Unfriending My Ex: And Other Things I'll Never Do
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A June 2011 Pew Research Center poll: Pew Internet and American Life Project, “Americans and Their Cell Phones,” August 15, 2011. http://www.pewinternet.org/Press-Releases/2011/Cell-Phones-2011.aspx.
31 percent of American adults: Pew Internet and American Life Project, “Americans and Text Messaging,” September 19, 2011. http://pewinternet.org/Reports/2011/Cell-Phone-Texting-2011.aspx.
“emotional closeness declines”: Robin Dunbar, “You’ve Got to Have (150) Friends,” New York Times, December 25, 2010. http://www.nytimes.com/2010/12/26/opinion/26dunbar.html.
For instance, compared to students: http://ns.umich.edu/new/releases/7724.
a number of people described: Jenna Wortham, “The Facebook Resisters,” New York Times, December 13, 2011. http://www.nytimes.com/2011/12/14/technology/shunning-facebook-and-living-to-tell-about-it.html.
“the faux friendships of Facebook”: Bill Keller, “Wising Up to Facebook,” New York Times, June 10, 2012. http://www.nytimes.com/2012/06/11/opinion/wising-up-to-facebook.html?_r=0.
believes that our generation is lonelier: Tom Meltzer, “Social Networking: Failure to Connect,” Guardian, August 6, 2010. http://www.guardian.co.uk/media/2010/aug/07/social-networking-friends-lonely.
In an aptly titled Atlantic article: Stephen Marche, “Is Facebook Making Us Lonely?” Atlantic, May 1, 2012.
In 2010, the UK-based: Mental Health Foundation, “The Lonely Society?” May 2010.
In a medical study printed in Pediatrics: Gwen Schurgin O’Keefe, Kathleen Clarke-Pearson, and Council on Communications and Media, “The Impact of Social Media on Children, Adolescents, and Families,” Pediatrics 127 (2011): 800. http://pediatrics.aappublications.org/content/early/2011/03/28/peds.2011-0054.abstract.
“[Facebook is] creating a den”: Daniel Gulati, “Facebook Is Making Us Miserable,” Harvard Business Review, HBR Blog Network, December 9, 2011.
4: We’re “Friends”
examined how honest we are: Meltzer, “Social Networking.”
“With so much of our facts readily available”: Aboujaoude, Virtually You, 238.
One study completed at Western Illinois University: Chenda Ngak, “Number of Facebook Friends Linked to Narcissism, Says Study,” CBSNews.com, March 20, 2012. http://www.cbsnews.com/news/facebook-may-cause-stress-study-says/.
humans cannot process more than: Aleks Krotoski, “Robin Dunbar: We Can Only Ever Have 150 Friends at Most . . . ,” Guardian Observer, March 13, 2010. http://www.guardian.co.uk/technology/2010/mar/14/my-bright-idea-robin-dunbar.
“You may find a time”: Emily Post Institute, “Online Friending Etiquette,” Accessed 2012. http://www.emilypost.com/social-life/social-networking/140-online-friending-etiquette-myspace-facebook.
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“desensitization makes us bypass”: Aboujadoude, Virtually You, 107 (quoting Dr. Jeanne B. Funk).
“we escape the consequences”: Dr. Amy Wicker, interview with the author, November 13, 2011.
“empathy deficit may not be limited”: Gary Small and Gigi Vorgan, “Is the Internet Killing Empathy?,” CNN.com, February 18, 2011. http://www.cnn.com/2011/OPINION/02/18/small.vorgan.internet.empathy/index.html?hpt=C2.
“Gentleness, common courtesy, and the little niceties”: Aboujaoude, Virtually You, 96.
“our online self is also dangerous”: Ibid., 20.
“When people tease or bully”: Robin M. Kowalski, “Cyber Bullying: Recognizing and Treating Victim and Aggressor,” Psychiatric Times, October 1, 2008. http://www.psychiatrictimes.com/print/article/10168/1336550.
A designer by the name of Lee Byron: http://www.leebyron.com/what/breakups/.
Further, a 2011 study by a market research firm: Chris Matyszczyk, “One-Third Have Broken Up by Facebook, Text or E-mail—Survey,” CNET.com, November 13, 2011, http://news.cnet.com/8301-17852_3-57323837-71/one-third-have-broken-up-by-facebook-text-or-e-mail-survey/; Lab42, “The Relationships Status Update,” Lab42 blog, November 4, 2011, http://blog.lab42.com/the-relationship-status-update.
7: Unfriending My Ex
“People consider their online sexual relationships”: Aaron Ben-Zeév, PhD, “Is Chatting Cheating?,” Psychology Today, September 5, 2008. http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/in-the-name-love/200809/is-chatting-cheating.
Some lawyers are calling Facebook: John Stevens, “The Facebook Divorces: Social Network Site Is Cited in “a THIRD of Splits,’ ” Daily Mail, December 30, 2011. http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2080398/Facebook-cited-THIRD-divorces.html.
the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers announced: Carl Bialik, “Irreconcilable Claim: Facebook Causes 1 in 5 Divorces,” Wall Street Journal, March 12, 2011. http://online.wsj.com/article/SB10001424052748703597804576194563288753204.html.
The same study found that Facebook: David Gardner, “The Marriage Killer: One in Five American Divorces Now Involve Facebook,” Daily Mail, December 1, 2010. http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1334482/The-marriage-killer-One-American-divorces-involve-Facebook.html.
In her online column: Pamela Haag, “Is Facebook the Petri Dish of Jealousy in Your Love Life?,” Marriage 3.0 (blog), Psychology Today, April 12, 2012. http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/marriage-30/201204/is-facebook-the-petri-dish-jealousy-in-your-love-life.
An MTV initiative called A Thin Line: http://www.norc.org/NewsEventsPublications/PressReleases/Pages/mtv-associated-press-norc-center-survey-finds-that-online-bullying-has-declined-young-people-are-making-better-digital.aspx.
Google mobile application called Latitude: www.google.com/latitude.
In August 2009, an off-duty cop: Edward Marshall, “City Officer Charged,” Journal (Martinsburg, WV), August 11, 2009. http://www.journal-news.net/page/content.detail/id/523593.html.
His story is benign compared to that: Staff, “Father Stabbed Estranged Wife to Death After She Changed Her Facebook Status to ‘Single,’ ” Daily Mail, January 23, 2009. http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1126872/Father-stabbed-estranged-wife-death-changed-Facebook-status-single.html.
Just last year, a Philadelphia man: http://www.webpronews.com/man-stabs-wife-in-the-face-over-a-facebook-like-2013-04.
Another woman ended up dead: Staff, “Jealous Husband Murdered Wife and Killed Himself with Electric Drill After She Ended Marriage on Facebook,” Daily Mail, February 11, 2009, http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1141594/Jealous-husband-murdered-wife-killed-electric-drill-ended-marriage-Facebook.html.
And finally, a long-distance relationship: Milton Brafado, “3 Sad Cases of Facebook Spousal Jealousy That Lead [sic] to Murder,” Yahoo! Voices, March 31, 2010. http://voices.yahoo.com/3-sad-cases-facebook-spousal-jealousy-5748394.html.
“DSM-certified narcissists”: Aboujaoude, Virtually You, 68.
Dr. Aboujaoude argues that the number: Ibid., 69.
“an exaggerated sense of our abilities”: Ibid., 11.
9: Baby Steps
“Reality television programs”: Valerie Strauss, “SAT Question on Reality TV Stirs Controversy,” Answer Sheet (blog), Washington Post, March 15, 2011. http://www.washingtonpost.com/blogs/answer-sheet/post/sat-question-on-reality-tv-stirs-controversy/2011/03/15/ABjNyCY_blog.html.
“We don’t have a choice”: Erik Qualman, “Social Media Revolution,” YouTube video, June 8, 2011. http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=3SuNx0UrnEo.
“I spend way too much time”: Edna Gundersen, “Will the Rolling Stones Launch a Tour in 2012?,” USA Today, September 19, 2011. http://usatoday30.usatoday.com/life/music/news/story/2011-09-19/rolling-stones/50467346/1.
“Look at the bad decisions”: Huffington Post, “Arianna Huffington, Nicholas Carr Discuss the Need to ‘Unplug and Recharge’ on Morning Joe,” HuffingtonPost.com video, June 14, 2010. http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2010/06/14/internet-addiction-nichol_n_611321.html.
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