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“we are on a journey”: Hannah Ward and Jennifer Wild, eds., The Monastic Way: Ancient Wisdom for Contemporary Living: A Book of Daily Readings (Grand Rapids, MI: Wm. B. Eerdmans, 2007), 183.
“The monk may think”: Hannah Ward and Jennifer Wild, eds., The Monastic Way: Ancient Wisdom for Contemporary Living: A Book of Daily Readings (Grand Rapids, MI: Wm. B. Eerdmans, 2007), 190.
“Look at these fortunate trees”: Srimad-Bhagavatam, The Summum Bonum, 22.32.
The sixteenth-century guru Rupa Goswami talks about yukta-vairāgya: Verse 1.2.255 from Srila Rupa Goswami, Bhakti Rasamrta Sindhu (In Two Volumes): With the Commentary of Srila Jiva Gosvami and Visvanatha Cakravarti Thakur (The Bhaktivedanta Book Trust, Inc, 2009).
“No one is born hating”: Nelson Mandela, Long Walk to Freedom: The Autobiography of Nelson Mandela (Boston: Back Bay Books, 1995).
one we often overlook: Joseph Campbell, The Hero with a Thousand Faces (Novato, CA: New World Library, 2008).
Seane Corn is living out the hero’s journey: Seane Corn, “Yoga, Meditation in Action,” interview by Krista Tippett, On Being, September 11, 2008, https://onbeing.org/programs/seane-corn-yoga-meditation-in-action/.
when we pursue “compassionate goals”: M. Teresa Granillo, Jennifer Crocker, James L. Abelson, Hannah E. Reas, and Christina M. Quach, “Compassionate and Self-Image Goals as Interpersonal Maintenance Factors in Clinical Depression and Anxiety,” Journal of Clinical Psychology 74, no. 4 (September 12, 2017): 608–625, doi: 10.1002/jclp.22524.
tend to live longer: Stephen G. Post, “Altruism, Happiness, and Health: It’s Good to Be Good,” International Journal of Behavioral Medicine 12, no. 2 (June 2005): 66–77, doi: 10.1207/s15327558ijbm1202_4.
“giving simply because it is right to give”: Verse 17.20 from The Bhagavad Gita, introduction and translation by Eknath Easwaran (Tomales, CA: Nilgiri Press, 2007), 248.
Sindhutai Sapkal was married at twelve: “About Sindhutai Sapkal (Mai)/Mother of Orphans,” accessed November 13, 2019, https://www.sindhutaisapakal.org/about-Sindhutail-Sapkal.html.
people were given $10: Paul K. Piff, Michael W. Krauss, Stéphane Côté, Bonnie Hayden Cheng, and Dacher Keltner, “Having Less, Giving More: The Influence of Social Class on Prosocial Behavior,” Journal of Personality and Social Psychology 99, no. 5 (November 2010): 771–784, doi: 10.1037/a0020092.
survey of charitable giving: Ken Stern, “Why the Rich Don’t Give to Charity: The Wealthiest Americans Donate 1.3 Percent of Their Income; The Poorest, 3.2 Percent. What’s Up with That?” The Atlantic, April 2013, https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2013/04/why-the-rich-dont-give/309254/.
over 70 percent of charitable contributions: Kate Rogers, “Poor, Middle Class and Rich: Who Gives and Who Doesn’t?” FOXBusiness, April 24,2013, https://www.foxbusiness.com/features/poor-middle-class-and-rich-who-gives-and-who-doesnt.
Why those with less give more: Daniel Goleman, Focus: The Hidden Driver of Excellence (New York: HarperCollins, 2013), 123.
Some philanthropists: Kathleen Elkins, “From Poverty to a $3 Billion Fortune: The Incredible Rags-to-Riches Story of Oprah Winfrey,” Business Insider, May 28, 2015, https://www.businessinsider.com/rags-to-riches-story-of-oprah-winfrey-2015-5.
Kailash Satyarthi has taken on: Ryan Prior, “Kailash Satyarthi Plans to End Child Labor In His Lifetime,” CNN, March 13, 2019, https://www.cnn.com/2019/02/19/world/kailash-satyarthi-child-labor/index.html.
“You don’t need to do everything”: Joanna Macy, World as Lover, World as Self: Courage for Global Justice and Ecological Renewal (Berkeley, CA: Parallax Press, 2007), 77.
MEDITATION: CHANT
the why and how of chanting: Agni Purana 3.293 and Vayu Purana 59.141.
Recognizing the value of sound: “Tesla’s Vibrational Medicine,” Tesla’s Medicine, accessed November 12, 2019, https://teslasmedicine.com/teslas-vibrational-medicine/; Jennifer Tarnacki, “This Is Your Brain on Drumming: The Neuroscience Behind the Beat,” Medium, September 25, 2019, https://medium.com/indian-thoughts/this-is-your-brain-on-drumming-8ed6eaf314c4.
anything that inspires you can work: Rainer Maria Rilke, Letters to a Young Poet (New York: W. W. Norton & Company, 1993); “29 Inspiring Herb Brooks Quotes to Motivate You,” Sponge Coach, September 13, 2017, http://www.spongecoach.com/inspiring-herb-brooks-quotes/; Jay-Z, “Dirt Off Your Shoulder,” The Black Album, Roc-A-Fella and Def Jam, March 2, 2004; Bad Boys II, directed by Michael Bay, Don Simpson/Jerry Bruckheimer Films, 2003.
most sacred mantra is Om: “Why Do We Chant Om?” Temples in India Info, accessed November 12, 2019, https://templesinindiainfo.com/why-do-we-chant-om/; “Om,” Encyclopedia Britannica, accessed November 12, 2019, https://www.britannica.com/topic/Om-Indian-religion.
Vagus nerve stimulation: Bangalore G. Kalyani, Ganesan Venkatasubramanian, Rashmi Arasappa, Naren P. Rao, Sunil V. Kalmady, Rishikesh V. Behere, Hariprasad Rao, Mandapati K. Vasudev, and Bangalore N. Gangadhar, “Neurohemodynamic Correlates of ‘OM’ Chanting: A Pilot Functional Magnetic Resonance Imaging Study,” International Journal of Yoga 4, no. 1 (January–June 2011): 3–6, doi: 10.4103/0973-6131.78171; C. R. Conway, A. Kumar, W. Xiong, M. Bunker, S. T. Aronson, and A. J. Rush, “Chronic Vagus Nerve Stimulation Significantly Improves Quality of Life in Treatment Resistant Major Depression,” Journal of Clinical Psychiatry 79, no. 5 (August 21, 2018), doi: 10.4088/JCP.18m12178.
Om Tat Sat: Verse 17.23 from The Bhagavad Gita, introduction and translation by Eknath Easwaran (Tomales, CA: Nilgiri Press, 2007), 249.
CONCLUSION
Among the most common regrets: Grace Bluerock, “The 9 Most Common Regrets People Have at the End of Life,” mindbodygreen, accessed on November 13, 2019, https://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-23024/the-9-most-common-regrets-people-have-at-the-end-of-life.html.
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Index
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Abagnale, Frank, Jr., 176, 179, 181
Accenture, 104, 107, 227
achieving, 158
activity journal, 116
Acton, Brian, 212
adult mind, 149, 150
advisors, 192–94
affirmations, 271
Agassi, Andre, 99–100
Agni Purana, 270
alcohol use, 169–70
Ali (Ali ibn Abi Talib), 165
alive, dharma and, 118–19
ananda (bliss), 118
anapanasati, 86
anartha, 32
anartha-nivritti, 32
Andre Agassi Foundation, 100
anger, amending, 38–39
Annamrita, xiv, 260, 264, 269
anxiety, 46, 47, 126, 161, 163, 238, 259, 264 anticipatory, 152
Arjuna, 46, 47, 62
Aron, Arthur, 249
Asch, Solomon, 24
Aspects of Love (Freeman), 77
At Home in the World (Thich Nhat Hanh), 135
Atharva Veda, 70–71
attachment, 55, 64, 164–65, 169–70, 251 auditing, 57
attention, battle for, 241 and presence, 240–41
attraction, connection versus, 239
avoidance, 62
Bad Boys II (movie), 271
Bannister, Roger, 168
Barrett, Lisa Feldman, 147
Barringham, Neil, 35
Bell, Joshua, 155
betrayal, 232, 233
Bezos, Jeff, 69, 127
Bhagavad Gita (“Song of God”), xiv, 3, 15, 35, 39, 46, 47, 62, 96, 99, 108, 148, 164–65, 172, 173, 177, 187, 254, 257, 260, 264, 269, 273
Bhaktivedanta Manor, 10–11, 25
Bhaktivinoda Thakura, 66
Biosphere 2, 50, 223
Blakely, Sara, 189
Blockbuster, 180
Blue Zones, 222–23
Bluest Eye, The (Morrison), 99
BMC Public Health, 219
body scan, 200
Brach, Tara, 68
Brahma, Lord, 183–84
brahmacharya (monk), 237, 280
Brahmins, 177
branch fears, 49, 54
Branson, Richard, 127
Brave, Not Perfect (Saujani), 271
breathwork, xvii–xviii, 35, 59–60, 83, 84, 86–89, 276–77
Brooks, Herb, 271
Bryant, Kobe, 133
buddhi, 172
Buddha, 21, 46, 85–86, 122, 147, 149, 215
Buddhism, 35
Buettner, Dan, 222–23
Buffett, Warren, 174
Byrd, Laramiun, 185
call-and-response chanting, 272
Campbell, Joseph, 117–18, 258
cancellers, 26
casualties, 26
“Cancers of the Mind: Comparing, Complaining, Criticizing” (Gauranga Das), 20–21
Capes for Kids, 219
Care of the Soul (Moore), 188
caring expanding circle of, 261–62
trust and, 226–29
Carrey, Jim, 68
caste system, 109, 177
Catch Me If You Can (Abagnale), 176
celibacy, 222, 236–38
cell phones, 125–26, 127, 241, 244
Center for Sustainable Development, 70
Chaitanya, 8
Chance the Rapper, 99
chanting, xviii, 250, 271–73, 276
character, trust and, 226–29
charioteer analogy, 151, 153, 171
Cherokee Indians, 147
child labor, 267–68
chit (consciousness), 118
Chittister, Sister Joan, 100, 132
Chödrön, Pema, 44, 152, 205, 215
circle of love, 223–25, 231
Cleveland Clinic, 198
clothing, 11, 125, 129–31
comfort, dharma and, 119
commanders, 26–28
communication, psychology of, 96
companion audit, 19
comparing, 36, 38
compassion, 37, 229, 246 network of, 225
service and, 259–61, 266–68
compassionate goals, 259
competence, trust and, 225–26, 228, 229
competition, 31, 38
competitors, 26, 27
complainers, 26, 28
complaining, 24–26, 32, 36–38
conditional forgiveness, 40
confidence, 190–92
connection, 245 attraction versus, 239
consistency dharma and, 119
trust and, 226–29
contemplative single-tasking, 143
contractual trust, 233–36
controllers, 26, 27
conversation, as loving exchange, 242
Cook, Tim, 127
Cooley, Charles Horton, 3, 5
Corn, Seane, 258–59
cortisol, 26
creativity, routine and, 133, 144
creators, 109–12, 114, 287
criticism, 20–21, 36, 193
critics, 26, 27
cultural norms, 6
Dalai Lama, 29, 32, 123, 176, 246
Dan in Real Life (movie), 246
Dass, Ram, 163
dating, 237, 238, 247–48, 252–53
Day-Lewis, Daniel, 4
daydreaming, 137
death, 279–81
de Becker, Gavin, 49
DeGeneres, Ellen, 44–45
DePaulo, Bella, 232–33
depression, 259, 264, 272
Desert Fathers, 79, 81
desire, as motivation, 67–73
detachment, 28, 55, 56, 58, 64, 164–67, 169–71, 282 from ego, 187–88
gratitude and, 187–88
Devlukia, Radhi, 246–49
Dhammapada, 86, 147, 149
dharma, 154 align with passion, 102–6
of body, 118–19
definition of, 94
discovering, 95–98, 98–99
embracing, 117–18
other people’s, 99–102
responsibility and, 119–20
service within, 265
stretching, 120–22
test-drive, 115–17
varnas, 109–15
diaphragmatic breathing, 88
DiCaprio, Leonardo, 105
diet, 134–35, 170–71
discretionary spending, 14–15
discrimination, 176
distraction, 137 filtering out, 7, 8, 10–12, 19, 79
dopamine, 143, 207
Doraiswamy, Murali, 207–8
double-edged ego, 181–83
Downey, Robert, Jr., 181
duty, as motivation, 67, 70–73
Easwaran, Eknath, xiv, 149
eating habits, 134
education, 9
ego, 168, 172–96 awareness of, 186–87
building confidence and, 190–92
detaching from, 187–88
double-edged, 181–83
false, 173, 176
false hierarchies and, 176–78
feedback and, 192–94
humility and, 183–86, 188, 190, 195, 196
institutional, 180
isolation and, 181
judgment and, 178–79
lying and, 175–76, 233
as mask, 174–75
as obstacle to growth, 179
stepping outside of failure, 188–90
Einstein, Albert, xv, 155
El Capitan, 50
Emerson, Ralph Waldo, xiv
emotional attraction, 239–41
emotional needs, core, 22–23
emotional pain, 153
empathy, 37
energy levels, relationships and, 240
entitlement, sense of, 23
environmental awareness, 137–39
envy, 31, 75 reversing, 38
Ericsson, Anders, 102
escape rooms game, 249
Ets
y, 107
Evagrius Ponticus (Evagrius the Solitary), 174
exercise, 128
expanding the moment, 61
expectations, setting, 222–23
expertise, 97–98
exploratory visualization, 199
Facebook, 18, 98, 212
failure, stepping outside of, 188–90
false ego, 173, 176
false hierarchies, 176–78
fasting, 166–68
fear, 46–64 acceptance of, 52–53
attachment and detachment, 55–57, 64
diving into, 63
fear of, 49–50
managing short-term, 57–59
meditation, 47–49
as motivation, 66, 67, 71, 73
negativity and, 23, 45
patterns, 53–54
rating, 53
revisiting long-term, 61–64
short-circuiting, 59–60
stress response, 51
working with, 52
feedback, 192–94
fight-flight-freeze state, 60
flow, dharma and, 119
food, as loving exchange, 241–45
forgiveness, 38–39, 185–86, 229 asking and receiving exercise, 42
gratitude after, 220
peace of mind and, 41
self-, 43–44
transformational, 39–41
as two-way street, 43
Francis of Assisi, Saint, 96
Free Solo (documentary), 50
freedom, 29, 32, 35, 55
Freeman, Laurence, 77
Freerider, 50
Freud, Sigmund, 117
friendships (see also relationships) labeling, 231
lifetime people, 230–31
From Death to Life support group, 185
“From Jerusalem to Jericho” experiment, 76–77
future, thoughts of, 163–64
Galef, Julia, 179
gamma wave levels, xi
Gandhi, Mahatma, 230
Ganges river, 262
Gangs of New York (movie), 4