Sadly, so many people stay tuned to loud and clear channels even if they do not offer what they wanted in the first place. Why do they do it? Because they've bought into the logic that the devil you know is better than the devil you don't know. What they fail to realize about this expedient way of thinking is that any devil, whether you know that devil or not, is and will always be a devil.
Rather than settle for a devil, you gird yourself for the noise and static you're certain to encounter as you resume your search, and begin turning the big tuning knob once again.
As you search through one radio band after another, you finally come across a frequency with something you do want to hear. The only problem is that the signal is weak and drifts to and fro across the band. What to do?
This is when many people move close to the radio and begin turning the big tuning knob with the gentlest of twists as they chase a drifting signal. As they do, they cling to the sound they've longed to hear since beginning of their search, while struggling to filter out the distracting background noises, which are endemic to weak signals.
At this point, the situation has gone from the devil you know is better than the devil you don't know to an angel that flutters just beyond your reach, staying just far enough away to abandon you in the blink of an eye.
How many times have you seen someone pursue a relationship with someone who is almost right only to be upset because the almost right person stayed just out of reach? Instead of investing effort in building a relationship, that energy is required simply to keep it tuned in. If only these people could see themselves. They'd see someone huddled next to the radio with a white-knuckle grasp on the turning knob and chasing the promise of that right someone with a twisted expression on their face. Sadder yet, is that some seem capable of enduring a near-vacuous existence such as this for years and years.
Now let's review our progress.
Up to this point, we found a frequency that is loud and clear, but it was not exactly what we wanted so we moved on. Then, we found a frequency with something we did want to hear, but it was a weak and drifting signal, so we moved on again.
Determined to be successful in our search, we keep switching our fifty-year-old radio from one band to another as we carefully turned the large tuning knob with gentle movements from left to right.
Having gone through all the frequencies of all the bands on the radio, we now find ourselves at the very end of its reception capability. Do we stop? No. We must now work our way back to the opposite end, by methodically reversing the manner in which we first began our search. Except this time, we slowly turn the tuning knob from right to left as we work our way back up through the bands.
Midway on our reverse path to the beginning, we come across a radio frequency that radiates the very sound we've craved from the outset, and to our delight, it booms in loud and clear. Now, we can sit back and enjoy the fruits of our patient efforts because we continued. With it comes only one regret: along the way, we had to leave behind those who chose an unsatisfying compromise through weakness.
As we enjoy our reward, we fully realize that we can never afford to compromise on that which we seek. We also learn that if that which we seek is not in a certain place during one leg of our journey, it may just be there during another. Or, perhaps we'll find in on our return leg.
With these two realizations in hand, we've now completed our fifty-year-old radio analogy. So how does this apply to Indigos and non-Indigos alike?
In terms of what we've learned about that which we seek, how we seek it, and that for which we are willing to compromise unwisely, there is no difference between Indigos and non-Indigos. We are all humans and these issues are innately human and apply to one and all. This is not to say that a profound difference does not exist between Indigos and non-Indigos, because it does.
In our analogy, we used a fifty-year-old radio, a time-proven device to which we can all relate to and understand even through we know that we can do the same exact search today with a modern digital tuner in a small fraction of the time.
When we compare the ability of Indigos (or capable psychics) to sense the vibrational aura of another being with that of the typical human, it is like comparing a fifty-year-old radio and a modern digital tuner.
This is not to say that Indigos and non-Indigos can't both make good choices and bad choices. They do! However, the only difference is that an Indigo can do it more quickly, and because of their advanced intelligence, Indigos are more likely to make a better spot decision, provided it is an honest one.
When you put this in the context of a species-to-species contact event with an extraterrestrial race, time will no doubt be of the essence. At least, at the outset.
At first glance, this would appear to be a perplexing dilemma, for both Indigos and non-Indigos. Yet, if you are truly an Indigo, you will feel no sense of dilemma or self-doubt. If you do feel a sense of dilemma or self-doubt, then please be honest with yourself and acknowledge that while you may be gifted, you are not an Indigo.
With this, we drive straight to the very heart of this chapter. Knowing when to be vulnerable.
Knowing When to Be Vulnerable
When two Indigos meet for the first time, one may know of the other in advance, or not at all. It does not matter. Once the conversation begins, the two will instinctively sense each other. If both are true Indigos, both will sense it without having to speak the words, and each will know it is OK to be vulnerable with the other. This is because Indigos sense one another like modern digital tuners. Once that handshake of mutual vulnerability occurs, the two share their souls in full confidence; whether it is but for a moment, or for a lifetime.
This is also why Indigos are so often approached by non-Indigos seeking an honest opinion. Non-Indigos sense the Indigo's intelligence, deep and abiding respect for the sanctity of life, and their sense-of-self. Regardless of whether the opinion offered is what they want to hear, they know two things: First, the opinion will be well-considered and second, the secrets they reveal will not be used against them.
Regrettably, these encounters are often a curse for the Indigo. If they refuse to answer a question, they risk insulting the questioner's vanity. If the questioner follows a different path than the one suggested by the Indigo, the Indigo is mistrusted and shunned without cause. On the other hand, when two Indigos become vulnerable to one another, they never refuse a question, nor are they ever punished for knowing too much, no matter how much they may disagree.
Now let's bring this whole conversation full circle and sum it all up through yet another adaptation of The Gambler:
You got to know when to hold ‘em, (You can be vulnerable with Mentor races.)
Know when to fold ‘em, (You can be vulnerable with Parental races, but only to a point and only for so long.)
Know when to walk away (Do not let lesser exploiter races trick you into becoming vulnerable.)
And know when to run. (Greater exploiters races can only be relied upon to bring death.)
Now you know what to expect from whom and to what extent you can afford to be vulnerable to these races. The next step is thinking about how you may come to meet them.
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We'll Meet Again
Up to now, we've addressed why Indigo children possess the natural talents to be the most capable spokespersons for our species in a formal contact with an extraterrestrial race. We've also addressed the kinds of races we are likely to encounter in terms of their agendas and the most likely point at which we may (or have already) made formal contact. Now, we need to address the moment of contact itself, and how to make the best of a friendly encounter.
Encounters with extraterrestrial races are likely to occur at the telepathic and physical level. The primary purpose of the telepathic will be to help pave the way towards a more fundamental physical contact level. As any politician will tell you, TV and radio work at one level, but kissing babies and pressing the flesh is far more powerful.
For the pu
rpose of this discussion, we need to address the physical contact first. From this, we can then springboard into a more meaningful discussion of the telepathic contact.
When you meet someone new face-to-face for the first time (and that other person or being is interested in getting to know you as opposed to eating your brains), the usual questions come to mind:
+ Who are you? (Race, tribe, species, etc.)
+ What do you call yourself?
+ Where is your home?
+ Why are you here?
+ How did you get here?
The manner in which both parties answer these questions will set the pace and level of exchange. Say, for example, your answers to the above question are:
+ Who are you? I am an American.
+ What do you call yourself? I am Terry.
+ Where is your home? I'm from Seattle.
+ Why are you here? I'm here on vacation.
+ How did you get here? I came by airplane.
These answers are just fine for fellow Earthlings. Short, sweet, and to the point. However, imagine that you've just arrived from a distant point in the galaxy. Would the answers be helpful? Or more to the point, would you feel that this person is actually being flip, or helpful? The key here is context.
Now let's answer those questions as though we've traveled to a distant part of the galaxy.
Who are you? I am a human being from the planet Earth. We believe we are the most advanced species on our planet. My age is approximately half of my life span, which equals the time it takes for your plant to orbit your sun twenty times.
What do you call yourself? I am Terry Pickworth Cromwell. Please call me by my first name, Terry. This is the custom of my species.
Where is your home? I am from a large continent in the northern hemisphere of our planet called North America. Two large bodies of water called oceans border it. To the west is the Pacific Ocean and to the east is the Atlantic Ocean. The city in which my home is located lies along the western shore of that continent.
Why are you here? I am here on a mission of peace and exploration. Our species seeks a peaceful relationship with your species.
How did you get here? We came from Earth in a large mother ship, which is in orbit over your planet. It can only navigate in space, so we use the smaller ships you saw us land in to travel between the surface of your planet and our mother ship. We call these smaller ships shuttles.
While this example is a bit simplistic, it hopefully conveys a point. Context not only means the amount of the information you provide, but also the degree to which you will go to make it useful to your counterpart. Before we take this example to the next step, let's take a moment to address some vital communication ground rules.
Communication Ground Rules
When it comes to communication, there are two truths: the one that is spoken, and the one that is heard. Assuming that you seek a totally truthful exchange, the following communicator and listener rules will help ensure that the spoken truth will also be the one that is heard.
Let's start with communicators.
Communicator Rule #1:
Being understood is your responsibility.
As far as you the communicator are concerned, the listener is not responsible for anything-including listening.
If you ever find yourself saying something like, If you do not understand what I just told, then it's your fault, what you're really saying is, I'm unwilling to accept the fact that I'm an inept and lazy communicator.
Communicator Rule #2:
Humility dignifies the conversation.
Any kind of negative (arrogant, fearful, aloof) demeanor will polarize the conversation and paint you in a negative way. That is, unless you're dealing with the Hollywood-style Klingons of Star Trek fame.
People who often travel to remote areas of the world alone seldom encounter difficulties with locals. This is because they use the body language of humility and respect to carry their message.
For example, how would you respond to a surly tourist who walks up to you on the street and asks, Yo, American, where is the damn wax museum? Can't you guys afford street signs?
However, what if that same tourist asked, Excuse me, sir, I'm visiting your city and I'm lost. Could you possibly direct me to the wax museum? How would you perceive this visitor and how likely would you be to render assistance?
Communicator Rule #3:
Less is more-choose your words carefully.
A few well-chosen words spoken softly and slowly can convey great meaning and your counterparts will appreciate that you are making a sincere effort to be understood. On the other hand, if you babble on like a chirping bird assuming the listeners will somehow grasp your meaning, you'll come across as shallow and na?ve.
Communicator Rule #4:
Humor is for friends.
We use humor to make life bearable because it reveals our vulnerabilities. We cherish it when it works. When it doesn't, it only makes matters worse.
The key to using humor effectively with strangers from other cultures is to avoid it altogether, until you've built a relationship or friendship that is conducive to a humorous exchange. In that context, humor reveals more of your positive side and is seen as a derived benefit of the relationship.
Now for the flip side of the coin: being a good listener.
Listener Rule #1:
Wisdom is found through listening.
Stop and think about this for a moment. When we consider an image of someone old and wise, such as a Tibetan guru sitting atop his mountain, what do we expect? First, we expect them to say wise things in the manner of Communicator Rule #3: Less is more-choose your words carefully.
The second thing we expect is that they listen intently. As a matter of fact, the more they listen, the more we see them as being wise. Yet, it is not the fact that they listen which makes them appear wise. If this were the case, all bartenders in the world would be wise.
What makes wise people who listen appear wise is the manner in which they listen, which we shall define as listener rules 2, 3 and 4.
Listener Rule #2:
Do not clip the speaker.
Clipping happens when a listener interrupts a communication in the middle or right at the end of a statement. Whether the clipping is done to disagree or embellish does not matter. For the communicator, it is perceived as rude behavior. Likewise, it is also annoying for third parties as well.
For example, one of the most aggravating things about the dueling pundits featured on news analysis TV shows is the way they rudely clip each other so as to prevent one another from making key points. For you as the viewer, the result is that your interest in gaining knowledge must take a back seat to childish disrespect.
If you interrupt someone in the middle of a statement, it is a sign of disrespect, whether you intend to be perceived that way or not. Likewise, if you reply the instant the other communicator has stopped speaking, instead of taking a moment to reply, this is also considered as clipping.
While clipping at the end of a statement (without a pause) is not as disrespectful as clipping a statement in the middle, it will nonetheless paint you as a gratuitous listener, as opposed to someone who is listening for understanding.
Listener Rule #3:
Do not anticipate your reply.
Anticipation happens when you begin shaping a reply to the communication in your mind as it occurs. When listening, keep your focus on what is being said and wait for a pause in the conservation before you draw your conclusions and respond.
The downside of anticipation is that you set yourself up to look foolish or disrespectful when you reply to the communicator's statement. This usually happens because your ongoing ad-hoc interpretation is blindsided by a stream of consciousness.
What stream of consciousness means in simple terms is that the jumble of thoughts associated with a particular issue in the human mind often pours from the mouth out of context. Hence the old axiom, Don't open your mouth before you enga
ge your mind. Or more to the point, this axiom should really say, Don't close your ears before you engage your brain.
Therefore, when you anticipate, you not only ignore the relevant facts by jumping to a premature conclusion, you also lose the overall context of the statement. This is because your stream of consciousness tends to present the facts first (and not in any necessary sequence) and the context last (as shaky as it may be).
Consequently, your retort can be easily perceived as half-baked, which in turn, makes you look like a disingenuous fool. However, if you avoid the tendency to anticipate, your answers will always be on-point, and far more likely to be seen as wise, or at the very least, well considered.
Listener Rule #4:
Ask confirming questions.
Of all the listening rules, the one that wise persons use with greatest effect is the confirming question. Instead of saying, I didn't understand you, which is often perceived as a wishy-washy way of saying that you were not paying attention, a wise person will ask a confirming question.
For example, if the statement is difficult to follow, a wise person will answer with a confirming questions such as, If I understand you correctly, what you are saying is?.Is this correct?
A confirming question also serves as a positive statement, because it says, I listened to what you had to say, and it is important to me that I clearly understand your meaning.
The beauty of confirming questions is that they are like the get out jail free cards we hoard when playing the Monopoly board game. Even if you did not grasp the facts or the context of the speaker's statement, you present yourself as a proactive and considerate listener.
If you forget all of the other seven rules of communicators and listeners, you'll still be ahead of the game if you remember just one thing: confirming questions make you look wise at best and considerate at worst.
Well, we've covered a lot of ground in the last few chapters so let's take a moment to review the highlights.
So Far, So Good
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