Dilemma of a Young Mind

by Hiranya Borah

A friend of mine confided to me something which I am going to share with you all with his tacit permission with a caveat not to disclose his name, organisation he is working and the place he is working. Actually, he also wants your comments and advice to solve his problem.

  He is around 50 and working in a reputed organisation at higher level. He is known to me for last three decades and I know him as a suave (not gaolia bhoot like me), impressive and with a very handsome personality. He is a father of two college going children and husband of a very beautiful wife. I knew him as a successful man, a dotting father and a dotting husband. His wife is also a charming, but very dignified looking lady.

  What he confided me is a shock for me. He was very faithful till he completed his eighteenth anniversary(he is going to complete 22 years of married life). According to him, his wife, who is very soft spoken to others, is actually very foul mouthed lady to her husband and children(verified this from his children, it is confirmed). She is a very bad cook and worse house maker(this is also true). Despite of this, he tried his best to harmonize the marital chord upto the maximum. Though, he was suffering from within silently, he tried to adjust with her as much as possible. However, he was losing patience in fighting a losing battle.

  Just after, completion of his 18th anniversary he had to visit a city which is infamous for night club etc. In that tour, he met another old friend who took him to a place, which he never visited earlier.

  After that visit, whenever he visited that city, he made a habit to visit those place(s). However, he never indulged any immoral things. Even after that, there was no immediate problem he had to face. However, he lost interest in his wife and avoided to talk to her.

  The problem started from the last two years, when he met a lady of his age, not very beautiful, but soft spoken and cares a lot about him. Initially he ignored that lady, but subsequently he also became close to her.

  ‘Where she is working?’ I put this question, doubting that she might be working under him. ‘She is working in my office, but not working under me.’ He told me. Now, I could understand, why, all of sudden, he told me that, his wife is foul mouthed, not loved by his wife etc. However, most of the allegation he made, are correct considering the fact that, as I also noticed sometimes his wife retorted him without any provocation from my friend. But whose wife does not do it?

  ‘Are you sure she( his new love) loves you?’ I asked him. He said he is sure about that. ‘However, now we are friends only. Earlier also, we did not have any physical relation. ‘Then where is the problem?’ I asked him.

  ‘Now the problem is, her sister informed about this relation and even after cleared my position, she does not believe me. She wants divorce from me. Further, whenever, I talked to any lady/girl she suspects me. She started hating me and says that she has tolerated enough.” I understood helplessness in his voice.

  ‘Now, she even suspects me with a young girl whom I treat as my own daughter.’

  “What about your grown up children? “

  ‘They are supporting me.’(Verified from the children, they are solidly behind their father. They also treat the young girl as their own elder sister only)

  ‘She expects that I should give divorce her giving everything to her whatever I have, not even anything to the children so that she can restart her life.

  ‘OK, what do you want from me?’ I asked him.

  ‘Convince my wife not to insist for a divorce.’ He requested me with folded hands.

  I said, I would try my best. I know, I can only request his wife to be more compassionate to him in future and should restart their life in a more matured manner with due respect for each other. I also can tell them that, they should sit together for some time and ponder where they went wrong. They should continue their life in such a way that their children should not suffer due to no fault of their.

  In the mean time, I came know that, some of the relatives of his wife are also involved in inciting her. Therefore, his wife wants divorce and she does not want to reconcile.

  I am writing about this in my FB, so that, I may convey this message to his relatives (at least one of them is my face book friend) to help this couple to be united both physically and mentally, so that, their children do not face undue stress.

  NB: Now, I have changed some of the situations, environment and sequence of events, so that, you can relook the story and make your valued opinions. Last two days I did not react to any of the opinion /comment on the story intentionally. You may ask the question, why I have changed some minor changes in the story. I want to know if there is any change of comments from your side just because of these little changes, I made in my narration. Now, imagine the situation, what havoc our news(we better call them views channel) channels are doing twisting/under reporting/ over reporting some news. People are being hanged before, trial begins at court. They always try to give their verdict(s), by telling/hearing from one side of the story/facts. There is an old saying in law, ‘If you hear from one side, it is always a perfect case.’ So, it is prudent for the news channels to give balanced views always.

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