Lady

by Roosh Valizadeh

  Men, on the other hand, are ready to make the ultimate sacrifice for their families. With my most recent girlfriend, I was ready—at least subconsciously—to trade my life for hers. If we were robbed on the street by a knife-wielding maniac, I would tell her to run away while I distract the attacker, eliminating any danger for her while drastically increasing the chance that I would die. The alternative would be to use my girlfriend as a human shield by throwing her at the attacker, something that I’ve never heard of a man doing. The instinct for men to protect women is so strong that they try to save the lives of women who are complete strangers, and some men have even died doing so.

  The good and bad sides of your nature are like having an angel on one shoulder and a devil on the other. Each is competing to control you. When you feel the instinct to cook an elaborate meal for your man or to otherwise please him, your angel is in control. When you upload a sexy selfie on social networking to get attention from men you hardly know, your devil is in control. When you evaluate a man for his stability and family values, your angel is in control. When you evaluate a man based on his body or fame, it’s your devil.

  Unfortunately, modern society is structured so you exclusively feed your devil, leaving your angel malnourished and in desperate need of essential vitamins and minerals. The only solution is to weaken your devil by restricting the behaviors that have given him power, but even if you do this, your devil will occasionally have surges of energy that test you when you least expect it, but just knowing that he’s there, waiting to sabotage your life, is an important step to begin preventing his destructive influence.

  I also have an angel and devil on my shoulders. The angel is telling me to not sleep around, create a family with a woman of good moral character, and be faithful. The devil is telling me to have sex with anything that gives me an erection, to travel the world in search of exotic and fun adventures, and to tell girls whatever they want to hear in order to sleep with them.

  For fifteen years, my life was driven almost entirely by my devil, to the point where he became so morbidly obese and lethargic that my angel found a way to reassert himself and regain the upper hand. In my last relationship, my devil was still there, but the worst he could do was plant thoughts in my head that I didn’t feel compelled to act on. The best outcome we can hope for is not to act on thoughts and suggestions from our devil while obeying those from our angel.

  In your case, the best way to nurture the positive side of your nature is to get married, have children, and maintain a loving home in a way that makes both your husband and children feel blessed to have you in their lives. This certainly passes the “What would your grandmothers do?” test. Your angel will help you along this path as long as you ignore the devil feeding you thoughts of seeking high-status men, succumbing to fleeting pleasure with drugs and hookups, and attempting to relieve your anxiety through shopping or excessive eating. The inner fulfillment you crave can come only from the love created by having a family or a relationship with God. Otherwise, if you only listen to the bad side of your nature, you’re doomed.

  Why Feminism?

  It turns out that feminism, and the idea of equality in general, are entirely dedicated to feeding your devil and decreasing the chance that you will get married, or if you happen to marry, stay happily married. If feminism feeds the negative side of female nature, why do all the major institutions support it? Why is it the default mentality among modern women? As I said earlier, the direct answer is money.

  Feminism has two aims. First, it’s to double the supply of labor in the workforce in order to reduce the price of wages. Second, it’s to weaken the family unit so that women depend on corporations and government, which the elite control, instead of strong men.

  You are being thrown under the bus so that men at the very top can make an extra billion in profits every year, and more money means more power. You’re being manipulated by a group of ultra-rich oligarchs and their useful idiots in universities, government, and the media to have contempt for men and seek to become “independent” from them. They train you to put career, status, hedonism, and fame before love, family, and God, brainwashing you to think that normal men are trying to enslave you with child-raising and household chores. This causes you to voluntarily enslave yourself to corporate bosses and mass-produced consumer products.

  Only a few decades ago, a husband could provide for his wife and children. Now, in most cases, both the husband and the wife have to work. Taking inflation into account, real household incomes have decreased since women entered the workforce. This is by design. Lower labor costs mean that companies can make larger profits, particularly for their executives and institutional shareholders. Once women had been programmed to pursue a career instead of a family, thereby flooding the workforce, the next step in the elite’s plan was to open the borders so that millions of economic migrants could lower wages even more. Soon, you’ll have to compete with the entire third world to earn a basic living.

  In the past, a woman had the option of working or becoming a housewife, but now working has become an obligation that is disguised as “independence” and “empowerment,” whereas it’s anything but. There is nothing independent about being forced to do something that virtually every other woman is also doing. The modern woman has traded listening to a man at home, who loves her and would sacrifice his life for her, for following orders dictated by a man in an office, who can fire her for any reason and who has zero stake in her long-term well-being. That doesn’t sound like an empowering trade-off to me.

  In a traditional marriage, your husband was the main source of guidance and instruction. He would instinctively know what was best for the home, serving as your leader to get the family through hard times. Today, you’re being fed to wolves that are interested only in how they can use you financially. You are being instructed and manipulated by perverted Hollywood producers and directors who trade sex for favors, globalized corporations that care only about profit and extracting your labor, corrupt politicians who will say anything to increase their power, CEOs of social networking companies who design their products to be harmful and addictive, and media outlets that preach equality to the point of destroying the idea that there are two biological sexes.

  These forces have removed or minimized the most positive influence in your life, a good husband, and replaced it with brainwashing that normalizes toxic behaviors that feed your devil. Since you were young, you’ve been incessantly bombarded with messages that starve your angel, leading you down the wrong path.

  With women firmly under control, and the universities and media pushing feminism, men can also be controlled. Men are reactive in that they respond to the signals women put out. If women signal that they want status and excitement, men will give them those things to get sex and intimacy. On the other hand, if women signal that they value virtue and motherhood, men will be inclined to feed their angel and pursue having a family.

  When a masculine man meets you, he picks up signals that indicate who you are and what you want before putting you in a “wife” box or “promiscuous” box. A woman who sends messages that she is a feminist will be put in the promiscuous box, and it may be something as subtle as you saying that your career is “important.” A man will then seek only sex or a non-committed relationship with you. Men who understand the nature of women want to settle down with one who leans traditional, not feminist.

  If both men and women are feeding their devils, families are not created. The elites prefer this because a nation of strong families is hard to control, whereas a nation of sex-obsessed bonobos who care only about themselves and their genitals can be easily steered like a car. Society weakens if it concentrates on fame, money, sex, and consumer products to achieve fulfillment instead of love, family, and God.

  Another damaging feature of feminism is that it has made it easy for women to terminate their families through divorce laws. You already know that if your husband makes more money than you and you divorce him, you
’re set to earn monthly alimony payments on top of taking the home. If children are involved, you also know it’s highly likely that the judge will grant you custody, even if you’ve displayed signs that you are less fit than the father. Your devil is well-versed in the law and will encourage you to dump your husband for a more exciting prospect or lifestyle, even if your husband is fulfilling his role as a provider. Many women even make false accusations of domestic violence to ensure that the courts will rule in their favor.

  I know many men who are avoiding marriage solely because of divorce laws. They believe it is unjust that their lives can be turned upside down emotionally and financially because a woman decided that she is bored with being married. Many women celebrated when divorce laws were rewritten in their favor, but now that the consequences of these laws are apparent, men are swearing off marriage altogether or going to foreign countries with a less punitive legal system. How do pro-woman divorce laws help women if fewer men are willing to marry them?

  Considering the hostility towards marriage and family life, it’s no surprise that men pursue casual relationships. In terms of their self-preservation, it is the logical choice, but these men suffer in the end because they never create a family. Men resent women for not being more virtuous, loyal, and wifely, while women resent men for not committing to them. Both remain divided and miserable. In the meantime, politicians and the disseminators of culture push the sexes further apart to enrich themselves by keeping women enslaved in careers while advancing a perverted anti-family agenda where they promote transsexuality and homosexual marriage instead of heterosexual marriage.

  Unless you’re skilled at identifying the subtle feminist messages in TV shows, movies, news articles, pop songs, and advertisements, you will allow them to gradually program how you think until you accept the feminist view of the world as normal. You’re also being influenced by your friends. It’s been said that a man or woman is the product of their four or five closest friends. If these friends are feminists, doomed to being single, they will sabotage your efforts to create a family, because they want you to be as lonely as they are. Who else would they complain to about how hard it is to be a woman if you succeed at finding a husband who dedicates himself to you? Many people act like crabs in a bucket, where if one crab attempts to escape, the other crabs pull it down. With an ideology like feminism, this is almost always the case.

  I know that I can’t single-handedly fight all the feminist influences in the environment that are programming a girlfriend of mine to feed her devil, so I try to find a girl who has some intrinsic resistance to the poison, such as being raised by religious parents who emphasized traditional values. Otherwise, it’s me against the world, and this is a fight I cannot win. The fact that you’re even reading this book shows that you undoubtedly have a natural resistance to feminism.

  Finding Yourself

  Many women think that if they have a large number of exciting experiences, especially with men, they will know who they “really” are. Instead, these experiences will take them away from having a family and signal to men that they’re not worth a long-term relationship.

  Once you have what you need to survive and live in basic comfort, anything you pursue apart from family is feeding your devil. He wants you to pursue good-looking and famous men in exotic lands so that you’ll feel excited. He wants you to sample the finest foods, designer clothing, and luxuries so that you’ll get a dopamine rush from experiencing new pleasures. He wants you to pursue a career and watch the numbers in your bank account grow so that you’ll feel like a success. The harder you pursue these goals, the more you will be taken away from having a family. The type of man who is ready for marriage doesn’t want to marry a woman who is running on the treadmill of materialism unless he is also running on that same treadmill.

  Pursuits outside of family will simply lead to failed relationships as you demand an ever-higher standard of men, which will make it much harder for you to connect with a man in the future. Even worse, you waste valuable time while your biological clock is ticking and your beauty, the main piece of bait that God has given you to land a man, declines. If you’re single and over 30, the risk that you will not get married is greater than it was when you were in your early twenties because your fertility is decreasing, your beauty is fading, and your standards are rising. The older a woman, the lower her standards should be if she wants to get married, but the opposite tends to occur.

  By now, I hope you can see the crime of forcing women to pursue an education and career before having a family. Women have different biological clocks than men and should not be on the same educational and career timelines. If I had my way, women would focus on creating a family straight after finishing high school and attend university only once their last child is in school. This would ensure that they don’t miss out on having a family from making a career their priority.

  Men have more time to find themselves, because in the eyes of most women, their value doesn’t peak until their mid-thirties, but in the eyes of the best men, a woman’s value tends to peak in her early twenties, which in modern society is when few women are actively trying to land a husband.

  I’m 39 and single after spending years “finding myself” by traveling the world, yet I can still go into a nightclub and land girls in their early twenties. A woman who is 39 can attract men who want to sleep with her, but she will find it far harder to attract a good man who wants to commit to her, because the material prizes she has accumulated since she was in her early twenties (money, credentials, trips to exotic locations, a fancy job title) are less valuable to men than beauty.

  While men will want to have sex with you even if you’re fifty or older, they will be most willing to marry you when your beauty is at its peak and you’re not as jaded or masculinized from a corporate career and numerous sexual experiences. You can argue that it is sad for a man of my age to judge women mainly by their youth, innocence, and beauty, but this is how men were created. You should use this fact to your advantage instead of letting it upset you.

  A journey to find oneself is more likely to be fruitful for a man than a woman. A man usually—but not always—processes his experiences through a filter of logic in order to connect the dots of his existence and learn how to be more attractive to women. A woman, through no fault of her own, processes her experiences through a filter of emotion to increase her pleasure or self-validation, without attempting to put these experiences in context. The more experience a man has, the more likely he will get what he wants in the future, but the more experience a woman has, the less likely she will get what she wants in the future.

  For example, a woman finds it difficult to accept that every sexy man she sleeps with makes it harder for her to fall in love with a good man in the future, particularly one who could become her husband. The more sexual experiences a woman has, the less likely she will be happy at all, because she will spend her life trying to relive the “fun” years, which had more to do with her being at the peak of her youth and beauty than her inherent abilities or intelligence. If a woman listens to her devil, she will experience an emotional high from being sexually desired in her late teens and early twenties, and then spend the rest of her life in a futile quest to duplicate this high, skipping over “boring” good men along the way. You therefore have far more to lose through experience than a man.

  Also, consider that it’s easier for men to embark on a journey that is completely independent of women. The fact that there is a tradition of monasteries and Eastern asceticism, with men forgoing women entirely to become monks, with far fewer women becoming nuns, is a clue that it’s easier for a man to decide not to be with women and move to a cabin in the woods with only furry animals to keep him company. Men greatly desire women, but they need them less than you need a man.

  It’s tougher for you to be alone because your nature demands that you attach your identity to either family or God. When a man sets out on a personal journey to find himself, he may kill sev
eral men in battle, discover the truths of the universe, or become spiritually enlightened. When a woman sets out on a journey to find herself, she gets pumped and dumped by a dozen men, becomes a manager in an office, or buys a cat or two. For women, there is no pot of gold at the end of a rainbow of experience. It should not be your goal.

  Accept that it’s okay to depend on a man and exist through him, because in exchange for that you achieve the love that you cannot without him. Find a man who loves you and take him with you on your life’s journey, but going it alone in the hope that you will learn something new or become a more experienced woman will just make it harder—if not impossible—for you to find a man at all.

  If you decide to find yourself by feeding your devil, you will waste thousands of hours dating and being used like a sex doll. Then you’ll spend thousands of more hours with your girlfriends talking about dating and how you were used like a sex doll. You’ll gradually develop a subtle hatred towards men for not choosing to wife you up even though you never put out wifely signals to them.

  I know I’m an outlier, but do you want to guess how much time I’ve spent learning game and pursuing women? I used to go out four nights a week to chase them, treating it like a job. I’ve been to more than twenty countries with the aim of learning about the local women and how to seduce them. I’ve written fourteen books and counting dedicated to explaining my pickup tactics. I’ve talked to thousands of women, gone on hundreds of dates, and slept with so many women that I’ve forgotten most of my conquests.