  at Brandeis Hillel Day School, 141–45

  budget for, 132–34, 207

  challenge grants and, 143

  communities and, 120–21

  conversations about, 119–22, 129, 131, 134–35

  Giving Bag project and, 126–28

  happiness and, 120, 121–22

  to homeless people (see homeless, giving to)

  how much and what, 134–41

  making more meaningful, 129–30

  to organizations helping animals, 129, 130

  to organizations helping people, 130–31

  by parents, in kids’ names, 129–30

  in person, 130

  as regular event, 133–34

  to religious institutions, 131

  rules for children vs. parents about, 131

  Salwen family and, 135–39, 145

  Solimene family and, 139–41

  tax deductions and, 105, 129, 131

  volunteering, 51, 119, 136

  wants and needs and, 120, 132

  See also charity; generosity; gifts

  Godfrey, Joline, 18, 33–34, 36, 163–64

  Golden Rule, 76

  Google, 16, 20, 39, 40

  Gordon School, 179

  grace-saying ritual, 175–77

  Gradinarova, Aleksandra, 149–50

  grandparents, 35, 59, 65, 100, 106

  gratitude, 14, 174–77

  gratitude interventions, 175

  Greater Expectations (Damon), 155

  Greater Good Science Center, 177

  grit, 154–55

  Gross, Teddy, 123–25

  Gross, Nora, 123–25

  Grosso, Justin, 143

  Gutierrez, Lucerito, 166–68

 

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