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Acknowledgments
I would like to acknowledge my tremendous gratitude for the many kinds of help this book has received from many sources and directions. Writing this book simply would not have been possible without my time as a Visiting Scholar at Radcliffe College’s Schlesinger Library, where I was able to ransack its marvelous collection on the history of women and also had the run of Widener Library and the entire Harvard library system. My endless thanks to Mary Maples Dunn and the incomparable staff of the Schlesinger Library, including Diane Hamer, Wendy Thomas, Ellen Shea, and to the magnificent research assistants Anna Baldwin, Kelly Kinneen, and Julia Soyer. Nor could I have written this book without very different kinds of practical support from Mary Lou Dopart and the New England Development Center, David Graff, Rebecca Graff, Lisa Larson, Susan Meigs, editors Marya van’t Hul and Amy Caldwell, and agent and friend Louise Quayle. And my thanks go as well to Katherine Acey and the Astraea Foundation, for all their past and ongoing support.
Others offered their interest, conversation, criticisms, challenges, input, and encouragement, including Suzanne Berne, Mary Bonauto, Chris Chinlund, Karen Cook, Jackie Dirks, Barb and Milton, Cynthia Enloe, Carolyn Goldstein, Ruth E. Hersh, Jeff Howard, Florence Ladd, Susan Miller, the New Words salon, Joni Seager, Joe Shay, Claudia Siegman, Hillary Smith, Andrew Sullivan, and John Wilkinson. Still others generously took time out from their own pressing deadlines to read an early draft and to apply their critical minds in ways that helped me clarify and consolidate the book’s facts and arguments: my tremendous thanks to professors Nancy Cott, Jay Harris, Charlotte Patterson, Susan Treggiari, and Jennifer Wriggins.
The traditional disclaimer more than applies: all errors remain my own.
The most extraordinary critical commitment to this book came from Laura Zimmerman, writing buddy for whom no superlatives are too extreme. And always my love and gratitude go to Madeline Drexler, who breathed life into this book from the first day we met.
Index
Please note that page numbers are not accurate for the e-book edition.
Adams, Abigail, 191
Adler, Felix, 249
adoption, xiii, 98, 110, 111–12, 113, 117, 143; inheritance in, 112–13; by lesbians and gay men, 118, 129–30, 144; in Massachusetts, 111–12; in Rome, 93
adultery, 30, 42, 53, 57, 60, 62, 64, 65, 67, 68, 70, 71, 73, 80, 82, 116, 170, 178, 198, 232, 233, 236
adulthood, political, 16–17, 21, 96, 218
affectio maritalis, 194, 196, 211–12, 214, 230
Alaska, xii
Albert, Prince Consort, 226
American Birth Control League, 79
American Civil Liberties Union (ACLU), 156
American Couples: Money, Work, Sex, 33
annulments, 164–66, 200, 203, 231, 233–34, 242
anti-divorce activists, language of, 239
anti-gay writing, 85, 86–87
anti-miscegenation laws: and civil rights movement, 155–57; in colonial America, 149–51; language in favor, 157–58; post–Civil War, 152; in twentieth century, 153–54. See also intermarriage; miscegenation
> capocalyptic predictions, 30–33, 82, 88, 98, 108–9, 157–58, 165, 220–22, 251–52
Ariès, Philippe, 91
Atlantic Monthly magazine, 76, 114
Augustine, 59–60, 62, 68, 72, 78, 81, 194
Austen, Jane, 1, 26, 36, 110
Australia, 44, 72, 209, 252
Baby Decision, The: How to Make the Most Important Choice of Your Life, 115
Bakunin, Michael, 182–83
Ballad of the Tyrannical Husband, 216
banns, posting, 199
Barone, Sherry, 48
bastardy, 55, 59, 61, 64, 65, 99–105, 150, 238; history of, 100–104; special, 102
battle of the sexes, 216–17
Bauer, Gary, 98
Bennett, William, 225–26, 233
Bernadine of Siena, Saint, 63
Besant, Annie, 75
bestiality, 74, 80, 81, 82, 87, 157–58, 239, 252
“best interests of the child” doctrine, 109, 111–12, 118, 141
betrothal, 5, 67, 101, 102, 197–98, 200, 210
bigamy, 202, 235, 238
birth control campaign, 79–81
birth rate, 53, 73
Blackstone, William, 27, 100, 105, 107, 108, 217
Blackwell, Henry, 220, 223
Blumstein, Philip, 33
Boswell, John, 218
Braschi v. Stahl, 50
Brazil, 211
breach of contract, 6, 35, 241
Brennan, William, 83
bridewealth, 4. See also dowry
brothel, 59, 62, 67, 82, 249. See also prostitution
Bryant, Anita, 86
Calvin, John, 106
Canada, 44, 50, 72, 118, 142, 252
Cannon, Martha Hughes, 174
capitalism, xiii, 3, 22–23, 35–36, 71, 82, 87, 105, 146, 176, 202, 205, 213, 235, 241, 250, 251
Carnegie, Andrew, 179
Casti Conubii (Of Chaste Marriage), 77
celibacy, 57–60, 63–64, 65, 69, 83, 87, 162, 189, 190, 195; Protestant
rebellion against, 64–68; in utopian
communities, 179–80
ceremony. See weddings
charivari, 13, 199
Charlemagne, 195
childcare, 51