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Index
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Abercrombie & Fitch, 76–77
Advent, 83
alcohol, 201
Allowance Manager, 55
allowances, 14, 45–70, 94, 200, 207
bank and, 54–56
budget and, 49
chores and, 45–46, 55, 66–70, 83
clothing and, 57–60
containers for, 52–53
debit cards and, 79
essay requirements and, 61
giving and, 49–52, 129, 130, 131
interest e
arnings in, 51
saving and, 47, 49, 51–52, 54
spending from, 47–52, 55 (see also spending money, by kids)
taxes and, 52, 62
and wants vs. needs, 56–66
when, how much, where, and how, 48–54
alma maters, 131
American Institute of Certified Public Accountants, 66
amusement parks, 79, 193–94
anxiety, fear, and worry, 19, 23–24, 94
Apple, 205
athletic activities, 106–8, 116, 153, 179
college admission and, 106, 108
paying for, 161–64
authoritarian parents, 31–32
authoritative parents, 32
automobiles, 55, 57, 61, 64–66, 68, 115
bake sales, 109
banks, 205
allowances and, 54–56
checking accounts, 55, 56
saving accounts, 53, 54–55
banned items, 61–62, 98
bar and bat mitzvahs, 117–18, 141–42
Beels, Margaret Rabi, 22
behavioral economics, 3
Bella Ha, 141
Belpedio Schreiber, Katie, 78
Bible, 144
Deuteronomy, 175
Biddle, Ed, 186–87
Biddle, Pippa, 185–87
bills, 37–38, 39
Birch Rock Camp, 190–91
birthdays, 102, 104, 105–6, 118
gifts and (see Gifts)
Biskar, Neal, 144
blessing before meals, 175–77
Bone Room, 104
books, 75
Born to Buy (Schor), 18
Boston Gear Works, 164
bottles and cans, redeeming, 147–51, 166–68
Brandeis Hillel Day School, 118, 141–45
Briskman, Pam, 104
budgets, 203, 204
allowance and, 49
charitable giving, 132–34, 207
clothing, 59
prepaid debit cards and, 78–79
vacation, 75
camps, overnight, 97–98, 187–91
cans and bottles, redeeming, 147–51, 166–68
cars, 55, 57, 61, 64–66, 68, 115
Carter, Christine, 177
Central Carolina Community Foundation, 135
Cepeda, Agustín, 176
Cepeda, Lisa, 175–76
Cepeda-Benito, Antonio, 176
character traits. See values and character traits
charity, 34, 41, 47, 106, 119
budget for, 132–34, 207
ECHOage and, 105
solicitations for, 129–30, 132
See also giving
Charles Schwab, 24
checking accounts, 55, 56
Cheerful Money (Friend), 17
Chicken Soup for the Soul books, 137
chores, 55, 98, 155–57
allowances and, 45–46, 55, 66–70, 83
appropriate, for different ages, 155–56
expectations for, 155
meal preparation, 156–57
paying for athletic pursuits through, 163
choruses and orchestras, 179–80
Christmas, 102, 106
Christmas Carol, The, 83
Clarke family, 147–50
class, 111, 172–74
and gaining perspective through teammates, playdates, and field trips, 177–83
clothing, 57–60, 86–87, 94, 96, 114, 145, 202, 203, 204
Colbert, Stephen, 72
college, 5–6, 54, 204–5
financial aid for, 5, 40–41
paying for, through work, 151, 164–66
saving for, 55, 61, 65, 134, 138
sports and, 106, 108
student loans and, 5, 6
college admissions, 166, 185
jobs and, 152–53, 166
Columbia University, 182
commercials, 85, 94–95, 100, 101
Common Cents Penny Harvest, 125
communities, 187, 200
diversity in, 171, 177
giving and, 120–21
community service. See volunteering
compassion, 126
competence, 155
Complete Guide to Creative Gift-Giving, The (Yates), 82
consumerism, 92–98
See also materialism
conversations about money, 15–43, 113, 200, 207
age-appropriateness and, 17, 18
about athletic involvement, 108
emotions and, 4, 19
gender and, 24–25
about giving, 119–22, 129, 131, 134–35
about giving to homeless, 123–28
lying and, 19–20
need for, 1–14
parents’ fights and, 19, 23
about parents’ spending decisions, 96, 201–5
social class and, 173
social media and, 174
values and, 9, 12–13, 14
See also questions about money; silence around money
Council for Economic Education, 9
counselors, 110
coupons, 77–78
custom, 101, 106
credit cards, 55–56, 203
offers and rewards from, 129–30
credit unions, 55
curfews, 98
curiosity, 11, 12, 21–22, 36, 39, 194
See also questions about money
Daily Show with Jon Stewart, The, 169–70
Damon, William, 92, 155
Dario, Jim, 40
Dartmouth College, 153
Davis, Magnolia, 38–39
debit cards, 55–56, 59, 203
prepaid, 78–79
Deering, Rich, 191
Degeneres, Ellen, 118
delayed gratification, 47–48
Dell, Michael, 174
Delta Dental, 102
depression, 94, 175, 177
deprivation, 111, 115
symbolic, 187–88
Deuteronomy, 175
developing countries, volunteer trips to, 166, 185–87
Dewey, Bramson, 89–91, 99, 113–16
Dewey, Mike, 89–91, 113, 116
dignity, 96
economy of, 93
dignity gauntlet, 93–94, 96, 111
Disney World, 78
Dismorr, Blanche, 67
diversity, 171
divorce, 28–29
dollar stores, 80–81
Dominican Republic, 186
donations. See charity; giving
Dorsch, Travis, 107
downward mobility, 7–8
Drouillard, Andrea, 162–63
Drouillard, Cali, 162–63
Duckworth, Angela, 154–55
Duong, Jonathan, 202
Dutton, Andrea, 28–29
Dwight, Bill, 60–61
EARN (Earned Assets Resource Network), 68
Earnings. See income
ECHOage, 105–6
economic crisis of 2008, 8, 73
economics, behavioral, 3
economy of dignity, 93
education. See school
Egypt, 175
Ehrenreich, Barbara, 144
Elixir Entertainment, 118
Embrey, Lori, 78–79
Engelhart, Talia, 206
Engelhart, Yoni, 205–8
emotions, 3–4, 19, 113, 203
empathy, 126
employee pension plans, 6
Engel, Susan, 124
entitlement, 11, 66, 67, 69, 95–96
envy, 3, 5, 115, 174, 175
evolution, 122
Facebook, xii, 61, 74, 103, 163
family businesses, 65, 151, 158, 172
farms, 158–60
Family Guy, 24
FamZoo, 55, 60
farmers markets, 77, 193
farm families, 158–60
fear, anxiety, and worry, 19, 23–24, 94
feelings, 3–4, 19, 113, 203
Feiler, Bruce, 103–4
financial crisis of
2008, 8, 73
financial difficulties:
from divorce, 28–29
from job loss, 26–28
First Kids Bank, 206
First National Bank of Dad (Owen), 54
Fogarty, James A., 10, 20
Fong family, 66
food preparation, 156–57
401(k)s, 6, 52
Fowler, Blair, 85
Freakonomics books (Levitt and Dubner), 3
Friend, Tad, 17
Fun Ratio, 74–76, 81
Gallo, Eileen, 126
Gallo, Jon, 126
Gans, Joshua, 201
garage sales, 127
Garner, Dwight, 81
Gates Foundation, 168
gender, 24–25
generosity, 11, 12, 14, 82, 106, 119, 120, 122, 130
See also giving
gifts, 61, 106, 119, 142
blank-check approach to, 134
custom coupons as, 101, 106
ECHOage and, 105–6
Gilchrist, Lucy, 183–84, 185, 187
giving, 14, 117–45
allowance money and, 49–52, 129, 130, 131
to alma maters, 131
at Brandeis Hillel Day School, 141–45
budget for, 132–34, 207
challenge grants and, 143
communities and, 120–21
conversations about, 119–22, 129, 131, 134–35
Giving Bag project and, 126–28
happiness and, 120, 121–22
to homeless people (see homeless, giving to)
how much and what, 134–41
making more meaningful, 129–30
to organizations helping animals, 129, 130
to organizations helping people, 130–31
by parents, in kids’ names, 129–30
in person, 130
as regular event, 133–34
to religious institutions, 131
rules for children vs. parents about, 131
Salwen family and, 135–39, 145
Solimene family and, 139–41
tax deductions and, 105, 129, 131
volunteering, 51, 119, 136
wants and needs and, 120, 132
See also charity; generosity; gifts
Godfrey, Joline, 18, 33–34, 36, 163–64
Golden Rule, 76
Google, 16, 20, 39, 40
Gordon School, 179
grace-saying ritual, 175–77
Gradinarova, Aleksandra, 149–50
grandparents, 35, 59, 65, 100, 106
gratitude, 14, 174–77
gratitude interventions, 175
Greater Expectations (Damon), 155
Greater Good Science Center, 177
grit, 154–55
Gross, Teddy, 123–25
Gross, Nora, 123–25
Grosso, Justin, 143
Gutierrez, Lucerito, 166–68