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The Energies of Love

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by Donna Eden


  Good-enough parenting, 159

  Goswami, Amit, 112

  Gottman, John, 40–41, 66–67, 70, 102

  divorce research of, 97

  on flooding, 80

  soft start-up technique of, 67

  Governing Meridian, 272, 276

  Grateful Dead, 349–50

  Gratitude

  cultivating, 70–73

  expressing, 72

  gentle start-up using, 68

  Gray, John, 123–24, 127, 129, 259, 281

  Great Virtues, 304

  Guides, 348–49

  Gunshot wound, 250–51

  Habits. See Thought habits

  Harlow, Harry, 149

  Harmony techniques, 65–78

  High-Band It, 73

  Harsh start-up, 69

  Hartzell, Mary, 174, 176

  Harvard Divinity School, 353

  Healing

  catastrophe aftermath, 218–20

  of emotional wounds, 236–47

  previous marriage emotional issues, 247–48

  of sexual wounds, 285–88

  “Healing Journey,” 300

  Heart

  brain in, 66

  emotional information of, 4–5

  notice breath, soften belly, open heart, 65–66

  Oxytocin Hearts, 126

  Heart Chakra, 98

  with Acceptance Statement, 198, 198

  in sexual energy medicine, 270

  Heart Chakra Triple Warmer Tap, 169, 169–70

  HeartMath Institute, 4

  Heaven Rushing In, 77–78

  Hendricks, Gay, 75, 318–20

  Hendricks, Kathlyn, 75, 318–20

  Heschel, Abraham, 353, 354

  Higamous, hogamous saying, 290

  High-Band It, 73

  High road, 174

  Hook-up, 88, 88

  Three Chakra, 75, 76

  Hoped-for-outcome rating, 242

  Hormones. See also specific hormones

  bonding, 125, 127

  brain maturation, 121–22

  his/her, 123–25

  of love, 109–13

  lust, 109

  menopause, 121–22

  monogamy, 112–13

  obsession-producing, 111

  orgasm, 113

  romance, 109–11

  stress-coping, 124

  tending energies and, 127–30

  women’s dilemma regarding work and, 124–25

  yin and yang, 131–32

  Horn, Paul, 299–308

  Houston, Jean, 325

  Hugs, 77

  Hunger, in infants, 148

  Hypnosis, 17–18

  Hypothalamus, 120, 163

  “I” instead of “you,” 68

  Illuminata: A Return to Prayer (Williamson), 345–46

  Imagery

  calendar image, 252–53, 254–55

  envisioning relationship change, 248–55

  Tantric practice using, 277–78

  technique, 255

  Individuality, drive for, 261

  Infants

  brain wiring in, 147–49

  energy in secure and insecure, 150

  irritable, 159–60

  neglected or nurtured, 148

  parental attunement of, 160

  rhesus monkey, 149

  Infidelity

  in men, 288–89

  overcoming biological programming for, 295

  in women, 290–92

  Inherited aspects, of love

  aligning energetic styles, 44–78

  brain and energy differences between men and women, 107–44

  defined, 10–11

  sensory styles, 17–43, 46

  STAR for energy collisions, 79–106, 225–28

  Inner guidance, 217

  Insecure attachment, in childhood, 151, 153

  Integration Sequence, 200–201, 230

  Intentions, in conscious partnership

  access subconscious mind’s resources, 308

  access unacknowledged motivations, 308–9

  address internal conflicts, 309

  bring up tough topics lovingly, 309–10

  focus on beneficial aspects, 309

  process past and envision future, 309

  staying receptive to partner, 310

  Interviews

  Horn and Mortifee, 299–308

  Villoldo and Lobos, 327–29

  Intimacy and Desire (Schnarch), 79

  Invocations, prayers and, 345–47

  Irritability, in infants, 159–60

  “Is Biology Destiny?” (Gasper), 295

  James, William, 39, 290

  Jealousy, 221–24

  Johnson, Sue, 1, 296

  Joining Microcosmic Orbits, 274

  Jong, Erica, 221

  Jump-start, 260–61

  Jung, Carl, 5, 39–40, 352

  Kabat-Zinn, Jon, 347

  Karate chop points, 199

  Kidney Meridian, 84, 276

  Kinesthetic style, 18

  during argument, 46

  avoidant attachment countered by, 157

  distortions, 24

  Eden’s, 157

  interpersonal perils of, 36

  in men, 39

  motto, 36

  partners with, 58–60

  positive and negative aspects of, 33

  prenatal, 19

  strengths and vulnerabilities, 48

  vulnerabilities of, 48

  Kissing

  conscious, 268–69

  foreplay and, 267–68

  Kripalu, 190

  Krippner, Stanley, 349–50

  Kundalini, 276

  Lady Gaga, 299

  Late from work conversation, 64–65

  Learned aspects, of love

  acupoint tapping for new brain chemistry, 184–220

  definition and overview of, 11

  energies of attachment, 147–78

  relationships as growth catalysts, 184–86

  reprogramming responses hurtful to relationships, 221–55

  Lincoln, Abraham, 54, 335

  Lipton, Bruce, 299

  Lipton, Judith, 293, 294

  Listening

  active, 98

  attuned, 70

  nonjudgmental, 69–70

  List making, 44–45

  Lizards, mating in, 293

  Lobos, Marcela, 327–29, 352

  Lost in wilderness, 236–41

  Love. See also Energies of love; Inherited aspects, of love; Learned aspects, of love; Mutually created aspects, of love

  behavioral systems as governing, 108–9

  brain structures of lust, romance and, 109–13, 116

  deep and flowing stage of, 117–18

  deep/enduring, 109, 111–14

  energies of, 337

  free love movement of 1960s, 285–86

  lust stage of, 114

  romance stage of, 114–15

  stages of, 113–18

  three aspects of, 10–12

  transformative nature of, xv

  types of, 3

  “Love in a Time of Conflict” (O’Donohue), 340

  Low road, 174

  LSD, 349

  Lucid dreaming, 328

  Lust

  brain structures of love, romance and, 109–13, 116

  defined, 109

  energies of, 110

  hormones associated with, 109

  as love stage, 114

  Lyons, Marlena, 310–11

 
Maharishi Mahesh Yogi, 301

  Maloney, Kate, 334

  Marriage

  arranged, 114

  changing landscape of, 8–10

  counselors, 81

  economy and, 8–9

  healing emotional residue from previous, 247–48

  historical eras in relation to, 8–10

  Moore on, 336–37

  positive-negative interaction ratio in successful, 41–42

  purpose of, 301

  satisfaction studies, 9

  of souls, 328

  waning sexual desire in, 261–63

  Masculine-feminine balance, 7–8

  Massage, Spinal Flush, 94–96

  Matched-weight couples, 321–22

  Maternal deprivation, 150

  Maturation, brain, 121–22

  McCartney, Paul, 299

  Medicine. See also Energy psychology; Sex, as energy medicine

  energy, 6

  Meditation, 301, 305, 306, 321

  Meeting, weekly, 105

  Memorizing, SUD, 194

  Memory

  in acupoint tapping, 182, 191–95, 220

  climactic points in, 194

  resurfacing of bullying, 180–82

  selection, 192–93

  viewing and entering scenes in, 193

  Men

  brains and energies of women and, 107–44

  brain size in women vs., 119–20

  hormones in women and, 121, 123–25

  kinesthetic, 39

  paternity issue for, 292

  pregnancy hormones in, 121

  problem solving in, 128

  sex drive in brains of, 288–89

  sexual arousal in women and, 275–76

  sexual energy meridians in, 272

  vasopressin in, 111–12

  Menopause, 121–22

  Mental bands, biofield, 21

  Mental image

  of relationship change, 248–55

  technique, 255

  Meridians

  central, 87, 87, 198, 198, 272, 276, 276

  in energy exercises, 83

  Governing, 272, 276

  kidney, 84, 276

  sexual energy, 272–74

  stomach, 84

  Metal element, 141–43

  Microcosmic Orbit, 272, 276

  tracing, 273–74, 274

  Microscopic truth, 318–23

  Mind, during sex, 285

  Mindfulness, 313, 347–48

  conscious partnership and, 315, 316–17

  personal experience of, 180–82

  in Tantric sex, 276

  website for, 315

  Misunderstandings, brain as root of, 122–23

  Mixed anxious/avoidant attachment, 153–54, 156

  Mixed-weight couples, 321–22

  Monkeys, infant, 149

  Monogamy, 293–94

  hormones associated with, 112–13

  monotony vs., 295–97

  Monotony, monogamy vs., 295–97

  Moore, Thomas, 336–37

  Mortifee, Ann, interview with Horn and, 299–308, 344

  Movies, watching, 339

  Movie technique, SUD rating with, 193–94

  Moving through emotional intensity, 225–28

  Muller, Wayne, 353

  The Multi-Orgasmic Couple: Sexual Secrets Every Couple Should Know, 271, 274

  Mutually created aspects, of love, 259–325

  conscious partnership, 298–324

  definition and overview of, 11–12

  evolving relationship as spiritual journey, 325–55

  Sexual energy medicine, 259–97

  The Myth of Monogamy (Barash and Lipton), 293

  Nature. See Art and nature sharing

  NBC, 259

  Negative emotions, dismissing, 40–41

  Neural feedback loops, 184–85

  Newman, Paul, 296

  New Testament, 3

  New York Times, 259

  Nine Gamut Procedure, 200–201

  Nonjudgmental listening, 69–70

  Norepinephrine, 110, 114

  Notice breath, soften belly, open heart, 65–66

  No trouble pattern, 226–41

  Obsession, hormones associated with, 111

  O’Donohue, John, 340, 346

  Old Testament, 3, 294

  Omega Institute, 190, 327

  Orgasm, 271

  full-body, 272, 274

  hormones, 113

  as pressure on women, 280

  soul, 272

  Outcome Projection Procedure, 242

  Oxytocin, 109, 111, 113, 117, 122

  career and, 124

  energy techniques for producing, 125–27

  men’s acts for stimulating partner’s, 129

  restoring, 125

  romance for producing, 127

  testosterone and, 125–27

  touch as generating, 283

  women and, 127, 129

  Oxytocin Hearts, 126

  Pact. See STAR Pact

  Panic, primal, 166

  Parenting

  good-enough, 159

  infant-parent attunement, 160

  Parenting from the Inside Out (Siegel and Hartzell), 174

  Partner. See also Conscious partnership; Couples; STAR Pact

  acupoint tapping with, 202

  attraction to someone else in, 107–8

  connection with Spirit through connecting with, 344–45

  correcting, 282–83

  with digital style, 60–62

  earth element, 140–41

  fire element, 139–40

  five elements and, 143–44

  as growth catalyst, 184–86

  as guru, 303

  kinesthetic style, 58–60

  meeting dark side of, 305

  metal, 143

  positive thoughts about, 76

  sensory style differences of, 31

  sexual anatomy exploring with, 270–71

  shifting response to behavioral triggers of, 228–35

  with tonal style, 63–65

  visual style, 57–58

  water element, 136

  when inconsolable, 305

  wood element, 137–38

  Partnerships. See also Conscious partnership; Energetic Stress Styles; Love; Stress, relationship

  best, 9

  as collaborative alliances, 79, 106, 321

  new age for, 6–10

  techniques for keeping harmony in, 65–78

  Pascal, Blaise, 337

  Passion

  creating, 260–61

  energies of, 115

  Passionate Marriage (Schnarch), 261–62

  Paternity, 292

  Patience, 218

  Patriarchal structure, 7

  Patterns, 2

  cultural changes and, 7–8

  “no trouble,” 226–41

  sources of, 6–7

  tracing challenges and repeating, 235–41

  Penetrating Flow, 110, 279

  Perel, Esther, 283, 323

  Perpetual problems, 102–3

  Personal Mythology (Feinstein and Krippner), 349–50

  Phenethylamine, 110

  Pheromones, 121

  Philia, 3

  Physical aspects, acupoint tapping on difficult problem, 207–8

  Physics, 112

  Playing in Rhythm, 266–67

  Positive thinking, 76

  Power Point, 342

  Prairie voles, 111–12

  Prayers and invocation
s, 345–47

  Prefrontal cortex, 111

  Pregnancy, 121

  Prenatal life, 19

  Primal panic, 166

  Problem, sneaking up on, 219

  Problem solving, in men, 128

  Professional assistance, 189, 228–29

  Progesterone, 121

  The Prophet (Gibran), 323

  Prostitutes, 268–69

  Proust, Marcel, 179

  Psaris, Jett, 310–11

  Psychological reversals, 209–13, 253–54

  Acceptance Statement for, 210–11

  Psychology. See also Energy psychology

  acupoint tapping on psychological aspects, 207–8

  psychological first aid, 216

  Psychotherapeutic resonance, 338

  Psychotherapy, body’s role in, 182–83, 184

  Pumpkin hours, 261

  Quantum physics, 112

  Radiant circuits, 271, 278–80

  Bridge Flow, 126

  Rapini, Mary Jo, 281, 296

  Rating. See also Subjective units of distress

  believability, 244–45, 253

  hoped-for-outcome, 242

  Ratio of positive to negative interactions, 41–42

  Reassessment step, 201–2

  Reciprocal breath, 277

  Reckoning, disappointment and, 115–17

  Reflected sense of self, 324

  Relationships. See also Conscious partnership; Couples; Partner; Partnerships; Spiritual journey, relationship as

  acupoint tapping and, 184–86

  alchemy of, 268, 325–26

  attachment style and, 159–60

  case history on couple with open, 248–55

  deeper levels of all long-term, 329–38

  early attachment, 149–51

  early imprints, 149–51

  Eden-Feinstein’s soulmate story, 331–35

  energies of new, stale and renewed, 262

  energy psychology improvements to, 187

  entering therapy twenty-two years into, 250–52

  as growth catalysts, 184–86

  mental vision of desired change in, 248–55

  moments of threat in, 18

  reprogramming responses hurtful to, 221–55

  as Spirit portals, 344–45

  style, 157–59

  tracing patterns from childhood affecting, 235–41

  unresolved issues re-created in, 185

  wild self vs. tidy, 310–12

  Relationship stress. See Energetic Stress Styles

  Releasing the Distractions, 265–66

  Reminder Phrase, 191, 196, 197, 199–200, 201

  adjusting, 203

  selecting, 195

  Repairing ruptures, 175–78

  Requests, combining appreciations with, 129–30

  Resolve, STAR Pact, 98–103

  accepting outcome, 102–3

  “Do You Mean” technique in, 100–102

  further inquiry, 100

  responding with appreciation, 99

  sharing empathic statement, 99

  Rest, 353–54

  Rhesus monkeys, 149

 

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