Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself

by Joe Dispenza

  Know that where you place your attention is where you place your energy. The energy that you released from the body earlier has become the raw materials for you to use to create a new future. In a state of divinity, true greatness, and gratitude, create by blessing your life with your own energy, and be the quantum observer of your future. Become entangled to your new reality. As you see the images of what you want to experience in the energy of this new personality, know that those pictures will become the blueprints of your destiny. You are commanding matter to conform to your intentions…. When you finish, simply let go and know that your future will unfold in a way that is perfect for you.

  WEEK FOUR

  GUIDE TO MEDITATION

  Now that you have read the text and journaled for Step 7, you are ready to practice your Week Four meditations. Every day, listen to (or do from memory) the full Week Four meditation.

  A helpful hint: During the Guided Meditation, you may find yourself feeling so good that you naturally make statements like these to yourself or out loud: I am wealthy, I am healthy, I am a genius—because you feel like that in a very real way. That’s great. It means mind and body are aligned. It’s important for you not to analyze what you are dreaming. If you do, you will leave the fertile ground of the Alpha-wave patterns and return back to Beta-wave patterns, and separate yourself from your subconscious mind. Just create a new you without any judgment.

  Guide to Continuing Your Meditation

  You’ve just devoted the past several weeks to learning a meditation practice that can become a lifelong means to help you evolve and create the life you choose. You also used that new skill to start pruning away a particular aspect of the old you, and to begin creating a new self and a new destiny.

  At this point, many people ask questions such as these:

  How can I continue to get better at the steps and skills of meditating?

  Once I have mastered this process, should I keep doing it the same way indefinitely?

  How long should I keep working on the same aspect of self that I’ve focused on up to now?

  How will I know when I’m ready to peel away another “layer of the onion”?

  As I keep using this process, how can I decide which part of my old self to change next?

  Can I use this process to work on more than one aspect of my personality at a time?

  Make This Meditative Process Your Own

  If you continue to do all the steps every day, what used to feel like seven steps will begin to feel simpler, with more of a flow from step to step. Like anything you have mastered in your life, you will only get better if you continue to meditate daily.

  As for the Guided Meditation and induction techniques, you might think of them like training wheels on a bicycle. If using them helped you while you were learning this process, continue to listen to them for as long as they assist you to move ahead. But once you’re so familiar with the process that you’ve made it your own, and you feel that listening to guided instructions is holding you back, then let them go.

  Keep Peeling Away Those Layers

  Making periodic adjustments to your meditations is natural and to be expected, because you aren’t the same person you were when you began. If you keep up the daily sessions, your state of being will continue to evolve, and thus you will continue to recognize aspects of your old self that you want to change.

  Only you can determine when and how quickly you are ready to move ahead. And as I’ll talk about in the next chapter, your progress will depend not just on your meditations, but on making change an integral part of your daily life. But in general, working on one particular aspect of yourself in your sessions for four to six weeks will likely bring enough results that you feel an inner prompting to begin removing another layer of self.

  So approximately every month, do some self-reflection. Look to your life for feedback on what you’re creating, and how you’re doing. You might revisit the questions in Part III and notice any that you would now answer differently. Reevaluate how you’re feeling, who you’ve been “being” in your life, and whether you still have the attitude you were working on. If that attitude feels like it has diminished, have you noticed other unwanted emotions, states of mind, or habits that feel more prominent now?

  If so, one approach might be to focus on that aspect of your personality and redo the entire process you just completed. Alternatively, you may want to keep working on one area while adding another.

  Once you’ve mastered the basic template for how to meditate, you can combine the emotions you’re working on in a more unified way, addressing several aspects of yourself at the same time. After a lot of practice, I now work on my whole self at once, taking what I think of as a holistic, nonlinear approach.

  Of course, elements of the new destiny you want to create will surely change as well. When that new relationship or career change comes into your life, you won’t want to stop there. And every so often, you may also opt to vary your meditation just to shake things up a bit. Trust your instincts.

  Advance Your Understanding Even More

  If you haven’t already done so, I invite you to visit my website: www.drjoedispenza.com. Whenever you feel the need for new inspiration, here you will find an array of practical tools and techniques to reprogram your thoughts and remove self-destructive habits to empower you to change from the inside out. Your next steps might be to:

  Read my first book (and the companion to this one), Evolve Your Brain: The Science of Changing Your Mind, to deepen the knowledge that, as you now know, is the precursor to experience. This book will walk you through the structures of your brain, teach you how your thoughts and emotions become hardwired, and give you the understanding to not only change your life, but to change you into the person you’ve always wanted to be.

  Attend one, two, or all three of the workshops I personally conduct around the world on Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself.

  Participate in a series of live teleclasses, including Q & A sessions.

  Broaden the foundation of your knowledge through the DVDs and audio CDs described on my website.

  CHAPTER FOURTEEN

  DEMONSTRATING AND BEING TRANSPARENT: LIVING YOUR NEW REALITY

  When you demonstrate change, you’ve memorized an internal order that is greater than any environmental cue. It’s keeping your energy up, staying conscious in a new reality, independent of your body, independent of the environment, and independent of time. How are you going to be when you walk into your life? Remind yourself with your family, at your job, with your children, at lunch tomorrow. Can you maintain this modified state of being? If you can live your life in the same energy that you created with, then something different should show up in your world—that’s the law. When your behaviors match your intentions, when your actions are equal to your thoughts, when you’re being someone else, then you are ahead of your time. Your environment is no longer controlling how you think and feel; how you think and feel is controlling your environment. That’s greatness, and it’s always been within you….

  When how you appear is who you are, you are free from the enslavement of your past. And when all of that energy now is liberated, the side effect of that freedom is called joy.

  Demonstrating: Living as the New You

  When your internal neurochemical state is so orderly and coherent that no stimulus in your incoherent, external world can disrupt who you are “being,” then your mind and body are now working in harmony. You are now a new being. And by memorizing that state of being—a new personality—your world and your personal reality will begin to reflect your internal changes. When your outward expression of self is equal to your inner self, you are headed to a new destiny.

  Can you maintain the change in your life so that your body does not return to the same mind? Since emotions are stored in the subconscious memory system, it is your job to consciously keep your body aligned to your new mind so that nothing in your environment emotionally hooks you back to the old realit
y. You must memorize your new self and insist on being it, so that nothing in your present reality can move you from it.

  Remember that when you get up from your meditation, if you did it properly, you will advance from thinking to being. Once you are in that state of being, you are more prone to do and think equal to who you are being.

  To Demonstrate Is to “Be It” All Day Long

  In a nutshell, demonstration is living as if your prayers have already been answered. It is rejoicing in your new life with a new level of expectation and excitement. It is reminding yourself that you must be in that same state of mind and body that you were in when you created your new ideal. You cannot create a new personality in your meditation and then live as the old self for the rest of the day. It would be like eating a really healthy meal in the morning and then spending the rest of the day snacking on junk food.

  In order for a new experience in reality to happen to you, you have to match your behavior with your goal; you align your thoughts and your deeds. You must make choices that are consistent with your new state of being. When you demonstrate, you physically apply what you have mentally rehearsed, getting the body involved and making it do what the mind has learned.

  Therefore, in order for you to see the signals unfolding in your life, you must live and be in the same energy that you created from. Simply put, if you want the universe to begin to talk back to you in new and unusual ways, the energy and the mind that you demonstrate in your life must be the same as the energy and mind of your meditation as that new ideal. This is when you are connected with or entangled to the energy you created in a dimension beyond space and time, and this is how you attract the new event into your life.

  When both aspects of the self are aligned, the “you” living in the “now life” is the same being you constructed during your meditation. You are being the future you that existed as a potential in the quantum field. And when the new self that you created in your meditation is the exact same electromagnetic signature as the future you that you are being in your life, you are unified to that new destiny. When you are physically “being one with the future you in the now moment” that you dreamed about, you will experience the bounty of a new reality. There will be a response from a greater order.

  Look Forward to Feedback

  The feedback you experience in your life is the result of matching the state of being/energy of your creative process to the state of being/energy of your demonstrative process. It is “being” that being you invented in this particular plane of demonstration. You have to live in that line of time in present physical reality. Thus, if you maintain that modified state of mind and body the entire day, something different should show up in your life.

  And what type of feedback should you begin to witness? Look forward to synchronicities, opportunities, coincidences, flow, effortless change, better health, insights, revelations, mystical experiences, and new relationships, to name a few. New feedback then will inspire you to keep doing what you have been doing.

  When external feedback occurs as a result of your internal efforts, you will naturally correlate whatever you were doing inside of you with whatever happened outside of you. This is a novel moment in and of itself. It basically shows evidence that you are now living by the quantum law. You become astonished that the feedback that you are experiencing is the direct result of the internal workings of your mind and emotions.

  When you correlate what you did in the implicit world with the explicit manifestation, you will pay attention and remember whatever you did earlier to produce that effect, and you will do it again. And when you can connect your inner world with the effects in the outer world, you are now “causing an effect” instead of living by cause and effect. You are creating reality.

  Here is the test: Can you be the same person in your external environment that you were being in your internal one, while you were meditating? Can you be greater than your present environment, which is connected to your past personality, memories, and associations? Are you able to cease your routine reactions to the same situations? Have you conditioned your body and molded your mind to be ahead of the present reality in front of you?

  This is the reason why we meditate. To become someone else in our lives.

  Demonstrate the New-You Plan into the Equation of Your Life

  Remind yourself that during the day, you will keep your energy up as the new you. Here you are to prompt yourself to stay conscious at different times in your waking hours. You can prime yourself to place little notes in consciousness on the canvas of your life.

  For example:

  I want to give thanks for different aspects of my life while I take my morning shower. I have to stay on track while I drive to work, so I’m going to be joyous during the whole trip. How will I be as this new ideal when I see my boss? Let me remind myself to take a moment at lunch and remember who I want to be. When I see my kids this evening, I will be elevated and have abundant energy, and we’ll truly connect. I want to take a minute while I get ready for bed and remind myself who I am being.

  End-of-the-Day Questions

  These questions are a simple way to review your display of the new self when the day is over:

  How did I do today?

  When did I fall from grace, and why?

  Who was it I reacted to, and where?

  When did I “go unconscious”?

  How can I do better the next time that happens?

  Before you go to bed, it might be a nice idea to contemplate where it was during your day that you lost your new ideal. Once you can see the obvious place in your life that stimulated you to fall into oblivion, ask yourself these simple questions: “If this situation happened again, how would I do it differently?” and “What piece of knowledge or philosophical understanding could I apply to this circumstance if it arose again?”

  Once you can come up with a solid answer and attend to it with a bit of thoughtfulness, you will be mentally rehearsing a new element that rounds out another part of you. You will be putting the new neural network into your brain to prepare you for the event at some future time. This little move will assist you in upgrading and refining the model of the new-and-improved you. You then can add that into your morning or evening meditation.

  Being Transparent: Going from the Inner to the Outer

  When you are transparent, how you appear is who you are, and your internal thoughts and feelings are reflected in your external environment. Having achieved this state, your life and your mind are synonymous. It is your final relationship between you and all of your outward creations. This means that your life reflects your mind in all arenas. You are your life, and your life is a reflection of you. If, as quantum physics suggests, the environment is an extension of the mind, this is when your life reorganizes itself to reflect your new mind.

  Transparency is a state of true empowerment, in which you have realized (made real) your dream of personal transformation. You have gained wisdom from experience, and are greater than the environment and your past reality.

  The telltale sign of becoming transparent is that you do not have many overly analytical or critical thoughts. You wouldn’t want to think that way. It would take you away from your present state. Since the side effect of transparency is true joy, more energy, and freedom of expression, any thought that is connected to an ego drive would lower the elevated feeling within you.

  There Will Come a Moment …

  When your life begins to unfold with new and wonderful events, there will come a moment that you will be in awe, wonder, and utter wakefulness when you realize it was your mind that created them. In your rapture, you will look back from this vantage point at your entire life, and you will not want to change anything. You will not regret any action or feel bad about whatever has happened to you, because in that moment of your manifestation, it will all make sense to you. You will see how your past got you to this great state.

  As the result of your efforts, the consciousness of the greater mi
nd has begun to be your conscious mind; its nature is becoming your nature. You naturally become more divine. This is who you really are. This is your natural state of being.

  Equally, as the invisible giver of life begins to move through you, you will feel more like yourself than you have in a long time. Those traumas that produced emotional scars knocked your true personality from its center. You became more complicated, more polarized, more divided, more inconsistent, and more predictable. When you unmemorize those survival emotions that naturally lower the frequency of the mind and the body, you are lifted to a higher electromagnetic expression, and a greater frequency is now turning you on. And you free yourself by unlocking the doors to make room for a greater power to become you.

  Finally, it is you and you are it. You are one. And you feel a coherent energy called love. It is the within that then manifests an unconditional state.

  Once you connect to and drink from the well of consciousness, you might experience a real paradox. It is quite possible that there will come such a sense of personal wholeness that you will find it difficult to want anything. This dichotomy was a veritable realization for me.

  Wants and desires come from lacking something, someone, someplace, or some time. In being truly connected to this consciousness, I have had moments that it was hard to think about anything else because I felt so great. I felt so complete that any thought that would take me away from it would not be worth my moving from this place.

  So the irony is that once you arrive at this space to create from, you no longer need anything, because the lack and emptiness from which you desired those things has been eliminated, replaced by a feeling of wholeness. As a result, you just want to linger in the feeling of balance, love, and coherence.