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defined, 414
interactions and, 169, 172, 185, 192–193, 198, 267
nonverbal behaviors and, 212, 214, 215
persuasive communication and, 292
zooming out and, 225–227, 256
Thoreau, Henry David, 260
3 P’s (personal, pervasive, permanent), 83, 87
time:
adapting to time differences, 278–279, 301
cultural time orientation, 250–251
future-oriented 252–253
language and, 244, 254, 257, 261, 272
negotiation and, 341, 342, 352
past-oriented 252–253
present-oriented 252–253
research on, 251–253
through time and in time, 249–250, 278–279
tone of voice:
as anchor, 32, 35
inner voices, 116
matching, 176, 214, 261, 378
as paralanguage, 211, 212
touch:
as anchor, 29, 30, 31, 32, 105, 119, 172, 265
connections with others and, 179
nonverbal behaviors and, 209, 212, 214
physical connection and, 262–265, 267
as trigger, 35
Touch Research Institute, University of Miami School of Medicine, 262–263
toward/away-from meta-program
adapting to preferences, 276–277
focus on, 136, 152
goals and, 367, 368, 383
interactions and, 247
questions answered by, 137, 246
toxic relationships, 296–299, 302, 350
Tracy, Brian, 90
tribal thinking, 237
Trickey, Keith V., 316
triggers:
anchors as, 35
beliefs and, 133
for emotional states, 79, 81, 86, 100
for procrastination, 73
21-day guide:
goals, 363–375
peak performance program, 385–398
persuasive communication, 376–384
using, 361–362
understanding:
beliefs and, 285–286, 288
conflict and, 347
connections with others and, 261
gaps in, 221–223, 261
interactions and, 195
listening skills and, 378
local language and, 272–273
questions facilitating, 229–234
slowing down, 227–229, 257, 286
zooming in, 223–224
zooming out, 225–227
universal quantifiers:
defined, 414
language and, 232
using metaphors, 290
values:
conflict in, 56, 85, 227
congruence and, 57
heartfelt values, 382
interactions and, 196
self-concept and, 131
time orientation and, 251
Vance, Mike, 313
victory list, 106–107, 112, 118, 123
visualization, 92–93, 122, 388
visual mode:
communication in, 202, 206, 227, 273, 274, 379
defined, 414
language and, 245
sub-modalities of, 61–65, 86
thinking and, 23, 24
Visual Swish, 81
Walt Disney Company, 313–319
well-formed outcomes:
collaboration and, 308–310, 351
congruence and, 59
creating, 53–56
creativity and, 310
defined, 414
goals and, 46, 47–56, 85, 242, 370–372, 376–377
questions involved in, 46–53, 85, 309, 310, 371–372
worksheet for, 54–55, 371–372
words of necessity, 133, 233
Wright, Frank Lloyd, 393
Zimbardo, Phil, 251–252
zone. See living in “the zone”
zooming in, 223–224, 256
zooming out:
appreciation, 396
interactions and, 225–227, 256, 267
persuasive communication and, 292, 301
warning signals for disengagement, 185–186, 198
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