Vulnerable
Free spirited
Moving
Alive
Colorful
Playful
Flowing
Growing
Soft
Adorning
Graceful
Blossoming
Adaptive
Life-giving
Relaxed
Ways Our Femininity is Priceless to Men
We make them feel masculine.
We bring life to them.
We bond with them.
We are the color in their “black-and-white” world.
We bring flavor and variety to their lives.
We bring out their playfulness and humor.
We inspire them to greatness.
We bring out their protective natures.
We nurture them.
We provide them with children and family.
We bring beauty and adornment to their world.
We offer companionship.
We make it safe for them to feel and express their emotions.
Reasons the Masculine and the Feminine Need Each Other
For procreation.
For relationship.
For partnership.
For enhancement of each other.
For the experience of intimacy.
For our spiritual growth.
For our survival.
For companionship.
For fun!
Some Ways Men Cope with the Loss of Our Femininity
Football and other sports addiction
Internet surfing addiction
Internet porn addiction
Gambling addiction
Seeking women overseas
Casual sex addiction
Having affairs
Drinking/getting drunk
Drug addiction
Stays in relationship, but shuts down emotionally
Addiction to TV (action/violence)
Suicide
Ways We Unknowingly Emasculate Men
Verbally putting him down
Putting him down in front of others
Withholding admiration and appreciation
Withholding sex as a punishment or manipulation
Lying to him
Faking orgasms
Asking his advice but not taking it
Ignoring him
Not fully listening to him
Not acknowledging him
Belittling him in any way
Raising our voice to him
Rolling our eyes at him
Disapproving looks
Taking the lead in his area of masculine domain
Holding him as “guilty” just because he is a man
What Men Have Done for Us
Protected us
Provided for us
Done the dirty, dangerous, difficult jobs
Built our modern society
Been the pillars of our survival
Kept us from extinction
Risked their lives for us in work and in war
What We Can Appreciate about Men’s Masculinity
Their deep love for women
Their desire to make us happy
Their ability to make us melt
Carrying heavy things for us
Opening our doors
Rescuing us when we need it
Being bigger and stronger than us
Keeping us warm when we’re cold
Their linear thinking
Their inventions
Their engineering skills
Their building skills
Their loyalty
Their physical strength
Their math skills
Their laser focus
Their desire to protect us
Their desire to provide for us
Their reliability
Their ability to fix things
Their perseverance
Their dedication
Their decisiveness
Their good business sense
Their willingness to do the dirty, dangerous, difficult jobs
14 Surprising Things I Learned from Men
Men are more sensitive than we realize.
Men rarely, if ever, gossip.
Men won’t open up if we gossip.
One of men’s greatest goals is to make women happy.
Men need admiration more than they need love, or even sex.
To men, the prettiest thing we can wear is our smile.
Not all men are into large breasts.
Men know what’s feminine because they are the beholders.
Most men are touch starved today.
Men are capable of loving more deeply than we are.
Men need us to need them.
Men need to impress us.
Men don’t notice our little imperfections.
Men see our beauty when we often don’t.
Examples of What Men Do for Us
Men have done the vast majority of the dangerous, dirty, and difficult jobs. In addition, they have fought our wars for us, and many have died.
To gain a greater appreciation of men and their masculinity, I’ve created a partial list of some of the dangerous and difficult jobs men do for the sake of keeping our society running smoothly. (Note that there are some women who perform these dangerous jobs too. However, feminine-core women rarely, if ever, have an interest in doing them.)
Dangerous, Difficult, Dirty Jobs Men Do
Armored car guard
Atomic power and chemical plant worker
Bodyguards
Bomb squad
Bridge builders
Cement makers
Coal miners
Coast guard search and rescue
Commercial fishing
Construction laborers
Crab fishing
Crop dusting
Deep-sea diver
Demolition workers
Electrician
Farming and ranching
Fireman
Fire truck driving
Forklift operators
High rise window washers
Industrial machinery workers
Land mine detector
Logging and timber
Military duty in conflict zones
Oil rig operators
Pilots (planes and helicopters)
Police officer
Power line installer
Refuge and recycling collecting (harmful chemicals, hazardous waste and dangerous machinery)
Rescue helicopter pilots
Road construction
Roofers
Skyscraper builders
Snow rescue
Soldiers in battle
Structural iron and steel workers
Taxi drivers/Truck drivers
How to Appreciate and Love a Man
Spend quality time with him.
Be transparent with him.
Do a variety of things together.
Get to know him well and understand him.
Listen to him without interrupting.
Ask him questions about his interests.
Accept him for the man he is.
Observe what he does for you.
Show him you trust him.
Let him impress you.
Notice what’s special about him.
Give to him in little ways (notes, food, touches, eye contact).
Be authentically appreciative of him.
Be admiring of him for his masculinity.
Allow him to teach you something he knows.
Let your armor down and relax with him.
Work on a worthwhile project or goal together.
List of Conversation Topics to Ask Men
His hobbies, interests, passions and how they came to be.
His greatest mission, life goals, or vision.
His best friends and what he likes about them.
Books he likes to read and why.
Music he likes.
Places
he wants to travel.
His favorite sports.
His favorite foods.
His favorite movies.
His role models and why.
What he wants his legacy to be.
How he wants to be remembered.
What influence he wants to be on his children.
Quality vs. Unhealthy Men
It’s extremely important to point out that we as women need to know the difference between healthy men and unhealthy men. Unhealthy men, even though they might be truly financially successful, are for the most part highly insecure and are always looking for ways to prove themselves to the world. These are not the kind of men we want. These men are often narcissistic and will only bring us pain in the long run. They have little integrity or depth and will think nothing of lying to us or others to get what they want. Sadly, these are the types of men who seem to get all the press, while the quality men don’t get much play in the media.
Avoid Men Who
Are highly insecure.
Are overly jealous or possessive.
Don’t support your passions/growth.
Ignore you.
Don’t adore you.
Are hot and cold with you.
Use or abuse you in any way.
Are emotionally unavailable.
Lie to you.
Won’t commit to you.
Don’t truly love you.
Ask you to alter your body surgically.
Aren’t proud to show you off.
Are narcissistic.
Lack clear direction and purpose.
Are argumentative.
Are without integrity
Are rage-a-holics.
Players who cheat on you.
Cheat in business.
Don’t care about others.
Are “bad boys”.
Are “Peter Pans”.
Are passive-aggressive.
Are manipulative.
Traits of Quality Men to Choose
Emotionally healthy.
Capable of loving.
Secure in himself.
Are available.
Has integrity.
Are trustworthy.
Loves you unconditionally.
Values who you are.
Committed to you.
Faithful to you.
Loyal to you.
Adores you.
Supports your passion and growth.
Are honest.
Are giving.
Are protective.
Have similar values.
Are admirable and respectable.
Good conflict resolution skills.
Enjoy being with you.
Like who you are with him.
References
Allen, Dr. Patricia. Getting to I Do
illiam Morrow Paperbacks, 1995
Chapman, Gary. The 5 Love Languages
Northfield Publishing, 2015
Contenta, Patty. “What Does Sensuality Mean To You?” Yourtango.com, January 12, 2012.
http://www.yourtango.com/experts/patty-contenta/what-does-sensuality-mean-you
Deida, David. Intimate Communion
HCI, 1995
Hill, Napoleon. Think and Grow Rich
Ballantine Books, 1960
Nichols, Lisa. No Matter What
Grand Central Life & Style, 2011
Shimoff, Marci. Happy for No Reason
First Free Press, 2008
Tolle, Eckhart. The Power of Now
Namaste Publishing, 2004
Waitley, Denis. The Psychology of Winning
Berkley, 1984
Wolfe, David. Eating for Beauty
North Atlantic Books, 2007
Recommended Resources
Recommended Reading
Allen, Dr. Patricia. Getting to ‘I Do’
Brown, Brené. Daring Greatly
Chapman, Gary. The 5 Love Languages
Crawford, Ilse. The Sensual Home
Deida, David. Intimate Communion and Blue Truth
Farrell, Warren. Women Can’t Hear What Men Don’t Say
Fisher, Helen. Why Him, Why Her
Gray, John. Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus
Hay, Louise. You Can Heal Your Life
Lechter, Sharon. Think and Grow Rich for Women
Nichols, Lisa. No Matter What
Shimoff, Marci. Happy for No Reason
Stoddard, Alexandra. Living a Beautiful Life
Wolfe, David. Eating for Beauty
Recommended Courses/Organizations
Alison Armstrong, The Queen’s Code
CEO Space International, business growth for women entrepreneurs
Patty Contenta, Sensuality Secrets
Rachael Jayne Groover, The Art of Feminine Presence
Satyen Raga, Warrior Sage Courses
David Deida, Courses on Masculine/Feminine Polarity
Message from the Author
Dear Reader,
I am very grateful to you for reading my book.
I started this project with nothing more than a vague notion of ending up with book, and had no idea exactly where it would lead, or how long it would take. I just knew I was called to write on this topic and I had to trust the process.
It seemed like a monumental challenge at the time. I had no degree, no background in writing, and pecked at the keyboard with two fingers. I wasn’t even a big reader. There were numerous times I doubted myself and my abilities. Yet because I followed my heart, I attracted amazing people into my life. Every time I needed help, like guardian angels, the right people came along to help me get over the next hurdle.
The dream of every author, as I’ve learned from years of working to closure on this book, is to be of true value to the readers. I feel this view is almost a sacred duty authors should keep in mind as they write.
Though mastering the art of femininity is not an overnight process, you have taken a major step forward in awareness of what it is that men adore. As you practice these principles, you will reap the results in both subtle and obvious ways that will surprise and delight you.
I invite you to share this book with other women who share your passion of returning to their femininity.
If you found the information in this book to be of value, I’d love it if you would write a review on Amazon.
www.simplyfemininebook.com/gifts
About the Author
Morgan Wonderly is a femininity mentor to women. She is a pioneer in the field of femininity from the perspective of men. She has studied men for over a decade and spent thousands of hours listening to men to learn what they find feminine in women. She works with women who are tired of operating from masculinity and want to reconnect with their feminine essence so they can attract a masculine man.
In her research, she has learned that masculine and feminine polarity is the key to attraction. As women, the more we differentiate ourselves from the masculine by showcasing our femininity, the more we will be attractive to men, as in the yin/yang principle.
With over twenty-five years’ experience as a personal image/style consultant, color specialist, licensed cosmetologist and makeup artist, along with what she has learned from men, Morgan is a master of the art of feminine image. What sets her apart from other consultants in the personal image field is her focus on feminine appearance and attitudes that attract men. She excels at beautiful “makeovers” on women. In addition, she works with women on their online dating profiles to create the very best first impressions that attract men.
She strives in her own life to embody all of what it means to be quintessentially feminine from a man’s perspective! Because this is her passion, she is continually learning from men so that she can share these insights with the women she works with.
Happily residing in sunny San Diego, California, Morgan enjoys personal development, international travel, international cultures, museums, alternative medicine, healthy whole foods, epicurean delights, bold red wines, painting, art, photogra
phy, home decorating, entertaining, fashion, color consulting, feminine image and style … and all the various ways she can play with color!
Connect with the Author
Morgan Wonderly mentors female clients to enhance their inner and outer feminine attractiveness through mindset, style and custom color consulting. She is available to speak on these and related topics, including femininity in the workplace.
Website: Simplyfemininebook.com
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Acknowledgments
My dear friend Robert Akscyn, for providing me with countless hours of key insights and wisdom into the masculine perspective, and for his tireless help and encouragement throughout the writing process, without which this book would not be possible.
Mari Smith, who, while serving as my life coach, suggested that I teach women about femininity.
Grace Renshaw, for her devoted friendship and never-failing encouragement from beginning to end of this project, including generosity with her time, creativity, and talent.
Marlyse Benitah, for being there for me as my friend with dedication and patience over the years reviewing my manuscript time and time again and giving her honest feedback.
Shera Pillsbury, for providing a space to work on this project and giving me insightful and helpful feedback along the way.
Dr. Denis Waitley, for expressing his enthusiastic support regarding this book project and for cheering me on to bring it to completion.
Rafael Juarez, for believing in me and providing encouragement and feedback.
Liliana Correa, for making her beautiful Zen-like cabin in Lake Tahoe available as a writer’s retreat where much of this book was created.
Genevieve Renoir, for her generosity in offering her assistance with the project.
Cherry Norris, for her role as relationship coach and for teaching me how men think.
Ted and Marlene Nelson, for a summer at their lovely countryside New Jersey farmhouse, as a serene environment to accomplish much on this manuscript.
Claudia Arguelles-Miller, for her astute observations about the psychology of men.
Arlo Liebeler, for his steadfast confidence in me throughout the writing process.
Patrick Finnerty, for his straightforward, direct feedback on this manuscript.
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